"doesn't let me watch" ! Get out and never look back. Other things were not cool, but this is controlling and a sign of future coercive abuse.

"When I think about spending the rest of my life with a woman who sh!ts on everything and everybody I just feel exhausted, more than I do sad about losing her." That's his answer right there. He would be happier without her. Your relationship is not just about being fair to the other person: it's also about being fair to yourself. A relationship is supposed to make you happier: that's why people get into them! If it makes you feel worse, it isn't worth it.

She doesn’t like dogs = dump her.

"You're right. I need to get better taste. So I'm leaving you."

From reddit: "She would call me "the sugar to my spice" because I'd try to encourage her to be nicer or gentler or try to see other POVs a bit. I'm burnt out having to be the sugar all the time." He tried, he failed, not his fault. She's either very attached to her image or has an anger and impulse problem.

She's not sarcastic and witty, she sounds like she's terminally online on twitter. What a pest. Also the whole dog people are cringe, seriously, that's something this woman said? I don't even have a dog and that p*sses me off for some reason. She sounds like she desperately needs to be politically correct about everything to feel happy and good about herself. Break up and recommend a therapist

When someone says they don't like dogs, I immediately distrust that person. When a dog doesn't like a person, I trust that dog's judgement.

NTA. Who hurt her? I mean, im sarcastisch and my humor is pretty dark too, but optimism is awesome. She needs help and you need out.

Cancelists are the worst. I mean, boycott all that you want. But bad people can make good things / art. A serie is the collective work of hundreds of people, not just the director´s. YNTA, she seems totally exhausting.

Gee what a sad individuum. She isn't helping any of her positions at all by trying to force it upon everyone else. With this kind of behaviour you actually drive people away. The worst kind of allies any minority group could have. The OP said she was intelligent. I highly doubt that since she seem to lack any kind of middle ground or indifference to an idea as the Barbie-movie incident shows. Also her lack of empathy seems alarming. I don't think OP ever said if she apologized in any form to the Barbie-movie enjoyers even after she switched camps.

Pretty sure I'm a hopeless. Quoting from the original Buffy. How is the Harry Potter world transphobic? On that note, people don't change...and people who can't admit they have a fault definitely won't change. I've been with one for way over 30 years. Before anyone thinks to send congrats, it's been a misery for me. I'm typically very happy and easygoing. Spouse is very pessimistic, waiting for that shoe to drop. It's exhausting. OP definitely dodged a bullet. The constant negatively would just wear him down

I would have been gone the minute she insulted my mom’s cooking. And the “vocal ally” thing makes it sound like she’s just on the lookout for who it’s socially acceptable to hurt, and using allyship as an excuse. Thirty years ago, she probably would have been on the other side.

That's just too much. You do need to leave this Karen in the upbringing. Yea I sarcastically say stuff an sometimes I cringe at it but I try to be positive. Negative stuff brings more negative stuff and she's diving into the well too deep where she's never gonna see positivity for what it's worth. And to cringe on internet people all the time is a bit harsh an racist seeming. If she would dis your mother who's to say she isn't doing to you behind your back too that you haven't found? Move on. And dogs and cats are great but I could see her losing your dog accidentally when you think she's over dog hating yours. Good luck an go watch buffy angel charmed and everything whedon world. Can I join?

She sounds like a nightmare! I mean I'm not a fan of dogs myself and prefer cats but I'd never be so nasty to someone who loves them! Also wtf is wrong with Joss Whedon?! Did I miss something? However the cruelest thing is how she treated his mother. That's just horrible.

Together for a bit more then a year, so engaged at 8/9 months together... that is insane! If you were just dating you'd have said: we're not compatible, bye. Why get engaged that soon? and you don't love her. You love her statistics, but I don't believe there is an emotional connection. You love the idea of her. Glad you were not married yet. And next time: don't get engaged within the first year of dating, or better yet, of living together.

She’s not going to change. He got wise and saved himself from a lot of misery. I hope he finds true love.

OMG can you imagine if she had children and what those poor kids would have to live with.

I know people like this and they can be exhausting. She possibly has a personality disorder or two. It takes a certain type of partner to work with something like this.

never complain about your partner's choices (tastes) you are one of them!

Life is both too short and way the heck too long to spend it with someone like this.

This makes you smart and mature. People just don't change. It's in her DNA. Perhaps finding someone as facetious as her will make her happy. Now go get you a normal girl.

Hopefully he stuck with his gut and moved on. She’ll never really change, just hide it for a while

Ur ex-fiance needs to change (i.e., mature), but until she feels the need it won't happen. Mayb the breakup was her eye-opener. So u cud give her another chance, AFTER she works on herself, gets counseling and you and others see the continual changes and improvements (u might also want counseling to find out why u tolerated so many 🚩's for so long). Give all that at least a year, and if u r both available and interested, u cud meet up for coffee! But then u just might have met a equally witty but much kinder mate in the meantime. Imo, insecure people insult. My spouse was very much the same as ur ex and unfortunately they got incredibly worse after marriage. They were so very smart, hardworking and thoughtful while dating, and the sarcasm was "funny" quite often, tho looking back I also tolerated too much. Reading about BPD and NPD (psych terms) might help u see clearer. Realize too, she cud have been on her best behavior those years u were together 😳

NTA. I live in Massachusetts where everyone has a sarcastic sense of humor, but it almost never involves base criticism of others, especially friends and family. And we would never tolerate Amy's brand of humor. Disrespecting her future MIL publicly? That wouldn't fly.

This woman sounds exhausting. You can go to the Harry Potter theme park and not support Rowling. She's also a big hypocrite, only supporting the Barbie movie when it fits her agenda. Leave that miserable woman ASAP.

Come on, were together just about a year and already engaged to marry?? That was the 1st problem. But amazingly responsible of him to realize this and leave such an insufferable person.

she sounds like a judgmental, stuck up b***h to me. You dodged a bullet IMO.

There is already so much negativity in this world without continuously adding to it. I can't be around people that are like this. Sarcasm is OK, but when it is getting to the levels of this woman, it is completely ridiculous. She tries to come off as some bada$$, LGBTQ ally, feminist, cat loving, knowledgeable person and just sounds very very sad. The more and more I read about this woman, the more I wanted to punch her. The OP is definitely not the a-hole and he should have broke up with her after she insulted his mother.

She sounds exhausting and I don't blame him at all for breaking up with her, but he could stand to work on his communication skills. It doesn't sound like he's ever really discussed the issues he ha with her behaviour with her (other than when she mocked his mother's cooking) and that she quite possibly believes he really did break up with her over Jimmy Buffet. No point discussing it now they;re past breaking point but he might consider if his next partner has a behaviour he doesn't like sitting down and talking about it with her before he gets to this point. They probably should have broken up years ago (because I don't think she'd want to chance) but instead they've both invested a lot of emotions and time into a relationship that was doomed.

You don't have to stay in a relationship with anyone you don't want to be in a relationship with. You don't have to collect evidence that they're a horrible person and prove beyond a reasonable doubt to a jury of your peers that this person is "bad." As long as you are honest and leave in a responsible way, there's no question of a*****e-ness. (Obvious exceptions if you're the legal guardian of someone yadda yadda yadda...)

Over the years I have had a beautiful girlfriend who was a b***h and a plain and chunky one who was a joy to be with. Just saying.

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This relationship is a clear mismatch. OP is a little, weak b***h who is obsessed with "positivity", and who wants to make power plays to force her not to be who she is. He can't handle someone with strong opinions who doesn't want to pretend everything is wonderful all the time. Amy is lucky she's getting away from this person. And yeah, Buffet's music was crass. Boo. Hoo.