Someone Asks About The “Lesser-Known Problems Of Being An Unattractive Woman,” They Give 30 Heartbreaking Answers

Few people seem to stop to consider that perhaps someone is overweight because they have diabetes rather than the other way round.

Cecily, that is very cruel. I'm sorry this happens, Hug for you.

Your profile pic is perfect for our sentiments about these people. But it still can hurt even though we know they are just jerks who don't matter. I'm adding extra hugs to Caro's hugs. We are who we are dammit, and we matter. You matter ❤

I am sorry that you suffer this. I am also chronically ill and have gained 10kg since i got bad. Recently two doctors completely ignored my symptoms and told me that i need to exercise, lose weigjt and the other one to go to therapy. So I am not ill, I am just fat and crazh so i dont deserve a treatment. It made me spiral really bad for two weeks.

I have to take steroids for the rest of my life, otherwise I'll die, but with that comes weight gain, and with that comes the disgusted looks, the laughs etc. It's awful

This is so true. I've got sle and my hands are swollen and fingers are massive due to RA. The stuff that gets said to me is so rude and ignorant.

This extends to men as well. Unattractive people in general get looked down on

I’m sorry you get this shiit. I have type 1 diabetes. I’ve never gotten that. You could say it’s because I am a man or whatever, I just haven’t dealt with it. I am well aware of the stigma, but it is way weird that guys would say that after meeting you in person. No one knows I have diabetes until I tell them. 🤷‍♂️ Regardless it’s suucks you have had that experience. People are asssholes

Spot on.

I don’t think she was associating that way. Just saying pretty, skinny because she may not feel she is that. Anyway yeah. I know a lot of skinny girls that are busted

I’m thin but not very pretty. I’ve definitely gotten some “pretty privilege” because of my tiny waist. Skinny and pretty are definitely two different things, but our society definitely uses them interchangeably at times.

Sure, but I think the use of both adjectives acknowledges this (a girl skinny AND pretty gets a markedly different response vs. one who is neither)

Yes. But skinny are more often thought to be pretty that overweight women are

In a perfect world, yes. Somebody should tell that to the fashion/entertainment industries, as well as the media

And a matter of opinion. I don't think skinny girls are very pretty, but I know a lot of people who do.

In India, Skinny is pretty, some people really look not good in any way and still as they are skinny they are counted as good looking.

Not in our society.

Beauty is in the eye of the beekeeper, and all that.

And both are applicable

Yes… but with this society, they really correlate a lot.

"skinny, pretty" means "skinny and pretty"

She used a comma meaning both are applied to the same girl.

...that's why they listed them as two different things

Not the point.

I think you missed the point? It's not that she doesn't look as good as someone else; it's that people make assumptions about her character and feel like the "should" be putting effort into looking better.

Just say thank you. Because they do mean it.

Yes. For me, I'm thinking in my head "Your just saying that. It's not true."

Easier said than done, but try and find the confidence inside you. It's there. Took me awhile to break out my shell (not until 9th grade). My cousins "took me under their wing" and worked with me giving me confidence to start talking to girls, style, mannerisms, etc. Everyone has beauty within them. But with society and it's view of what "beauty" should look like, makes it extremely difficult. I've been called handsome many a times and yeah, I think I look ok but when women are gushing over me (not all the time lol) it does seem fake. So I know what you mean. But instead of focusing on the "what if they're over exaggerating" or "I don't look good enough", change that frame of thinking to "wow, that's nice of them to think so" or "I AM good enough and someone will be damn lucky to be with me".

Aaaaw bless you Foxxy.

Ah, Foxxy - you know you're fine!

Foxxy, I don't know what you look like, and I don't care. Your comments here are enough for me to know that you are beautiful.

I feel that way too.

With you on this.. and then people accuse you of being low on self-confidence. No one knows what we go through

They do mean it; they should. You can say “aw, thank you!”. Or you can say “is that all you can do? Think of better compliments and do it fast, I’m bored.”. These are the only two options. But mostly pick the first one.

Yeah. They completely refuse to look at us as sick or pay us any attention. They think that we are fat and lazy so we deserve to be ill. I had so many doctors giving me s**t for being overweight. Yeah I was skinny and fit, then got really ill and I have been years without being able to exercise. Tell me again how I am sick because of my weight?

same with my partner. 30 years of dealing with "you're fat, so all your problems are PCOS", turns out when they actually tested, it's not f'n PCOS, and it's almost certainly Cushings, which is life threatening.

That's the OP's point.

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Maybe she didn't notice the cysts because you are fat.

WHAT? first I'm glad you have a good doc now. 22kg in less than a year ... Bloody hell, wow, gosh. :D

Right, because a doctor wouldn't know what they are talking about or anything.

You are not ugly and not invisible. I see you. X

Jihana, You just so eloquently put what I have felt for who knows how many years. Thank you for putting the feelings to words. I always thought that it was my anxiety that made me fat so I could avoid the creeps that my "pretty" sisters dealt with everyday. But really it was just me being me, who happens to be fat. I let my weight protect me from the losers since my anxiety kept me from standing up for myself. I now know that I am a worthy happy woman and a real man will judge me as such. The rest can eat a bag of di@#s. And as Caro said WE ARE NOT INVISIBLE! We just sometimes choose not to be seen by people who don't deserve us.

I.m.o the only ugly people are those without depth or substance. You clearly don't fall into that category. Just sayin'