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We tend to have an idea of the various things we should know about, taxes, death, and simple math, but we are burdened with the knowledge that we are supposed to know it by a certain age. Out of embarrassment, we just don’t let on that we aren’t sure about something, as at that point we are too afraid to ask.
One internet user wanted to learn what others only realized way too late in life. The lessons ranged from practical to juvenile to poignant, so make sure to upvote your favorites and comment your own experiences as you scroll through. And take notes in case some of these are relevant to your own life.
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#1
Hr is there to protect the company, not you. Hr is not your friend.
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#2
There's no such thing as "feeling like an adult" I'm 34 and still forget I'm an adult sometimes lol
#3
That my height shapes how people perceive what I say. I'm a 6'4 male with a deep voice. I learned it at 40 when I had a boss who was 6'6. I was suddenly aware of my own height and the power position, looking up to him. I realized pretty much everyone is looking up at me, and I began smiling more and asking people questions about themselves to reduce the power implications of my height.
Dorothy Stovall 1 year ago
Being tall is SUCH AN ASSET. You're always imbued with authority and "power." I'm 5'11" and didn't realize this completely until I was in my mid-30s.
Not knowing something can be embarrassing. Particularly when we know that we are sort of supposed to know it already. Depending on your age, you have perhaps had that feeling of still being a child “faking it” in an adult world, despite being in your mid-twenties. It’s simultaneously relieving and unnerving that most people in the developed world do not actually feel like adults until they are 29. It’s almost like we become adults at 18 and then need a decade testing it to decide if it’s a good fit.
So even if all of one's peers still feel like overgrown children, people still suspect that most are just well-adjusted, and competent and know that pickles are just cucumbers. Or that doves are just white pigeons, which is so deeply shocking that those city trash birds and the symbol of peace are one and the same. But the bottom line is that we tend to project competence to others while overestimating it in them.
#4
That we should shake the CEO's hand with the exact same enthusiasm and firmness as the janitors hand.
#5
That I don't have to become a mother if I don't want to.
DarthSadie 1 year ago
"I don't have to become a mother if I don't want to" odd choice of picture... So that woman must be going to release her kid into the woods after coming to that conclusion
#6
My grandmother had a clock that would break if anyone touched or tried to move it.
I always found that curious. Then some time in my 30s my wife and I were talking and it came up. I was wondering how they moved it out of their house after they passed. As I was explaining “… I think it must have had some delicately balanced mechanism or something that would be disrupted if moved…” my wife’s face made me quickly realize it was just a lie told to young me to keep my dirty clumsy hands off of it.
Also, I’m an engineer.
Many of the examples are simply the age-old issue of hearing a word or phrase before reading it or vice versa. "Piqued my interest," for example, is correct, not "peaked." One would be forgiven for thinking it’s peaked, because in what other circumstances is someone saying piqued? Like many of the annoying parts of the English language, French is to blame. Piqued is simply a rendition of “pique,” meaning irritate or prick in French. From the outside, it seems silly to be judgmental towards a person for confusing a common word for a rare, foreign construction in an idiom.
#7
1. Everyone is just f*cking winging it.
2. “The rules” do not apply evenly.
3. Everyone around you will always prioritize their needs first, regardless of any verbal assurance to the contrary.
9 animals and counting 1 year ago
I have to disagree about number three. Parents put their children's needs first almost 100% of the time.
#8
That just because two people are in love doesn't mean they should be together
#9
Trying to treat myself as I would others.
The ol' reverse golden-rule
Others shared deeper, more personal experiences. From relationships to self-worth, life is the only effective teacher. Many people end up staying in bad, toxic relationships, whether with a partner or just a bad friend group, for longer than they should, even when they recognize the toxicity of the situation. People only know what they know, which is endlessly circular logic and redundant, but remains ultimately true. If a person doesn’t know any better, they will continue to be around people who are just bad for them, since self-worth isn’t really a class one can take at school.
#10
you know metal? that genre of music that's loud and yelly?
it's called metal because it's harder than rock
#11
That I'm an introvert and shouldn't try to replicate the lives of the extroverts around me.
Also, I'm nowhere near as booksmart as I thought I was.
#12
I learned that other people's opinions of me don't matter. MY opinion of me matters, and since I hold myself to an exceptionally high standard....I'M AWESOME!!
Similar to the ignorance about pickles or thinking that one has to buy shoes and clothes to grow into as an adult, many people also feel embarrassed to admit that they are in a toxic relationship or friendship. We see our social circle as a reflection of ourselves, so admitting that they might be bad feels like telling everyone how dumb we are. Embarrassment is a particularly bad teacher since studies show that it doesn’t even create a drive to avoid similar behavior in the future. So it’s mostly your brain making you feel bad but refusing to build something useful out of it. The one upside is that embarrassment means you are more or less mentally normal, as a lack of embarrassment is a sign of psychopathy.
#13
That treating people with respect and being honest are not mutually exclusive
#15
I got a good one! I grew up and Brooklyn, New York. Believe it or not I never knew j walking was a thing. So when I was in my 20’s I ended up in Hawaii thanks to the military. I was crossing Kalākaua Ave in the middle of the street and two cops started yelling at me. They were yelling at me about j walking and I thought they were messing with me. I started laughing and told them that not real. One of them got real mad and wanted to detain me but his partner was like “ where you from? “ I told them Brooklyn and they both started laughing and explained to me that the rest of the U.S. has this thing called j walking. 😂😂 I felt pretty silly afterwards not knowing a pretty common law.
ScarletRos 1 year ago
I used to think jaywalking was actually walking in the shape of a J when you crossed the street.
You can also take heart in the knowledge that, well, knowledge is growing a lot faster than any of us can actually process it. In the English language alone, there are between 500’000 and 1’000’000 books published every year. Even at the lowest estimate, you would need to read 1369.86 books a day to keep up. This equals roughly 57 books an hour. Even the most prolific Goodreads liars are not likely to think that is possible. More importantly, no one around you is reading 57 books an hour, much less just one. And if you want to read what embarrassingly obvious things others learned late in life, check out our other articles here and here.
#16
The adults in my life never had it figured out either, they just made it seem like that to a kid.
#17
Stop expecting things to be fair
#18
If you come from a poor family, you have to work x3 as hard to get ahead.
#19
That the housework can wait awhile. To sit and enjoy the dinner I just cooked with my family. The dishes will still be there when I get to them, they ain't going anywhere lol
#20
That there are no guarantees, you may never find love, tragedy may befall you, you may not win, you may die alone.
#21
On a more serious note. I learned way too late that sometimes I was the bad guy.
I was raised in a house where everyone was so defensive. Nothing was ever anyone’s fault. I still jump on the defense with my husband now.
After some bad decisions and burned bridges I realized that not everyone is willing to overlook you doing something wrong if all you do is say it’s not your fault. You are sometimes the bad guy in someone’s story.
I find it really difficult to deal with my family after realizing this. But hey ho.
#22
Insurance and credit cards. Trying to figure out basic adult finance stuff without any guidance or help will force you to feel like an idiot for a long time.
Shane S 1 year ago
We NEED financial literacy education in schools. How to get a credit card. How to use it. How NOT to use it. What’s a deductible? What’s a copay? What’s in-network? .. And yes, we know our US healthcare system is horrible but it’s governmentally impossible to change it in at least the next two years, so we need to learn to work within the system we’ve got.
#23
That cows had to have had a calf to make milk. They don’t just make milk. I had to be a mom myself and nurse my kid when it dawned on me.
#24
The hole women pee out of isn’t the same hole they stick the tampon in
Kise Miarse 1 year ago
A lot of people (females included) don't figure this out right away. Definite failure in education.
#26
It never made sense to me that we would go under tables during an earthquake, because wouldnt the ground crack open? The table wouldnt do anything then?
Wasnt until last year I realised that it was to stop debris from falling on us. Smh
Karl Baxter 1 year ago
My old man told me that during WW2 the whole family hid underneath his grandma’s dining table during German air raids for the same reason
#27
Life is too short. Take the time to stop and smell the roses. RIP Myles grandpa loves and misses you
Lakota Wolf 1 year ago (edited)
Oh. EDIT: From OP on Reddit: "Watching my grandson die and unable to help. He passed at 29 days from heart issues and had multiple open heart surgeries."
#28
That not everyone has a storyline ongoing inside their heads.
I used to be inside my own and would laugh at things happening in my story, and everyone would look at me funny; so glad that I wear a mask now.
Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
I'm still trying to understand people who say they have no inner dialogue. Do they not realize that ideas, questions, opinions and even worries ARE the inner dialogue? No one's head is empty of thoughts. Or maybe I'm totally wrong.
jdtimid123 1 year ago
I think the inner dialogue is more like the narrator in a movie, you're "talking" in your head. But some people (like my husband) don't have a voice in their head when they think. He says it's more pictures and feelings for him. Which is still weird to grasp, being someone who can't get their inner narrator to shut up for one moment
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
What? Y'all don't just create stories or conversation in ur heads??
Janet C 1 year ago
I learned recently that 50% of the population doesn't have internal thoughts. Sounds creepy to me... all that silence.
Surfing Panda 1 year ago
I always had plenty of stories/scenarios/conversations going on in my head. You need to learn to keep them separated from your real llife. But they can be fun. Just don't think that you can imagine how a conversation with another person will go in real life. But... they are a very good help if you need to write stories, professionally or just for fun.
Dave Hanel 1 year ago
I think everyone has a storyline going on in their head. Some are better at hiding it
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago (edited)
I have several rotating storylines in my head, depending on my mood. Soundtracks included. Pretty sure that's how I've survived this long with my s****y life.
Dawn Messina 1 year ago
Just found out this was a thing,,, pretty sure this is me!
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Nikki Angulo 9 months ago
I just googled it and it seems that an inner monologue is actually *hearing* your voice in your head. So not the same as what this person is describing, which is more picturing a story inside your head. Some people just can’t do it, I was reading a story to some students and one said she couldn’t picture it in her head.
Christopher Denney 1 year ago
Always remember to stop narrating the story when you leave the house... :/
marvellady 1 year ago
Btw not talking about COVID mask, meant emotional masking
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Jeremy Crockett 1 year ago
Of course, EVERYONE has an 'ongoing storyline" in their heads. It's just not YOUR storyline, you narcissist.
Kimberly Thomason 1 year ago
Some people actually don't. Think about those in a coma or knocked out. Think about the 50% of the population that doesn't have the internal thoughts or storyline in their heads. They aren't being narcissistic.
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Why girls in high school often didn't participate during sports class.
"You don't feel well? Why don't you go home if your sick?"
10 years later: aaaaaaahhh...
Abigail Hill 1 year ago
In high school sports classes I always felt like I had to work extra hard when I was going through that or I'd be "weak"... for all of you still in that age, don't feel like that. It's not weak to need to rest when you're in pain. It's taking care of yourself. My mindset was not healthy. Please rest when you need to :)
#30
That my parents are human beings who make mistakes and not perfect divine beings
#31
That my happiness and feelings matter too. I have always felt that I was there to support others and being the best person I can, and all it lead to was people taking advantage of me or making me feel like I did something wrong if I wasn’t what they wanted. I don’t feel that way anymore. I am not going to apologize to people treating me like c**p anymore. I only put my energy into people that actually deserve it now.
#33
“Queue” is not pronounced like “kwee wee”. I learned this in a meeting at work when I mispronounced it.
#34
That sex is nothing to be ashamed of. I grew up in a strict, repressive household. Became sexually active at 18 but felt a lot of guilt over it which didn't go away for a couple years. Those feelings negatively impacted my relationship at that time.
#35
That there are tons of people out there who engage in sexual intercourse with other people not for the purpose of reproduction, but rather for enjoyment reasons, and that I am a part of a minority group of people called "asexuals".
I'm still trying to wrap my head around this, but it has gone a long way to explain why I see so many people in relationships with terrible people who don't want to leave, or why something as unfathomable as cheating to me can seem like something valid to many others.
#36
Actual hygiene. It wasn’t until I was 12 and went to summer camp for the first time that I realized when you shower you’re suppose to wash yourself with soap. I would just wash my hair and hangout for while because I liked the hot water, THANK GOD I DIDN’T SWEAT A LOT.
#38
Boundaries.
PunnyPanda 1 year ago
For real. Nobody modeled or taught me that s**t growing up. When I finally got it, it was like a bolt of lightning. Recently realized that most of the challenges in my life are related to poor boundaries and it definitely threw me through a loop.
#39
I learnt that we're supposed to brush both sides of our teeth . The inner side needs to be brushed as well.
I saw all of the commercials just showing them brushing the outer portion so i assumed that this is the way
#40
It was some point in high school, probably around 10th grade, that it was made clear to me that two non-infected gay men engaging in monogamous non-protected intercourse didn’t magically produce the hiv/aids. To be clear I literally thought the simple act of gay sex resulted in hiv/aids.
Did I say that out loud? 1 year ago
If OP was around in the early 80s like I was then, unfortunately, their beliefs are understandable. The hysteria and misinformation surrounding hiv/aids is difficult to comprehend now. In the UK, terms like "gay plague" were routinely used in the media.
#41
That I belonged to a cult
#42
Pickles are brined cucumbers. Only found out a few years ago. I'm about to turn 42.
#45
That male circumcision is not just a Jewish thing and that I'm circumcised
#46
Parents have names too, learned at like 9 or 10
Francesca Annoni 1 year ago
i have been teaching my kids their first and last names since they were 2...and my and my husbands names, and i have been teaching them our home address, you never know how important this information is when a child gets lost!
#47
My whole life is an embarrassment if that counts. I'm in my thirties and I still struggle with basics.
#49
How to brush my teeth.
I was super neglected as a child so that is something I've always struggled with and even after going to a dentist for 2 years and having exams every 4 months I only learned last month that you need to brush your gums 🤷🏻
#50
Riding a bike at 15
What do you think ?
Ranidae 1 year ago
About 2 years ago I saw the phrase "for all intents and purposes" in a book I read and thought it was a mistake... until I saw it again about a week later in a different book. I'd always thought it was "for all intensive purposes." I guess I had only heard it, not seen it written out before. I'm in my 40's. I still feel 🤦
Agfox 1 year ago
Technically known as a mondegreen https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mondegreen
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Where’s The Shovel? 1 year ago
I knew the word awry and how to use it in speech, however I didn't realise it was spelt as awry.
Ginger Grumpybunny 1 year ago
I was the other way around: I knew it in writing, and was later surprised to learn that the way I pronounced it in my head was wrong.
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Bobby 1 year ago
That I can respect something I don't understand. I was raised in a pretty accepting home compared to most I know, but if you couldn't make somebody understand your perspective you were wrong. I guess for example: my extended family couldn't care less if you were gay straight or bi. They get those. But asexual? Cant wrap their heads around that, so you must have not met the right person yet. They also don't really get gender vs sex assigned at birth either
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
Good job being better than your family! Too many people decide that they need to hate something just because they don't understand it, and it sucks
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Benita Valdez 1 year ago
I'm almost 40 and I only learned maybe 2-3 years ago that there is a chance that eyebrows won't grow back. Had I known that as a teen in the late 90's I would definitely had been more careful and not done the super thin brows. Fortunately, I never had an issue with hair growth but man would I look silly now if they didn't grow back; accidentally overlooked and had half an eyebrow at one point
Sara Anderson 1 year ago
"Bridge ices before road" I always for some reason thought that meant the part of the road right before the bridge got icy first. I think I was 40 when I finally realized what it meant. To be fair, I live in Florida so an icy road isn't really much of a concern most years.
Ronnie Cutshall 1 year ago
When a person smile bat you. They're just being polite guys. You know what I am talking about
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
I realized that I was a guy (and also gay) less than a year ago. Very fun
Michael H 1 year ago
That people often speak and act in ways that come more from wanting to be perceived a certain way than actual belief. I could never figure out why the people who happen to be pro-gun were also pro-capital punishment and anti-abortion and liked football, and that the ones that were pro-weed were also pro-abortion and liked to hike. Why should any of the ideas have to pair together? Obviously it's tire to ideology and there are centuries of history to explain it, but it's not necessary. It wasn't until I was a little older and realized I could support or reject individual ideas without voting the straight party ticket that I 1. Learned myself better and 2. Seperated myself from politics in general, both of which make me happier.
John Harrison 1 year ago
"Why should any of the ideas have to pair together?" Some seemingly disparate ideas absolutely SHOULD be grouped together, and their unifying factor is that one group is the way the world appears to be when you simply look at it and take it face value, judging it only with the simple values you learned as a child, and the other is how you come to understand things when you've been educated on the matter and taken some time to think about them. Capital punishment is a perfect example. People who support capital punishment are often folks who simply apply the "eye for an eye" values that they learned as a child, and/or who have never learned any of the counter arguments to capital punishment.
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Ranidae 1 year ago
About 2 years ago I saw the phrase "for all intents and purposes" in a book I read and thought it was a mistake... until I saw it again about a week later in a different book. I'd always thought it was "for all intensive purposes." I guess I had only heard it, not seen it written out before. I'm in my 40's. I still feel 🤦
Agfox 1 year ago
Technically known as a mondegreen https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mondegreen
Load More Replies... Where’s The Shovel? 1 year ago
I knew the word awry and how to use it in speech, however I didn't realise it was spelt as awry.
Ginger Grumpybunny 1 year ago
I was the other way around: I knew it in writing, and was later surprised to learn that the way I pronounced it in my head was wrong.
Load More Replies... Bobby 1 year ago
That I can respect something I don't understand. I was raised in a pretty accepting home compared to most I know, but if you couldn't make somebody understand your perspective you were wrong. I guess for example: my extended family couldn't care less if you were gay straight or bi. They get those. But asexual? Cant wrap their heads around that, so you must have not met the right person yet. They also don't really get gender vs sex assigned at birth either
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
Good job being better than your family! Too many people decide that they need to hate something just because they don't understand it, and it sucks
Load More Replies... Benita Valdez 1 year ago
I'm almost 40 and I only learned maybe 2-3 years ago that there is a chance that eyebrows won't grow back. Had I known that as a teen in the late 90's I would definitely had been more careful and not done the super thin brows. Fortunately, I never had an issue with hair growth but man would I look silly now if they didn't grow back; accidentally overlooked and had half an eyebrow at one point
Sara Anderson 1 year ago
"Bridge ices before road" I always for some reason thought that meant the part of the road right before the bridge got icy first. I think I was 40 when I finally realized what it meant. To be fair, I live in Florida so an icy road isn't really much of a concern most years.
Ronnie Cutshall 1 year ago
When a person smile bat you. They're just being polite guys. You know what I am talking about
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
I realized that I was a guy (and also gay) less than a year ago. Very fun
Michael H 1 year ago
That people often speak and act in ways that come more from wanting to be perceived a certain way than actual belief. I could never figure out why the people who happen to be pro-gun were also pro-capital punishment and anti-abortion and liked football, and that the ones that were pro-weed were also pro-abortion and liked to hike. Why should any of the ideas have to pair together? Obviously it's tire to ideology and there are centuries of history to explain it, but it's not necessary. It wasn't until I was a little older and realized I could support or reject individual ideas without voting the straight party ticket that I 1. Learned myself better and 2. Seperated myself from politics in general, both of which make me happier.
John Harrison 1 year ago
"Why should any of the ideas have to pair together?" Some seemingly disparate ideas absolutely SHOULD be grouped together, and their unifying factor is that one group is the way the world appears to be when you simply look at it and take it face value, judging it only with the simple values you learned as a child, and the other is how you come to understand things when you've been educated on the matter and taken some time to think about them. Capital punishment is a perfect example. People who support capital punishment are often folks who simply apply the "eye for an eye" values that they learned as a child, and/or who have never learned any of the counter arguments to capital punishment.
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