Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is “Live Streaming” In Another Room

It’s easy to get hate on the internet, but one man has just become one of the biggest villains on Reddit, and it sounds like he totally deserved it.

A few days ago, his wife turned to the platform’s ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ community to share a conflict that she just had with him, which involved the man neglecting their child in favor of bolstering his YouTube channel.

Apparently, the channel has 14,000 followers and he’s a big fan of live streaming, saying that his followers “are good for his mental health and that engaging with them weekly makes him become better at socializing and communicating.” But with the couple’s 7-month-old child, the husband keeps complaining that he doesn’t have enough time to do this.

The wife, however, thought it was a sacrifice he was willing to make for their daughter. Until recently when she came back from the grocery store.

This man couldn’t strike a balance between parenting and streaming, and his 7-month-old daughter had to bear the consequences

Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is "Live Streaming" In Another Room

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Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is "Live Streaming" In Another Room

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Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is "Live Streaming" In Another Room

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While ignoring a child’s needs is inexcusable, parents must remember that raising children as a team is about working together, agreeing on a shared approach, making decisions together, and supporting each other.

It’s not just about agreeing on things like children’s bedtimes, family nutrition, or discipline (even though these points are really important too), but also about you and your partner sharing responsibilities such as chores, paying the bills, handling paperwork, earning an income, and so on.

Talya Stone, a former public relations specialist turned blogger and the woman behind online journals Motherhood: The Real Deal and 40 Now What, who shares bold and authentic takes on a variety of topics including parenting and emotional well-being, has also covered parental disagreements between partners. She said that, at least in her own experience, communication is the key. “Even though you may not need clearly defined responsibilities, it’s important to sit down and discuss your approach to both parenting and the domestic scene, and the sharing of duties to enable a more collaborative approach to both aspects,” Stone told Bored Panda. “This also helps to minimize confusion and the potential for arguments and resentment stemming from either!”

Raising children as a team gets easier with time and practice. But experts say there are also some skills that help you with parenting teamwork. These include:

problem-solving – this means finding new and creative solutions in situations where you’re stuck or can’t work through family issues;
managing conflict – this means managing and resolving disagreements in a collaborative and positive way;
talking and listening – this means communicating in ways that help you connect and strengthen your relationship;
backing each other up – this means parenting in consistent and supportive ways;
accepting each other – this means living with and valuing each other’s differences.

Staying healthy, managing stress, and looking after yourself more can generally give you increased energy.

“As parents, it’s so important to retain a sense of self—both for us and for our children,” Stone said. “While I do think you need to be on the same page with your partner on parenting, it’s important to honor your individual personalities and quirks, and I think that children really benefit from being exposed to and nurtured with these differences in the mix.”

The mom believes it all adds to the rich tapestry of life and would otherwise result in raising automatons.

Most people thought the husband was out of his mind

Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is "Live Streaming" In Another Room

With so many things going on, it’s only natural that every now and then, parents have differences in opinion. Again, the emphasis should be on tackling them—unresolved issues can lead to fractures in the relationship and possibly even divorce or separation.

“It’s important to talk about and address issues as they come up, rather than letting them build up and fester which usually results in a bigger conflict,” Talya Stone said. “I wouldn’t say it’s about keeping them contained, so much as recognizing the issues as they present themselves, then setting aside time to discuss them in a calm manner rather than in the heat of the moment which typically doesn’t end well.”

The consequences of having prolonged differences in parenting can lead to more conflict, emotional and physical disconnect, lack of trust, and certain negative behavioral changes, so it’s vital to strive for a more unified approach.

It’s also worth remembering that every parent makes mistakes. You and your partner aren’t exempt from this universal truth either.

But if something huge comes up, and the two of you can’t resolve your differences in a respectful way, you may want to consider seeing a mental health professional.

Try to truly understand the reasoning behind the other parent’s stance by building upon common ground and working back to the cause of the problem.

But some called out the mother’s suspicious 4-hour grocery run

Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is "Live Streaming" In Another Room

Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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Spannidandoolar 2 years ago

I love how because she's female they are all classing her 4 hour grocery (and I assume other household essentials/errands) trip as "me time" for her and therefore she is TA. HOUSEHOLD TASKS DO NOT COUNT AS TIME FOR YOURSELF!

155points

JazzyfromtheNati 2 years ago

Exactly!! Cuz her shopping for him, her and their infant is her f*****g hobby! Good grief this planet is doomed

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Candice Cook 2 years ago

Right? And if you have the misfortune of having kids with a person that ultimately turns out to be a terrible coparent(and I did so I can say with certainty), you can't even go to the grocery store or run errands alone without feeling an enormous amount of stress and anxiety. That's definitely how I'd describe a desirable micro vacay. Gimme a break. If people think grocery shopping is acceptable "me time" they are so out of touch with reality. If that's your one and only break from your child...omg that's the kind of people that end up on the news when they inevitably lose. their. s**t.

26points

Lorraine Isaac 2 years ago

I used to take an hour or so to go grocery shopping in the evening when my son was 2, and I was pregnant with my second. I was a SAHM, and we only had one car, so I couldn't go during the day very easily. When I got home my husband would say, "Happy now, you have had an outing?" Um....I was grocery shopping. I wasn't having coffee or drinks with friends. Yes, it got me out of the house, but it wasn't exactly fun.

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Andrea Cranford 2 years ago

There are tons of reasons a shopping trip could take longer. Sometimes you might have to stop at different stores for different products or run errands as well as go grocery shopping. A lot of things can pile up when you have a new baby. She might be one of those Costco/Sam's Club people who do 1 shopping trip a month/season/year and buy in bulk. That stuff takes a long time to gather up and you might need help to pull down the large products. She could be disabled. My mom has mobility issues, but refuses to use one of those motorized carts. She also likes to hunt for bargains on every aisle. Some days, it can take several hours to finish. The OP also said she was "gone" for 4 hours, not necessarily shopping. Traffic could have been terrible. She might live a long distance from the store. She could have stopped for gas, saw the price and wept for a solid 2 hours. None of this matters. the OP's husband AGREED to watch the baby then snuck off to play games like a teenager.

24points

The Oak Tree Journeys 2 years ago

He also agreed to wait! People seem to ignore that part. She heard his needs and was willing to discuss them after she got back. He agreed to those terms then broke the agreement and neglected his child If he'd been a babysitter instead of the dad, he would have been fired on the spot!

3points

michael a 2 years ago

My 1 trip to the store 1/3 the time reminds me to hit up other stores I've put off going too on my off days. Even worse is when one errand turns to five and on your day off. Also, as a disabled person (SCI) who took care of my mother with Dementia, you can not leave a person in a soiled state for any amount of time because Skin Breakdown is very serious to ALL Humans of Any Age.

3points

Denise Painter 2 years ago

This right here.

2points

Monkeywrench Productions 2 years ago

no.. the bottle of wine in the mid afternoon after youre done counts as me time

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Julie Hoefer 2 years ago

but chances are she dawdled and checked up on him, already knowing he FAILS.....

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Health Investigators 2 years ago

Yes they do . It’s shopping not planting the groceries. Stop acting as if it’s 1950s 2022… and for two adults 4 hour shopping trips lol sick with the bs ..

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justin price 2 years ago

You're the one applying gender here. I'm male and going out shopping, even for groceries, is me time. Put on headphones, don't need to interact with anyone else except paying or do anything particularly stressful or mentally exhausting. Where you pulled 'because she's a women' out of, maybe reevaluate.

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Jeff Lum 2 years ago

It's because she obviously wasn't grocery shopping you dunce.

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Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Well I live in a small town, so I need to drive about 20-25 minutes to get to the grocery stores every other week. Because I only go twice a month, it's a huge trip. I end up going to 3 stores usually. And yes, my trips are usually 4 hours long. I see no problem with the length of her working trip.

149points

The Other Guest 2 years ago

People forget that not everyone lives 5 minutes from the nearest grocery store. And if it's been a while since they've stocked up, that will increase the time it takes to shop as well. I agree, 4 hours isn't necessarily unreasonable, depending on the circumstances. Heck, I live within a 10 minute drive of multiple grocery stores, and it can still take me 2 hours or so to get everything.

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Cassie 2 years ago

Yea, we used to have to drive an hour each way plus the shopping, which I tried to do the entire month since the trip was so long. Grocery shopping was an all day event for me back then. Besides, even if she is going slow to get a little "me time", I mean, that's pretty sad that the only moments she can catch a break are just doing a different part of her job more slowly. The biggest thing for me, though, was him complaining about his needs not being met after neglecting his baby.

31points

Silre 2 years ago

Same. I sometimes look at my clock and the way home like "Holy s**t! Have I really been gone that long?!" Time flies when you're standing in line at Aldi.

18points

Kady LaHaie 2 years ago

My house is 3 miles from the store and I take at least 3 hours when I do weekly shopping.

10points

Mikey Kliss 2 years ago

I grew up like that too. My wife was even further so the nearest Walmart or Aldis was an hour away

8points

Sarah Bell 2 years ago

She might have even needed a few hours to have a break and he should be able to care for his daughter while mom has a break . My kids are 10f and 5m and we try to do things as a family when their dad is off work since he works 4 on 4 off long shifts they miss him when he's working and they me for the most part on this days. So he tries to spend time with them one on one and just him and them to bond with them and then we spend the rest if the time together as a family of 4.

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The Oak Tree Journeys 2 years ago (edited)

Same here! It takes so long to get anywhere where I live that I just dread it! And she may not have had just groceries to get - there may have been bills to be paid, bank runs, etc. I know when I have to go out I have to do everything all in one trip (and gas is so outrageous now that spreading it out over the course of a week is not an option), so I have to clear out my entire day. So, no 4 hours is not an unreasonable amount of time. Not to mention, she might have sleep deprivation and it may take her a little longer to remember what she needs. Edit: Also, HE agreed to wait until she got back so they could discuss a good time. I'm seeing a ton of comments about how women are horrible grocery shoppers and she's to blame. No. He AGREED to wait until they could discuss a good time when she got back. She heard his needs and was willing to give him the time he needed. He was unwilling to wait - putting his own needs ahead of his child's. This is not a male/female issue, as my brother takes 3 hours just to go to the dollar store, but an issue of neglect and selfishness. He needs parental counselling and to grow up.

3points

I Am LoKitty Of Meowsgard 2 years ago

She said that she decided to go home early after worrying he wasn't doing what she was texting him, so she was planning on spending longer than 4 hours shopping.

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Health Investigators 2 years ago

I live 48 mins from nearest Walmart and still doesn’t take me 4 hours to shop and I shop for a household of 5 stop it. The excuse is trash especially when you shopping for two adults and a 7month old child but as a parent of 3 .. 4 hour naps mid day is normal .. sometimes more .

1point

Ruud 2 years ago (edited)

There is just not enough info. I do a weeks worth of groceries (3 supermarkets, 1 bakery, 1 butcher) within an hour. Plus the 30 min travel time makes 90 min roughly. So 4 hours is way to much for me. But she never explained if 4 hours is reasonable in her situation, which it could be. Just like we have no info of whether the baby was asleep for the whole time, if the baby s**t herself just before she came back, if she was crying, etc. That's what you get when you hear only one side of the story. Perhaps he really is an a*****e and never checked on the baby, our perhaps he checked every hour and the baby had been sleeping and had woken up and s**t herself just before she came back, while she simple assumed he didn't. Eitherway, not enough info in my opinion.

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Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

This is what I was thinking. I lived in a rural area and the nearest grocery store was 35 miles away. It was an all-day trip to go to town, buy groceries, go to Woolworth's, go to the dry cleaners, etc. I did it once a month.

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Becca Hauck 2 years ago

It's not. Husband wants hours of ego stroking. Wife spent hours doing a necessary chore for the entire family. Yet, even if she found her chore pleasant, how is it okay at all to neglect your infant in order to take his "me time"?! He could wait until she was home and tell her he's going to spend time with his fans and then shut the door and lock it. Personally, all the driving and shopping is stressful for me. It's just 10 times worse when you have to also care for an infant while calculating costs, checking labels, etc.

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TCW Sam Vimes 2 years ago

Why is everyone going on about the 4 hours? Seeing how that A-hole of a father couldn't even care for his daughter for 4 hours you can bet he is like this all the time. So she does all the work, AND goes shopping and ends up as the accused? Wow.

56points

Flare The Sexy Incubus 2 years ago

Duke...my TWO parents take hours to shop. They don't go anywhere else. And he was at home.. but wasn't actually watching his daughter...she had a soiled diaper and wasn't even fed. How are going to blame the woman going to buy food for her family, and defend the guy who was SPECIFICALLY asked to watch his own child, instead decides streaming a game was FAR more important, even though FAR more popular streamers can at LEAST take p**s breaks. You're disgusting for defending that man.

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Spannidandoolar 2 years ago

155points

JazzyfromtheNati 2 years ago

Exactly!! Cuz her shopping for him, her and their infant is her f*****g hobby! Good grief this planet is doomed

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Candice Cook 2 years ago

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Lorraine Isaac 2 years ago

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Andrea Cranford 2 years ago

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The Oak Tree Journeys 2 years ago

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michael a 2 years ago

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Denise Painter 2 years ago

This right here.

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Monkeywrench Productions 2 years ago

no.. the bottle of wine in the mid afternoon after youre done counts as me time

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Julie Hoefer 2 years ago

but chances are she dawdled and checked up on him, already knowing he FAILS.....

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Health Investigators 2 years ago

Yes they do . It’s shopping not planting the groceries. Stop acting as if it’s 1950s 2022… and for two adults 4 hour shopping trips lol sick with the bs ..

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justin price 2 years ago

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Jeff Lum 2 years ago

It's because she obviously wasn't grocery shopping you dunce.

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Cassie 2 years ago

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Silre 2 years ago

Same. I sometimes look at my clock and the way home like "Holy s**t! Have I really been gone that long?!" Time flies when you're standing in line at Aldi.

18points

Kady LaHaie 2 years ago

My house is 3 miles from the store and I take at least 3 hours when I do weekly shopping.

10points

Mikey Kliss 2 years ago

I grew up like that too. My wife was even further so the nearest Walmart or Aldis was an hour away

8points

Sarah Bell 2 years ago

7points

The Oak Tree Journeys 2 years ago (edited)

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I Am LoKitty Of Meowsgard 2 years ago

She said that she decided to go home early after worrying he wasn't doing what she was texting him, so she was planning on spending longer than 4 hours shopping.

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Health Investigators 2 years ago

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Ruud 2 years ago (edited)

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Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is “Live Streaming” In Another Room

This man couldn’t strike a balance between parenting and streaming, and his 7-month-old daughter had to bear the consequences

Most people thought the husband was out of his mind

But some called out the mother’s suspicious 4-hour grocery run

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