Person Has No Mercy On School Bully 15 Years Later When He Comes For A Job Interview
Bullying is linked to many negative effects, including mental health issues and substance abuse. However, even though Reddit user No_Conversation6077 has had a fair share of experiences with it, he turned out well. The man made a name for himself in the tech industry, rising to a high-ranking management role after years of hard work.
But as he explained on the subreddit ‘True Off My Chest,’ the days of torment came back the instant he realized that one of the applicants he had to screen for a position within his company was Brad — a guy who played a big part in making his teenage years a living hell.
This recruiter saw that his high school bully applied for a position at the company he worked for
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And found himself grappling with emotions from the past
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Bullies often maintain aggressive behavior in adulthood
It’s understandable that the author of the post was distressed by the encounter even now that he’s grown up.
About 20% of people who have been bullied experience some kind of mental health problems later in life, even at the age of 50. While some of these, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), are easy to spot, others may be more difficult to recognize and can range from inexplicable bouts of anger to a lifetime of feeling inferior to other people.
“Although there has been an immense amount of research on bullying, most of it has focused on immediate effects, intervention and prevention. So we need more research on long-term effects and new forms of bullying, such as online abuse,” Calli Tzani, lecturer in Investigative Psychology at the University of Huddersfield, wrote.
“That said, severe long-term effects of bullying are relatively well documented. Research has shown that victims of bullying report more severe anxiety symptoms than others. Being bullied is also linked to social anxiety, which often lasts into adulthood and increases the risk of developing personality disorders.”
Bullying can also lead to health problems, alcohol and drug abuse, social withdrawal, and severe trust issues. For many victims who are trying to overcome these experiences, the loss of trust is one of the most challenging consequences.
Luckily, the Redditor seems to have built a good life for himself.
While some individuals take their own initiative to face their past bullies in adulthood and seek answers for their victimization, such encounters sometimes have the exact opposite results.
Research shows that bullies often maintain aggressive behavior in adulthood. So the fact that “Brad” tried to pressure No_Conversation6077 into giving him a good review isn’t that surprising.
As people shared their reactions to the story and chatted with its author, some also shared their own similar experiences
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That one person saying "Don't bully, you never know what job it'll cost you."... As if kids are thinking about that. Come on. Don't bully because it's a s****y thing to do and damages others emotionally. Not because you might someday lose a job because of it.
Some people of any age don't care about the damage. So I'd throw the lost opportunities in with the ethical issues. Also the example of someone who was a mouthy kid, but stood up for others (she became an advocate for human rights). In other words, use your big mouth for something good.
Load More Replies... There is an old saying that I like: "when you go to seek vengeance, first dig two graves. One for the person on whom you are visiting vengeance and one for yourself." Like you, my high school years were hell. My home life was threatening and my school life was being bullied and abused. Years later I ran into someone I knew from high school, someone who led a lot of the bullying. I had the opportunity to make her life hell, but I decided not to do anything. Why? Because it would have cost ME too much. I had done a great deal of healing by that point and felt proud and comfortable in my life. Screwing up her life would have taken me back to those awful days. Letting it go and treating her fairly and with some compassion helped reinforce my own healing. Just to be clear: I really am not judging you or what you did. We each have to find our own way toward true healing and a more balanced life.
Although I completely respect your decision and commend you, I don’t share the same sentiments. Taking the high road never teaches lessons to those who wrong you, so for me my philosophy is “when they swing low, you swing lower.”
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I wouldn't p**s on my bullies if they were on fire. I graduated 30 years ago and the trauma I experienced still effects me to this day.
That one person saying "Don't bully, you never know what job it'll cost you."... As if kids are thinking about that. Come on. Don't bully because it's a s****y thing to do and damages others emotionally. Not because you might someday lose a job because of it.
Some people of any age don't care about the damage. So I'd throw the lost opportunities in with the ethical issues. Also the example of someone who was a mouthy kid, but stood up for others (she became an advocate for human rights). In other words, use your big mouth for something good.
Load More Replies... There is an old saying that I like: "when you go to seek vengeance, first dig two graves. One for the person on whom you are visiting vengeance and one for yourself." Like you, my high school years were hell. My home life was threatening and my school life was being bullied and abused. Years later I ran into someone I knew from high school, someone who led a lot of the bullying. I had the opportunity to make her life hell, but I decided not to do anything. Why? Because it would have cost ME too much. I had done a great deal of healing by that point and felt proud and comfortable in my life. Screwing up her life would have taken me back to those awful days. Letting it go and treating her fairly and with some compassion helped reinforce my own healing. Just to be clear: I really am not judging you or what you did. We each have to find our own way toward true healing and a more balanced life.
Although I completely respect your decision and commend you, I don’t share the same sentiments. Taking the high road never teaches lessons to those who wrong you, so for me my philosophy is “when they swing low, you swing lower.”
Load More Replies... I wouldn't p**s on my bullies if they were on fire. I graduated 30 years ago and the trauma I experienced still effects me to this day.
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