She invited her friends telling them that her bf would pay for everything. The thing is, she never asked him about it. She’s trying to show off for her friends. She will burn through his money faster than a fire at a paper mill. Dump her.

If Emily invited Lara and Kate along, Emily should pay for their room.

His girlfriend has "User" written all over her.

Dump her.

This kind of thing seems to become a trend: a woman goes on a date with a man and, unknown to her date, takes her friends with her and they all expect the man to pay because he's 'the man'. OP's girlfriend is not someone he should look to spend the rest of his life with if she goes behind his back like this.

NTA and Emily would be going home single and "alone" very clearly not as into you as you thought.

She's not into him at all.

Dude, your girlfriend’s behaviour is absolutely not acceptable

Next time you have sex, invite the neighbours. Let them know they can film too.

This relationship is toast. Instead of bragging to her friends about what a wonderful boyfriend she has and how lucky she was that he cared enough to arrange a romantic getaway before showing them the door, girlfriend invites them to ruin it! Start the break up process now, OP.

This is one of the oldest tricks that manipulative girls pull. She brought the other girls along so as to limit the romance or intimacy. Run. If you are up to it , be civil but show no warmth. That way she will see that she is just like any other woman you pass on the street. Some girls test you by acting out to see what they can get away with. She deserves to be dating a player..not a caring individual

Instead of asking for money youvshould have just said you planned on a romantic weekend and they were ruining it and not welcome. You should have given your girlfriend an ultimatum, them or me. I can't see any future in this relationship.

Are you sure you are in a romantic relationship?

Unreasonable? Disrespectful? Tell your GF to look in the mirror at who fits that category. She did it without asking you. She decided it would be on your dime. Not only would I have asked for the money for the night that they were there but I would have told the GF since she wants to have her girls there, she can keep the room and continue to pay for it with them and you leave without her and end the vacation. After you get back from the trip she never gets to do this again. There's never going to be another vacation like this either. I'd also tell her that you're not a personal ATM and what she did was inconsiderate, Disrespectful and not to take for granted that you're okay with this. Then, spend time apart from her until she learns how wrong and selfish her behavior and thought of him willingly doing this was. Sounds like she takes you for granted. I would never put up with that, My man would never EVER even think of doing anything as Disrespectful, selfish or inconsiderate as that. He would communicate and we'd decide what kind of trip we were going on from the start and he'd never expect me to pay for his friends. I'm not an ATM and if he even considered that stupid idea,there'd be no vacation and he'd get his head chewed off and wouldn't be spoken to for a while because he knows better than that.

On the plus side, for each of those acquaintances calling you cheap, inform them that that's absolutely fine, and to please keep you updated on all their future getaways as you're looking forward to joining them for free. 🙂

This seems really weird. She's either a gold digger or he's not being honest

I hear a lot of assumptions and wonder about the level of intimacy. If there was physical closeness she would not want friends on the trip. Maybe she mentioned trip to friends offhandedly saying "you should stop by" not really expecting them to. Or maybe indeed she wanted a buffer from closer intimacy. We do not know the level of intimacy, perhaps this was to be a first time and she wasn't ready. But clearly they both should have been more open. It's sad what could have been magic turned to toads with warts. If you were trying to create magic and she truly wanted friends in the middle,you have every reason to feel hurt. But we just don't know all the details and what was truly in her mind, innocent error "stop by for a visit"... Knucklehead "oh we're gonna have the best time, you should be there." Or hey friends, I don't wanna be alone with him but want the beach trip, come stay between us and get a free beach trip". Big differences.

She's not the girl for you. Disrespectful in so many ways. Big Red Flag. If you continue in this relationship without improvement on her part, then any future disrespect is your fault.

I hoped for an update saying she's an ex girlfriend.

I'd have been delighted that my GF invited some of her hot friends to join us in bed

Should probably change the title....Your girlfriend crashed your romantic get away.

I think that the gf didn't want to be alone with OP for whatever reason. IHM she's not into BF anymore. She probably thought he wanted to propose and wanted to avoid it by spilling the atmosphere. She did it and OP should move on.

Emily stepped on you. This relationship has no future. She has shown her colors and will continue to take advantage of you. Don't walk, RUN!!!

Was she not aware it was a romantic getaway? How old is she? She acts like a 13 yo child. I guess she didn't want to be alone with her boo

Someone needs to cotton on to the fact that his girlfriend doesn't want to be alone with him

Oh hell no! This is a major Red Flag! GF doesn't respect him and obviously not interested in a romantic weekend getaway, dump her sorry, entitled a*s! She embarrassed herself and deserves to be. RUN BABY RUN!

Get a new girlfriend, she is just not into you!

This girl is not into you. She a slimy skank and using you for your money. I hate women like this they give all women a bad name. She will get her Karma in the end. Toss this fish back let her follow around a jerk, narcissistic, ahole they belong together. You sound like a stand up dude you deserve better. Remember she just showed you who she was. Next time you do this nice thing for a girl the response you were looking for is "omg you are amazing. Thank you so much for doing all this .. I can't wait to spend time alone with you."and that person actively spends the whole trip with you. Is attentive and interested in being, talking, and breathing next to you.

Who pays for the hotel room isn’t the real problem. The real problem is Emily doesn’t want a romantic weekend with op.

This golddigging chick isn't worth the time of day. She knew full well she was out of line; she merely assumed that OP would shut up and tolerate it. I hope he dumped her ASAP and let her be with her friends. She obviously cares more about finance than romance.

NTA. U need to get the equation right with her. She feels embarrassed for them at ur expense... But she shud feel embarrassed for u at their expense. Don't u feel she is giving them more weightage than u? She shud feel embarrassed her friends are taking advantage of u if she really likes u and will protect u, thinking u to be hers. I hope u get what I am saying. She didn't think even twice to take advantage of u to hv fun with her friends. U r her credit card. Ditch her completely. She doesn't own u but is only using u and then gaslights or guilt trip u! And the friends who are defending her have no brains.

To me it sounds like she's just not that into being with him, that makes her the jerk here. But, not her friends. The guy intended to pay that amount, so it was an unnecessary response to the insult of his girlfriend ruining their vacation. A more mature response would have been having a serious conversation about the thought process that led her to thinking it was ok to invite people into a private situation, and reevaluate the relationship.

People are going to the extremes with the responses. If they are a mature couple, they need to start with a conversation with him telling her what he had expected and how this feels like an intrusion. Set some boundaries! Going straight to charging friends is passive aggressive and punitive. This isn't the friends' problem, it's the gf's. If she invited them to stay for free, she should pay half the room, not the friends. They're likely innocent collateral damage.