You are mean to my animal, you are out. That day. That minute. Out.

I have a dog. She comes first. End of story and yes, she would have been out on her @$$ that very same day.

my fiancee & I had long talks every Saturday afternoon about our upcoming marriage. The pastor gave us a marriage prep book with multiple chapters. It dealt with all the main topics that should be discussed and on the table before marriage. I thought we were both being cool-headed and upfront about all these things. Yes, pets were discussed. I had a cat who I was very attached to. She knew this. I owned my house. It was a modest 1400 s.f. (130 square meters) detached starter home with a fenced garden in a decent middle-class nice neighborhood that was only a few years old. We went through all of the chapters. I asked her if she knew who she was marrying and what she was getting into. She said "yes" and "yes". She said she didn't like cats. The compromise was that the cat would become an outdoors cat and stay in the garage. We came back from the honeymoon, and the cat had given birth to kittens. The new wife moaned that she was surrounded by cats. She said the cat was attacking her. I asked what this meant, and the reality is the cat was rubbing up to her ankles trying to make friends. She said she would not go into the garage anymore since it was contaminated. She then told me she hated cats. She slammed down the ultimatum after only three weeks' investment in the marriage that the cat and her kittens had to go. Her exact words were, "she goes or I go". I told her that I was calling her bluff and to do what she had to do. She knew I had a cat when she moved in. This was already discussed and agreed to. I told her I was not going to take my cat and her new kittens to the pound and have them put to sleep. She kept escalating with outrage until I asked for a separation. She called up her mother and said that I asked for a divorce, which was a lie. She moved out and all her stuff was gone the next day. She cleaned out the bank account. She expected me to crumble to her majesty's demands on threat and ultimatum of divorce. She would not talk to me on the phone, so I sent her a letter detailing the 50 or so similar incidents where she had been equally unbelievably obnoxious and unreasonable. I suggested we go together to counseling. She filed that day after getting the letter. Then she proceeded to destroy my reputation among our friends. Talk about the marriage from hell!!! I still did not crumble, so she divorced me. She ruined my life and reputation and could not understand why I did not come over and beg her majesty's forgiveness and to return on her sovereign terms. It has been 35 years, and I still haven't got over it. What a jerk! My best understanding from talking to psychologists and marriage counselors after this was that she was a borderline psychotic in deep denial. The stress of leaving her precious "toxic co-dependent" mommy and comfortable cradle of a home pushed her over the edge. What a nightmare! You never know who you are marrying until after you marry them. Why me, Lord?

NTA. This is disgusting. I had to leave an abusive ex with my newborn daughter in tow... I wasn't able to get my cat out fast enough; my ex made it clear I would have to sue him to get him back "bc he loved him and needed him"... before I could file the paperwork proving ownership, he threw him on the street (fully indoor cat) so he could be hit by a car. So disgusting and unforgivable! It takes a true psychopath to intentionally hurt an animal out of revenge for their own garbage behavior!!!

End of the month? I would not spend one more day with this person, so "Out!" it is - the same day. She can stay with family, friends, or at a youth hostel, I don't care...

It’s a good tell of bad character if someone is mean to animals.

She is not a good person. He is well shot of her.

As someone with an amazing black cat I absolutely love the he chose the cat over her. Also his cat is f*****g adorable ❤️

Also, she was crying because she had nowhere to go... No mention of her wanting the relationship. I say, good call.

that poor cat could've been killed. i had a black cat that was killed by my neighbor because he said it was in slef defense. how the hell are you in self defence to a one yr old cat

So she was okay with the cat living on the street but not her??? She can at least take care of herself, a trained indoor cat CANT

A pet is just one step below a child in a list of priorities and responsibilities. You don't ask your partner to kick out his/her kids out once you move in and same is with the pets. You either take the whole package or none.

poor baby kitty. raven and you deserve better

OMG, if someone had done that to my cat I would be homicidal, never mind kicking her azz out, like NOW. You do not have until the end of the month, your stuff is strewn about the driveway. And I hope Raven peed on it first.

Toss the girlfriend

I would have been beyond livid! I have one cat and she is absolutely my best friend. I would like to believe that if I were seeing someone who had an aversion to cats that I would be observant enough to pick up on this. However, many people are very talented at hiding the truth of their thoughts and feelings. Were I to come home and discover my cat had been purposely escorted from the house then the person responsible would receive the very same treatment on the spot! My cat will always love me unconditionally and clearly anyone who is willing to pull a stunt like this, will not!

New boyfriend came to the apartment, saw my cat (of many years) and said, "It'll have to go." Ex-boyfriend left shortly thereafter.

Unless the end of the month was within the next hour then you were waaaaay to lenient. But yeah, she gotta go.

He was incredibly nice to let her stay a month. I would have made her leave that day! The cat could have been hit by a car, gotten into a fight with another animal, eaten something harmful, etc. while he was outdoors. She was mean, selfish and abusive to both her boyfriend and Raven. If she dated him for two years, she must have known he had a cat and that he and the cat had a bond. I've had my cats for 14 years and 12 years. I'd never let anyone make me gat rid of them. They are indoor cats. I'd be furious if anyone put them outside!!! I had a black cat for 19 years. I loved him - Raven reminds me of him.

She would have been OUT right away if that were my pet and my situation. I have been in that position. An ex threatened to "lose" my cat somewhere if I didn't declawed him. He is an ex, for a reason. My kitty lived to 18½ years old and happy with a sister cat, sister dog, brother dog - all rescues, and my loving husband who adores animals, too.

Her stuff would be out on the street the minute she admitted to kicking my cat out. You don't need someone as heartless as that to stick around.

I went on a first date with a young man whom I had know casually for quite a while. Somehow, pets had never come up. I invited him in after our date, for a cup of coffee (yes, really), and he saw my cat. He snarled, in that hateful voice that actual cat-haters always use, "I HATE f'ing cats." I looked him dead in the eyes and said, "She was here before you came along, and she'll be here when you are long gone. I had a lovely evening, and you have a nice life.

The generosity of this guy giving her a months notice?! Sod that, out on her ear the minute she confessed. I honestly can't imagine how people can behave this way with other living creatures??! Woman probably has no soul herself! My husband & I have a feline family member who we love to death, but if I was single and anyone i dated had an issue with him or cats generally - they'd be GONE without hesitation.

I would say this isn't even about the cat. She knew that he would be devastated, and she did it anyway. That's not okay.