Man Doesn’t Realize Girlfriend Of 7 Years Is 25 Years Older Than Him Until Night Before Wedding
A man in Japan discovered there was a 25-year age gap between him and his girlfriend the night before their wedding.
Yoshitaka and Aki met at a Japanese-style bar run by Aki. At the time, they were both divorced. Yoshitaka felt attracted by Aki’s mature charm, so he decided to return a week later to speak to her.
“After talking with her, I found that we both had experienced failed marriages, were raising children alone, and we also shared many common interests,” the 40-year-old said about his 65-year-old wife.
A man in Japan realized his girlfriend was 25 years older than him the night before their wedding
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They quickly fell in love and became a couple. For seven years, Yoshitaka believed there was only a 15-year age gap between him and his partner, according to the South China Morning Post.
Aki’s excellent skincare routine and health conditions helped her maintain a youthful appearance, so Yoshitaka never suspected that the love of his life was hiding something from him.
This doesn’t mean that she never felt anxious about her lie. Fearing that Yoshitaka would leave her if he ever discovered the truth about her age, she kept dropping subtle hints, such as leaving her passport and insurance card on the table, hoping he would open them.
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However, these indirect confessions never worked, as Yoshitaka kept reminding Aki to put her important documents away in case she lost them.
When the pair decided to take the next step in their relationship, Aki felt that she couldn’t carry on with her lie.
On the eve of saying “I do,” she revealed her true age to her boyfriend.
All her fears dissipated when Yoshitaka reassured her that he wasn’t bothered by her age. “I don’t mind your real age at all, it doesn’t matter,” he told her.
“What matters is why you didn’t tell me earlier so you wouldn’t have to worry for so long.”
After tying the knot, Aki and Yoshitaka quit their jobs to travel around Japan in a campervan.
After their wedding, the couple quit their jobs to travel around Japan in a camper van
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— 25歳逆年の差夫婦/ヨシタカ (@yoshitaka_999) March 3, 2019
The couple, who have shared the story of their “reverse age gap” with their 18,000 YouTube subscribers, now run Airtel, an air conditioner cleaning business.
Part of the reason Aki lied is that Japanese society remains prejudiced against couples where the woman is significantly older than the man.
“Older men can proudly show off how young and beautiful their wives are, but many women who are older than their husbands often hesitate to reveal their relationships to others,” she said, as per South China Morning Post.
In Western societies, words like “cougars” and “toyboy” reflect this form of prejudice in which the older woman is seen as a predator who objectifies innocent men.
Instead of judging women for dating younger men, Aki believes we should “accept various forms of couples.”
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Agreed! They are two consenting adults, this ain't an issue.
Load More Replies...Would you forgive your partner if they lied to you about their age seven years into the relationship? - I don't care about age difference if we get along but lie would be hard to forgive
Idk why you are all getting downvoted. Yes, ultimately the story is sweet. I love that it worked out and it ended well, but I agree, I don't like the dishonesty. Ok, I can even concede if the relationship is just a few weeks old or so, but 7 years is too long. I understand that she was anxious that he would leave her, but it's not fair to let someone get that invested. Especially if it mattered to him for some reason. Would we be OK with this story if Yoshitaka was upset & the post was instead "Man angry over woman who lied about 25 year age gap for 7 years"? If she had societal concerns, she still could have told him & no one else.
Load More Replies...This story was much cuter than I thought it would be from the title. I was expecting not just the lie, but doing everything possible to keep the truth from coming out. It makes it kinda cute that she did throw hints out, but was just too scared or shy to actually say it. I am glad she came clean before the wedding. I absolutely love his reaction. The moral here is just come clean.
Even if he declined to look at her ID hints, it is just about impossible to imagine that he wouldn't have found out. Didn't he know any of her friends? Wouldn't any of them be curious to know what he thought of their age gap, or be too much of a blabbermouth to stay silent if she asked them to? This just reinforces my suspicion that many, if not most, of the stories one reads on the interwebs—including (maybe especially...) on Bored Panda—are just clickbait BS.
Given that a lot of stories are stolen from elsewhere on the Internet, like reddit and Instagram, it wouldn't surprise me if this was made up.
Load More Replies...Am I the only one who right away thought she looked like his mom? How did he not know?
If I learned anything from watching 1990s TV ads, it's that she uses Pearl Cream.
I think it is wonderful that he loved her, no matter what the age difference. He was more upset that she was worried about it the whole time. THAT'S love!
He didn't look at her id or passport when it's left there,he could've known and would've just told her, it's onay but he didn't.men are just straight as a ruler... can't even see hints even when it's in front of their eyes
Nice article, Marina! I would like to offer one slight clarification. "Tomboy" is unrelated to "Cougar." A tomboy is a girl who prefers "boy things" compared to "girl things." The stereotypical tomboy refuses to wear dresses, does not play with dolls, and spends her time outdoors or playing sports. You generally wouldn't describe any girl or woman older than mid-20s as a tomboy. It isn't anything controversial, and it also has nothing to do politics or anything like that.
It may have been edited, but it currently says toyboy, not tomboy. Although I thought the same thing at first. Also I think boytoy is more common.
Load More Replies...Agreed! They are two consenting adults, this ain't an issue.
Load More Replies...Would you forgive your partner if they lied to you about their age seven years into the relationship? - I don't care about age difference if we get along but lie would be hard to forgive
Idk why you are all getting downvoted. Yes, ultimately the story is sweet. I love that it worked out and it ended well, but I agree, I don't like the dishonesty. Ok, I can even concede if the relationship is just a few weeks old or so, but 7 years is too long. I understand that she was anxious that he would leave her, but it's not fair to let someone get that invested. Especially if it mattered to him for some reason. Would we be OK with this story if Yoshitaka was upset & the post was instead "Man angry over woman who lied about 25 year age gap for 7 years"? If she had societal concerns, she still could have told him & no one else.
Load More Replies...This story was much cuter than I thought it would be from the title. I was expecting not just the lie, but doing everything possible to keep the truth from coming out. It makes it kinda cute that she did throw hints out, but was just too scared or shy to actually say it. I am glad she came clean before the wedding. I absolutely love his reaction. The moral here is just come clean.
Even if he declined to look at her ID hints, it is just about impossible to imagine that he wouldn't have found out. Didn't he know any of her friends? Wouldn't any of them be curious to know what he thought of their age gap, or be too much of a blabbermouth to stay silent if she asked them to? This just reinforces my suspicion that many, if not most, of the stories one reads on the interwebs—including (maybe especially...) on Bored Panda—are just clickbait BS.
Given that a lot of stories are stolen from elsewhere on the Internet, like reddit and Instagram, it wouldn't surprise me if this was made up.
Load More Replies...Am I the only one who right away thought she looked like his mom? How did he not know?
If I learned anything from watching 1990s TV ads, it's that she uses Pearl Cream.
I think it is wonderful that he loved her, no matter what the age difference. He was more upset that she was worried about it the whole time. THAT'S love!
He didn't look at her id or passport when it's left there,he could've known and would've just told her, it's onay but he didn't.men are just straight as a ruler... can't even see hints even when it's in front of their eyes
Nice article, Marina! I would like to offer one slight clarification. "Tomboy" is unrelated to "Cougar." A tomboy is a girl who prefers "boy things" compared to "girl things." The stereotypical tomboy refuses to wear dresses, does not play with dolls, and spends her time outdoors or playing sports. You generally wouldn't describe any girl or woman older than mid-20s as a tomboy. It isn't anything controversial, and it also has nothing to do politics or anything like that.
It may have been edited, but it currently says toyboy, not tomboy. Although I thought the same thing at first. Also I think boytoy is more common.
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