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Woman Shares Her Niche Ick About Proposals, And Now Others Say They Can’t Unsee It
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Woman Shares Her Niche Ick About Proposals, And Now Others Say They Can’t Unsee It

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The perfect marriage proposal is one that’s thoughtful and genuine. However, content creator Jordan Hardman has recently made people from all over the world realize there’s one more crucial element to it.

Last month, she released a video explaining the importance of the pose in which someone gets on their knee. “I don’t want no ‘Pwease mawy me,'” Jordan said, showing a bad example of the action, which she dubbed the Hunchback of Notre Dame, before revealing what she believes to be the right way to go about it.

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    A proposal is one of those things that the couple remembers for the rest of their marriage

    Image credits:  Jonathan Borba / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    So this woman issued a PSA to everyone planning it, highlighting the pose that she thinks they should avoid

    “This might be a very niche ick and I understand that, but if my man proposes and he does this, I’m [angry], I’m [fricking angry].”

    Image credits: jordyyhard

    “And I’ve seen this and I clock it, I just notice it. Maybe it’s just a me thing.”

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    Image credits: jordyyhard

    “When they’re about to get down or are getting down, and you look back at the pictures, and the Hunchback of Notre Dame doesn’t know how to get on their knees. Like this. I’ve seen so many.”

    Image credits: jordyyhard

    “90 degrees, this should be straight. I don’t want no ‘Pwease mawy me.’ Stand [the frick] up.”

    Image credits: jordyyhard

    “I know that is niche, but I swear to God, if I post a picture and my man’s doing one of these, I’m [angry].”

    Jordan’s video has already been viewed over 8 million times

    @jordyyhard♬ original sound – jordyyhard

    While good posture might be important to some, we can take a look at a 2022 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology to fully understand what makes for a great proposal.

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    “The typical Western … proposal involves kneeling, offering a ring, and asking some variant of ‘will you marry me?'” says Lisa Hoplock, the lead author of the study, after analyzing 374 accepted and declined marriage offers.

    “The proposal is often a surprise. What my research reveals is that while certain details can be a welcome surprise, the timing of the proposal in the relationship shouldn’t be a surprise. That is, couples should be on the same page about when and if they want to get married.”

    Image credits: Jesus Arias / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    The study discovered that:

    • Couples who experienced accepted proposals were more likely to talk about marriage before it and the proposals tended to occur later in the relationship;
    • In rejected proposals, the proposer often assumed that they were on the same page as their partner, or they proposed to save the relationship (e.g., they had broken up or were fighting and the proposal was an attempt to make things better);
    • Accepted proposals were more likely to have a ring than the rejected ones;
    • Accepted proposals were more likely to take place in private.

    Expanding on these results, Hoplock suggests that a great proposal consists of three key elements:

    • No surprises. If the person being proposed to is put on the spot with no prior discussion about marriage, they are more likely to give a negative answer;
    • A rock. Proposing with a ring increases the chances of them saying ‘yes.’ It shows that one has put thought, effort, and resources into the plan;
    • An intimate setting. Asking your partner to marry you in front of other people can put a lot of unnecessary pressure on them. A private proposal, on the other hand, can give them the space they need to give a sincere and honest answer.

    And maybe a straight back?

    People had a lot to say about Jordan’s ick

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    I am a Visual editor at Bored Panda, I'm determined to find the most interesting and the best quality images for each post that I do. On my free time I like to unwind by doing some yoga, watching all kinds of movies/tv shows, playing video and board games or just simply hanging out with my cat

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    Sweet Fanny Adams
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, BP. For the love of dog, please stop posting tiktok stuff. Also, regarding the video , the vacuous kunt, not everyone has perfect control of their limbs. Be glad they proposed the best they could.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Indeed, that woman can go screw herself. I proposed to my fiance on a bed without kneeling at all and we're very happy despite that. It's just presenting a ring to someone, the rest is what matters

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    Tamra
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently pretty goddamn shallow. I don't know what's more stupid, this idiotic content, or the number of shallow twats who agreed with her.

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    Gillian
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone is taking pictures, it’s not a proposal. It’s a performance.

    The Original Bruno
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people may want to remember it, visually? I mean, SOMETIMES it can make you wonder whether it's more of a performance, but a TON of people had people take pictures of their proposal before social media.

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    Dirk Daring
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now imagine a man posting a video saying that the woman better be standing up perfectly straight, big smile, single tear in the eye, etc.

    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment has been deleted.

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    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can just feel the future bridezilla vibes from this one.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a stupid hill to die on. "Sorry, honey, you know I love you more than anything, but you didn't perfectly sink down upon one knee with your back ramrod straight. This will never work..."

    Ceil
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just can't with this level of stupidity and arrogance.

    Angell Harding
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine you thought you’d found your soulmate, and they send you this TikTok to make sure you propose “right”.

    Virgil Blue
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    90 degree woman? I'd think she was much more shallow than that.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My niche ick are single women so utterly obsessed with proposals and weddings that they even have a "correct" posture.

    Howl's sleeping castle
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'content creator'? What a joke. My 6 year old nephew can tell better stories

    Flora Porter
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't imagine anyone's interested in this, but traditionally it's considered very poor manners to hold out a ring at the time. Looks like you're either too sure of yourself or that you think she's shallow and greedy enough to accept a bribe. You choose the ring together later.

    The Original Bruno
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. While I respect the values you ascribe, the tradition was that saving up for the ring was part of showing seriousness, and God help the woman who was so shallow that she quibbled with the man over the choice of rock. This shopping together is a thoroughly modern thing. I never heard of it at all until the 1980s. That said, it's the ring with the important symbolism, not the rock. On a very practical and ancient level, wearing someone's ring gave you full authority to act in that person's name, back when "engagement" and "betrothal" were two separate things, and "betrothal," the latter, was when one would provide the ring with a rock.

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    Dero
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys, now when we propose make sure to bring the ring and a protractor to make sure to get the 90* just right.

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bp... Wtf happend with the quality of articles??? This site was such interesting place some time ago and now this articles are worse than s**t

    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And there i thought she was giving real reasons/ thoughts on why the 90 degrees angle would be so important 🤷‍♀️…

    TheBlueBitterfly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that ring better set him back 2 months' salary or it's not a "real engagement." /s 🙄 (This being told to me by a very shallow, disgusting woman when I was proudly showing her the tiny sapphire ring my then-fiancé had proposed with. Guess which of us is still married!)

    geezeronthehill
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My late wife and I bought a house before we married. As we were carrying a some furniture upstairs to the bedroom, I said, 'I suppose we should get married, eh?' She said 'yeah, I guess.'

    Amused panda
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as the posture is good enough they don't overbalance and fall on their face mid-proposal...

    Sweet Fanny Adams
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, BP. For the love of dog, please stop posting tiktok stuff. Also, regarding the video , the vacuous kunt, not everyone has perfect control of their limbs. Be glad they proposed the best they could.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Indeed, that woman can go screw herself. I proposed to my fiance on a bed without kneeling at all and we're very happy despite that. It's just presenting a ring to someone, the rest is what matters

    Load More Replies...
    Tamra
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently pretty goddamn shallow. I don't know what's more stupid, this idiotic content, or the number of shallow twats who agreed with her.

    Load More Replies...
    Gillian
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone is taking pictures, it’s not a proposal. It’s a performance.

    The Original Bruno
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people may want to remember it, visually? I mean, SOMETIMES it can make you wonder whether it's more of a performance, but a TON of people had people take pictures of their proposal before social media.

    Load More Replies...
    Dirk Daring
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now imagine a man posting a video saying that the woman better be standing up perfectly straight, big smile, single tear in the eye, etc.

    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment has been deleted.

    Load More Replies...
    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can just feel the future bridezilla vibes from this one.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a stupid hill to die on. "Sorry, honey, you know I love you more than anything, but you didn't perfectly sink down upon one knee with your back ramrod straight. This will never work..."

    Ceil
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just can't with this level of stupidity and arrogance.

    Angell Harding
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine you thought you’d found your soulmate, and they send you this TikTok to make sure you propose “right”.

    Virgil Blue
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    90 degree woman? I'd think she was much more shallow than that.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My niche ick are single women so utterly obsessed with proposals and weddings that they even have a "correct" posture.

    Howl's sleeping castle
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'content creator'? What a joke. My 6 year old nephew can tell better stories

    Flora Porter
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't imagine anyone's interested in this, but traditionally it's considered very poor manners to hold out a ring at the time. Looks like you're either too sure of yourself or that you think she's shallow and greedy enough to accept a bribe. You choose the ring together later.

    The Original Bruno
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. While I respect the values you ascribe, the tradition was that saving up for the ring was part of showing seriousness, and God help the woman who was so shallow that she quibbled with the man over the choice of rock. This shopping together is a thoroughly modern thing. I never heard of it at all until the 1980s. That said, it's the ring with the important symbolism, not the rock. On a very practical and ancient level, wearing someone's ring gave you full authority to act in that person's name, back when "engagement" and "betrothal" were two separate things, and "betrothal," the latter, was when one would provide the ring with a rock.

    Load More Replies...
    Dero
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys, now when we propose make sure to bring the ring and a protractor to make sure to get the 90* just right.

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bp... Wtf happend with the quality of articles??? This site was such interesting place some time ago and now this articles are worse than s**t

    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And there i thought she was giving real reasons/ thoughts on why the 90 degrees angle would be so important 🤷‍♀️…

    TheBlueBitterfly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that ring better set him back 2 months' salary or it's not a "real engagement." /s 🙄 (This being told to me by a very shallow, disgusting woman when I was proudly showing her the tiny sapphire ring my then-fiancé had proposed with. Guess which of us is still married!)

    geezeronthehill
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My late wife and I bought a house before we married. As we were carrying a some furniture upstairs to the bedroom, I said, 'I suppose we should get married, eh?' She said 'yeah, I guess.'

    Amused panda
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as the posture is good enough they don't overbalance and fall on their face mid-proposal...

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