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“Great Job Being Rude”: Female Skater Captures Moment She Gets “Mansplained” To
Skater Audrey Faison experienced what many considered to be mansplaining while performing tricks in Venice, Los Angeles.
An uncomfortable interaction caught on video shows the moment a man tried to give Audrey, an experienced skater, unsolicited advice on how to use her board.
“Hey, how is it going?” the California resident told the passerby as he approached her.
Highlights
- Skater Audrey Faison went viral after firmly declining a man's unsolicited advice.
- Audrey's video showcasing the interaction with the "mansplainer" received 8 million views.
- The incident sparked discussion on the issue of mansplaining and sexism in sports.
“Can I give you one quick little hint?” the man asked, to which Audrey responded, “That’s okay.”
The stranger insisted. “You sure?”
Once again, Audrey declined the advice. “Yeah, I’m good. Thanks.”
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A female skater captured the moment a stranger tried to “mansplain” how to use her board while she was practicing a trick
Image credits: bbfais
Still, the man went ahead and attempted to give her a tip: “Okay, so you put this not here but…”
The content creator quickly cut him off, reminding him she didn’t want to receive any instructions. “I just said no, didn’t I? I’m just doing my thing. Thanks.”
Audrey frequently posts videos on social media showing her impressive skateboarding tricks to her more than 10,000 followers.
Her viral video, viewed by nearly 8 million people on TikTok, was posted alongside a comment from a follower that read, “This gets me on my last damn nerve. The mansplaining of it all.”
Audrey Faison, a skater, surfer, and model, is the founder of Concrete Queenz, a nonprofit that brings “skateboarding to underserved girls” in South LA
Image credits: bbfais
The term “mansplaining” describes a situation in which a man explains something needlessly or condescendingly to a woman in a manner thought to reveal a patronizing or chauvinistic attitude. Mansplaining memes, which are really popular on the internet, raise awareness of this, too.
In most cases, an assumption is made that the woman doesn’t possess the same level of knowledge or expertise as the man and so would benefit from their advice.
Many people were shocked to see the man assume that the skater needed his advice, disregarding her wish to practice on her own.
“This is a universal experience for literally any hobby women pick up: rock climbing, bartending, archery, are just a few of my personal experiences,” a social media user commented.
“Can I give you one quick little hint?” the man asked, to which Audrey responded, “That’s okay”
Image credits: bbfais
“Help is offered, not forced…if someone doesn’t want it and you’re offended, it’s a really weird way to try and help,” another person said.
“I’m so proud of you! I could hear it in your voice. I hate the immediate assumption that we are in desperate need of their intervention at every moment!” a third user wrote.
However, there was also a smaller group who was more critical of Audrey’s approach.
“I’ve gotten so many tips at the skatepark. Like… that’s probably the best part of skating around others. I’ve never turned down free advice at the skatepark,” shared an Instagram user.
“Most skaters are just trying to help out with the tips. Honestly, I don’t think I would have got to where I am without the tips or discussing skateboarding,” said another.
Still, the man insisted on giving her a tip
Image credits: bbfais
“I just said no, didn’t I? I’m just doing my thing. Thanks,” Audrey responded
Image credits: bbfais
On Instagram, Audrey, who is also a surfer, explained that the situation she exposed wasn’t an isolated case.
“Recently, I’ve been sharing some of the annoying interactions I’ve experienced while I’m finally putting in the time to learn a kickflip. While there has been a lot of positive engagement I have been honestly shocked by some of the comments and beliefs from people,” the skater wrote.
“From some comments saying that women aren’t good at aNyThInG and should stay in the kitchen (?!?) to d**th threats and straight-up hate for trying to learn something new, it’s opened my eyes even further to the importance of supporting one another and creating safe spaces for women and girls to learn and practice skateboarding.”
The term “mansplaining” is used to describe a situation in which a man explains something needlessly or condescendingly to a woman
Image credits: bbfais
The model stressed the importance of young girls feeling protected and encouraged when practicing the sport.
“I grew up playing sports and going up against the boys so I never really felt any hesitation in submerging myself into skating but if I would have seen all of these types of comments it definitely would have had me thinking.
“I’ve also been lucky to be a part of such an amazing skate community in Venice and have learned SOOO much from everyone and I’m so grateful to have never really experienced this type of hate directed at my skating in person.”
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She continued: “It truly breaks my heart that some young girl could see some of these comments and stop believing they could DO WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT!!! Whether it’s skateboarding or anything in life.”
The content creator also responded to those who assumed that the man giving her advice was as skilled as Tony Hawk.
“It has also been super surprising that people automatically assume this person talking in the video had any reasonable knowledge to offer to me and how genuinely upset people are that I didn’t take the ‘advice.'”
“I grew up playing sports and going up against the boys so I never really felt any hesitation in submerging myself into skating,” the model said
Image credits: bbfais
“I’ve also been lucky to be a part of such an amazing skate community in Venice and have learned SOOO much from everyone”
Image credits: bbfais
“As a woman, I’ve been approached by so many different types of guys and have had so many unwanted interactions…some harmless…some just annoying, and some horrible and really scary. It took me a long time to be able to set boundaries and protect my own peace and be able to straight up say ‘no.'”
Audrey is the founder of Concrete Queenz, a nonprofit that brings skateboarding and community to underserved girls in South LA.
“Love how you speak up for yourself and keep your boundaries,” someone wrote
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KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
"Guy just trying to help" - guy not taking no for an answer, not helping his gender.
Marcellus II 1 year ago
But clearly you haven't understood, little woman, the guy was really just being helpful. I'll explain it in simpler words for you, (...there goes the rest of your hour & your blood pressure...)
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CanadianDimes 1 year ago
Who cares if the "dude seemed pretty nice"? She said no. It's *not* nice to keep pestering her when she has said she doesn't want help.
Tamra 1 year ago
The comment above saying that the guy was just trying to help...okay, but she said she didn't need help. So take her at her word and be on your way. FFS
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
I work in a library. All day I go up to people who seem confused and I say, "Can I help?" I literally work there, its my job, Im wearing an apron and a name badge. And I smile and go away if they say, "No." Most of us have jobs that involve helping people, and we know to leave the person alone if they say no.
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Jan 1 year ago
Figuring things out for yourself is part of the fun. Don't take the joy from someone else's journey.
Liza Ann Gabor 1 year ago
Maia, who the f**k cares? You’re a condescending prick. Nobody cares about your “ expertise “
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Marcos Valencia 1 year ago (edited)
I've been involved in climbing and kayaking for around 35 years (now 50). As someone points in the comments, these disciplines share with skating how important is the community in sharing tips about gestures, use of the equipment, safety concerns... and so many things we learn and keep learning. We learn, we share. And we absolutely share the enthusiasm of a 14 yo fellow who accomplishes what seemed to be an impossible goal. There is no shame in receiving advice or help. But, of course, if safety (yours or other people's) is not a concern, there is no reason to insist. I'm not sure if that's a case for mansplaining, but 100% it's a case of lack of respect towards explicit limits.
Jo 1 year ago
The point is, men only act this way with women. Imagine a man is practicing skate tricks, and a passing man stops them to try and offer them advice. There are only a couple of circumstances I can imagine this happening: if the skating man is a child, or very very clearly a complete novice
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Jo 1 year ago (edited)
This, and the vid with golfer Georgia Ball in Feb, is mansplaining in its purest form. A man would NEVER act this way to another man. It simply wouldn't happen.
Justin 1 year ago
Men show other men how to do things, all the time. And most of the time, we appreciate it because we learned something and are now better for it. Y'all weirdos need to grow tf up and figure out that deep seated bigotry of yours.
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The Big Bad 1 year ago
I was the wedding photographer a while back. The couple hired me to fly across Europe to Italy because they had faith in my expertise. In the middle of the job this guy comes up to me to give me advise (he was a doctor)... He was really kind, but seeing that I was more than clearly the expert there, it was really inappropriate. I smiled, nodded and did my own thing anyway.
CatWoman1014 1 year ago
Men must really trust us if they want us in the kitchen where we can poison food or idk grab a large knife….
Hannah Taylor 1 year ago (edited)
But didn't you know, poor child? Other than performing our household duties, we poor women have no other value. Really, imagine us thinking that there's life beyond the kitchen! 🙄
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Yaz Cam 1 year ago
I find some of these responses very interesting, like “that’s just skateboarding culture”, “I went to her profile and from the looks of it she isn’t a professional and can use the advice”, or “And surely if you’re trying to learn to do something and someone with more experience offers at tip you can just listen to it.” To these I have to say 1. You may have overlooked the part where she has a community of boarders who she learns from. 2. Why does she need to be a professional boarder? At what point did skateboarding become something only professionals do? It can be a recreational activity/hobby like many other interests people have. 3. How did we jump to the conclusion that this person offering advice is more experienced?? And even if they were, so what? These types of comments are what distract from the point being made: there is nothing wrong with telling someone “no”. It’s totally acceptable to want to do something/figure something out on your own without input.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
"Guy just trying to help" - guy not taking no for an answer, not helping his gender.
Marcellus II 1 year ago
But clearly you haven't understood, little woman, the guy was really just being helpful. I'll explain it in simpler words for you, (...there goes the rest of your hour & your blood pressure...)
Load More Replies... CanadianDimes 1 year ago
Who cares if the "dude seemed pretty nice"? She said no. It's *not* nice to keep pestering her when she has said she doesn't want help.
Tamra 1 year ago
The comment above saying that the guy was just trying to help...okay, but she said she didn't need help. So take her at her word and be on your way. FFS
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
I work in a library. All day I go up to people who seem confused and I say, "Can I help?" I literally work there, its my job, Im wearing an apron and a name badge. And I smile and go away if they say, "No." Most of us have jobs that involve helping people, and we know to leave the person alone if they say no.
Load More Replies... Jan 1 year ago
Figuring things out for yourself is part of the fun. Don't take the joy from someone else's journey.
Liza Ann Gabor 1 year ago
Maia, who the f**k cares? You’re a condescending prick. Nobody cares about your “ expertise “
Load More Replies... Marcos Valencia 1 year ago (edited)
I've been involved in climbing and kayaking for around 35 years (now 50). As someone points in the comments, these disciplines share with skating how important is the community in sharing tips about gestures, use of the equipment, safety concerns... and so many things we learn and keep learning. We learn, we share. And we absolutely share the enthusiasm of a 14 yo fellow who accomplishes what seemed to be an impossible goal. There is no shame in receiving advice or help. But, of course, if safety (yours or other people's) is not a concern, there is no reason to insist. I'm not sure if that's a case for mansplaining, but 100% it's a case of lack of respect towards explicit limits.
Jo 1 year ago
The point is, men only act this way with women. Imagine a man is practicing skate tricks, and a passing man stops them to try and offer them advice. There are only a couple of circumstances I can imagine this happening: if the skating man is a child, or very very clearly a complete novice
Load More Replies... Jo 1 year ago (edited)
This, and the vid with golfer Georgia Ball in Feb, is mansplaining in its purest form. A man would NEVER act this way to another man. It simply wouldn't happen.
Justin 1 year ago
Men show other men how to do things, all the time. And most of the time, we appreciate it because we learned something and are now better for it. Y'all weirdos need to grow tf up and figure out that deep seated bigotry of yours.
Load More Replies... The Big Bad 1 year ago
I was the wedding photographer a while back. The couple hired me to fly across Europe to Italy because they had faith in my expertise. In the middle of the job this guy comes up to me to give me advise (he was a doctor)... He was really kind, but seeing that I was more than clearly the expert there, it was really inappropriate. I smiled, nodded and did my own thing anyway.
CatWoman1014 1 year ago
Men must really trust us if they want us in the kitchen where we can poison food or idk grab a large knife….
Hannah Taylor 1 year ago (edited)
But didn't you know, poor child? Other than performing our household duties, we poor women have no other value. Really, imagine us thinking that there's life beyond the kitchen! 🙄
Load More Replies... Yaz Cam 1 year ago
I find some of these responses very interesting, like “that’s just skateboarding culture”, “I went to her profile and from the looks of it she isn’t a professional and can use the advice”, or “And surely if you’re trying to learn to do something and someone with more experience offers at tip you can just listen to it.” To these I have to say 1. You may have overlooked the part where she has a community of boarders who she learns from. 2. Why does she need to be a professional boarder? At what point did skateboarding become something only professionals do? It can be a recreational activity/hobby like many other interests people have. 3. How did we jump to the conclusion that this person offering advice is more experienced?? And even if they were, so what? These types of comments are what distract from the point being made: there is nothing wrong with telling someone “no”. It’s totally acceptable to want to do something/figure something out on your own without input.
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