I don't blame this guy. If you've ever had someone with Celiacs in your life, you know the horrible s**t that they have to go through just to eat. I can't stand it when people are insensitive to this, and it's made worse by the normies who demonize gluten.

I wouldn't just kick them out of my house, I'd cut them off completely. If you can't afford a roof over your head, don't mess with the lives of people who give you one.

They might as well as have been cooking with poison in the end. Maybe he should prepare some fried chicken with maybe a little too much laxative powder mixed in for the sister and mother's personal consumption.

Never mess with people's food. I don't care if it's because they have known allergies or illnesses, or if it's they say they don't like it. Just respect it and move on. Ask my mom and she'll tell you that I had no allergies as a child and that she thinks it's strange that I have them now. That I refused to eat certain foods as a child was because I was rude and me becoming sick was me faking it. It was all in my head according to her. It was when I had kids of my own, who also has food allergies, that I finally got diagnosed too. Life without constant stomach pain is amazing! Being able to sit at the table and eat without being nauseous and gasping for air is fantastic! There are more people like me out there. They know they don't like to eat some foods, but don't know it's because of allergies. I told a colleague this and she told me she didn't like to eat shrimp and avoided it all her life. Then one day there was a work meeting with lunch and someone didn't respect her request for "no shrimp". She ate one before realizing it was there. The next she couldn't breathe and they had to call an ambulance for her. Listen to people when it comes to food. Their reason is theirs to have.

They should get a service dog trained to detect gluten. That would be life-changing for the poor daughter. F**k only 10 and having to deal with this b******t!

How are you on the brink of homelessness and the ONE rule you have to abide by in order to keep a roof over your head is to NOT prepare food that makes your niece sick? I can't with people.

Definitely NTA. I am a celiac and share your daughter's fear of food. I spent so much of my life afraid to eat because it always made me feel sick. I am not as severe, as your daughter, but even a small amount of gluten can make me sick for WEEKS. If I get glutened, it takes about 2 weeks and a special, even more strict diet before feeling better. It isn't as if there is an oops and I have one bad night, it takes weeks of recovery. I do often feel like an AH or a pain in the bum because of my disease. I feel like I miss out on so much. I hate that my family has to take special precautions or that I can't eat at certain restaurants because I do not feel safe. You are definitely not an AH for keeping your daughter safe.

To me, it doesn't really matter why the rule was made. It IS a rule, and should be followed. The first time it was broken, I would've been angry. The second time, I would've been livid. And there would've been no third time. Sis would've been out on her a**e when I had to replace most of the stuff in my kitchen because of her idiocy. The sheer audacity of the GUESTS in this situation is astounding.

Making the nephews also homeless is tough, as it's not their fault, but you got to look after your kids. I have a friend whose daughter (in her 20s) has had severe eating disorder, and has been hospitalized several times. This poor girl is at such high risk (and clearly already suffers from severe anxiety as well as a serious illness). What her aunt did was cruel. I lived in an apartment with ONLY a kitchenette. I made lots of large meals in there, and it was a pain, but doable. So this was really just not wanting to be inconvenienced, and instead putting this girl through hell. For the sake of argument, let's say this girl had nothing physically wrong with her, and just had food anxiety alone. It would STILL be cruel what this woman was doing, and the grandmother should be banned from the house too in my opinion.

I don’t have celiacs but have worked with students who do and it goes far beyond an allergy. It could be life threatening because their body cannot process it at all. I don’t think he should let his sister back in the house

As someone who has a sibling with ZERO respect for anyone's boundaries but their own, I believe the OP is right in sending the sister and mom out of his family's life. I thought this was too harsh myself, until a therapist walked me through my sib's behavior and reminded me that one CAN take a restraining order out on a family member. I didn't, but went LC/NC. Bottom line: If you won't tolerate that behavior from a stranger, your family doesn't get a pass either. It's not worth the trauma to the OP's own family.

Dude as a person who lost an organ and endured starvation because my body stopped absorbing nutrients and parent of a daughter who has spent hospital time inpatient -- both because of celiac disease-- f**k these f*****s right in the ear. People die from celiac disease. And this child is deeply traumatized. I see it in my kid, too. People laugh about how grown up she is when she's offered food and she'll say something like, "Is there any wheat, barley, or rye in this?" Like no, dude, it's not funny. She shouldn't be AFRAID of food. She's also on the edge of an eating disorder. Things have gotten much better now that we have an entirely gluten free home, including dog food. It truly makes a difference.

People like the OPs sister and mom disgust me. How dare they purposefully do something that they KNOW will hurt a child and then act like the victims! I hope they are permanently out of the OPs life!

Totally within his rights to kick her out. Close relatives always end up being the worst kind of "family".

NTA. If he does agree with his wife and give out one last chance, first take both the sister, her children and his mother along to his daughter's medical team and get their help thoroughly explaining the disease and its symptoms and risks. At the moment the OP may just be coming across to them as overprotective and following trends - clearly they need far better information from medical authorities.

Sister would have been gone after the chicken incident. The box of pasta? Unless they make their own gluten free pasta, any they get in the grocery have been sitting on a shelf next to boxes of regular pasta, anyway. She forgot. It was still in a box. Okay. The fried chicken, though, was deliberate and done in front of a child having a panic attack over it. A child whose home you are begging a roof from. Then to have to tear the kitchen apart, buy new cookware and cutlery, and watch your child regress to the point of self-starvation?! She’d have been gone then. Keeping the kids is both kind and generous, but she’d have been gone. This third time? I’d have called the police. That was a deliberate assault.

As someone who has celiac disease, lactose intolerance and is a vegetarian...food boundaries are NON-Negotiable. We are supposed to feel safe nourishing our bodies, not afraid. NTA!!!!

That sounds incredibly horrible. I have coeliac but I only react strongly to barley, so I was diagnosed very late at 30 —after about TWO DECADES of being incredibly tired and low energy. I had vitamin deficiencies and severe anemia, and I was only given depression medication that made me even sleepier. I also about doubled my weight, because after growing up in a neglectful home and finally moving out, I actually could eat whatever whenever I wanted, and suddenly the "I never feel hungry" (I could go days without eating proper food during my late childhood/teens bc I was too anxious to go eat in front of my family) changed into "I am ALWAYS hungry". So I pretty much only stayed awake long enough to get absolute minimum done to be able to afford rent and food, napped a lot, ate, and cried, and slept some more. Sleeping 16 hrs a night was regular occurrence to me.

I cannot fathom OP's wife thinks OP's sister should be given another chance. Another chance to potentially kill or maim your child? Wtf? They'd have been out of my house by the fried chicken.

NTA. He's literally trying to save his daughter's life. My sister has celiac. It destroys your gastrointestinal system if left untreated and constantly abused.

Absolutely NTA. Celiac disease is very serious, especially when one is one the severe spectrum. When gluten is introduced it is extremely painful once it gets to the gut. It actually does damage to the lining of the gut. Enough damage will interfere with the absorption of nutrients. That’s why before the disease was figured out and a solution found, pictures of children with the disease had enlarged abdomens and were almost emaciated because essentially they were starving. Yes. The kitchen does have to be adjusted to separate things for his daughter and things for the rest of the family and does not cross over. One of my dearest friends has it and has to be oh so careful. If mistakes are made, she is doubled over in pain. Ignorant, inconsiderate and no consideration for his daughter’s safety and well being at all. Keep her away from their very toxic and dangerous behaviour.

Your house your rules.

On the food front I'm allergic to almost all fruit and anything even slightly cabbage related. It's not dangerous per se but can cause some horrible spasms and pain if I eat any. If anyone living with me would try anything like this they would be out. Allergy and auto immune diseases are nothing to sneeze at (hah).

This is why everyone gets mad when people lie about food allergies and intolerances. It's become so normalized for people to say "oh I'm allergic to gluten" when there's nothing actually wrong with them that now when someone with actual celiac disease comes along everyone just rolls their eyes and disregards them.

Recently retired registered nurse here.. With a gluten ALLERGY. YES- ALLERGY! The recent changes in medical information re celiac vs allergy is tremendous! For several years they thought having the gene positive meant you are celiac. Not anymore. Very, very few people who have DQ2 or DQ8 have celiac. The ONLY way to know if you are celiac is by small intestine biopsy. You CAN have a gluten ALLERGY. Thst foes not mean you are celiac. It means you have an allergy just like you can have an allergy to anything. You can't just say "oh, I'm allergic". You must be tested and result positive for allergy. I have been tested and am allergic. I do not have celiac disease. My allergy is significant and my home is gluten free. So many people just say they are celiac possibly for attention? Mental problems? It is very real in some people but must be documented with a biopsy. Show your sister and mother medical documentation (up to date testing.) Knowledge has changed.

Forget just throwing them out; I would have straight up murdered them.

NTA! The fact that both your sister AND mother have repeatedly and deliberately put everyone in that house in danger is enough to drop them on their asses and out the door,broken jaw optional. I mean what's it going to take? Seeing either child laid up in ICU being treated for life-threatening reactions because of their medical conditions to get your rules to stick in both Aunts and Grandma's thick skulls?! JFC!

Celiac is not an allergy, it’s an autoimmune disorder. Unfortunately society has desensitized people to the term allergy. Especially since it is so common for people to claim an allergy for an intolerance or even just to describe something they don’t like. Maybe if OP described celiac as it is, an autoimmune disorder, his family may make different associations with as more serious. Regardless, the rules where blatant and brazenly ignored which is entirely disrespectful to the family.

im 10 and gluten free i had to go to the hostpital because 1 noodle at the olive garden were i live the was a mean staff who did not care about gf so i ate it and we did not realize till 2 days later i went into coma for 2 weeks and i woke up but then 2 hours later i went back in a coma for 8 days more they had to get the gluten out i was in terbal conditoin i still am afraid of evan looking at gluten

I am sitting here, doubled over in pain because something I ate is yet another allergen I've recently acquired. Gluten is one of the worst and I have learned how many places have hidden gluten. What idiots offer a gluten free bun for their burgers but still use binders in their burgers that contain gluten? More than you'd think.

I just wanted to put something out there for the record to clarify....lactose intolerance may not be life threatening but a person can also have a dairy or lactose allergy which is indeed life threatening. I saw in the news about a child being hit in the face with milk at school and dying from the allergic reaction it caused. And as a lactose intolerant person myself, let me assure you that the horrible stomach cramps and diarrhea it causes can stop you in your tracks, enough to cause you to have to go home from school or work. Having that day in and day out can become debilitating. I think having the attitude that if something won't kill someone it's ok is pretty crappy, too.

OMG no sympathy. OPs sister moved into his home and from day one said FU to him and his family, I will do as I please and essentially gaslit all of them even when asked to stop. Sister got her a**e handed to her .. lesson, don't set fire to a bridge you need then be all shock picchu face when the party you wronged stands on the other side with a flame thrower.

So you are wealthy enough to have a home with a basement apartment and be able to throw out cookware without concern for the cost and your sister can't afford to put a roof over her head. Hmmmm. She's jealous. Ignoring your kid's medically mandated food needs is the weirdest sibling rivalry flex I've ever seen but that's what it is. Byyyye, sister. Ain't nobody got time for that.

Zero compassion! The sister never even considered how difficult life is for her poor neice. Every birthday party, every Thanksgiving dinner and everybody judging you like your spoiled or something. Geez. I worked at a gluten free restaurant. A lady told me that she and the man she loves almost couldn't be together because of his celiac disease UNTIL she discovered that for some odd reason there was gluten in her lip gloss so she was able to kiss him without making him sick!!! It's not made up or psychological. Hope he sticks to his guns and keeps that woman out his house.

I have a seafront property in Arizona for sale...

Out the door and no more contact.

I met a guy in culinary school who had celiac. Sounds crazy. But he wanted to make great dishes for people like him. (This was before the whole gluten thing blew up. 2008) He was scary thin. He had to pause/leave school b/c he physically didn't have the energy and needed to focus on himself. Saying "I can't have gluten" is not a fad diet for some people. It's real and can be cruel.

The meal could have been completely completely gluten free. But of course Grandma and aunt are ah. I know it can be done it because I am allergic to wheat. I do not have celiac. This confuses the hell out of people. But there is a major difference.

NTA. Living with food allergies and sensitivities as an adult is hard enough, as a child it’s soo much worse. Your family are the people you are suppose to be able to count on. To be safe around. Sadly too often this isn’t the case. Someone mentioned your sister and mother most likely gossip about your overreacting to your daughter’s food allergies making it worse. You realize you can press charges against them. Obviously that’s extreme but so is causing harm to not just your daughter but anyone else in that house with food allergies. On a good note there is a bakery in Louisville, KY (Annie May’s Sweet cafe) that ships some of their products. AMAZING. I am a customer that lives 90 minutes away. I get nothing for sharing their name. They are amazing at answering as many questions as many times as you need to ask. Owner has food allergies herself. Customers aren’t allowed to even bring water into the store. I hope this brings a little light to this dark cloud.