About 5 years ago our friends borrowed £26k to pay for their daughters wedding. The newlyweds divorced after 9 months. The loan still isn't paid off

There is only one person you should compare to - yourself. If today''s "yourself" made even very small progress as compared to yesterday''s "yourself", that's a reason to rejoice

Nop, save it, save all you can, some Times life " sodomizes " you with a condom made of 30 grit sandpaper, believe me, i know....

When it comes to life-changing things like a marriage, I'd rather have nothing than something that's just "meh, good enough". While the post is kinda true, I'd also say that too many people settle for the mediocre and spend their life unhappy.

Challenge accepted.

princess bride FTW!

YOU deserve better!! You are worthy of so much more than the so is putting you through. Take care of yourself.

That can be hard to do . Especially, if there are unresolved issues, because of abandonment, death , and other things. It is freeing to let go of the things you are holding on to , emotionally, physically.

Guilty. I'm the first person to tell people to appreciate what their body can do, rather than how it looks. But struggle to apply that to myself.

"Don't bother keeping up appearances, no one's looking at you" - some older fellow whose name I can't remember

Another version of the "sunk cost fallacy".

Society can go and " sodomize " it self, i don't have kids, i don't want to have kids, and if someone Tells me i should have kids i just tell them to go and " copulate " with themselves.

It took me a long time to understand that in adulthood, the worst that can happen is they say no. There are no punishments for asking or trying, and I have gotten farther from rejection than I have from not asking in the first place!

Don't do this. No matter what your circumstances are. They can / will charge up 500%interest if you miss one payment.

I fell for this many years ago, but I was just 18.

They will call you names for this. Ignore the names.

The first person to do something probably did it inefficiently or incorrectly. Even if you aren't the first, you can still make great changes

Yeah. NO. It's NOT!!

Live with in your means. If you can't afford something, save,if you can. Eventually,you may have enough to buy that thing you want. It takes patience.

Or their line manager.

Addiction isn't just a "trap" that some can fall into, it becomes sheer, living hell. Please don't let shame or fear keep you from getting the help you need and deserve. AA and NA meetings are free and held all over the world, and you'll meet amazing people who will understand you, and welcome you with open arms. Remember...you aren't a bad person trying to be good, you are a sick person trying to be well.

I'll have to think about that one. Maybe tomorrow. lol

My trick is that if I managed to trick and con everyone around me to think I’m way smarter, cooler, and generally better than I am, then I probably deserve where I am.

Don't let others tell you what's best for you life. Sometimes, they behave like that because they never got to do what they wanted, and are living vicariously through you. Follow your dreams/ goals. They may not like your choice , but who are you living for yourself,or them. Be blessed.

I think it's more a matter of being concerned about others' perceptions of you when it matters. The perceptions of my landlord, boss, and wife matter a lot to me. That person giving me the stink-eye in the produce section? Not so much.

My niece quit a high paying job, because it stressed her out so much she became iil. Now she works in a Cafe , and is happy with her choice.

I have to go to bed with myself, and you don't, so I'll do what I think is right, thank you.

I don't think anyone anymore believes that.

I had a friend that liked to go to the casino, once he invited me, só i went, we got there, and he parked the car almost a km away from it, then looked at my and Tells me to give him my wallet, which i did, he then out both mine and his wallet in the glove compartment of the car, Gave me a 5€ bill and got a 5€ bill, for himself, then i understood why did he parked the car só far.... Temptation.