You gotta squash that andrew tate sht hard. Not only learning stuff like chores, but basic respect for 50% of the population and history seems to be in order.

Chores are a good first step but this b******t comes from social media and that needs to be addressed. He needs to be without a phone asap and with absolutely no unsupervised internet access but also be given an alternative to it in the form of real interactions with sane people. Let him pick from a range of suitable extra curriculars / volunteer work (pre-vibe checked by you) with social media time earned back via (for instance, through appropriate reading tasks, like biographies of interesting women).

It interesting that the OP father - who owns up to his shortcomings and does coparent and communicate well with his ex - chooses a punishment he feels that fits the altercation. Yet he is slammed for ducking his responsibility as a parent by all the YTA commenter's who judge from outside the actual situation. Did I miss his explanation where OP states that "(I) ....might have acted in haste, but I wanted my son to see the chores done by a woman are the same ones I do in my home." His ex agreed with him.

I never believe there were "friends" saying he's the AH for teaching his son a valuable lesson. In most of the posts like this it's very obvious the person is not the AH and just wants attention.

Def NTA perfect parenting I 60f have two kids 23-20 the youngest is a lad and like his sister growing up I thought them both how to cook from an early age how to clean how to decorate lay floors hung wall paper do flat pack n the like lol how to iron how to wash the works I grew up with my grandparents from 8 mths old I was taught to cook and could n had to make meals from age 12 n run the house as my grandmother had stage 4 cancer n my grandfather was hmm less said about that the better ! But as she’s taught me how to do all this it was easy so when I had my son I vowed to make sure he was also able to do this plus more there is nothing he can’t turn his hand to now literally I even taught him how to strip a car engine down lol he’s rebuilt his first car and his respect for females is top notch so op you did a bloody good thing and both you and your ex are dam good parents blessed be

Every time I hear that chores are for women, I wonder if that man has ever had to spend just 2 weeks alone? Do they live in squalor? Are they living on toast? Are they throwing out their clothes after wearing them? Buying new bedding on a weekly basis? Are they eating off paper plates so they don't have to wash them? Seriously. Like what's going on? Because let me tell you, it's not my rich friends that I'm hearing this b******t from. It's people who can't afford 3 takeouts a day and a maid to go with it.

Retired firefighter, also was a ski patroller/instructor, paratrooper & logger amongst other things through life. I just finished the dishes and will shortly be folding clothes from the dryer. Taught my son housework so he could look after himself and not be a useless whinny "alpha" twat.

Nip that s**t in the bud right now. Cooking and cleaning are life skills, not women's work.

Kids should be doing chores much younger than 16. They should at least be helping with washing up and vacuuming before 10 years old.

You did the right thing. Either the kid is being a smartarse, and/or he's got that opinion/attitude from someone else. Anyway it will do him good. Being able to look after yourself is so important. What if he attends college/university some distance from home? No one is going to look after him then.

My oldest son called me at work 1 day when he was 12 and asked me how to wash his clothes. He did his own laundry after that unless he was sick. He and his brother washed dishes, took the trash out, dusted, vacuumed and mopped if something was spilled. I did the regular mopping until they were older. My other son, I showed him how to use the washer and dryer when he was 12 and he did laundry from them on. The 3 of us also took turns mowing the yard.

He is a teenager. You are the parent. Be patient, ask why he has those ideas, and teach him what is right. Ask him wich chores he likes to do, encourage him to do those chores. Maybe he likes cooking, or walking the dog. When he does the chores he likes, you can add a couple other "less funn" chores. To have the best results you have to be patient and understanding. You are the adult, he is a boy searching his way in life, you are the guide.

change is something that takes repetition, reminders, love, & time. this will work for a small amount of time, keep up on it

NTA NTA NTA - he could probably make a career out of teaching this! His future wife/partner will thank you for this someday! My kids however have a different view on chores. I used to do all the laundry, cleaning etc because I was HOME to do it. My husband was a teacher and coach and was not home. Tables were turned however when a health issue hit. I couldn't go up and down the stairs. That left laundry out - so my husband took over years ago. He still does it even tho I Can now use the stairs. My husband is also the cook. I cook sometimes (not often tho) - he likes to do it - I hate it. So we had to teach our girls that some guys don't know how. They had the opposite life view. LOL

Better late than never. Kid's got a leg up now amongst his peers--women love a man who can cook and share chores. Or, at least, I do. :D

I wish I was surprised ar all the YTAs that blame the parents without credit. They were obviously not ready to be parents and pushed into a situation they didn't belong in. It's hard to model a loving relationship when you aren't in one and it's hard to model good parenting when you didn't have it. People are going to f**k up as parents - no matter what, there will be issues. The point is: what are they going to do about it? It seems to me, they are showing their son the consequences of his behavior and that there are things that will not be tolerated.

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