Getting revenge on your bully – how many of us haven’t dreamt of that, even years after school? Retribution is our knee-jerk response after someone makes fun of us or humiliates us publicly. Experts recommend not engaging with bullies and say it’s better to walk away from the situation or tell an adult. However, life is not always ideal, and sometimes kids decide to take matters into their own hands.

This is what the OP of this story did. After a mean classmate humiliated her because of her inhaler, the then 8-year-old Redditor decided a punishment from adults wasn’t enough. She came up with her revenge involving a DIYed mixture of lip gloss.

Bored Panda reached out to the OP, and she was kind enough to answer a few questions about her story. Read our short chat with her below!

Oftentimes, kids have to learn how to deal with bullies by themselves

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This 8-year-old concocted a revenge plan that involved lip gloss mixed with nail polish and glue

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The OP added more info after people started asking questions

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She also gave more details in the comments

The OP says she and the bully were kind of frenemies after this

The author of this story, ani24cl, says that other similar stories from coworkers inspired her to post this one to r/PettyRevenge. “We were sharing some mischief stories about childhood, and I told them about this,” the OP tells Bored Panda. “They actually thought it was very funny, and I decided to see if others also felt that way, so I posted it on r/PettyRevenge.”

We were curious about the OP’s relationship with the little antagonist after this incident. She says they were sort of frenemies. They would play together and chat but still weren’t friendly until high school.

There was another incident between the girls in high school, though, when they were both around 13. “I got involved in some mean messages a friend wrote to her [on] social media and later confessed to her and apologized,” the Redditor shares. “She was actually very gracious, but she had trouble with other kids, so [she] left school right before high school.”

Today, some years later, ani24cl can look back at the lip gloss incident in a different light. “Now I think it was funny because I was so oblivious about the outcome of the prank. I didn’t want her to get hurt and feel guilty, so I tried to be more friendly with her,” the Redditor says honestly.

“When [I was] 13, when the messages happened, I felt rotten,” ani24cl admits. The Redditor decided that if she was bold enough to take part in the mean messages to the girl, she should also face the consequences of what she did.

“She wasn’t happy but was very gracious about it, made me feel more critical of myself, and I had more respect for her,” the netizen says now. “The thing about bullies is to address it upfront and early on. You know what resentment [can] do to you. It sometimes can contribute to becoming what you hate in others.”

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How can children and parents deal with bullying?

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While it might be super satisfying to see stories of people getting back at their tormentors, it’s important to remember that bullying is a real problem. The statistics in the US are nothing to be happy about. Around 20% of students aged 12-18 reportedly experience bullying.

So, the OP’s situation is nothing unusual in that regard. However, it does make one think about what the proper way to deal with a bully is. Many children might think that there are only two options: tell an adult or get revenge on the bully themselves.

However, there are some other ways kids can deal with harassment and bullying. Children with disabilities or illnesses, just like the OP, can often become victims of bullying. Others see them as weak, making them the ideal target for bullies.

Contact, a charity for families with disabled children, has some suggestions on what the children and parents could do to address this problem. One of them is mentoring. That’s when older students become ‘buddies’ for the younger kids.

Sometimes they’re also called ‘playground pals.’ Bullied kids might find it easier to open up to someone closer to their own age. And the older kids can teach them that bullying is not acceptable.

Another strategy can be restorative justice. These sit-downs include all the children who took part in the incident. This method assumes that children who bully can change their behavior by working together.

Punishments for bullies don’t work. Why?

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The OP describes how her bully’s parents grounded her after the first incident. However, social scientists claim that punishments such as suspension from school do very little to curb bullying behavior. It does teach them that such behavior is wrong but doesn’t communicate how they should improve.

Stuart Ablon, Ph.D., founder of Think:Kids, writes that punishment is like bullying the bully. “Yes, bullies would like to avoid detention and suspension, and they would if they could. But detention and suspension don’t teach skills; the bully returns with no more skills than she had when she left, and so cannot behave any differently.”

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What is effective, then? Researchers say that preventative measures and early intervention might be the key. One such program is the Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS). It uses such tactics as school-wide training and individualized interventions.

Some states in the US have implemented policies to address the underlying issues of bullying. Nevada, for example, updated its anti-bullying law in 2015. Now, social workers help address bullying behavior by helping students build social skills and empathy.

The aim of these strategies is for the kids to develop empathy and concern for others. Signe Whitson, L.S.W., and the co-author of The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces, writes that teaching social skills needs to be part of the school-wide curriculum.

Emphasis should be on “emotion management, building empathy and kindness, problem-solving, assertive expression, and forming positive friendships.”

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