“I’d Do It Again”: Husband Can’t Stand Wife Being ‘Chronically Late’, So He Decides To Teach Her A Lesson
Nobody’s perfect. But that doesn’t mean you can just do whatever and say “I can’t help it, it’s who I am.” Especially when your actions are negatively affecting those around you.
Recently, Reddit user Striking_Still_3721 submitted a post to the “Am I The A***ole?” community about his wife not respecting other people’s time. You see, the man’s spouse is constantly late. No matter where she goes, everyone—her husband included—always has to adjust to her timing.
So one time, when the two of them were at the mall and the woman was shopping as if she was on her own, Striking_Still_3721 decided that enough was enough and simply ditched her.
However, when the couple reunited, they immediately got into a fight and now the Redditor isn’t sure if it’s his wife’s defense mechanism why she opposes him or if he genuinely misjudged the situation and acted like a jerk. Here’s what he wrote.
Ditching your spouse at a mall sounds like a horrible thing to do
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And this man wasn’t sure if he had the right, so he asked the internet to be the judge of his actions
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If what Striking_Still_3721 says is true, his wife definitely has a difficult relationship with punctuality. According to research commissioned by St Pierre Bakery, the average adult starts to feel stressed if they are just 10 minutes late for a social event or meeting.
A study of 3,000 American adults found “early is on time,” with more than half admitting they are “obsessed” with timekeeping.
Anything past 13 minutes is considered “late,” and 56% of respondents plan ahead to ensure they are never running behind schedule.
60% swear by being early, with 39% believing it’s socially unacceptable to be late at all.
However, 7 in 10 friend groups have a person who is especially known to be late, and a quarter admitted they are “that friend.”
47% of those surveyed said they have sneakily told these friends that a meeting time was earlier than it was actually scheduled, so if they showed up late they were actually somewhat on time. Which is understandable considering that it only takes 5 times of being late for people to feel upset with you.
On the flip side, more than a third pride themselves on being typically early to social events or meetings, while 45% are usually “on time.”
But half of the respondents admitted they have been criticized for their time-keeping habits — whether too early or too late.
Interestingly, the covid lockdown has made people “slower” (35%) and 55% of them have enjoyed not having the pressure of being somewhere at a specific time.
The study also discovered the most used excuses for being late included blaming the traffic (37%), a morning alarm not going off (33%), and the car not starting (32%).
Americans typically feel anxious (43%), annoyed (36%), and concerned (28%) if it’s looking like they’re going to be running late somewhere, while the top occasions and events people stress about not making in time include job interviews (33%), medical appointments (31%) and the airport (29%).
While men are more likely to feel embarrassed and anxious about being late, women—just like Striking_Still_3721’s wife—are more likely to laugh it off.
However, as we can see, this doesn’t always work.
People think the husband did nothing wrong
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Share on FacebookNTA... but I highly doubt she's learned a lesson. Problem is that nobody holds themselves accountable for their terrible behavior and they excuse it with the whole "I am who I am" off the cuff quip. "I am who I am" is a wonderful way to love yourself in certain instances but should not be used as a catch all excuse for toxic character defects/lack of respect for others when a bit of effort could better the circumstances.
I have a chronically-late sister-in-law. The family got tired of "dinner starts at 6" means "Everyone but Jessie arrives at 6 and waits until 7:30 or 8:00 for Jessie and then we all start eating" so now it means "dinner starts at 6 and Jessie eats alone when she arrives". Her lateness HAS gotten better, in fact much better, but the main difference is that we're not mad at her when she shows up late any more.
Load More Replies...Why are you married again? I would go to the movies and tell my wife beforehand, no drama. If she can't do it before the movie starts, she'll just have to live with it.
"Why are you married"? Probably because people base their marriages on more than just whether or not you have the same concept of tardiness....
Load More Replies...NTA. My parents were both chronically late to the point where I was waiting at an after school activity so long the cops had to be called. It didn’t stop, they were routinely 3, 5, and 8 hours late picking me up at the airport when I would come home from college, I’m not sure why they even bothered buying me a plane ticket, I almost always waited longer than the flight home took. I finally stopped going home at all. My poor younger brother has horrible anxiety about being on time now.
NTA... but I highly doubt she's learned a lesson. Problem is that nobody holds themselves accountable for their terrible behavior and they excuse it with the whole "I am who I am" off the cuff quip. "I am who I am" is a wonderful way to love yourself in certain instances but should not be used as a catch all excuse for toxic character defects/lack of respect for others when a bit of effort could better the circumstances.
I have a chronically-late sister-in-law. The family got tired of "dinner starts at 6" means "Everyone but Jessie arrives at 6 and waits until 7:30 or 8:00 for Jessie and then we all start eating" so now it means "dinner starts at 6 and Jessie eats alone when she arrives". Her lateness HAS gotten better, in fact much better, but the main difference is that we're not mad at her when she shows up late any more.
Load More Replies...Why are you married again? I would go to the movies and tell my wife beforehand, no drama. If she can't do it before the movie starts, she'll just have to live with it.
"Why are you married"? Probably because people base their marriages on more than just whether or not you have the same concept of tardiness....
Load More Replies...NTA. My parents were both chronically late to the point where I was waiting at an after school activity so long the cops had to be called. It didn’t stop, they were routinely 3, 5, and 8 hours late picking me up at the airport when I would come home from college, I’m not sure why they even bothered buying me a plane ticket, I almost always waited longer than the flight home took. I finally stopped going home at all. My poor younger brother has horrible anxiety about being on time now.
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