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People Agree That These 6 Rules, Shared By A Writer On Twitter, Lead To A Strong Marriage
While it would be nice and stuff if relationships were clear cut, they are nowhere near that and take quite a lot of work to make them work.
However, the code was cracked and there is a way to make relationships work easier with a simple set of simple rules, because knowing is half the battle.
Business strategist and writer Ryan Stephens tweeted a set of six rules that he thinks are key in making a relationship, or more specifically, a marriage, work, not as soulmates, but rather as teammates.
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So, back in early 2019, Stephens tweeted that his wife and he had figured out that focusing more on being a part of the same team in their marriage—and not being soulmates—was their key to a successful marriage.
This inevitably led to his six rules that both he and his wife try to follow so as to be good teammates to each other in their marriage.
Writer Ryan Stephens points out 6 key rules to follow that ensure people in a relationship are ‘teammates’ and not ‘soulmates’
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With each tweet within the thread, he points out one rule, first explained in one sentence, and then elaborating within the confines of Twitter’s 280-character cap.
The rules focused on factors like interpersonal communication, support for each other, trust, and respect, among many other things.
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For instance, the first rule effectively says don’t badmouth your spouse to your friends. Sure, it’s OK to joke about it, but it’s not cool to demean your spouse, so knowing the difference here and being aware of it is key.
Another rule he highlights is to be grateful for each other’s contributions. It doesn’t matter what it is—money, time, chores, etc.—be thankful for it as it shows support and appreciation. This rule also stresses avoiding competition. You get the drift.
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After listing the six rules, Stephens concludes by saying that marriage is not all about love and romance—it is work, hard work on a daily basis, it’s prioritizing your partner. He then links to a more elaborate rundown of the whole thing on his website that details the rules and more.
People on Twitter loved this idea, with some adding their own recipes for successful marriages. These varied from not hating on your kids to accepting that you won’t always like your spouse or even, very simply put, just be nice to your spouse.
40,000 likes later, the post went viral and people started sharing their thoughts about it
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Others debated some of the points, with one saying that she doesn’t necessarily agree with marriage not being all about love. She claims love is the reason you’re together in the first place, the reason you don’t give up midway through the relationship.
Regardless, the tweet thread managed to garner over 40,000 likes with just 300 retweets shy of 12,000. The remaining tweets in the thread all garnered an average of 8,000 likes per tweet.
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What are your thoughts on this? Are there any rules that you’d like to tweak or to add your own to make this a more comprehensive list? Let us know in the comment section below!
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lenka 3 years ago
I think these are all pretty much rules for any mutually respectful relationship. I love the woman's reply about not calling your toddlers 'heathens'. She either has no toddlers or no humour 😂
Susie Elle 3 years ago
I disagree with rule no. 1. There's a difference between being demeaning and simply discussing topics with a person outside of your relationship. If I want to confide in a good friend about something regarding my relationship, then I will do so. And I trust that friend to give me honest answers on what they think, and I know they won't regard my partner differently because of it.
deathrose 3 years ago
I'm with you. My sister and I have this routine. My husband won't stop throwing his socks under the ottoman, I ask him to stop doing that, he doesn't stop doing it, I call my sister and say "This a**hole won't stop throwing his socks under the ottoman.", my sister laughs and then I start laughing. My sister's husband won't stop leaving lights on, my sister asks him to stop doing that, he still does it, she calls me and says "This a**hole won't stop leaving lights on." I laugh and call her Batman, she laughs too. Are our husbands a**holes? No. Do we believe each other's husband is an a**hole? No. But sometimes you just need to rant about the small things that drive you insane and that's ok.
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
It’s a funny thing about love. Like the commenter said in the article, sometimes you can hate the person you love, and that’s OK. But the funny thing is that, even though today you hate their guts and wish they were dead, underneath that is a solid foundation of love. Tomorrow you will be all lovey-dovey with them again. Like the joke about the old couple who were asked if, in all the decades they were together, either of them had ever considered divorce. The wife answered “Divorce? Never. Murder? Many times!”
lenka 3 years ago
I think these are all pretty much rules for any mutually respectful relationship. I love the woman's reply about not calling your toddlers 'heathens'. She either has no toddlers or no humour 😂
Susie Elle 3 years ago
I disagree with rule no. 1. There's a difference between being demeaning and simply discussing topics with a person outside of your relationship. If I want to confide in a good friend about something regarding my relationship, then I will do so. And I trust that friend to give me honest answers on what they think, and I know they won't regard my partner differently because of it.
deathrose 3 years ago
I'm with you. My sister and I have this routine. My husband won't stop throwing his socks under the ottoman, I ask him to stop doing that, he doesn't stop doing it, I call my sister and say "This a**hole won't stop throwing his socks under the ottoman.", my sister laughs and then I start laughing. My sister's husband won't stop leaving lights on, my sister asks him to stop doing that, he still does it, she calls me and says "This a**hole won't stop leaving lights on." I laugh and call her Batman, she laughs too. Are our husbands a**holes? No. Do we believe each other's husband is an a**hole? No. But sometimes you just need to rant about the small things that drive you insane and that's ok.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
It’s a funny thing about love. Like the commenter said in the article, sometimes you can hate the person you love, and that’s OK. But the funny thing is that, even though today you hate their guts and wish they were dead, underneath that is a solid foundation of love. Tomorrow you will be all lovey-dovey with them again. Like the joke about the old couple who were asked if, in all the decades they were together, either of them had ever considered divorce. The wife answered “Divorce? Never. Murder? Many times!”
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