Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

Teen drinking is always an important topic. And it’s no smaller when it comes up within the family. Sometimes it can even cause major trouble for family dynamics.

Recently, a Reddit user turned to the r/AITA community to ask if she was wrong for giving her teen daughter a glass of wine after she got into a fight over it with her husband, who has a tragic past related to alcohol.

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Teen drinking is no joke and should always be dealt with carefully, especially when it comes to talking about it with teens themselves

Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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While watching a movie together, this woman’s daughter asked to have a glass of wine and she allowed it just this once

Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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Dad saw the daughter drinking the wine and got into a fight over it with the mom, who allowed it

The story started when a woman, the OP, was having a glass of wine while watching a movie with her daughter. Suddenly, the daughter asked if she could try some wine. And even though the OP is strict when it comes to alcohol and children, she didn’t think that one glass of wine could hurt a 16-year-old.

When the husband and father came into the room and saw his daughter drinking wine, he lost his mind. He shouted at his wife about why she let her daughter have wine and that she could easily get addicted to it.

The woman apologized to her husband, but it seemed to her that he hadn’t forgiven her. This made her become the OP for a post about this situation, where she asked who was a jerk here.

Some statistics show that the father might be at least partially right in this situation. For example, back in 2021, it was reported that people aged 12-20 drank 3.4% of all alcohol consumed in the United States. And while the number might seem insignificant at first glance, when you understand that these are children, it sounds more scary.

Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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And alcohol consumption causes a lot of deaths for people younger than 21. It includes not only overdoses on the beverages but also deaths from things caused by drinking: car crashes, homicides, falls, and so on. Not only that, but also, starting to drink alcohol at a young age can increase the possibility of having alcohol-related problems later in life.

So, maybe there was some weight to the father’s reluctance to give alcohol to his teen daughter. And some folks online agreed. These people agreed that the OP should have consulted the father before making such an important decision related to their child.

But there were some others who were of a whole different opinion. They said that the OP didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, she kind of did a good service to her daughter because not denying alcohol will make her relationship with it better.

Summing it up, let’s say that if the OP came to Reddit looking for a definitive answer to who was the jerk in the situation, she did not find that, as the commenters had as divided opinions as the couple did.

Folks online did not provide the OP with a definitive answer – every commenter had their own take on teen drinking

Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It

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Trillian 1 year ago

As a German I can only laugh about this. She's 16. It's a glass of wine. Get a grip.

57points

Multa Nocte 1 year ago

I'm laughing as well in France, living next to a vineyard or 10,000.

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CatLady 1 year ago

Canadian who was raised in a very Dutch manner, and I'm laughing my a*s off. At 13, we could have heavily watered wine. 16, one glass of full strength or one beer once or twice a week. I can count the number of times I've been drunk in my life on my fingers. I'm still just a light social drinker (in spite of having risk factors for alcoholism like a traumatic childhood). The ones who became alcoholics were the ones whose parents kept it from them and treated it like a big deal.

10points

My O My 1 year ago

A barvarian joins in the laughing. Cheers fellow europeans 🍻

3points

BlitheSpirit 1 year ago

Yes, I agree. I was in Germany for a couple of months when I was 16, and - even though it was a short period of time - I noticed kids my age (and public in general) had a much healthier relationship with alcoholic beverages than in my home country.

2points

Zedrapazia 1 year ago

European here. In Germany and Switzerland, you can get soft alcohol (such as beer) with 16 and strong alcohol (such as shots and vodka) at 18. It won't do you anything, it's fine, and a good way to introduce her to the concept in a safe place. The biggest temptation is trying something that is forbidden, so it's a good way against her drinking with her friends in secret instead.

31points

Zedrapazia 1 year ago

(I meant the wine doesn't do anything to her, not vodka for example. That's still a bad idea I believe.)

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ginshun 1 year ago

Your husband needs to lighten up. A 16yo with a glass of wine, sitting at home, with her mother? Pffffft. Give me a break.

23points

CatLady 1 year ago

Daughter was far more damaged by seeing her dad in a rage than having a bit of wine. I'm studying the effects of childhood trauma on brain development. Losing your s**t in front of your kids is harmful to them. And if the dad yells about that, what else does he freak over? The way the mum is worrying "he doesn't trust me anymore" makes me think that hubby is temperamental and controlling.

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