For many people, it’s important that their family is not only supportive of them but accepting of their partner, too, which, unfortunately, is not always the case.

This redditor’s family, for instance, was seemingly very welcoming when he introduced his boyfriend to them. However, things took a turn for the worse when his sister asked him not to bring his partner to family get-togethers anymore. To make matters worse, that eventually snowballed into a family-wide row.

For many people it’s important that their families are accepting of their partner

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This netizen’s sister asked him to stop bringing his boyfriend to family events

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Introducing your partner to your family can be smooth sailing or a total disaster

While you can choose your partner, you can’t really choose who their friends and family are. And that can end in one of two ways – you might expand the circle of people you love dearly or end up resenting your significant other’s kin. Based on an INSIDER poll, the chances are 50/50—at least when it comes to the partner’s parents—as roughly 50% of respondents consider time with their in-laws a “very positive” or a “positive” experience. (On the other end, around 3% say it’s something “very negative”.)

Those who are not on such good terms with their in-laws are probably the reason why there are so many jokes or prejudice regarding in-law relationships; the abundance of quips about dealing with the mother-in-law, for instance, or the pop culture image of the tough father-in-law needing to make sure his daughter is in good hands. But the parents are not the only ones to get acquainted with; meeting the partner’s siblings can also range from smooth sailing to resembling a war zone.

Author of Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation, Fern Schumer Chapman, suggested that one of the siblings choosing a partner can be a perilous moment in their relationship. “A new partner may feel threatened by, or jealous of, closeness between brothers and sisters,” she pointed out in a piece for Psychology Today, adding that cultivating a shared interest can help the partner and the sibling pave the way for a connection.

The OP noted that when he introduced his boyfriend to his family members, all of them, including his sister, were nice and respectful. That was the reason why he was so taken aback by his sibling’s request that he not bring his partner to family events anymore; he didn’t think it was fair for him to have to hide part of his life to make her feel comfortable.

Many LGBTQIA+ people experience lack of acceptance, even from their own families

Unfortunately, many LGBTQIA+ people can’t be their true selves, even with their own family. According to Statista, only around a quarter of LGBTQ youth say that they can be themselves as a LGBTQ person at home. A similar number reportedly have families who show their support by getting involved in the community. However, close to 70% of the surveyed youth have experienced families making negative comments about LGBTQ people or making them feel bad about being part of the community.

Clinical psychologist Jennifer O’Brien, Ph.D., emphasized that lack of acceptance of sexual minorities can have a strong negative psychological impact on LGBT+ people. She pointed out that homophobia, discrimination, and stigma they face can put them “at a higher risk of developing mental health issues due to chronic stress associated with these experiences”.

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Other research seconds the idea that negative attitudes towards the LGBT+ community can be linked to mental disorders such as depression, anxiety, and stress or trauma-related disorders. It also suggests that “Most of homophobic attitudes are based on the principle of heteronormativity according to which heterosexuality is the standard for legitimating social and sexual relationships and homosexuality is considered as an abnormal variant.”

It seems that the OP’s sister, too, viewed heterosexuality as the standard. That’s why, when the sibling row made it to the family chat, a cousin pointed out that if the child is old enough to understand that Amanda and Mike are married, then he’s old enough to understand that his uncle has a boyfriend. But some other family members took a different side, consequently dividing the family into two camps, just like the OP’s story divided the netizens in the comments.

Many people didn’t think the OP was being a jerk to his sister

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Some, however, shared a different opinion

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