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Woman Thinks Brother’s Wife Did Something Bad On Her Trip To Mexico, Uncovers The Truth
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Woman Thinks Brother’s Wife Did Something Bad On Her Trip To Mexico, Uncovers The Truth

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Infidelity can seem an unthinkable possibility in a committed relationship, but when your spouse returns from a trip acting aloof and distant, one might have to at least entertain the possibility of cheating.

A man asked the internet what to do when his wife started to act suspiciously after returning from a week-long bachelorette trip in Mexico. He later shared a sizable update after doing some in-depth sleuthing. We reached out to the husband in the story via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

A spouse acting weird and refusing to communicate is usually a sign that something is up

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One man suspected the worst when his wife returned from a week long trip acting strange

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As shocking as it might seem, cheating is more common than many people might think

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While it remains one of those things that are hard to talk about, much less imagine, humans have been struggling with infidelity for much of civilization. As much as premarital sex is brought up as a “vice,” humans have been regulating infidelity for far longer and far more harshly. Interestingly, this is true across much of history and many cultures.

Unfortunately, some studies suggest that it’s far more widespread than most of us would like to admit. One US study found that around half of the men they surveyed reported cheating, while women were a bit more loyal, with only 1/3rd cheating. Other, similar studies have reported slightly lower numbers, but the fact remains that infidelity isn’t as unthinkable to some as we might like to believe. Similarly, particularly in the past, there were many closeted married people or couples that allowed for some polyamory, while not being entirely open about it.

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This begs the question, why? There appears to be a gender gap between male and female infidelity. Namely, that men cheat when they are feeling sexually unsatisfied, while women cheat when they are emotionally unhappy with their current relationship. Overall, studies would suggest that men cheat more, however it’s worth noting that when it comes to sensitive subjects like this, people might not be entirely open or honest, even when the survey is anonymous.

Infidelity is not a victimless crime

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In general, when it comes to infidelity in marriage, dissatisfaction with one’s marriage is the number one reported issue. This can often be true, but it’s also worth remembering that the vast majority of the population sees infidelity as morally wrong and would look for excuses for their own behavior. Sometimes cheating is just a person not controlling their impulses.

This isn’t much consolation to the victim of cheating, but it can be helpful to remember that just because your partner isn’t faithful doesn’t mean you are to blame. Some folks’ first reaction is to close their eyes, particularly if there isn’t clear evidence and hope that the “problem” just goes away by itself.

Every relationship is different, there are setups where one can be more open to a partner who isn’t entirely monogamous. However, in this marriage, that doesn’t seem to be the case. In general, the person who was cheated on will tend to suffer psychologically for some time. It’s important to remember that in most cases, cheating is not a “victimless crime,” it can and often will have long term repercussions.

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However, as stated in the update that you can find below, he is taking further steps. This is important because studies suggest that being proactive can help offset a lot of the depression and even PTSD that often arises from being the victim of infidelity. Filing for a divorce is often a good start. It’s also always helpful to have a real support system that can stand by you. Exposing them is also a perfectly valid strategy if one is looking for catharsis.

Readers were just as suspicious and wanted more details

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Most people sympathized with the husband and have some suggestions

He later shared some updates

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Do you think the husband's concerns about his wife's behavior after the trip are justified?
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Kristal
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so sad. I think that one comment really hit the nail on the head: 'A guilty person eases your fears, a guilty one gets angry'. For anyone reading: Do not let someone gaslight you into thinking YTA because you notice drastic differences in behavior.

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Alexandra
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This must be so devastating! Your entire world, past, present and future, turned upside down and no idea which way to go. This is why I have such a passionate dislike of cheaters: they leave such destruction in their wakes.

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Janice
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Initially, I wasn't sure. The question I had was how did he know she hadn't charged anything because that could be problematic, BUT, after reading everything & updates, it doesn't matter why he checked. Poor guy, no one deserves having their world change so.drastically so quickly, especially when a natural disaster isn't the cause. If OP wants to mess with her, he should call every decent lawyer in his area so his wife has trouble getting a lawyer to take her on because it would be a conflict of interest, or that's what a friend experienced.

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KatSaidWhat
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First clue is when someone who constantly 'grams suddenly doesn't post a single picture of a holiday in Mexico... She didn't go to the beach, that's for sure.

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amunetbarrywood avatar
Kristal
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so sad. I think that one comment really hit the nail on the head: 'A guilty person eases your fears, a guilty one gets angry'. For anyone reading: Do not let someone gaslight you into thinking YTA because you notice drastic differences in behavior.

de-snoekies avatar
Alexandra
Community Member
2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This must be so devastating! Your entire world, past, present and future, turned upside down and no idea which way to go. This is why I have such a passionate dislike of cheaters: they leave such destruction in their wakes.

janice_9 avatar
Janice
Community Member
2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Initially, I wasn't sure. The question I had was how did he know she hadn't charged anything because that could be problematic, BUT, after reading everything & updates, it doesn't matter why he checked. Poor guy, no one deserves having their world change so.drastically so quickly, especially when a natural disaster isn't the cause. If OP wants to mess with her, he should call every decent lawyer in his area so his wife has trouble getting a lawyer to take her on because it would be a conflict of interest, or that's what a friend experienced.

impossiblekat avatar
KatSaidWhat
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First clue is when someone who constantly 'grams suddenly doesn't post a single picture of a holiday in Mexico... She didn't go to the beach, that's for sure.

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