I would've looked his mother in the eye and said if you ever want to have grandchildren, never go on a date with him again.

I'd nope the hell out of there too.

Bit of Norman Bates vibe

He's too old for this kind of thing. He should have cut those apron springs a long time ago. And with the friend who told her that she was rude, I've had friends like that where they had to disagree with everything I said. They didn't stay friends for long. Nobody needs that. He was rude for bringing someone without telling her, and out of his mind that he brought his mom.

No matter how insane the story is, the OP will always have that one person who says they were in the wrong. Every story has one. "My boyfriend told me to walk out in traffic and I said no, so he got really mad. I told my friend later and she said I was wrong and should have just done it. Should I have walked into traffic?"

On a first date, any major changes should be a red flag. Extra person, definitely, no matter who it is. Drastic change of activity, say no thank you and get out. Best case scenario they are bad a communication and advocating for themselves, so they aren't fit for a relationship. Worst case, they are already trying to see how much you'll go along with when they lie/misrepresent and then corner you, so they are not fit for a relationship.

This is the Ultimate version of 'when someone shows you who they are, believe it.'

You stayed for 20 minutes? Girl, run!

I did not even read the story, just the headliner. Unless you're a6yo

Does he also have Aurora Borealis events localized entirely within in his kitchen? I feel bad for those guys... ps: If you don't get is look up Seymour Skinner from the Simpsons and his relationship with his mother. Also look up that joke XD

i can understand a guy being close with his mom. its his mom he should b. theres a limit tho. private life matters mean no including mom. unless hes marrying the woman and his mom is gonna become her family too never involve the mom. men who involve their mothers in everything r called mama's boys and it can b very annoying. i met a guy and he said that he wanted to take me to dinner and the movies for our first date. i agreed however we went to his house for dinner just so he could introduce me to his mom. it was very akward for me. the whole time i could tell he was his moms favorite out of him and his 4 siblings. he was the oldest. on the way to the movies he wouldnt stop talking about how great his mom is. i did the same thing. i told him i wasnt feeling well and didnt think i could sit thru a movie. he took me home and before i got out of the car he asked if i think hes a mama's boy. i was honest and said the signs r there and i dont kno if i could handle his mom being a part of us trying to get to kno each other better. i did give him a 2nd chance however his mom showed up to a picnic we were having as our 2nd date. i looked at him and he was shocked. she said she just had to see how things were going for herself. he told her exactly where we were going and told her she couldnt come with us. he didnt even argue with her wen he showed up. he had a clear as day "welp this is happening" vibe and didnt care. i texted a friend who lived nearby and she picked me up almost immediately. i was convinced he was trying to keep his mom away so we can have a normal date but him not caring and just accepting her being there was wat did it. the only thought i had was if she does it once she will do it again. im willing to expect this behavior from a mother in law not on the 2nd date with ur dont kno if its official yet guy. mother in laws r allowed to b nosey but mother of a not official boyfriend yet r not.

Let's be quite clear about this. He didn't bring mom to the first date. Mom brought him.

It's fine to bring your mother on a date if you're 12.

Personally I would not have used the excuse of not feeling well. I would have said something along the lines that you had thought it was a date with Jake, not him and his mommy.

Definitely not wrong in leaving. Anyone who brings mommy along on what is supposed to be a date is not someone who is going to have much luck with finding anyone. Not only is it awkward, uncomfortable but seems like it kills the fun. You are with a Mommy's boy who instead of having the guts to spend one on one time getting to know you, basically showed up and had mommy interview you and showed you that he's gutless and overly attached to his mom. Id nope out of there so fast. He's going to be awfully lonely if this is who he really is and what he brings to the table. This is ridiculous. I can only imagine what would happen if he got married, mommy would probably be invited on the honeymoon. Run!

even if he was nervous and ask her for support, his mom seems to be conditioned to do his work ,even on a date? Better don't imagine first night together dodge a bullet here

Dodged a bullet there! "Momma's boys" make the WORST partners.

You were in the wrong by not being honest with what exactly was inappropriate about the dudes mom showing up. Letting them know why this was not ok should have been the first thing out of your mouth. As for the your roommate... this person is an idiot and has poor judgement. I would do the opposite of what your roommate says.

This woman probably has the wedding planned and is moving in!

What on Earth? Has he never been on a date before? Does he know anybody who's been on a date & can tell him how many people there are supposed to be? Has he never read a book, seen a television program or watched a movie in which somebody went on a date but he didn't notice nobody's mom was with them? Not surprised you wondered if you were being pranked. Good for your roommate supporting you but your co-worker saying maybe his mom was "nervous for him"? Well, mom can stay home be nervous there. At some point a mommy bird will push the baby bird from the nest, or baby might leave on his own - but he needs to get out of it & become a big, grown-up bird. You mentioned you would clue him in next time you talked, which somebody certainly needs to do, but why are you considering continuing to communicate with him after telling him, as you left dinner, that it wasn't going to work out? If you do, as naive, or whatever, he is, he's going to misinterpret what you said at the table - think you meant something like you didn't like your dinner - & presume you're now dating. (Unless mommy bird told him you just weren't right for him.) You instantly saw the situation was bizarre & escaped it - don't go back for more.

That's a lot. She's way nicer than I am. First words outta my mouth would have been, are you flucking kidding me??? What a waste of makeup going on an interview to be a side chick to his mommy dearest

I can see three potentials here, 1.she's a helicopter mum, 2. It was a test to see if you could handle it maturely, 3. He realised 5mins in he didn't want to carry on and she was the get out of jail card. Maybe message him and explain you're sorry for fleeing but it was very uncomfortable for a first date. His response will tell you everything you need to know.

You have to wonder if they knew this was not really acceptable because they didn't mention ahead of time that Mom would be there. Then they didn't have her come out to the table until after introductions. Sounds a bit manipulative. I don't understand why they thought they could get past the first date and on to a second though. They must be looking for someone so submissive that she'll go along with anything.

If I would try that, my Mum wouldn't come, because she'd find it creepy. If I were greeted by Parents on a 1st date, I'd leave too. I don't wanna know them yet ... the saying goes "Watch your MIL carefully, that's who you'll have in the house 30 years later.", not "Watch your date's Ma carefully, ... " - way too early, way too creepy, and ... I'd be understanding if he made her leave or something, because you can't know if people have overbearing parents, but as he seemed to not even find it strange, ... well ... let him succeed with that approach, but it doesn't need to be you. Or he doesn't succeed with the means chosen, whatever, ...

I'm getting the impression he's possibly ASD and it was the mother not the guy the woman was in contact with prior to the date and that's why he seemed "like a solid guy" when in real life he's quiet and not not involved in the date.

Someone needs to cut the cord mommy is clutching so hard. But, said someone, might need help to cut it.

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