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Couple Ends Their Vacation Abruptly After They Are Repeatedly Stuck Playing Babysitters For 3 Kids
Going on trips with your family is a different kind of adventure. You go and explore things together and create extraordinary moments that turn into the most delightful memories. But sometimes, these vacations can turn really sour, especially when you realize that you were just being used for something by the people closest to you.
This Redditor got to first-hand experience how family can use you. His brother and sister-in-law invited him and his wife for a retreat to their parents’ cabin just so that they could look after their three kids. They got annoyed and left them to get their own place.
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Man and his wife are “invited for a vacation” by his brother, sister-in-law, and three kids to their parents’ cabin
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Turns out it was only so they could babysit the kids while the other couple went out and enjoyed their time together
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When the poster and his wife decided to go out to enjoy themselves, the other couple was not pleased and said that this was supposed to be a family vacation
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The man called out his brother and his wife for their repeated babysitting demands, but the couple retorted that they expected them to “help out”
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Finally frustrated, the poster and his wife left and got their own place, but SIL guilt-tripped them, so the man went online and asked for advice
The story began when Reddit user Wooden-Intern-6316 was invited by his brother and sister-in-law to go vacationing. He provided a little context by explaining that his wife quite often looks after his brother’s three-year-old kid during the weeks. And when they “invited” him and his wife for a vacation, it was to go to the cabin that their parents owned, not a paid trip or something like that.
So, the couple said yes, and they all went, taking the brother’s three kids with them, too. On the first night, the brother and sister-in-law wanted to go on a date, so the original poster (OP) and his wife agreed to stay with the kids. But the next day almost a similar scenario greeted them when the couple took their two kids for an activity that the elder kid didn’t want to do. So, they again just left him with OP and his wife. This really annoyed them as they were not able to enjoy anything else apart from babysitting.
Come afternoon, they wanted to go bar hopping, which upset the sister-in-law and she said, “I thought this was a family vacation.” The man thought this was quite hypocritical of her when they had spent all the time doing their own thing and leaving the kids with them. But OP and his wife still went and enjoyed their time out. However, this earned them a snarky retort from the brother in the morning about a hangover even when they didn’t have one.
The next day, they all went to the lake and OP and his wife got drinks. Upon seeing this, the sister-in-law pulled the wife aside and expressed that they shouldn’t be drinking while watching the kids. And that is when the poster finally snapped and confronted the entitled couple. The brother even said that they were the ones who had brought them for the vacation. This must’ve further annoyed the man and he pointed out that it was not paid, rather, they were all there for free.
To this, the brother retorted that they had expected to be “helped out” with the children. That must’ve been the breaking point for OP because he and his wife left and got their own place to stay. But that was not enough, the sister-in-law took them on a guilt trip by sending them pictures of the kids and telling them how sad they were. They even acted all innocent and confused so that the poster and his wife would look like the unreasonable ones. But he justified himself by saying that it was a vacation for them too, and his wife shouldn’t have to do something that she regularly does for them, for free, for that matter!
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When he asked the Reddit community if he was in the wrong for his actions, they all supported him. Many expressed that he was doing a big favor to his brother and sister-in-law and instead of being grateful, they had the audacity to make them feel guilty and unreasonable. According to Verywell Mind, “Guilt-tripping is often designed to manipulate other people by preying on their emotions and feelings of guilt or responsibility. This can be a form of toxic behavior that can have detrimental effects on a person’s well-being as well as their relationships.”
This just makes us see that the couple’s behavior was ruining their relationship with the poster and his wife. Psych Central suggests that if someone guilt-trips you, you have to articulate your boundaries and offer a compromise. Many online peeps pointed out the boundary thing, saying that the man and his wife had to establish one straightaway.
Even the poster agreed to this. He mentioned in a comment that he has been telling his wife that they should cut down on the babysitting but she genuinely enjoys it. This is very nice of her. However, he wants to ensure that she develops boundaries by deciding the particular days with the start and end times that she would babysit those kids.
Stanford University states, “Boundaries help determine what is and is not okay in a relationship–whether that be with friends, partners, or family members. Ideally, we put them in place to protect our well-being. They help us to build trust, safety, and respect in relationships.” And it looks like this might be the healthy solution for OP and his wife. But despite the fact his brother and sister-in-law just used them as babysitters for the vacation, they’re willing to mend things and continue babysitting, which says a lot about how good they are.
A lot of netizens pointed out that as long as the couple doesn’t show respect and gratitude for the “free help” that they are getting, they should stop babysitting. And you must say, it does seem like a valid point. The poster and his wife sound like good Samaritans who are being exploited for their kindness, which Redditors smartly highlighted.
Now, before we jump to the comments from the Redditors, we want to hear from you. Have you, or someone you know, ever experienced something similar? How did you handle the situation? Let us know in the comments.
Redditors jumped to his rescue and advised him to draw boundaries with his brother and SIL’s babysitting demands
What do you think ?
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
If OP's wife isn't charging SIL for daycare, she should start. $XX per day, payable IN CASH at the time of drop off or - "So sorry! Busy today! See ya!" then - door slam. :)
Granny's Thoughts 6 months ago
The parents are awful. Entitled, selfish users. You owe them nothing. At least stop babysitting for free. They sure do t appreciate or deserve your kindness.
Rae Andringa 6 months ago
Yeesh. Since babysitting wasn't just for the "vacation" this is worse. Like I seldom see my niece and a vacation for me would actually include watching her, but these guys watch kids who are not their own REGULARLY. That is super different.
Margaret Roddy 6 months ago
Disgraceful behaviour by brother and SIL . Assume Sil is working and earning but expects Op s wife to work for free during the week ! Then to add insult to injury to tell them they can't drink while watching their children......so entitled .
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Fergus Corgi 6 months ago
The SIL saying the OP's wife shouldn't drink while "watching the kids" would've set me off. Why would she be watching the kids when their parents were right there? Can you imagine how confusing it would be for the kids if they went to show something to mommy or daddy & they were told to go show auntie or uncle instead? Sorry mommy & daddy are pretending they are child free today. That SIL is definitely the AH.
Momma Jess 6 months ago
Children are NOT WEAPONS to be used to manipulate others, ughhhhfffffppppp
Candace Taylor 6 months ago
We brought you on vacation, see those are the suspect words. They thought because they asked them to go on a free vacation to a family cabin that they would feel obligated to babysit. How ridiculous
Amy Simpson 6 months ago
The parents not wanting to be with their own kids is a red flag. My husband and I enjoyed being with our kids on vacations. We didn’t want to get away from them. We have two grown and a later in life one who is still in HS. We still pay for and enjoy being together as a family on vacations. The parents need to get their priorities straight.
Angie Ignacio 6 months ago (edited)
I don't quite agree with your comment. It is perfectly okay to want to spend time away from the kids and want to spend time together with only your spouse. There is nothing wrong with that at all. There is nothing red flag about people who also want to spend time away from kids. It is strange when parents can't possibly do a single thing without including their kids. But it is wrong what the brother and sister and law are doing. Making the OP watch their kids maybe once or even maybe twice might not have been such a big deal but to constantly throw their kids to OP and his wife to look after them was very rude and wrong for them to do.
Load More Replies... Candace Taylor 6 months ago
That's hilarious the only reason they invited you was to have built-in babysitters for themselves and the audacity to tell you you shouldn't drink because of watching the kids. You never signed up to go on this vacation to watch their kids. That's really s***** of them to talk about a family vacation and expect for them to be able to walk in and out whenever they want to but you guys are held to a higher standard because of their kids
Parriah 6 months ago
Time to set some boundaries, even if your wife enjoys babysitting you are getting some of the entitled backlash from your bro and sil. I HIGHLY doubt they would withdraw contact with your nieces/nephews because loss of free childcare would greatly impact their lives and finances. 3 days a week is tons, and I would definitely put a stop to random drop offs. Maybe take a 2-4 week complete break, visit kids but don’t watch them so your bro and his wife will realize how grateful they should be. They are not respecting your wife, even if she doesn’t mind it, you should.
Cheryl Burtch 6 months ago
Are you kidding me lol stop babysitting these people don’t appreciate it & are just entitled!!!
Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her) 6 months ago
If the mom and dad can't deal with being full time parents then they need to find an activity other than procreation smfh
LayDiva in the Zone 6 months ago
This is why I can't stand people. There is no way on God's green earth that I am going to allow somebody to one drop their kids off at any given time and not pay me, two it's a vacation that no one really had to pay for since they were staying in the family's lake house. They should have brought a babysitter if they wanted to do things Solo or leave the kids with the babysitter but they assumed that your wife would resume her normal duties so in a sense it's your fault and her fault for letting the sister-in-law and brother-in-law treat her and you like servants. That's why they acted up. Please get your mind right and set boundaries.
Vicki Mathison 6 months ago
IF you decide to keep watching the kids 3x per week. Draw up a contract with no extra days or double rate on extra days. Penalties for picking up late or not paying on time. Treat it like a business transaction so they respect your time.
Tracy Billington 6 months ago
What self entitled manipulative overgrown brats! You owe them nothing. I'd be definitely charging them for your service or cutt back. That is not fair to you. I would also let them read all the post of how the world feels about their disrespect 😤
Wysteria_Rose 6 months ago
Happened to me when I was a teen. Boyfriend's family invited me along. I just thought it was a great opportunity to get to know his mom, aunt, and little cousin (about 6). We get to vacation spot, go to an amusement park, and it's obvious that his mom and aunt are PISSED when we went off on our own. I'm unsure if they asked us outright but we wanted to ride coasters which she couldn't have done. Later, his mom confronted me and said that I had been paid for for the trip and it would have been nice to show some gratitude. I was so confused b/c no one said anything about paying my way back by babysitting a kid who I had just met (I also had no experience babysitting so it would have been awkward anyway). People freaking suck when they invite others with ulterior motives.
Tanya Phillips 6 months ago
I don't get why some ppl have kids (and always so many of them) then create every opportunity to offload them to everyone dumb enough to trust them.
Gail Lynn 6 months ago (edited)
If OP's wife wants to be around kids. Stop being a doormat to the SIL!! And donate your time where it's appreciated....volunteer as a baby holder or something like that at a hospital. Can she give her time at an elementary school? Wife doesn't have to stop giving her loving care for kids. Just give the love to kids who's parents APPRECIATE IT!!!!
Neill Powell 6 months ago
My Wife actually has happily (and I mean Very happily on my part, too) forbidden us to attend perfunctory gatherings when certain family with certain kids gather as well. She would get bossed by her cousin, and we ended up being the "children's entertainment providers", or their minders. We had t blatantly say that IF we want to entertain their children, we would do it out of our own volition. We became so acutely aware of this that we began to find ways to worm out of any responsibilities regarding children. "Give it a try, maybe you'll want to have some" .... riiight
Ash Conner 6 months ago
The brother and SIL use suck communication as a con to get what they want.
Chez2202 6 months ago
The only reason OP was asking if he was the AH was because of the guilt trip from SIL sending pictures of the kids saying they were upset that OP and his wife left. NTA. But the sad thing is that it’s probably true that the kids were upset that they left because they are stuck with their parents who are miserable now that they don’t have free babysitters and they can see that their parents aren’t enjoying their family holiday. If I was OP and his wife I would tell them to make other arrangements for their youngest child in future. I would even turn SIL’s messages back on her and say that if her children are unhappy with their parents and only want to be with his wife then the childcare arrangements are harming their relationship with their children.
Shadow 6 months ago (edited)
Not hard establishing boundaries re: the weekly babysitting. Yea wife enjoys it, but put a dollar price on it. Nothing outrageous, a simple, undercut cost, say $40 a day ( which is crazy cheap!!!! ) And see how much they really VALUE HER. She might be surprised or disappointed that they just see her as a cheap babysitter. They have shown they have zero respect and less regard for you both.
Krystia Calderon 6 months ago
I agree NTA. You definitely need some clear concise boundaries. And let them know if they keep expecting you to be their daycare they need to start paying your wife. CHILDCARE is not free unless you come to an agreement, however when they abuse that agreement they are taking complete advantage and don't even seem contrite having been found out. BIL and SIL can pay for your wife's time if they think they haven't done anything wrong. Knowing how much your wife loves the time with them doesn't mean she shouldn't be compensated if they want to be ungrateful. We are no longer accepting bad behavior. Good Luck
Jenni Waring 6 months ago
Wow I can't imagine just expecting someone to just drop everything and look after my kid. I have a almost 10 months old and yes it's difficult and I get a lot of help off my mum (only grandchild on my side and my mum absolutely adores spending time with her) but I didn't expect it and am really appreciative when she helps out and I wouldn't dream of just dropping her off without asking first that is just completely disrespectful
Janis McClure 6 months ago
NTA!!!! Absofckglutely nooot! SIL would have heard more than a few words from me. I wouldn't even be in that position to begin with. Sis you and your husband need to shut that down as a team. She's taking your kindness for a weakness. You are not an instant baby sitter and she's a user. Noooooooooo!
johnny smitherman 6 months ago
Start charging standard childcare rates per child with late and early drop off/pick up fees
Couragetcd 6 months ago
OP's wife watched the kids for free, so the SIL doesn't appreciate it. She is going to need to charge in order to get any respect.
Laura Maxwell 6 months ago
I agree that it is best to stop the free babysitting. Being nice to those who treat you like s..t is only enabeling their bad behavior. It will continue unless you nip it in the bud. And yes, they will be upset, but hopefully they will see the errors in their thinking process and feel the guilt that they are only using you. Nothing wiil be gained if this keeps going as it is.
Patricia Smith 6 months ago
My half sister did that to me a couple of times to me and my stepmom me and my have sister have the same Dad he passed several years ago but when my oldest nephew was little she and her mom did that to me I did it because I love my nephew but they where going to pay me money to watch my nephew weekly but I have health problems and said I could only do it if I was up to it not all the time thank God I did stop it along with my husband seeing them trying to use me that how they are my Dad was alive at the time and he told my sister that she was wrong asking me to take care of her baby all the time why she worked I had not been well and she need to find someone else anyway she ended up having 3 more boys after him so I would have gotten stuck taken care of 4 boys
Logicgrrl 6 months ago
This post gave me a massive headache and I had to stop reading this less than halfway through. For the love of goddess, USE PUNCTUATION!
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Ephemera Image 6 months ago
Doormats, watching SIL's kids for free. Absolute doormats. Suckers.
Lena Flising 1 month ago
The least you can do is to start charging for the food the kids eat at your place, or for activities that cost money that you do when the kids are there.
clairebear 4 months ago
I am sorry but most parents are like this. They assume everyone else is charmed by their kids and wants to spend time with them. They also expect everyone else to chip in with help and/or money, despite it being their lifestyle choice to have kids. They think they have done something heroic because being a parent is hard and they are therefore entitled to help.
Lena Flising 5 months ago
If brother and SIL had date night the first night, next ought to be OP’s and wife’s date night. Unless brother and SIL paid for the food or the travel to the cabin, OP and wife have no obligation to be free baby sitters. How come it’s family vacation when brother and SIL are off on their own, but not when OP and wife are off on their own?
David Kennamer 5 months ago
You are late to the party on setting up boundaries. But better late than never, expect push back since you trained them that your wife is their doormat
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
If OP's wife isn't charging SIL for daycare, she should start. $XX per day, payable IN CASH at the time of drop off or - "So sorry! Busy today! See ya!" then - door slam. :)
Granny's Thoughts 6 months ago
The parents are awful. Entitled, selfish users. You owe them nothing. At least stop babysitting for free. They sure do t appreciate or deserve your kindness.
Rae Andringa 6 months ago
Yeesh. Since babysitting wasn't just for the "vacation" this is worse. Like I seldom see my niece and a vacation for me would actually include watching her, but these guys watch kids who are not their own REGULARLY. That is super different.
Margaret Roddy 6 months ago
Disgraceful behaviour by brother and SIL . Assume Sil is working and earning but expects Op s wife to work for free during the week ! Then to add insult to injury to tell them they can't drink while watching their children......so entitled .
Load More Replies... Fergus Corgi 6 months ago
The SIL saying the OP's wife shouldn't drink while "watching the kids" would've set me off. Why would she be watching the kids when their parents were right there? Can you imagine how confusing it would be for the kids if they went to show something to mommy or daddy & they were told to go show auntie or uncle instead? Sorry mommy & daddy are pretending they are child free today. That SIL is definitely the AH.
Momma Jess 6 months ago
Children are NOT WEAPONS to be used to manipulate others, ughhhhfffffppppp
Candace Taylor 6 months ago
We brought you on vacation, see those are the suspect words. They thought because they asked them to go on a free vacation to a family cabin that they would feel obligated to babysit. How ridiculous
Amy Simpson 6 months ago
The parents not wanting to be with their own kids is a red flag. My husband and I enjoyed being with our kids on vacations. We didn’t want to get away from them. We have two grown and a later in life one who is still in HS. We still pay for and enjoy being together as a family on vacations. The parents need to get their priorities straight.
Angie Ignacio 6 months ago (edited)
I don't quite agree with your comment. It is perfectly okay to want to spend time away from the kids and want to spend time together with only your spouse. There is nothing wrong with that at all. There is nothing red flag about people who also want to spend time away from kids. It is strange when parents can't possibly do a single thing without including their kids. But it is wrong what the brother and sister and law are doing. Making the OP watch their kids maybe once or even maybe twice might not have been such a big deal but to constantly throw their kids to OP and his wife to look after them was very rude and wrong for them to do.
Load More Replies... Candace Taylor 6 months ago
That's hilarious the only reason they invited you was to have built-in babysitters for themselves and the audacity to tell you you shouldn't drink because of watching the kids. You never signed up to go on this vacation to watch their kids. That's really s***** of them to talk about a family vacation and expect for them to be able to walk in and out whenever they want to but you guys are held to a higher standard because of their kids
Parriah 6 months ago
Time to set some boundaries, even if your wife enjoys babysitting you are getting some of the entitled backlash from your bro and sil. I HIGHLY doubt they would withdraw contact with your nieces/nephews because loss of free childcare would greatly impact their lives and finances. 3 days a week is tons, and I would definitely put a stop to random drop offs. Maybe take a 2-4 week complete break, visit kids but don’t watch them so your bro and his wife will realize how grateful they should be. They are not respecting your wife, even if she doesn’t mind it, you should.
Cheryl Burtch 6 months ago
Are you kidding me lol stop babysitting these people don’t appreciate it & are just entitled!!!
Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her) 6 months ago
If the mom and dad can't deal with being full time parents then they need to find an activity other than procreation smfh
LayDiva in the Zone 6 months ago
This is why I can't stand people. There is no way on God's green earth that I am going to allow somebody to one drop their kids off at any given time and not pay me, two it's a vacation that no one really had to pay for since they were staying in the family's lake house. They should have brought a babysitter if they wanted to do things Solo or leave the kids with the babysitter but they assumed that your wife would resume her normal duties so in a sense it's your fault and her fault for letting the sister-in-law and brother-in-law treat her and you like servants. That's why they acted up. Please get your mind right and set boundaries.
Vicki Mathison 6 months ago
IF you decide to keep watching the kids 3x per week. Draw up a contract with no extra days or double rate on extra days. Penalties for picking up late or not paying on time. Treat it like a business transaction so they respect your time.
Tracy Billington 6 months ago
What self entitled manipulative overgrown brats! You owe them nothing. I'd be definitely charging them for your service or cutt back. That is not fair to you. I would also let them read all the post of how the world feels about their disrespect 😤
Wysteria_Rose 6 months ago
Happened to me when I was a teen. Boyfriend's family invited me along. I just thought it was a great opportunity to get to know his mom, aunt, and little cousin (about 6). We get to vacation spot, go to an amusement park, and it's obvious that his mom and aunt are PISSED when we went off on our own. I'm unsure if they asked us outright but we wanted to ride coasters which she couldn't have done. Later, his mom confronted me and said that I had been paid for for the trip and it would have been nice to show some gratitude. I was so confused b/c no one said anything about paying my way back by babysitting a kid who I had just met (I also had no experience babysitting so it would have been awkward anyway). People freaking suck when they invite others with ulterior motives.
Tanya Phillips 6 months ago
I don't get why some ppl have kids (and always so many of them) then create every opportunity to offload them to everyone dumb enough to trust them.
Gail Lynn 6 months ago (edited)
If OP's wife wants to be around kids. Stop being a doormat to the SIL!! And donate your time where it's appreciated....volunteer as a baby holder or something like that at a hospital. Can she give her time at an elementary school? Wife doesn't have to stop giving her loving care for kids. Just give the love to kids who's parents APPRECIATE IT!!!!
Neill Powell 6 months ago
My Wife actually has happily (and I mean Very happily on my part, too) forbidden us to attend perfunctory gatherings when certain family with certain kids gather as well. She would get bossed by her cousin, and we ended up being the "children's entertainment providers", or their minders. We had t blatantly say that IF we want to entertain their children, we would do it out of our own volition. We became so acutely aware of this that we began to find ways to worm out of any responsibilities regarding children. "Give it a try, maybe you'll want to have some" .... riiight
Ash Conner 6 months ago
The brother and SIL use suck communication as a con to get what they want.
Chez2202 6 months ago
The only reason OP was asking if he was the AH was because of the guilt trip from SIL sending pictures of the kids saying they were upset that OP and his wife left. NTA. But the sad thing is that it’s probably true that the kids were upset that they left because they are stuck with their parents who are miserable now that they don’t have free babysitters and they can see that their parents aren’t enjoying their family holiday. If I was OP and his wife I would tell them to make other arrangements for their youngest child in future. I would even turn SIL’s messages back on her and say that if her children are unhappy with their parents and only want to be with his wife then the childcare arrangements are harming their relationship with their children.
Shadow 6 months ago (edited)
Not hard establishing boundaries re: the weekly babysitting. Yea wife enjoys it, but put a dollar price on it. Nothing outrageous, a simple, undercut cost, say $40 a day ( which is crazy cheap!!!! ) And see how much they really VALUE HER. She might be surprised or disappointed that they just see her as a cheap babysitter. They have shown they have zero respect and less regard for you both.
Krystia Calderon 6 months ago
I agree NTA. You definitely need some clear concise boundaries. And let them know if they keep expecting you to be their daycare they need to start paying your wife. CHILDCARE is not free unless you come to an agreement, however when they abuse that agreement they are taking complete advantage and don't even seem contrite having been found out. BIL and SIL can pay for your wife's time if they think they haven't done anything wrong. Knowing how much your wife loves the time with them doesn't mean she shouldn't be compensated if they want to be ungrateful. We are no longer accepting bad behavior. Good Luck
Jenni Waring 6 months ago
Wow I can't imagine just expecting someone to just drop everything and look after my kid. I have a almost 10 months old and yes it's difficult and I get a lot of help off my mum (only grandchild on my side and my mum absolutely adores spending time with her) but I didn't expect it and am really appreciative when she helps out and I wouldn't dream of just dropping her off without asking first that is just completely disrespectful
Janis McClure 6 months ago
NTA!!!! Absofckglutely nooot! SIL would have heard more than a few words from me. I wouldn't even be in that position to begin with. Sis you and your husband need to shut that down as a team. She's taking your kindness for a weakness. You are not an instant baby sitter and she's a user. Noooooooooo!
johnny smitherman 6 months ago
Start charging standard childcare rates per child with late and early drop off/pick up fees
Couragetcd 6 months ago
OP's wife watched the kids for free, so the SIL doesn't appreciate it. She is going to need to charge in order to get any respect.
Laura Maxwell 6 months ago
I agree that it is best to stop the free babysitting. Being nice to those who treat you like s..t is only enabeling their bad behavior. It will continue unless you nip it in the bud. And yes, they will be upset, but hopefully they will see the errors in their thinking process and feel the guilt that they are only using you. Nothing wiil be gained if this keeps going as it is.
Patricia Smith 6 months ago
My half sister did that to me a couple of times to me and my stepmom me and my have sister have the same Dad he passed several years ago but when my oldest nephew was little she and her mom did that to me I did it because I love my nephew but they where going to pay me money to watch my nephew weekly but I have health problems and said I could only do it if I was up to it not all the time thank God I did stop it along with my husband seeing them trying to use me that how they are my Dad was alive at the time and he told my sister that she was wrong asking me to take care of her baby all the time why she worked I had not been well and she need to find someone else anyway she ended up having 3 more boys after him so I would have gotten stuck taken care of 4 boys
Logicgrrl 6 months ago
This post gave me a massive headache and I had to stop reading this less than halfway through. For the love of goddess, USE PUNCTUATION!
Load More Replies... Ephemera Image 6 months ago
Doormats, watching SIL's kids for free. Absolute doormats. Suckers.
Lena Flising 1 month ago
The least you can do is to start charging for the food the kids eat at your place, or for activities that cost money that you do when the kids are there.
clairebear 4 months ago
I am sorry but most parents are like this. They assume everyone else is charmed by their kids and wants to spend time with them. They also expect everyone else to chip in with help and/or money, despite it being their lifestyle choice to have kids. They think they have done something heroic because being a parent is hard and they are therefore entitled to help.
Lena Flising 5 months ago
If brother and SIL had date night the first night, next ought to be OP’s and wife’s date night. Unless brother and SIL paid for the food or the travel to the cabin, OP and wife have no obligation to be free baby sitters. How come it’s family vacation when brother and SIL are off on their own, but not when OP and wife are off on their own?
David Kennamer 5 months ago
You are late to the party on setting up boundaries. But better late than never, expect push back since you trained them that your wife is their doormat
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