They say there’s no good deed that goes unpunished, and sometimes, that’s basically an understatement. Some people just have a special talent for stretching others’ generosity to the limit. You know the type, the ones who happily accept your help, rearrange your plans, and then toss out a last-minute “never mind” as if your time is as flexible as Play-Doh.

That’s our Redditor’s sister, who expects our guy to drop his plans every time she needs a babysitter. But, after one last-minute cancelation, he’s not sticking around for round 2.

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Doing favors is like lending someone money; easy to give, but way harder to get back

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One man went out of his way to babysit for his sister, canceled plans and even took time off work, but she canceled on him last minute

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The man was very frustrated with his sister, since he’d arranged his entire weekend to do her a favor, and she couldn’t even say “sorry”

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The sister asked for another favor just 2 days later, saying she needed the man to babysit her kids on the weekend, but he refused

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The man is being called “selfish” by his family for refusing to babysit for his sister after she canceled on him before, without warning

The OP’s (original poster) sister asked him to watch her 3 kids for a weekend so she and her husband could enjoy some alone time. Being the cool uncle he is, he agreed, but with one totally fair condition: at least 2 weeks’ notice to juggle his own work and social life.

So, our guy clears his weekend, takes time off work, stacks his house with kid-friendly snacks, and even dusts off his “cool uncle” skills. But right as he’s mentally prepping for an invasion of kid energy, sis dearest cancels on him, minutes before drop-off time.

Friday afternoon, instead of seeing little faces at his doorstep, he gets a text from sis, saying they changed their minds and they’ll do a family trip instead of a romantic getaway. Not a hint of an apology, just a breezy “We’ll do it another time.” Oh, the nerve! I don’t know about you, but I’d be annoyed at this point.

Our Redditor was obviously frustrated, since he canceled plans with friends and even took time off work to take his nieces and nephews in for the weekend. Don’t get me wrong, he loves spending time with them, that’s why he agreed to babysit in the first place. But his sister was not cool for canceling last minute, since he went out of his way to help her out. And he didn’t shy away from letting her know.

But then, two days later, his phone rings. Surprise! Sister’s plans hit a snag, and she needs that favor again. Only now, our OP’s had enough. He politely declines, telling sis he won’t be available that weekend.

You can imagine this didn’t go over well with sis, who accuses her brother of being selfish and punishing her kids for something that isn’t their fault. The OP’s parents even jump in, playing the “things come up when you’re a parent” card on his sister’s behalf.

But, you see, when you’re being taken advantage of, and people don’t respect your time and generosity, it’s time to set some boundaries, even if it’s with family.

Boundaries aren’t just reserved for exes or annoying co-workers; they’re pretty important in family dynamics too. And when family members ignore your efforts or time, that’s not just a lack of communication, it’s a lack of respect.

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The pros say that setting and maintaining boundaries is an important form of self-care, particularly when we feel our time or energy is being taken for granted. By setting boundaries, you’re not trying to change the other person; you’re changing your behavior to protect yourself and set clear limits for what you will and will not tolerate from the other person.

In the OP’s case, saying no when his sister asked him for a second favor showed he respects himself and his commitments, which should be commended, not criticized.

While the OP’s sister seemed to think her brother was always on standby for her, she might benefit from a little refresher on “The Uncle Tax.” When someone clears their whole schedule for you, the least you can do is show up, or if not, offer an apology for bailing.

The OP wasn’t being spiteful or mean to his sister’s kids, as she suggested, he just wasn’t okay with his sister’s last-minute flip-flopping. So, our guy isn’t the villain here, he’s just an uncle who thought he was doing something nice for his sister, with the added bonus of spending time with his nieces and nephews.

It’s no secret that kindness makes us feel good. Helping others gives us a serious mood boost, almost like a natural shot of feel-good vibes. Experts say that lending a hand can trigger the brain’s “helper’s high,” releasing a good dose of endorphins and dopamine, our brain’s happy chemicals. It’s like free therapy, with zero waiting lists and I’m all for it.

But, when someone you’re doing a favor for considers your time as flexible as Play-Doh, that “helper’s high” starts running on low really fast. So, next time sis dearest needs a babysitter, maybe she’ll think twice before canceling on her brother. And if she doesn’t? Well, Uncle OP can always just enjoy his weekends, hassle-free.

What do you think of this story? Drop your comments below.

Netizens say the man is not a jerk for refusing to babysit, since his sister bailed on him the first time, saying she’s taking advantage of his kindness

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