Dad doesn't owe any of his kids anything. He could leave 100% to the local animal rescue if he wants! At least until the stepson is 18, stepdad should do his best to make sure his wife and her child aren't out in the cold if he dies suddenly. Yeah, that means the 30-somethings don't get the house. Assuming they're not currently homeless, they don't need it. Giving the wife and/or stepson a share of the business means they can afford to keep the electricity on. Bio kids are being selfish.

I hate all of these YTA people. Inheritance is not a right.

My step dad was my world 🌎

Beth said exactly the truth. So yeah the kids had a $h!t dad growing up and he owns it. The fact they are getting SO worked up Over the amount of their inheritance makes me wonder if they stuck around to make sure they collected after he dies and not really to have a relationship. So your step brother gets an equal share. So what!!! The fact you are getting an inheritance is something most kids will never see. And that you are getting pissed and holding on to it again tells me the $$ is a bigger factor in your keeping a relationship with the father then if his business had failed or was so so and there want any $$ when he died. NTA. Not only do they get to get paid and it sounds quite handsomely when their father dies, they also get to take over majority stake in his company that by all accounts is making a lot of $$ so their inheritance goes beyond the $$ on the bank but if they are willing to work for it, it’s even more money from a successful business.

Bio-kids the AH's. It sounds like they will get a huge windfall of inheritance, yet they want X% more or it is unfair. Also, not enough emphasis on this: the bio kids get the business!!! A successful business, that brings in residual income year after year after year is worth much more than a slightly higher % upfront (exact numbers unknown, but this is what I gather, could be off depending on size of inheritance and amount of residual income).

Second suggestion seems reasonable. Those saying the bio kids are just in it for the money forget that the first draft is just another slap in the face from a distant father whose business they helped to grow nevertheless. Also, stepson has another father from whom he might inherit. Ironically the wife could also be accused of being "just after the money" by marrying a much older, wealthy man to secure hers and her sons financial future, but no...

I agree that dad doesn't owe anyone anything, but at the same time the comment about bio kids losing our when dad takes up a new family resonates with me. My grandpa married a widow with 4 kids. He died first, and after she passed her will divided all of both their assets among her kids with no provisions for my dad and aunt. In this situation I would divide it evenly and each time someone whines about it they get a little less.

I totally disagree with most of ya'll. The point is is the guy an A-hole for what he's doing, not is he allowed to do it. I'm allowed to do what I want with my money but how I use it could still be a-hole-ish. I dont think the kids are entitled by saying that they don't think the brand-new step kid should get the same amount as they are. Their points are valid and their anger is valid. Negating it by calling them entitled because they are hurt yet again by this terrible excuse of a father displays a significant lack of empathy. The dad barely knows the kid, the kid doesn't think of him as a father, and he'll inherit the moms half anyway. I would be resentful in their place as well. True, dad doesn't technically owe them, but that doesnt mean it's not hurtful. The terrible father then goes on the internet to reveal what they said in private in the heat of the moment - for the consumption and critique of millions of people who don't know the situation or the emotions attached.

Being a loathed step-child, I can honestly say that the OP even considering to leave anything to his stepson is a very honorable and non-a.hole thing to do. I do understand the bio kids feeling they earned more but, in actuality there is no amount of money that can fix the past. They should be so lucky to recieve any inheritance and should be proud to have a father whom admits his shortfalls as a parent and who has it in his heart to want and work for a healthy relationship with his stepson. Lastly, I agree with whoever stated this: discussing the inheritance with his bio children before making it legal is not something an a.hole would do.

The critical thing is he wants to "do right" by his stepson, that is being a responsible stepparent. He gave the kid his name to INCLUDE him as a family member, the kid is not a foster child after all. The bio kids need to grow up and let their father make his own choices.

First time I haven't agreed with the majority on this kind of post. I think its lovely that he's including his step child and no one is actually entitled to get their parents money anyway. I personally agree that he should ensure that the stepson doesnt get more than the bio children but at the end of the day, its his money.

I've said it before and I'll say it again your parents owe you absolutely nothing. Once you hit adulthood, whatever else your relationship was, they don't owe you a damn cent of *their* money. Adults should not behave like this. If the man wants to divide his wealth equally, he should. Or are the kids now saying that there's a price tag to their childhood? And since people are arguing on the "they made your wealth" front... He's already giving them the business. That probably includes it's assets and profits. He's not the a****le. And all 3 of them need to go to therapy.

Dad does get to do what he wants with his money but i understand them being mad since he obviously is giving this kid more time and love. Maybe they would care less if you manned uped about being a s**t dad and tried to make up for loss time.

All of the YTA people are the real A's, it's his choice. At this point, I'd even consider lying to bio kids and saying ok fine, stepson is out. Let them hate me when I'm dead, who cares, they sound like entitled brats

Is this Jay Pritchett from Modern Family? This sounds like Modern Family.

A shocking 80% of all millionaires received zip, nada, nothing from anyone in terms of an inheritance. It's hard for me to hear grown adults complain and whine about what they are "owed". Pressing and punishing your parents while they live about what they had better give you (of THEIR hard earned assets) when they're dead seems incredibly self centered. BUT I understand that this is about something deeper than cash. Their hurt and rejection from their father obviously still lingers and family counseling would really help them all!!

The bio kids get the business. Plus 1/5 of all the money. That's fine. Follow your heart.

Nvm this story. What if your dad only leaves the entire inheritance to a swindling daughter that manipulated her way to get 100%. I have talked about it to my dad and he is afraid to confront my sister. So now I am completely out and my sister takes all. And the best if this story, my sister's husband is CEO for a large Canadian Insurance company. I am 62 years old and still struggling while helping my dad every day! Our dad is 89 years old and can no longer care for himself and my sister hasn't seen him in years.

Man f**k all these YTA people. Entitled bio children clearly don't see the step-son as an actual addition to the family, which he is. A good suggestion I saw though was making a college funding account, or hell, paying for his college in general. I think that could be a good compromise if needed.

Wow pretty selfish of his bio kids. I think that's great of the dad. Go dad go. We'll done for being a good father

NTA... no one earns an inheritance.

Also it sounds to me like his biological kids went and made sure to develop a relationship with him so they would be left in the will. They're proving it by acting like they deserve his money. I think that he should leave it exactly the way he intended and end the subject right there. If his bio kids have a problem with it then he can just leave them out of the will altogether.

I felt that Modern Family vibe.

What shitty bio kids. You are owed no inheritance. My auntie recently told me she wanted to save as much of her money to split amongst myself and brother, I told her to screw that idea and spend every cent on whatever she wants if there's stuff she could do with it that would make her happy. Inheritance is a nice gesture, but in no way something owed to you, even if you saw you dad as being a shitty parent and it somehow makes you owed something.

The father is being less than honest with himself if he is treating the stepson as an equal to the 2 "bios". The last revision he mentioned sounded fair 30% to each "bio", 25% to trophy wife, and 10% to the "do over" child, also the business goes to the "bios", I would add that the wife gets the house, but even though I offered, the father said he didn't need my help to write his will... His loss.