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Somebody Asks “What Happened To The Lonely Guy In Your High School Class?” And 27 Folks Answer
You know how in high school films, there are different kinds of students? Like there are popular kids, athletes, nerds and quiet kids. Well, I am sure there are many more and in every school there are different ones, but popular and lonely kids can be found everywhere. At least in every film. And you know, the mysterious thing about these ‘lonely’ kids is that it’s always interesting to see how their lives will turn out - will they change, or will they always stay the same, just adults?
So on that note, recently one Reddit user created a thread with the question “What happened to the lonely guy in your high school class?” And folks online were sharing quite a lot of stories about how these kids’ lives turned out - and be prepared, because some of them are really terrifying, but there are also many heartwarming stories.
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#1
He married a pretty artist from Syracuse and also typed this sentence
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#3
he ended up graduating top of the class, got a full ride scholarship to cornel got his masters makes 7 figures a year and is happily married with two kids. i was one of his few friends in highschool and dude is doing amazing in all aspect of his life
#4
He became an entrepreneur of a really successful company.
Employed the 3 jokers who used to bully the heck out of him. They still don't know who he is.
#5
Well, I just googled him and he's a Georgetown law professor.
#6
Just Googled him. Apparently he finally got a girlfriend in college, got her pregnant, then [took theirs and his own life]. Jesus. I wish I hadn't checked.
#7
He became an actually model for high class perfumes and brands and not one those instagram / tik tok " models "
#8
The person I always thought of as possibly lonely retained the same couple of friends for the past 13 years and they still seem to enjoy getting together and doing the things they did back then. Video games, anime, etc.
One of the most happy-go-lucky, friendly, and popular guys I knew took his own life a couple of years back.
Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
It always seems to be the one who look the happiest. A local guy who everyone knew and loved because of his happy smile and big-hearted, friendly ways took his own life about a year ago and everyone bar one or two close confidants was completely shocked.
#9
That was me. I always sat at my own table with the occasional foreign exchange student. I got out of school and worked really hard. I just turned 48 and I still haven't peaked. I have a large portfolio of real estate and do a lot of traveling. I wanted something more for myself but I didn't really have that confidence until after school. I now live an incredible life. There is hope for us losers who aren't afraid of a little work.
Alex Ruddies 1 year ago
There's something to be said about people who call other people losers. It shows a adolescent, meanspirited frame of mind and I condemn it whole heartedly.
#10
I joined the navy at seventeen. Married at thirty.retired at fifty five.
In high school I could go weeks without a word spoken to me.
F**k my early life all to hell.
Joshua David 1 year ago
I wish I had your sense of self. I sit and wallow, like a lot of others do too, in my early life. I wallow in the missed opportunities I thought I made peace with, but find in hindsight it's not really the case. I wallow in the negative but not before rubbing honey all over myself before nuzzling and commiserating with. Be amazing to f my early life.
#12
Got cancer very suddenly and died,went to his funeral he was just 16 the youngest in our class,truly a tragedy.
#13
He is sitting in a data science conference reading Reddit.
I am sitting in a data science conference reading Reddit.
#14
still lonely, However he worked his way up within a KFC franchise through high school and bought his first house early on even though he didn’t do well at school. Then worked in the army for 10 years and bought property 2 and 3. Now works as a director on a cruise liner and goes country to country by himself
No partners or girlfriends ever but financially well off
#15
He joined a cult and completely cut ties with his family. There was an article written about said cult recently and his name pops up quite a bit, so he must have some kind of position of authority in it.
#16
Hard to really say who was really lonely or not. Plenty of lonely people that forced themselves in the crowd.
Anyways there was a kid his sister was one of the prettiest most popular at school. She was a senior and he was a freshman. He got the principal to let him put on a concert for lunch period for his band. One of the teachers watching lunch shut him down because he was doing “screamo music” about pop tarts. A month later he shot himself in the head.
Everyone plays it off that he was lonely etc. I never believed that and I thought his concert took a lot of self courage. He was hanging out with his friends. It was the bullying because he wanted to be himself and not fit in the norm. His sister stopped going to school and idk what happened to her. It’s sad how cruel we as kids are.
Mabelbabel 1 year ago
There was a boy that was in my class at primary school aged 8. He was very quiet, had no close friends, hardly spoke, and smelled really bad-not his fault at that age obviously, but he just smelled of musty mildew and urine like he hadn't washed. He was bullied relentlessly-those who didn't participate in the active bullying stood by and did nothing. One day, our teacher sent him off to give another teacher a message, and she told off the entire class, telling us how ashamed of us she was for bullying him. After that, he was just ignored. We ended up at the same high school, and he was ignored through that too. He left at age 16 with no qualifications. I was back in my home town 30 years later and I saw him-he looked about 70 (we were in our 40s), still really scruffy, greasy hair, grubby looking. I've no idea what he did after school, or what his life was like. I always felt guilty for ignoring him in school, he must have had a rotten childhood.
#17
He grew several inches after high school.. went into tech. Was very successful and now has a supermodel wife and a beautiful family..
Another guy became a pediatric surgeon. Was married and had a daughter.. over the years his wife disappeared from his Facebook post and it was just him and his daughter.. in a few years ago he married a super model Eastern European nurse.
And the third guy climbed into a bottle and never got out...
Joshua David 1 year ago
I'm eastern European here. We may be attractive but we're pretty crazy lol.
#18
Married with four kids, good career.
Just took him a little longer than some to come out of his shell.
(It was me)
#19
Haven’t heard from him in 8+ years. I know he made a couple attempts on his own life before. I just hope he’s doing okay now.
#20
Ours was a lonely girl, and we have been trying to track her down actually. Last we heard she was homeless and a [illegal substance] addict. I really hope she’s doing better because she was a sweet girl, just very shy.
Bell-icose 1 year ago
We are censoring the phrase 'drug addict' now? Way to be part of the problem BP.
#21
Shot himself in the head after his attempt to wrap around a tree didn’t work. He’s now being taken care of by his 78 year old mother.
#22
I got a degree, got married, started a career. Not much different form others, just started later.
#23
That was me! Got my master's and work for a large bank as an analyst. Still single though.
#24
Learnt that he [took his own life] 2 years ago. Apparently because he was accused of bad stuff and didn't want to go to jail. I was also pretty lonely most of my scholarship, but in high school I had the luck of finding a small group of friend that adopted me.
#25
Got all incel about a girl who was dating a guy he didn't like. Stole a rifle from a neighbor and shot him dead, and wounded a few others. He was immediately caught and sent to prison. Just got out a year ago or so after 18 years or so.
Rain Anderson 1 year ago (edited)
Explain why murderers don't end up with life/death penalty. Where the f is Justice?
#27
He's me :3 I'm doing my best to make friends and be social and approaching girls, but literally nothing is working and I have pretty much lost all hope. People objectively worse than me seem to be winning, douche bags, abusers, etc. They all have friends, girlfriends, social circle, and I'm a decent human being with hobbies that exist outside and off the internet, I'm well read, and I like latin dancing. I can't make it work. I give up.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago (edited)
I’m getting incel vibes off this one… (edit: you’re right, more nice guy than incel, but similar)
What do you think ?
Ghostsauce 1 year ago
I feel like this is a good reminder to take a look around at everyone. Hi, everybody, Ɛ>
BetterBitterButter 1 year ago (edited)
I was scared to talk to anyone in school. I was younger than all of my classmates. However my school was in a small locality and only the kids from nearby area went there. Everyone know everyone. Talked to everyone at least once. But there was this girl who made sure I had company. I owe her for that. I topped the class. Completed my masters at twenty. Got a "good job" at a very young age. Job and personal life worked together and ruined my mental health. Now I don't have a job or a personal/social life. I cry everyday. I don't know where my life is going. I don't know how I ended up here. I do nothing but cry. I hope things get better for me. I hope things get better for everyone who is struggling.
MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 year ago
I hope things get better for you soon. I do believe they WILL get better - bad things can't last forever.
Load More Replies... Veronica Michelle 1 year ago
Got a super hot wife and a bunch of cats, two kids(#3 on the way), and a dog that all love him more than anything.
DB 1 year ago
Drunk and high, hit a bridge abutment going 80 mph at 3 am and was killed instantly.
Almarako94 1 year ago
So he didn't felt anything and he even managed to not take someone else with him. must have be one of the best unalivements possible.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
I guess at my school that was me. I barely spoke to anyone (because I was sick of being mocked every time I opened my mouth) and showed absolutely no interest in dating (because I had no attraction to any of the guys in my year, nor any of the girls). I went on to become a professional author and was even slightly famous for a few years. And I came out as aro ace and am perfectly comfortable with remaining single. My social life has definitely improved, though.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
I am desperate to know the titles of these books!!! What genre?
Load More Replies... Rachel Deacon 1 year ago
I was the lonely girl in my class/year with an older brother who was popular/sporty/into amateur dramatics. Couple of attempts at unaliving myself, SH, even hospitalised for three weeks by a bully, all of which were basically ignored. Failed out of school (as it turns out, as a result of undiagnosed issues), drifted a couple of years trying desperately to get some kind of high school qualification and continually failing but finally found out that not only was I autistic with ADHD, but the continual mental and emotional abuse from my teachers at school left me with C-PTSD that was affecting my efforts to get a HS qualification. Ended up taking a different route: did a practical college course for a year which got me into university, got a good degree, and now I'm studying for my dream job with all the support I need! Still the lonely kid at uni, but so much better at advocating for myself and knowing how/when to get help.
Almarako94 1 year ago
Graduated as one of the best, continued on another school to get a higher graduation. Then i tried tons of stuff and always dropped out after more or less time. Finally decided to go into IT, just finished the training some months ago, became a qualified professional and started making good money. Still lonely af and can't find a reason to continue this suffering much longer. Next month the insurance starts and i'm free to go without feeling bad for anyone to cover the cost of my funeral since it will be covered by the insurance.
Midoribird Aoi 1 year ago (edited)
I am on the spectrum, have a public job and interact with a lot of people, and absolutely prefer to be left alone otherwise. I cannot emphasize how hard it is to mask it for that long. Home is my sanctuary from that. I do have a few friends, though. And PS: I do enjoy my job, for the most part.
KnightOwl 1 year ago
He was quiet but had a couple of close friends, I was friendly with a few of his friends so got to know him a little. He was very into computers and had a difficult home life, his mum had twins when he was 14, his stepdad died soon after and he basically had to be a dad to his baby brothers. I haven't seen him since leaving school but a mutual old friend told me his life went to hell after school. His uncle was a skinhead and managed to pull him into his gang of racist thugs, he became very bitter and blamed everything wrong with his life and the world in general on non white people. Eventually he managed to get away from that crowd and became a bit of a shut in, eventually finding 'friends' online who turned out to be incels and he started blaming all the world's ills on women. Last I heard he's never worked a day in his life, still lives with his mum, rarely leaves the house and spends all his time playing computer games. He's 37 and hasn't had a gf since he was 14.
DarkViolet 1 year ago (edited)
I went to school with a nice underclassman, quiet, unassuming. In our A Capella class, the other students thought it was hilarious to make fun of him. Our vocal instructor would even cut off his mic during rehearsals (he had a cruel streak that for some unknown reason, I was the only one who saw it). I couldn't, and still can't, figure out why this guy was targeted. One day between classes I dropped in on the vocal department and saw on display, a pull-out poster that was the spitting image of this student. The caption? "Are You a Nerd?" I was so angry, I left without saying a word. Four years after I graduated, I was reading the local newspaper and came across a story about someone being charged with second-degree murder. Same person. He had a rather unique name, so there was no mistake. Yeah, his life went down the wrong path; it didn't have to.
Givemeabreak101 1 year ago
Joined the Army did 5 deployments, became a cop. Married an awesome gorgeous lady retired fairly well off.
Cass 1 year ago
Mine started working as a chef at the restaurant where I worked. Then his schizophrenia manifested and he started debating with the soup. Then he started taking meds and joined a cult. I thought he was gone forever when he suddenly reappeared, married to a really lovely woman. They were married for 12 years, bought a house, and got a dog. She asked for a divorce, and he got the dog. He has never stepped out of the closet officially but some of us know. He moved to London for a while and dated a man when he was there. 2 years ago he moved back to our hometown and got a quaint little cottage to live in. He either fell down the stairs and caused a brain hemorrhage, or had a brain hemorrhage and fell down the stairs. His 88yo mother is caring for him and he's been able to learn how to walk again. He has to travel by bus to get to therapy and he caught covid on the bus. He's really sick right now and his mother has it too since she cares for him.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I was a world class introvert in high school. I grew up to be a teacher and did six fifty-minute sessions of wild frantic performance art in my classroom every day. The other 18.5 hours of the day I was back to my old introvert self. (OK, except when I had to yell at my boss.)
Glenn Schroeder 1 year ago
Lonely as a child and young adult. Started figuring things out. Married a beautiful girl, had two children with her, then three (so far) grandchildren, and finally found a job he's happy with. He's content now at 62.
Wicked Witch 1 year ago
That wouldld be me! I was the bullied, harassed shy girl in school. I didn't have many friends and I didn't graduate but later got my GED. I went to college later than most and have a good job working for the government. I am happily married to a wonderful man and have 2 kids. I still have goals that I'm working towards and don't believe I've peaked. I still have so much I want.to do! 🙃
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
sounds like these are the people that either make a big success or kill themselves. Moral of the story: help the loners.
Rostit. . 1 year ago
I haven't thought about HS in years. Its such a tiny part of your life, I dont know why its drug up so much.
Haywood Jablome 1 year ago
Some American HS are just like prison, only more volatile. 4 years trapped in a building, waiting every day for a sucker punch that may never come. Or maybe it did come, and more than once. It's a traumatizing place
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Colin Leamon 1 year ago
It's been a long road Getting from there to here It's been a long time But my time is finally near And I can feel the change in the wind right now Nothing's in my way And they're not gonna hold me down no more No, they're not gonna hold me down 'Cause I've got faith of the heart I'm going where my heart will take me I've got faith to believe I can do anything I've got strength of the soul And no one's gonna bend or break me I can reach any star I've got faith I've got faith, faith of the heart
Ghostsauce 1 year ago
I feel like this is a good reminder to take a look around at everyone. Hi, everybody, Ɛ>
BetterBitterButter 1 year ago (edited)
I was scared to talk to anyone in school. I was younger than all of my classmates. However my school was in a small locality and only the kids from nearby area went there. Everyone know everyone. Talked to everyone at least once. But there was this girl who made sure I had company. I owe her for that. I topped the class. Completed my masters at twenty. Got a "good job" at a very young age. Job and personal life worked together and ruined my mental health. Now I don't have a job or a personal/social life. I cry everyday. I don't know where my life is going. I don't know how I ended up here. I do nothing but cry. I hope things get better for me. I hope things get better for everyone who is struggling.
MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 year ago
I hope things get better for you soon. I do believe they WILL get better - bad things can't last forever.
Load More Replies... Veronica Michelle 1 year ago
Got a super hot wife and a bunch of cats, two kids(#3 on the way), and a dog that all love him more than anything.
DB 1 year ago
Drunk and high, hit a bridge abutment going 80 mph at 3 am and was killed instantly.
Almarako94 1 year ago
So he didn't felt anything and he even managed to not take someone else with him. must have be one of the best unalivements possible.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
I guess at my school that was me. I barely spoke to anyone (because I was sick of being mocked every time I opened my mouth) and showed absolutely no interest in dating (because I had no attraction to any of the guys in my year, nor any of the girls). I went on to become a professional author and was even slightly famous for a few years. And I came out as aro ace and am perfectly comfortable with remaining single. My social life has definitely improved, though.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
I am desperate to know the titles of these books!!! What genre?
Load More Replies... Rachel Deacon 1 year ago
I was the lonely girl in my class/year with an older brother who was popular/sporty/into amateur dramatics. Couple of attempts at unaliving myself, SH, even hospitalised for three weeks by a bully, all of which were basically ignored. Failed out of school (as it turns out, as a result of undiagnosed issues), drifted a couple of years trying desperately to get some kind of high school qualification and continually failing but finally found out that not only was I autistic with ADHD, but the continual mental and emotional abuse from my teachers at school left me with C-PTSD that was affecting my efforts to get a HS qualification. Ended up taking a different route: did a practical college course for a year which got me into university, got a good degree, and now I'm studying for my dream job with all the support I need! Still the lonely kid at uni, but so much better at advocating for myself and knowing how/when to get help.
Almarako94 1 year ago
Graduated as one of the best, continued on another school to get a higher graduation. Then i tried tons of stuff and always dropped out after more or less time. Finally decided to go into IT, just finished the training some months ago, became a qualified professional and started making good money. Still lonely af and can't find a reason to continue this suffering much longer. Next month the insurance starts and i'm free to go without feeling bad for anyone to cover the cost of my funeral since it will be covered by the insurance.
Midoribird Aoi 1 year ago (edited)
I am on the spectrum, have a public job and interact with a lot of people, and absolutely prefer to be left alone otherwise. I cannot emphasize how hard it is to mask it for that long. Home is my sanctuary from that. I do have a few friends, though. And PS: I do enjoy my job, for the most part.
KnightOwl 1 year ago
He was quiet but had a couple of close friends, I was friendly with a few of his friends so got to know him a little. He was very into computers and had a difficult home life, his mum had twins when he was 14, his stepdad died soon after and he basically had to be a dad to his baby brothers. I haven't seen him since leaving school but a mutual old friend told me his life went to hell after school. His uncle was a skinhead and managed to pull him into his gang of racist thugs, he became very bitter and blamed everything wrong with his life and the world in general on non white people. Eventually he managed to get away from that crowd and became a bit of a shut in, eventually finding 'friends' online who turned out to be incels and he started blaming all the world's ills on women. Last I heard he's never worked a day in his life, still lives with his mum, rarely leaves the house and spends all his time playing computer games. He's 37 and hasn't had a gf since he was 14.
DarkViolet 1 year ago (edited)
I went to school with a nice underclassman, quiet, unassuming. In our A Capella class, the other students thought it was hilarious to make fun of him. Our vocal instructor would even cut off his mic during rehearsals (he had a cruel streak that for some unknown reason, I was the only one who saw it). I couldn't, and still can't, figure out why this guy was targeted. One day between classes I dropped in on the vocal department and saw on display, a pull-out poster that was the spitting image of this student. The caption? "Are You a Nerd?" I was so angry, I left without saying a word. Four years after I graduated, I was reading the local newspaper and came across a story about someone being charged with second-degree murder. Same person. He had a rather unique name, so there was no mistake. Yeah, his life went down the wrong path; it didn't have to.
Givemeabreak101 1 year ago
Joined the Army did 5 deployments, became a cop. Married an awesome gorgeous lady retired fairly well off.
Cass 1 year ago
Mine started working as a chef at the restaurant where I worked. Then his schizophrenia manifested and he started debating with the soup. Then he started taking meds and joined a cult. I thought he was gone forever when he suddenly reappeared, married to a really lovely woman. They were married for 12 years, bought a house, and got a dog. She asked for a divorce, and he got the dog. He has never stepped out of the closet officially but some of us know. He moved to London for a while and dated a man when he was there. 2 years ago he moved back to our hometown and got a quaint little cottage to live in. He either fell down the stairs and caused a brain hemorrhage, or had a brain hemorrhage and fell down the stairs. His 88yo mother is caring for him and he's been able to learn how to walk again. He has to travel by bus to get to therapy and he caught covid on the bus. He's really sick right now and his mother has it too since she cares for him.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I was a world class introvert in high school. I grew up to be a teacher and did six fifty-minute sessions of wild frantic performance art in my classroom every day. The other 18.5 hours of the day I was back to my old introvert self. (OK, except when I had to yell at my boss.)
Glenn Schroeder 1 year ago
Lonely as a child and young adult. Started figuring things out. Married a beautiful girl, had two children with her, then three (so far) grandchildren, and finally found a job he's happy with. He's content now at 62.
Wicked Witch 1 year ago
That wouldld be me! I was the bullied, harassed shy girl in school. I didn't have many friends and I didn't graduate but later got my GED. I went to college later than most and have a good job working for the government. I am happily married to a wonderful man and have 2 kids. I still have goals that I'm working towards and don't believe I've peaked. I still have so much I want.to do! 🙃
censorshipsucks 1 year ago
sounds like these are the people that either make a big success or kill themselves. Moral of the story: help the loners.
Rostit. . 1 year ago
I haven't thought about HS in years. Its such a tiny part of your life, I dont know why its drug up so much.
Haywood Jablome 1 year ago
Some American HS are just like prison, only more volatile. 4 years trapped in a building, waiting every day for a sucker punch that may never come. Or maybe it did come, and more than once. It's a traumatizing place
Load More Replies... Colin Leamon 1 year ago
It's been a long road Getting from there to here It's been a long time But my time is finally near And I can feel the change in the wind right now Nothing's in my way And they're not gonna hold me down no more No, they're not gonna hold me down 'Cause I've got faith of the heart I'm going where my heart will take me I've got faith to believe I can do anything I've got strength of the soul And no one's gonna bend or break me I can reach any star I've got faith I've got faith, faith of the heart
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