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Man Threatens Wife With Divorce During Dinner With Her Parents, Watches It All Fall Apart
Owning a house is a dream for many of us. However, in today’s economy, finding one that fits your budget, is in a good location, and meets all your other criteria—like size, condition, and amenities—can be quite challenging. But all the hassle seems worth it, when you finally find a place you can call home.
However, for an American couple, purchasing a 3-bedroom house in an expensive neighborhood turned out to be a costly mistake. A man took to Reddit to share how he and his wife started having financial troubles right after they moved into their new place. According to him, they had two choices: either sell the newly bought home or increase their income. While he got a new job, his wife was reluctant about getting one. Read on to discover why the author considered divorce as an option.
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A man shared how he got a new job amid financial struggles, but his wife’s refusal to find work led him to consider divorce
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Many people online pointed out that announcing the possibility of divorce in front of his wife’s parents was a poor decision
Every experience in life offers us valuable lessons
Irrespective of whether we are suffering or celebrating, it is important that we learn something from every experience in life. For instance, when problems arise, one should think positively and seek solutions. Conversely, we should stay grounded and appreciate the good moments in our lives. When it comes to couples, partners need to work together as a team to navigate the twists and turns of life.
Though everyone has their own way of facing problems, there are a few things you can do to overcome hardships. Building resilience helps one bounce back quickly after a fall, adapting even in situations of adversity. It is about having the mental strength to stay hopeful amidst the challenges faced.
To be a resilient person, you have to embrace change and learn from your past lessons. First, let’s recognize that we have a problem at hand. Upon self-realization of what has happened, you start discovering solutions and see it as an opportunity for growth. Furthermore, reflecting on how you dealt with bad situations in the past can help you understand what you did right and what you can do differently in the future.
Positive relationships can provide emotional support and practical help
Developing problem-solving skills is essential to navigating obstacles with confidence and creativity. For instance, suppose you intended to surprise your friend with flowers on their birthday but couldn’t get them on time; instead of feeling defeated, you just donned your creative hat and made roses out of tissues.
Resilience may also be cultivated through developing a strong support system comprising of family members and close friends. The Harvard Business Review emphasizes, “Resilience is not something we need to find deep down inside ourselves; we can actually become more resilient in the process of connecting with others in our most challenging times.”
Sharing your struggles with loved ones takes a burden off your shoulders. You can discuss your issues and potential solutions with them. It may even be other people’s opinions that give you a fresh perspective on your situation. Apart from building resilience, you can also practice mindfulness and relaxation.
Partners should stand by each other in tough times
Going to a meditation class and doing yoga can help you manage stress and improve mental clarity. Moreover, we should understand our limits and set achievable goals. During bad times, we should try to focus on what we can control.
How we react, the choices we make, and our attitudes during challenging times reveal our true character. If your partner doesn’t stand by you when you need them the most, then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship.
In this particular situation, the husband and wife needed to work together to improve their circumstances. However, the wife’s refusal to cooperate pushed the husband to his limits. When it comes to finances, couples should discuss their goals, strategies, and challenges honestly to ensure they are on the same page and working towards a common objective.
Do you think the husband did the right thing here? Or do you believe the wife’s actions were justified? Let us know what you think in the comments below.
Many people felt the author made the right choice in considering divorce
A few people also felt that both the author and his wife were equally responsible for the situation
Some people felt the author shouldn’t have hinted at divorce if he didn’t truly want it
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Alexandra 2 months ago
I think some people overlooked that Jen herself started to b***h about her husband's issues with their financials in front of her parents. In other words, she opened the door and he just stepped through it. Apart from that, everyone and their grandmother can see that it's either one or the other: sell the house and downsize or get a better job. OP did get a better job, so he took responsibility whereas Jen didn't get her finger out. I think they were, ultimately, just not on the same page when it comes to the basis of their marriage. He sees it as an equal partnership, I think she expected him to take on the lion's share of the responsibility for her to live in the house she loves and keep the job she loves.
FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
Absolutely this. She shouldn't have taken digs at him with guests, he shouldn't have said let's divorce in front of them. But they are obviously incompatible, and don't have a shared vision of the future. They shouldn't be married. Glad divorce is in progress.
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D. Pitbull 2 months ago
Interesting at least to see that OP at least even admitted that saying what he did wasn't a good thing and was harmful. Mine looked me in the eye the other day and said "I can do better" - as in, he can do better than me. And he fully expects this to be something that's 'not a big deal' and he was justified to say it because he was angry at the time ... and then I'll be TA for not 'just letting it go'. Weird angle to look at it, I know.
Liz The Biz 2 months ago
Next time he says it to you reply, "Right you are. Bye!" When I was with my ex-husband if i dared to disagree with him, even about something minor he would make comments such as, "We're not compatible", "We should split up", "We should get divorced". After years of abuse I packed my bags and left him. He was absolutely baffled as to why. As I was walking out of the door I reminded him of his words and said, "I don't know why you're acting so upset. You've got exactly what you've wished for."
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Sunny Day 2 months ago
Wording matters. He meant "we'll probably be divorced because Jen thinks she doesn't have to help bail us out of this money mess we're in". But it came out as though he had already filed the paperwork. Id say it's for the best, though. Jen definitely needs to grow up.
Binky Melnik 2 months ago
Of course, but I think it ended up for the best anyway even though he didn’t articulate himself well. She’s not even *trying*, leaving it to him to try to fix everything. Let her love her c**p job in which she’s not valued or paid properly, and he can enjoy his $3K/month increase in a small apartment!
Load More Replies... Alexandra 2 months ago
I think some people overlooked that Jen herself started to b***h about her husband's issues with their financials in front of her parents. In other words, she opened the door and he just stepped through it. Apart from that, everyone and their grandmother can see that it's either one or the other: sell the house and downsize or get a better job. OP did get a better job, so he took responsibility whereas Jen didn't get her finger out. I think they were, ultimately, just not on the same page when it comes to the basis of their marriage. He sees it as an equal partnership, I think she expected him to take on the lion's share of the responsibility for her to live in the house she loves and keep the job she loves.
FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
Absolutely this. She shouldn't have taken digs at him with guests, he shouldn't have said let's divorce in front of them. But they are obviously incompatible, and don't have a shared vision of the future. They shouldn't be married. Glad divorce is in progress.
Load More Replies... D. Pitbull 2 months ago
Interesting at least to see that OP at least even admitted that saying what he did wasn't a good thing and was harmful. Mine looked me in the eye the other day and said "I can do better" - as in, he can do better than me. And he fully expects this to be something that's 'not a big deal' and he was justified to say it because he was angry at the time ... and then I'll be TA for not 'just letting it go'. Weird angle to look at it, I know.
Liz The Biz 2 months ago
Next time he says it to you reply, "Right you are. Bye!" When I was with my ex-husband if i dared to disagree with him, even about something minor he would make comments such as, "We're not compatible", "We should split up", "We should get divorced". After years of abuse I packed my bags and left him. He was absolutely baffled as to why. As I was walking out of the door I reminded him of his words and said, "I don't know why you're acting so upset. You've got exactly what you've wished for."
Load More Replies... Sunny Day 2 months ago
Wording matters. He meant "we'll probably be divorced because Jen thinks she doesn't have to help bail us out of this money mess we're in". But it came out as though he had already filed the paperwork. Id say it's for the best, though. Jen definitely needs to grow up.
Binky Melnik 2 months ago
Of course, but I think it ended up for the best anyway even though he didn’t articulate himself well. She’s not even *trying*, leaving it to him to try to fix everything. Let her love her c**p job in which she’s not valued or paid properly, and he can enjoy his $3K/month increase in a small apartment!
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