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“Mad Because Their Wives Are Happy”: Man Refuses To Go On Male-Only Trip, Gets Insulted
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“Mad Because Their Wives Are Happy”: Man Refuses To Go On Male-Only Trip, Gets Insulted

“Mad Because Their Wives Are Happy”: Man Refuses To Go On Male-Only Trip, Gets InsultedMan Replaces ‘Stag’ Trip With A Family Event So His Wife And 5 Kids Can Go, Enrages CoworkersMale Coworkers Resent Man For Turning Their Fishing Trip Into A Family WeekendMan Called “Whipped” For Choosing Family Event Over Boys’ Fishing Trip, Seeks PerspectiveMan Dragged By Coworkers Who Got Their Work Trip Canceled And Replaced With Family-Friendly EventGuy Becomes Male Colleagues’ Enemy After He Turns Their “Stag” Trip Into Family-Friendly CampoutHusband Doesn’t Want To Leave His Wife With Five Kids At Home For A Trip, Gets Made Fun OfCoworkers Are Shocked Man Doesn't Want To Go On A Trip Without His Family, Call Him Men Are Mad They’ll Have To “Spend A Work Paid Trip Babysitting” Because Of A ‘Whipped’ CoworkerMan Berated For Putting His Family First And Ruining Colleagues’ “Stag” Weekend Trip
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Some people see work trips as a chore, while others see them as a way to get someone else to pick up the tab. After all, teambuilding and social events can be good to keep people motivated, however, when disagreements arise, it can spiral out of control.

A man reached out to the internet for advice after a barrage of abuse from his coworkers when he didn’t want to go on a male-only fishing trip. They called him “whipped” just because he didn’t want to make his wife take care of five kids alone for two whole days. We reached out to the man in the story via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

Once one has kids, it’s important to balance out social events so that your partner isn’t stuck doing all the work

Image credits: Iakobchuk / envato (not the actual photo)

One father ended up being called “whipped” for refusing to go on a men’s fishing trip

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Image credits: deriabinanatalia / envato (not the actual photo)

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Team Building is a good way to make a work environment more enjoyable

Image credits: Fab Lentz / pexels (not the actual photo)

Work relationships (not work romances, that’s a whole different story) can be more complicated to manage then it might seem at first. Yes, people might just be coworkers, but let’s face it, it’s generally easier to work with someone who you get along with, even if just barely. This is why most companies organize some sort of team building activities. Otherwise, petty squabbles and resentment tend to build and build until there is no longer any ability to work together peacefully.

However, once a team gets to a certain size, it can be hard to figure out what people actually want to do. This story is a classic example of that, as the male coworkers, at least the ones who prefer to be away from their kids, want a fishing trip. They have, for some reason, dubbed it a “stag night” despite the fact that many of them are married and there is no marriage happening. This is a classic case of coworkers not exactly knowing each other that well and making questionable decisions.

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This might be a clue to how they see the event in general, but as the husband who asked for advice indicated, not everyone is thrilled with this idea. After all, a fishing trip is a pretty specific activity that, in all honesty, most folks would not be interested in. Once you factor in taking care of kids, the original proposed trip seems like a bad idea.

Parenting does mean constantly finding time or resources to look after one’s kids

Image credits: Vidal Balielo Jr. / pexels (not the actual photo)

This final point is particularly salient, as anyone with kids can attest to. Planning around a babysitter isn’t that easy. Similarly, this family has five kids, that’s a lot to handle even for a full time stay at home mom. Many readers applauded him for wanting to give her some respite, but it’s important to note that he isn’t the only one sharing this concern.

A few people did see his idea as intrusive, as the male coworkers seemed to have settled on this male-only trip. However, this does completely disregard the female coworkers, who are, presumably, completely left out of the “teambuilding” which at this stage no longer looks like teambuilding and more like a boys night on the company card. While there is some space for shenanigans at any company, it’s pretty bad for morale to have regular, exclusionary activities.

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It’s not entirely unreasonable to want a break from one’s kids, but any parent should be able to understand why other parents will make the choices that they do. Calling a dad whipped for wanting to have a family-friendly event is more a self-tell than anything, as it creates some doubt as to how engaged these fathers are with their own kids.

Some wanted more details

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Many saw this man as a walking green flag and sided with him

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

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Justin Sandberg

Justin Sandberg

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

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Gabija Palšytė

Gabija Palšytė

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Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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Polterbean
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people who call him YTA are AHs. He's inclusive and we all should strive for that.

arthbach
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's repeat it a few more times, "Looking after your own children is not 'babysitting'."

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Polterbean
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people who call him YTA are AHs. He's inclusive and we all should strive for that.

arthbach
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's repeat it a few more times, "Looking after your own children is not 'babysitting'."

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