Sometimes parents want to be 'relatable' and 'cool', so they use meme references and words like 'lit' but these things don't cut it. All these desperate attempts do is just embarrass their kids. However, if they try something really ridiculous, it brings them even more shame. They end up on the subreddit /r/InsaneParents.
The online community describes itself as "a weird place where you can post those crazy parents who post in those woo-woo anti-vax groups on Facebook and do things harmful (directly and indirectly) to their children. We want to be a place where people can come and both get support and laugh. So this sub is a mixture of both the heartbreaking and the hilarious. Come and join us. Especially if you have your own stories to tell or your own social media content to post." Below you will find some of their most popular posts.
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My Mother Dearest, Whom My Sister And I Just Let Back Into Our Lives, Talking To My Sister About Her Daughter (My Niece). Behold The Kind Of Person She Is
Your sister has the right answer. Your mom is a piece of work. You never call children names.
Bored Panda has already published two posts about the subreddit (here and here) but it looks like there's no shortage of insane moms and dads; people keep posting more and more parenting horror stories. Even though the subreddit was created relatively recently, in 2017, it already unites over 1.2 million members, with thousands online at any given moment.
It's normal for parents and their kids to have different views and opinions. In fact, they can be used for growth, too. Vicki Broadbent, founder of Honest Mum and author of Mumboss, is one of those parents who are open to learning from their children as much as they want to teach them. "They've taught me a lot from feeling more confident when I've been trolled online, to how to create a TikTok video!" she told Bored Panda. "My kids aged 10 and 8 respectively are both creative, empathetic, resilient, and strong-willed little humans. We base our relationships on open conversations and trust. I think the art of listening has been lost somewhat, and rather than being didactic as a parent, we need to practice listening more (and really hearing) to others' points of view, before sharing our own views.
Guilty Has Punished
Broadbent acknowledges that parents have the responsibility to inform, protect, and guide their kids, however, she thinks that children who feel endlessly chastised and forced to conform will do the complete opposite. "You have more chance of persuading your children to do the right thing if you are calm in the way you present your opinions."
"Encouraging children to talk to you honestly without judgement means they will always come to you when they're in trouble. It's also healthy they learn that no one will ever always agree with one another. Another lost art is that of debating!"
When Rebekah Tayebi, a clinical therapist and family coach, looks at toxic family systems, one thing that becomes really evident to her is seeing that the children are more attuned to the needs of the parents. That means, the typical parent-child relationship is inverted and there's confusion about what appropriate boundaries should be in place.
"The hard part for children in these environments is that which is like so many of us, is that we might start to mirror the dysfunction that we're seeing," Tayebi said. That's the reason why it's so important to start to catch negative patterns in the moment and try to eradicate them.
I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here
"Parenting is hard, there's no manual, we're all simply trying to navigate our children through choppy waters and this ever challenging life to be kind and strong," Broadbent concluded. "We also want them to have fun. Childhood is precious. I also think showing my own children my own vulnerabilities has encouraged greater empathy in them and they've understood early on that I'm a real human being not a womb on legs."
What some parents apparently forget is that they need their kids just as much as their little ones need them. When Broadbent had a big operation on her thyroid, for example, she was amazed to find just how much her children can support her during a difficult time.
I don't know, maybe some of the parent-child relationships we see on r/InsaneParents are beyond saving. But I hope they can at least act as a reminder for the rest of us to cherish ours.
I Decided To Finally Go Vaccinated Behind My Anti-Vax Parent's Back!
Insane Parents
Should've Stayed At Home
Yeah and school was because i was born too dumb...SoRrY eVeRyOnE
Essential Oils Don’t Work
Those people should be charged with murder, manslaughter or child endangerment (whatever it comes under).
An Insane Mom
Insane Parents
Father Tries To Say He Put Me Through College. My 1k Monthly Loan Payments Say Otherwise
Yup, sounds like something my ex did. My grown daughter called him out infront of everyone he knows. It was awesome. He didn't want to be a part of her life not the other way around.
Insane Parents
Oh Yes They Will...
Insane Parents Destroy Their Child’s Art Tablet For... Not Getting Up On Time
Is Violence The Answer ? I Don't Think So
What a disgusting piece of garbage, you just don't do that and you don't brag about it either.
Never Thought My Mom Was That Insane But I Guess Jesus Is Anti-Metal Straw. Sorry If It Doesn't Seem Serious, I Can't Take Anything Seriously
Hypocritical, Awful And Abusive
"every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child"
Raised By Insane Parents Feels
That’s exactly how I feel, I’ve been lucky and I don’t even know anyone who has had covid. But this isn’t even my top 10 worst years of my life.
My Mother Blamed Me For Her Suicidal Tendencies. I'm 15
Because His Kid Didn't Do Homework?
what the f**k? i feel sorry for both kid and doggo, won't be surprised if kid will hold grudge on parents for eons...
Check Mate, Religious Insane Parents
Maybe I can get all those years of rent back from my parents. They're religious nutjobs.
Poor Kid
Abusing Child Support
Lady Tries To Blame Vaccines After Her Son Contracts Hiv
My Dad Charges Me $300 A Month For Rent And Refuses To Let Me Move Out. After Spending The Weekend With My Boyfriend, I Received This
What the actual, she needs to get out of that house and away from that nasty piece of crap.
Using Your Daughter’s Entire College Fund To Pay For Your Crappy Pyramid Scheme Products
This Was By Far The Worst Incident. I Was In 2nd Grade, 7-8 Years Old And Just Went Through Some Of The Worst Trauma Of My Life And My Mom Was More Worried About Going To Vegas Then My Health
Children Aren’t Slaves, Apologize When You’re Supposed To
Found It On Facebook
My Moms Response When I Came Out To Her. Haven’t Talked To Them For Two Weeks Now
I am so mad right now... she worked up all her courage and she get's this :(
I Didn't Want To Give My Jehovah's Witness Dad My Password Because I Was Texting A Girl And He Smashed It With An Axe And Then Beat Me. That Was 5 Years Ago And Today I'm Happily Living Together With That Girl
I Definitely Hope I Can "Indoctrinate" My Children Into Believing In Human Rights
Just A Cold
You just endangered hundreds of people and at least a few will die. You belong in prison.
Imagine Being A Pos Who Not Only Pulls Their Kid Out Of School Due To Not Wanting To Vaccinate Him But Also Broadcast His Misery In An Attempt To Get People To Side With You...
Parents "React" To Their 6 Year Old's Report Card For Views
I Don't Understand How Scientology Came Into Play
Oh, the ignorance is terrifying. I hope some of those 73 comments set them straight.
You Should Be Grateful
This Was Not Posted In A Joking Way
Thats devastating to do to someone. Not only physically but mentally and emotionally.
“A 5 Year Old Is Perfectly Capable Of Fending For Himself”
I think the father should be packing the bags and taking the child. She is not right in the head if she truly thinks what she did was fine. Isn't there laws about this kind of thing.
Update: I’m Immunocompromised And My Mom Refused To Let Me Isolate. Now I Have The Coronavirus
A Question That Came Into One Of My Local Radio Stations
Spare The Rod
Yeah spanking always seemed a tautology of a punishment: *smack* "how many times do I have to tell you [name]?! *smack* We. Do. Not. Hit. People!" *smack*
Glad I Have A Good Relationship With My Parents
Idiot
How can anyone not see that giving a kid this age alcohol, caffeine or sugar is just giving them an early start on addiction?
My Fiance's Mom When We First Started Dating
Imagine Posting This And Being Proud Of The Anger That You Just Took Out On This Kid's Form Of Entertainment
A Friend Of Mine Who’s 27 Years Old
You could have fun with this and hide some weird and random stuff in your bin.
Her Brother Died Of Measles, But She Still Won’t Vaccinate Her Child Against It
Breaking A 7-Year-Old's Heart On Christmas
And Guess What She’d Have Blamed Her Son’s Autism On If She Did Vaccinate?
"i did all the right things. Had a natural birth, DiDn'T vAcCiNaTe, breastfed on d e m a n d for a year, fed a healthy diet..." Your's truly, -Seeking Sympathy 2020
My 5yo Child Is Enrolling In School And They Say I Can’t Come And Breastfeed Him. I’m Being Discriminated Against!
I've said it before and I'll say it again - this is why I hate when people are pushing the "Everyone should respect their parents" idea. Yes - there are many great parents and they deserve recognition, respect and care. But there are also, unfortunately, many parents like these and their children deserve support and understanding when they decide to stop seeing them and cease contact. If you're in that situation - I admire you, it's immensely tough to stand up to your parents and even harder to actually cut them out of your lives. May you find better people to have around who'll make your family. Because blood doesn't make a family. Love does.
I'll type here what I typed below: The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Load More Replies...I don know what to say. I live in a situation like this, but I'm scared to share because I'm worried somehow I'll get in trouble. all I can say is: Other kids in this situation, they may make you think that you're a failure, that you're useless, that you deserve whats happening to you. it's not. it's really not. never forget it.
Dear Pineapple and flowers, Thank you for reaching out. Just like you said to all those other kids, you do not deserve this. This is not your fault. The abuser is at fault, the abuser is responsible. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve love and respect over and over again, only love.
Load More Replies...I've said it before and I'll say it again - this is why I hate when people are pushing the "Everyone should respect their parents" idea. Yes - there are many great parents and they deserve recognition, respect and care. But there are also, unfortunately, many parents like these and their children deserve support and understanding when they decide to stop seeing them and cease contact. If you're in that situation - I admire you, it's immensely tough to stand up to your parents and even harder to actually cut them out of your lives. May you find better people to have around who'll make your family. Because blood doesn't make a family. Love does.
I'll type here what I typed below: The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Load More Replies...I don know what to say. I live in a situation like this, but I'm scared to share because I'm worried somehow I'll get in trouble. all I can say is: Other kids in this situation, they may make you think that you're a failure, that you're useless, that you deserve whats happening to you. it's not. it's really not. never forget it.
Dear Pineapple and flowers, Thank you for reaching out. Just like you said to all those other kids, you do not deserve this. This is not your fault. The abuser is at fault, the abuser is responsible. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve love and respect over and over again, only love.
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