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“You’re A Woman And Will Do As I Say”: Guy Demands His Classmate Do His Part Of Group Presentation, She Maliciously Complies
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“You’re A Woman And Will Do As I Say”: Guy Demands His Classmate Do His Part Of Group Presentation, She Maliciously Complies

“You’re A Woman And Will Do As I Say”: Guy Demands His Classmate Do His Part Of Group Presentation, She Maliciously CompliesGuy Expects His Classmate To Do His Part Of Group Presentation Because She's A Woman, Doesn't See The Malicious Compliance ComingCreepy Guy Demands This Woman Does His Project, Regrets It When She Puts Him In His Place With Malicious ComplianceMale Classmate Tries To Scare Woman Into Doing His Part Of A Project, Embarrasses Himself During The PresentationWoman Gets Back At Male Classmate Who Tried To Scare Her Into Doing His Part Of A Project By Embarrassing Him During The PresentationWoman Maliciously Complies With Creepy Guy's Threats To Do His Project, Hands Him A Single Piece Of Paper
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Entitled people feel like they deserve special treatment for reasons only known to them. However, they are often treated to a harsh lesson instead.

Redditor u/BrinkyStitches recently told the ‘Malicious Compliance’ community how she brought her entitled groupmate down a notch. The guy demanded she take care of his part of the group presentation, which she obviously refused. However, since he put his arms on her, the redditor really wanted to teach him a lesson and maliciously complied to do the work for him after all.

Some people believe they’re inherently deserving of preferential treatment, which is just not how life works

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This entitled guy demanded that his groupmate do his share of the work on a presentation, which she maliciously complied with to put him in his place

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The OP told fellow Redditors that the story was based on real-life events

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Gender differences in entitlement affect the way we negotiate, which might be why the guy spoke to her in such a menacing way

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“You’re a woman and will do as I say”—a phrase that perfectly sums up just how entitled the gentleman in the story felt. His ways of negotiating with the groupmate were far from effective. Vice versa—his sense of self-righteousness and threatening demeanor encouraged the young woman to engage in malicious compliance.

A 2021 research covered how gender differences in entitlement reveal themselves when it comes to negotiation. It pointed out that the qualities that are usually associated with men strengthen the person’s sense of entitlement. And such a sense is believed to increase the likelihood of them trying to negotiate.

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Studies have found that men who believe they’re inherently deserving of special treatment tend to have a hostile view of women. (That would explain the student’s menacing attitude toward the OP.) However, guys are not the only link between entitlement and sexism. Women add to it, too, but researchers believe their views are more benevolent rather than hostile.

The author, philosopher, and associate professor of philosophy at Cornell University, Kate Manne, discussed the links between male entitlement and their views towards women in her book “Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women.” According to The New Yorker, it suggested that men’s sense of entitlement often leads to misogynistic attitudes.

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A blooming sense of entitlement, which was already a problem when the OP was in college, now seems to be flourishing more than ever

Another study carried out in 2019 pointed out that a sense of entitlement also increases the motivation to seek status. The OP’s groupmate mentioned running for class president as one of the things standing in the way of him doing the presentation himself. It might not be the most powerful position, but it was clearly significant enough for the young man to undermine his fellow student.

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Nowadays, the situation among young people seems to have gotten even worse. Psychologists believe that they are more inclined to a sense of entitlement than the previous generations. Experts point out that, in order for the situation to get better, the youth should try to be more humble and accepting of their limitations. Chances are the OP’s act of malicious compliance helped at least one young person become more humble.

Lots of people shared their reactions in the comments

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Some of them had experience with group projects as well

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Leo Domitrix
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dare someone to try that on me in *any* decade. "You're a girl/woman, you... (will do/are/etc.)" gets that person a sharp reminder that so what? Also, I'm grieved to see this going on in 2003. We had less of it when I graduated university undergrad over 30 years ago... then again, other day on another site, saw someone saying menopause isn't real and it's just women being (nasty word), so.... Yeah. If you think feminism is evil? Bear in mind that nobody walks around yelling "white hetero guy shoots schoolkids" but by golly, someone not hetero male does it and *that is all we hear.... they are LGBTQ/female/whatever.....* Humanity, we gotta evolve to something better, for pity's sake!

Snow_White
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder how many men actually got/get away with s**t like this and excel in their education and career..

Leo Domitrix
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The three jocks some a-hat teacher stuck with me as lab partners to keep their grades up come to my mind... They were, yes, dumb jocks. Why bother studying if the teachers were gonna make sure they passed?

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Leo Domitrix
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dare someone to try that on me in *any* decade. "You're a girl/woman, you... (will do/are/etc.)" gets that person a sharp reminder that so what? Also, I'm grieved to see this going on in 2003. We had less of it when I graduated university undergrad over 30 years ago... then again, other day on another site, saw someone saying menopause isn't real and it's just women being (nasty word), so.... Yeah. If you think feminism is evil? Bear in mind that nobody walks around yelling "white hetero guy shoots schoolkids" but by golly, someone not hetero male does it and *that is all we hear.... they are LGBTQ/female/whatever.....* Humanity, we gotta evolve to something better, for pity's sake!

Snow_White
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder how many men actually got/get away with s**t like this and excel in their education and career..

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The three jocks some a-hat teacher stuck with me as lab partners to keep their grades up come to my mind... They were, yes, dumb jocks. Why bother studying if the teachers were gonna make sure they passed?

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