He's obviously cheating. Trying to cover up his misdemeanours

My baby looks nothing like his father and we have to look far up his family tree to find blue eyes. He said genetics were odd. His mother asked 'where did that come from' (part as a joke) and accepted the answer. Final point. The guy and his mother are trash, egoist, unsupportive idiots.

Some things the husband could have done differently: > Googled the f*****g thing or asked a doctor so this whole situation never happened > Say something along the lines of "I know you won't cheat on me. But I don't want to live with the doubt crawling at the back of my mind and ruin the relationship for the both of us. It's not a problem with you, it's a problem with me," instead of threatening divorce. > Supported her throughout the whole situation instead of letting his mom threaten her as well > Apologized and showered his spouse with affection to take responsibility instead of running off to his mom

Don’t marry people who can’t remember high school biology.

I really need an update to this story. I hope and wish she got away from him, these things will only get worse. I'm just heartbroken for this woman and her newborn.

OP, you need to give serious thought as to whether this is a relationship you can/want to save. This is a divorce-worthy offence. It's not only him asking for a paternity test in itself - there are relationships with strong communication and a trust-but-verify stance where that is survivable. Doubts can poison a relationship and make it hard for him to bond with the baby. How he handled it - the divorce ultimation, followed by leave-and-run-home-to-tell-mummy part is unacceptable. Not staying to work through his doubts and support you is kind of a killer, as is spreading your private couple issues to the inlaws. The only acceptable reaction to the results would have been him showing abject relief and apologising for his doubts and thanking you for setting them to rest.

He probably is cheating on her, and projecting, as people often do. Kick his a*s to the curb.

I was born with blue eyes and was blonde for the first two years of my life. Then my hair turned brown, and my eyes became hazel. The husband is TA.

As far as I know, and I have five kids, you can't tell the color of a babies eyes at birth. They all start off as a weird, murky, newborn color. Their hair, can change to a whole new color too. Three of my kids have blue eyes, while their father's are brown, and mine are hazel. Why? Because, we each have a parent with blue eyes, and a sibling with blue eyes. Two of them were born with blondish hair, one turned dark, one turned red. At best, this man and his mother, are idiots. At worst, they are a-holes, especially the mom, who's been around long enough to know better.

Divorce this simpleton immediately

As soon as he said to take the test or divorce I would've said see you in court then

Sooo.... He was offended and insulting when the baby was born and now he's offended and insulted to find out the baby is truly his? And both times his attack dog mama threatened and berated OP? Neither of them have any respect for the blameless mother of that child. She is well rid of both of them.

Both my kids were really blond when they were babies, despite both hubby and me having dark brown hair. However, my MIL showed me pics of my hubby when he was very small and he was also very blond and my mum (who also has very dark hair) showed some pictures of her when she was a baby - also with blond hair. So I think it's quite common. Also, OPs a husband is a d**k and she should consider whether she really wants to stay with such an AH.

"He threatened to divorce me if I didn't comply" That's exactly when she should have ended this marraige, there's no coming back from that.

The husband, who is a moron, needs to become EX Husband ASAP! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I Don’t get the „he was down part“…

Very common for babies with European genetic heritage to have blue eyes and light colored hair at birth. This used to be common knowledge. I was born blue/blonde, wound up green/brown as an adult. (Now I'm white blonde again.)

How can some people be so incredibly stupid about genetics and the way babies look when born? My son had dark dark brown hair and blue eyes when born, and 2 years later its auburn red with brown eyes. Like it happens, thanks genetics. Her and her husband probably carried the blonde hair and blue eye recessive gene and happened to be the perfect combo for baby.

My mother in law is Japanese, my father in law is white, making my husband is 50% Japanese. Our son is totally white and looks nothing like his asian looking cousins. The genetic toss up tossed out the Japanese genes. There is no predicting what children will look like based on what the parents feature, especially when they are newborns. The husband and his mother are awful and they would have to fight for visitation after the divorce. He abandoned his baby and his mother tormented his wife while she was healing from birth.

He's the one that should be apologizing. Not you! For him even thinking that you were unfaithful, I would never be able to forgive him if I were you.

I hope she keeps the messages them and the paternity test and file for sole custody, child support - it seems like she's the bread winner since his mom said they would take her to the cleaners if the child wasn't his - and maybe alimony. Divorce this nut. PLEASE don't get pregnant by him again! You see how he is.

Any man (and his B W I T C H of a mother) who did this to me, I would have divorced him promply and taken HIM to the cleaners.

He’s projecting his guilt of cheating to manipulate the situation so he can “justify” his actions. He’s definitely trying to leave while not looking like guilty party.

What an irrational and cruel thing to do to his wife, and what time he's lost with his newborn baby. I bet he's had someone in his ear feeding him these suspicions, and when the baby came out looking slightly fairer than what he expected, he probably took that as confirmation that he or whoever he was listening to was right. What a shame to throw away his family over such nonsense. There's no fixing this - even if she takes him back, neither of them will ever forget what happened.

I hope she has some divorce papers in the mail too

You *kicked him when he was down*? They BOTH kicked you when you desperately needed help. He's not good father material and his mother does not deserve to be called a grandmother. Please see a lawyer and take HIM to the cleaners. He ABANDONED his family! So NTA!

am I the only one who thinks he wanted to break up and just started this dumb s**t as an excuse? because he's clearly not man enough to express his true feelings and motivations, so when the baby came out it was an easy lie to latch onto?

Why did you marry such a spineless dimwit? There must have been SOME clues he was a Neanderthal before this….

Is this real? Can anyone really be as stupid as this excuse for a husband? How has he hidden it for so long? And how is this ANY of MIL’s concern. YTA if you leave your baby in this toxic environment. Why are you even asking? He’s forfeited his right to be a father.

I have pale skin,very dark brown hair and green eyes with a dark blue ring around them and am 5'5".My Husband has olive skin,blue eyes and is blonde and is 5'11".Our kids have...(F)Dark ,auburn ringlets,very pale skin and hazel eyes ,5'8"...(M)Very dark curly hair and brown eyes,olive skin,6'7"...(F)Olive skin ,blonde hair, blue eyes 5'4"...(F)Olive skin,light brown hair and eyes that are wedges of green,hazel and brown with a dark blue ring around them,5'11".Genetics are weird.OP should leave the man-baby and his over stepping mother!

I had light blonde hair through childhood until I hit puberty, then it turned medium-brown, so regardless of what hair color a child is born with, it can change...

We're another couple whose kid at has different color hair and eyes than either of us. Our family is such a mix that we were considering starting a betting pool for our kid's eventual eye and hair color and texture.

Most babies are born with blue eyes. They could still change color. People with blonde hair and brown eyes exist.

I have dark brown hair but my hair was blonde as a child. The same as every one of my siblings and their kids. I hope she divorced his butt and he never sees that poor child.

Your husband needs therapy for his trust issues among other issues and your mother in law needs some serious boundaries from you if she has any hope of seeing her grandchild. She and your husband owe you a massive apology and changed, respectful behavior towards you moving forward. If my partner accused me of cheating and left me on my own to deal with a newborn while healing from the aftermath of birth, that would be grounds for divorce, but that's just me. You and your child deserve better. Demand it.

My dad has really dark hair and eyes. He had light blue eyes and light blonde hair from birth to about 5 years old. Genetics be weird

if I was her I would order some divorce papers along side with that paternity test

I really hope she leaves him and never lets him see his daughter ever again. I would go ballistic if I married someone who behaved like that after I had just given birth!

Doubt me, do you? There. Results. Now, goodbye, I'll sue for support in a few days.

Run... run far and fast from that man.

My late parents had jet black hair and dark eyes. One of my brothers and I have reddish blond hair. I have hazel eyes. My husband has brown hair and blue/grey eyes. My two sons have that reddish blond hair too (mostly in their beard) but were born with black hair with blue eyes (don't all newborns have blue eyes???) but now they both have brown eyes. My daughter has blonde hair with hazel eyes. In any case, whatever the guy did (abandonment, abuse, etc.) is cause for divorce. On top of what her MIL did, OP is in an awful situation; that will not stop there. I would have laughed in his face too.

I don't think divorce is the way in this matter, but clearly a Strike One situation.