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Woman Won’t Drop The Idea That Her 30YO Coworker Was Groomed At 24YO, Gets To Talk To HR

Woman Won’t Drop The Idea That Her 30YO Coworker Was Groomed At 24YO, Gets To Talk To HR

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Pretty much every office has that one self-appointed “Dr. Phil” who just can’t resist meddling in everyone’s personal life. They think they’ve got a PhD in relationships because they’ve watched a few talk shows and had a long weekend of self-reflection. Yeah, we’ve all met one.

Whether it’s offering unsolicited advice or diagnosing your love life over the breakroom coffee machine, they’re always there, ready to drop their so-called “wisdom.”

But when one Redditor found himself on the receiving end of some truly wild advice from his office’s resident know-it-all, things got awkward real fast.

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    When the self-proclaimed office “relationship expert” gets the scoop on your private life, unsolicited advice and gossip flow faster than the breakroom coffee

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    One happily married man got bombarded with inappropriate comments from his suspicious new coworker, implying that he was groomed by his husband

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    The man burst out laughing when he heard the comments his coworker made about his marriage

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    The coworker started spreading rumors about the husband, calling him a “creep” and telling people to stay away from him, which forced the man to involve HR

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    The woman finally stopped making inappropriate “grooming” comments about her coworker and his husband after she received a warning from HR

    The original poster of this weird story (let’s just call him Mike), a 30-year-old happily married man, has been with his husband for six years and married for two. Things were peachy in his life, until Sara came along, the self-appointed relationship expert at the office. You know the type, someone who thinks they’ve unlocked the secrets to everyone else’s love life, despite having zero qualifications or context.

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    While they were casually chatting about relationships during their lunch break, Sara asked Mike about his marriage and, when she found out about the 10-year gap between him and his husband, she dropped this absolute gem of wisdom: “Are you sure he didn’t groom you?” Sure, that’s a casual question you ask someone you recently met.

    Unless Sara has a psychology degree tucked away somewhere, which she doesn’t, this comment was about as subtle as a sledgehammer. Mike, shocked by Sara’s audacity, did what any reasonable person would do in the face of absurdity: he burst out laughing. Honestly, what else can you do when someone accuses your stable, loving marriage of being something straight out of a psychology book?

    But Sara wasn’t happy at all about her little “observation” being laughed off, so she started spreading gossip at work, painting the husband, the one she had never actually met, by the way, as some sort of sinister, lurking predator. She even warned people to steer clear of him at the upcoming work party. I don’t know about you, but I’d be fuming at this point.

    Mike, however, started to feel a tad guilty. Maybe laughing wasn’t the most polished reaction, but when someone suggests your perfectly normal relationship is built on grooming…what else can you do? When a person crosses that many boundaries in a single conversation, it’s hard to take them seriously. Plus, the grooming comments are so off base, they really deserve a good laugh.

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    When it comes to grooming, it’s important to remember that the real experts (you know, the kind with actual degrees) agree that it’s all about manipulation and power. According to the pros, grooming usually involves building trust to exploit someone, often much younger and in vulnerable situations. However, age gaps alone don’t define grooming – it’s the unhealthy control behind the scenes that raises red flags.

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    But the story doesn’t end with the laugh. Nope, Sara just couldn’t let it go. She doubled down on her “helpful” concern, repeatedly dropping hints to coworkers about the supposed “creepiness” of the age gap. It got so bad that even people who didn’t know the full story were fed up with her.

    Realizing this was spiraling out of control, Mike did what any level-headed person would do—he turned to HR. And, to their credit, HR set up an informal meeting with both parties. What followed was the awkward showdown we didn’t know we needed.

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    During the meeting, Sara, our resident relationship vigilante, tried to defend her actions with the classic “I’m just looking out for you” line, which felt about as sincere as a soggy handshake. She even added some weird claims about manipulation and grooming dynamics like she was the Dr. Phil of the office. But when Mike asked her how old she thought he was, Sara guessed, wait for it, 24. Yup, 24.

    At this point Mike just couldn’t hold it in anymore and revealed he’s actually 30. Sara’s face turned so red, she probably could’ve powered the office heater with her embarrassment. HR had to step in and remind her that workplace gossip and unsolicited opinions on people’s marriages aren’t exactly appropriate. And hey, at least she stopped with the weird comments after the meeting.

    As for handling those inappropriate comments at work, HR pros will tell you: boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! The key is to nip it in the bud with a clear, direct response like, “I’d prefer to keep my personal life private.”

    If that doesn’t work and the office chatterbox won’t stop, HR is your go-to, which is exactly what Mike did to make Sara stop spreading rumors about him and his husband. No one should have to tolerate gossip or nosy remarks in the workplace, so speak up, document it, and let HR work their magic. Plus, you’ll be setting a solid example for the next person dealing with a wannabe Dr. Phil.

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    What are your thoughts on this story? Drop your “appropriate” comments below.

    Netizens side with the man, saying he’s not a jerk for laughing at his coworker as her comments were completely out of line

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    Hi! Nice to meet you~ I'm very passionate about animals, especially cats, photography, small DIY projects, music and so much more! Could say I am the TV show The Office connoisseur since I have seen it at least a dozen times~

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    Luke Branwen
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really not trying to downplay real grooming, but this internet moral panic over any age difference at all is getting truly ridiculous. People are so afraid of being accused of "defending groomers" that they prefer to loudly condemn even 100% loving and non-toxic relationship. Sometimes people just click regardless of age, and as long as there's no actual toxic or criminal behavior involved, that's alright.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's all fake outrage virtue signaling. Look at me, look at how good of a person I am. I care, I truly care. Watch me make an a*s out of myself to show how much!

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    MoMcB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My friends have a 30 year age gap. When I heard he was dating someone that much younger, I had a knee jerk reaction that it wasn't right, as his now wife was the same age as my daughter. She I got to meet her, I knew very quickly how wrong I was. They are a fantastic couple, he's young for his age , and she's an old head on young shoulders- they meet in the middle and I love the dynamic they have.

    Game Guy
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sexual assault and manipulation needs to be stopped, but one of the best ways to make sure it keeps happening is to run around making Chicken Little accusations against people. You do not go around accusing people of sexual misconduct unless you have concrete proof it's happening.

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    Luke Branwen
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really not trying to downplay real grooming, but this internet moral panic over any age difference at all is getting truly ridiculous. People are so afraid of being accused of "defending groomers" that they prefer to loudly condemn even 100% loving and non-toxic relationship. Sometimes people just click regardless of age, and as long as there's no actual toxic or criminal behavior involved, that's alright.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's all fake outrage virtue signaling. Look at me, look at how good of a person I am. I care, I truly care. Watch me make an a*s out of myself to show how much!

    Load More Replies...
    MoMcB
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My friends have a 30 year age gap. When I heard he was dating someone that much younger, I had a knee jerk reaction that it wasn't right, as his now wife was the same age as my daughter. She I got to meet her, I knew very quickly how wrong I was. They are a fantastic couple, he's young for his age , and she's an old head on young shoulders- they meet in the middle and I love the dynamic they have.

    Game Guy
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sexual assault and manipulation needs to be stopped, but one of the best ways to make sure it keeps happening is to run around making Chicken Little accusations against people. You do not go around accusing people of sexual misconduct unless you have concrete proof it's happening.

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