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Family Angry With Guy For Scaring Off Deadbeat Bro’s New 18YO GF With The Ugly Truth
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Family Angry With Guy For Scaring Off Deadbeat Bro’s New 18YO GF With The Ugly Truth

Family Angry With Guy For Scaring Off Deadbeat Bro’s New 18YO GF With The Ugly Truth Family Against Man After He Protected 18YO By Telling The Truth About His 26YO Brother's CharacterMan Doesn’t Want To See Teen’s Life Destroyed By Dating His Bro, Tells Her About His Lifestyle Guy Doesn’t Want 18YO Wasting Her Life With His Deadbeat 26YO Bro, Tells Her Everything About HimGuy Faces Family's Wrath After Revealing His 26YO Brother Is A Total Loser To His New 18YO GFDeadbeat 26YO Dates 18YO, Sibling Warns Her About His Bro, Full Family Turns On Him For Doing SoGuy Spills The Beans On How Horrid His 26YO Brother Is To His 18YO GF, Faces Backlash From FamilyFamily Angry With Guy For Scaring Off Deadbeat Bro’s New 18YO GF With The Ugly Truth Family Angry With Guy For Scaring Off Deadbeat Bro’s New 18YO GF With The Ugly Truth
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Relationships are complicated, and it’s difficult to explain why different people are drawn to one another. There are certain couples that definitely shouldn’t be together, yet somehow, they manage to make things work. Outsiders or family members might voice their concerns, but sometimes, even the best advice falls on deaf ears.

This is what a man experienced when he realized his good-for-nothing brother had started dating a very young woman. He decided to intervene because he was worried his sibling would ruin her life.

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It’s difficult to remain objective or neutral if you know a member of your family is about to make a huge mistake

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The man shared that his 26-year-old brother is  a “leech” and has wasted every opportunity he ever got, which is why he has to live with their parents and keeps borrowing money

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The poster found out his brother was dating their 18-year-old family friend whom they had known since childhood, and he was worried his brother would ruin her life and career

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The man decided to protect the woman and told her exactly what his brother was like and what would happen to her if she continued dating him

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Even though he had the woman’s best interests at heart, his family is “disgusted” with him for ruining his brother’s “source of happiness”

The man explained that his brother has always been a layabout who kept passing up on good opportunities and relying on everyone else to bail him out. The problem is also that their family members support the brother and constantly tiptoe around his feelings. This is probably why he keeps making the same mistakes and has never wanted to change his behavior.

This type of enabling behavior can actually stunt an individual’s mental growth. Parents might do it to protect their kids from uncomfortable situations or to cover up for their mistakes. They don’t realize that it takes away opportunities for the child to learn how to manage things on their own and right their wrongs.

The OP has seen his brother date many different women and turn their lives upside down. Those women had either quit their jobs or dropped out of school after getting into a relationship with him. That’s why, when he realized that their 18-year-old family friend was dating his brother, he knew he had to protect her.

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Many people do enable deadbeats because they feel that the other person might change or become better over time. Unfortunately, such freeloaders just take advantage of the helpers around them and might end up causing problems in other folks’ lives. This is probably why the OP felt like it was his duty to protect the woman from his brother.

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The poster immediately rushed over to her parents’ house to tell the woman everything he could about his brother. Although he left the final choice up to her, he warned her what would happen if she continued with the relationship. Even though he was trying to save her from a bad situation, his family members did not see it that way and vilified him for his actions.

In most cases, you should try your best to keep out of other people’s personal matters. Everyone’s relationship is different, and they might do things in a way that you may not be comfortable with. Experts do say we can offer our unsolicited perspective in exceptional cases if our loved ones are dealing with very difficult problems.

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Netizens were also worried about the age gap between the two people. According to psychologists, relationships with big age gaps can work if two people trust, care about, and respect one another. Judging by the OP’s description of his brother, it doesn’t seem like the man had any good intentions when he started dating the young woman.

Even though the brother’s happiness was “ruined” by the OP telling his girlfriend everything, at least he didn’t get to ruin her life. Do you think the man did the right thing by interfering in his brother’s love life?

People sided with the poster and told him he did good by telling her the truth

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Ms.GB
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really weird that they interpret him dating a teenager as "getting back on his feet." Are they hoping she'll financially support him with the degree she's trying to earn? It looks like they're hoping to p**n him off on some poor naive girl with a future so he's no longer their burden.

Monica G
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents hope there will come a girl to take him off their house. I was in a similar situatio. My PIL got rid of the problem chikd when he moved in with me. One failed project after another he strung me out for decades. Squeezed the life out of me untill I finally realized he has NPD and alk promises were just phantasies.

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TruthoftheHeart
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That age Gap alone was a reason for her not to be with his brother somebody 18 should not be with someone 8 years older than them if you were to go 8 years younger than her the person would be 10 she is not at an age where that kind of age Gap is appropriate. Also no grown a*s man needs to have a barely legal teenager as a girlfriend, it just shows what kind of mental maturity he has. If a man that much older than you was trying to be with you at 18. RUN

Suzie
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he told his parents that their golden child needs to get back on his feet (was he ever on his feet to begin with?) before he attempts a relationship.

Papa
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was thinking he should ask them why they're enabling his poor behavior instead of making him stand on his own two feet. As a radio personality I have listened to in the past would often say when someone described a similar situation, "That boy needs some problems."

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Ms.GB
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really weird that they interpret him dating a teenager as "getting back on his feet." Are they hoping she'll financially support him with the degree she's trying to earn? It looks like they're hoping to p**n him off on some poor naive girl with a future so he's no longer their burden.

Monica G
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents hope there will come a girl to take him off their house. I was in a similar situatio. My PIL got rid of the problem chikd when he moved in with me. One failed project after another he strung me out for decades. Squeezed the life out of me untill I finally realized he has NPD and alk promises were just phantasies.

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TruthoftheHeart
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That age Gap alone was a reason for her not to be with his brother somebody 18 should not be with someone 8 years older than them if you were to go 8 years younger than her the person would be 10 she is not at an age where that kind of age Gap is appropriate. Also no grown a*s man needs to have a barely legal teenager as a girlfriend, it just shows what kind of mental maturity he has. If a man that much older than you was trying to be with you at 18. RUN

Suzie
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope he told his parents that their golden child needs to get back on his feet (was he ever on his feet to begin with?) before he attempts a relationship.

Papa
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was thinking he should ask them why they're enabling his poor behavior instead of making him stand on his own two feet. As a radio personality I have listened to in the past would often say when someone described a similar situation, "That boy needs some problems."

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