30 Life-Saving Tips To Remember In Times Of Crisis, According To Folks Online

I doubt it is illegal to go outside without a gun in some places. Just very stupid in some remote areas

Thanks for bringing this up. Add to this brown bears in Europe are completely different to a grizzly and reading up on it you are right: many who survived brown bear attacks fought back. Tried hitting the bear on the nose and eyes. It is however unknown if this was the reason for survival or they just were lucky. Still: the most recent attack just a week ago on a cameraman. He said after initially shoving his tripod in the bears mouth there was nothing he could do except lying chest down trying to protect the back of his neck and head with his arms while the bear mauled him... and fortunately stopped and left at one point.

Nein-eins-eins in case he speaks German

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I grew up with an abuser and later on, my brother also became an abuser. From my experience, burying anger issues doesn't solve the problem. Burying works for only so long...until it doesn't. Please don't think I'm judging you, I'm not. I think you have some significant self-awareness, which is definitely a point in your favor, but anger issues that lead to abuse need to be addressed in therapy. Just my opinion, and forgive me if I've over-stepped.

I appreciate your honesty and wish you luck in continuing to manage your anger in healthy ways. I agree with Tamra that bottling it up will lead to it leaking out when you don’t mean for it to. So I hope that you can get at what’s behind the anger. The fact that you mentioned being threatened makes me wonder about what you went through in your past. I have all kinds of thoughts but I’m a total stranger so all I’m trying to say is good for you for being aware and working on it. I wish you the best. If you ever want to talk we’re here for you.

Walking away when you feel you're about to loose control of your temper is still anger management.

It’s a really good thing that you’re reflecting on your actions. It shows you’ve made character development and are now putting in effort to not revert back to your old ways. And that’s an awesome step to take. All the best in your life :)

Thanks for sharing your story. Just for the record, there are abusers who don't abuse when they are threatened or confronted. They abuse when the impulse hits them and then they find a 'reason'.

Anger issues can often be genetic, at least in part (though abusers always have a choice). Some people are genetically predisposed to have an overactive amygdala (fight/flight threat-perception part of the brain). What this means is that this tendency is not always able to be completely eliminated, even with therapy. Walking away/taking a break is the secret sauce. Keep it up.

Seek mental health help, please. Buried things will only hold up for so long, you can't do this alone no matter how much you think you can. Please, for the sake of your lady as well as yourself.

HC, if your company offers an Employee Assistance Program, take advantage of it. Oftentimes, the first x-visits are free and then remaining visits are not too expensive. The company does not receive any information from the provider unless you specifically tell the company what's going on - and you don't have to tell them. The company would rather have employees take advantage of EAP than lose a skilled / trained / experienced worker due to a need for therapy, especially when help is available. Takes courage to admit you're dealing with something - best of luck.

thank you for realizing this. It's so important to try and change when you're in this position. I am proud of you. You're doing amazing <3

As a survivor of domestic abuse-thank you. It's very brave of you to come forward and to have realized the issues and made a positive change. But don't bury your feelings, that's when they explode.

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There are no such things as an ex-abuser. If you have that tendency, it's really unfair of you to put another person in danger. Your gf does not deserve someone that she has to walk on eggshells around for fear of you hurting her. I can't believe so many people upvoted you on this.

I'm so happy for you, and admire the heck out of you.

Absolutely 100% THIS. it is the softening up i talked about in another comment. i got out when the laser sight attached to his loaded gun that he kept at the bedside hit my eyes one night as i got home from work. i was 22. there had been a LOT of 🚩🚩🚩🚩 beforehand, but they were so gradual. I'm glad you got out, too. but i still have PTS around firearms, and living in the US doesn't help. 😟

As a female who suffers from anxiety and GERD, I haven't a chance.

I also struggle with anxiety. The heart attack feeling of impending doom hits differently. My anxiety is usually like "omg, what if..." or it's a panic attack for some reason I can't even identify. The heart attack feeling was more like a calm prescience, if that makes sense. Not panic, just the sense that something was very, very wrong. (I also had what felt like really bad heartburn and shoulder pain as if a Sumo wrestler was standing on my shoulders.)

Usually only women get the feeling of impending doom. A man's reaction is typically denial.

I think (meaning I’m not a medical professional) that one of the big differences between a heart attack and anxiety is your heart rate. Symptoms can be very similar and people end up in the ER thinking they’re having a heart attack and get told it was anxiety. So with anxiety I believe your heart rate tends to increase where with a heart attacks I believe it tends to decrease. But hopefully someone medical can correct me before I give out incorrect advice. Maybe I will google and come back… because that’s totally the same as a med degree…. EDIT: okay, google didn’t exactly tell me yes or no, but I did find this: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322797#can-one-cause-the-other

A sense of impending doom is also a symptom of getting the wrong blood type in a transfusion

A joke that could save your life. I have an anxiety disorder, but as someone whose parents died from heart issues, I'd still rather know. This is neither cruel nor a joke, just wanting to help someone.

Lmaoo I also have anxiety and when I'm having an anxiety attack I usually convince myself I'm about to have a heart attack so this really isn't helpful

I feel this comment. Thanks Jeremy. I'm pretty sure I'm only dieing in the sense that I'm aging.👵

Agreed. I had a panic attack just last night due to massive amounts of stress. Had all classic symptoms of a heart attack and the sense of doom made me panic more. Woke up and was fine. The problem is worrying if "what if this time, it's real?" They say listen to your body, but my body constantly thinks there is danger. I had a doctor tell me (so I wasn't in the ER every time b/c couldn't afford that), take a Xanax and wait 20 min. If it gets better, it was anxiety/panic. If it doesn't go in ASAP.

Panic attacks and heart attacks have very similar symptoms. I've had both, and both are terrifying!

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May I ask some questions? Did it feel exactly like indigestion? Did you feel like your heart was racing, or had a heavy, kind of thud-thud beat? Did you have any other discomfort? If these are too intrusive, please don't feel the need to answer!

Are you from Oklahoma, by chance? I hear cow college and Jesus in the same sentence, I think of Oklahoma. 🤣🤣

My dad always had a list of all of my mom's prescriptions printed out in large type on a single sheet of paper whenever they want to the doctor. If said doctor was prescribing something new he would ask, "How will that interact with these?

That’s a prescriber error or pharmacist check error!

glad he got there in time.