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“I’m Immediately Canceling The Order”: Woman Goes Viral For Not Wanting Male Instacart Shoppers Doing Her Order And Explaining Why
Before the pandemic, the most common way of getting groceries was physically going to the supermarket. But because of quarantine and people needing to self-isolate, various online grocery stores became very popular and they maintained their popularity even after many of the restrictions were lifted as this way of shopping saves time and effort.
While the service is really convenient, TikTok user @_iamjamila had an interesting observation. She claims that if she sees that her shopper is male, she will cancel the order because in her experience, female shoppers are more thoughtful and provide a better service, but she was always disappointed if the shopper was a man.
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Instacart customer cancels her orders if she sees that her shopper is a man because in her experience, they always mess up her order
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Jamila is a recent graduate of Georgia State University and is trying herself out in different career fields. She is a writer, a content creator, a lifestyle YouTuber and blogger, the founder of Ring A Bell Productions and on top of that, she is also a mother.
On TikTok she has nearly 33k followers and as Jamila says in her bio, she “makes funny videos every now and then.” From time to time her videos go viral and recently one of them was viewed by 908k people and received 239k likes.
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As mentioned, during the pandemic, more people were forced to use online grocery shops because of either self-isolation or because they wanted to have as little contact with other people as possible.
The Nielsen COVID-19 Shopper Behavior Survey showed that 34 percent of the respondents “said they shopped for groceries online more since COVID-19, and 60 percent of these households reported planning to continue shopping online after COVID-19.”
Companies like Door-Dash, Instacart, and Postmates experienced huge growth during the pandemic. For example, Instacart hired 30,000 people from mid-March to mid-April 2020 to make sure they are able to take customers’ orders.
Trends show that even more people will opt for online grocery shopping and according to Insider Intelligence, “in 2025, the average annual spend per digital grocery buyer will increase from $856.47 in 2021 to $1,524.84.”
She actually calls the male shoppers stupid as they will never contact her if an item she wants is out of stock, unlike the female shoppers
Image credits: _iamjamila
One of those people who choose to use Instacart is Jamila. In the above mentioned viral video, she says what may sound offensive, which is that when she sees that her Instacart shopper is a boy, she will cancel her order.
She calls the boys stupid and goes into what she means. When Jamila gets a woman shopper, she contacts her and asks if she is fine with her replacing an item that is sold out with another one. A woman shopper will try to get the better-looking fruit and vegetables.
And when Jamila’s shopper is a man, he will bring the wrong items and won’t reach out to tell her that a certain item in her basket is sold out. They won’t look at what fruit and vegetables they are putting in the bag, so she will end up with dirty and even rotten food. Men shoppers take more time and they mix groceries that should be put in different bags.
The TikToker compared male shoppers to her little brother shopping and she believes that they don’t think when they are doing their job.
In Jamila’s experience, male shoppers take longer and mix all the products that she would prefer bagged separately
Image credits: _iamjamila
In an interview for BuzzFeed, Jamila revealed that she had a hunch why there is such a difference in the quality of the service between men and women: “I think women are used to having to do more, especially when it comes to domestic duties.”
She also thought that men sometimes do some of the chores badly on purpose to not be asked to do it again and that it might explain why they are not good as shoppers: “Men will be sent to the store with a clear and concise list of very basic items and will come back with wrong items, or better yet, none at all. This is in hopes of not being asked to do this task anymore. And because this is a very common practice with men, it carries into their service, specifically with Instacart shopping.”
She suspects this difference in quality has roots in women being raised to be good at domestic duties while men will purposefully fail at them to avoid being further asked at all
Image credits: Steve Rainwater (not the actual photo)
Jamila’s experience was not isolated and a surprising number of people in the comments started sharing their own experiences of male shoppers bringing them the most ridiculous replacement items when they didn’t find the specific one the customer ordered. People also complained about male shoppers not being very attentive with the amounts of things they put in the bags, which leaves customers with too much of something they didn’t even want.
You can watch the viral video below
@_iamjamila I’m going on strike #OscarsAtHome #rant #fyp #instacart ♬ original sound – jamila bell
Have you ever noticed that your grocery order collected by a woman is nicer than one collected by a man? Do you agree with Jamila about why this could be? Let us know in the comments!
A surprising number of people related to Jamila and had bad experiences with getting something completely different than they ordered when their shopper was a man
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A Jones 2 years ago
I might get down voted, but hey here I go. I'm just gonna say this is rather sexist. There be guys in my fam/friend that are decent shoppers. Also had a few Instacarts where they did a good job on foods I selected and asked for alts. Things are different on a case-by-case basis.
Ms.GB 2 years ago
It's not fair for her to discount someones abilities based on their sex but after reading this I have to say that I have had the same experience with male vs. female shoppers. I still wouldn't cancel my order just because it was a guy I just make sure to message the person male or female if there is something in my order I really need to be correct or if there is something I need to be specific about.
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MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago
I had a male Instacart shopper and he texted me about everything. When he came to drop off he thanked me and apologized for all the questions, I said no problem I appreciated being asked if he didn't know. I buy a lot of produce (for the guinea pigs too). He told me that he was learning how to shop properly and asked if I could choose him as a preferred shopper so that he could learn more about shopping for produce in particular. I have had crappy shoppers of both sexes. I appreciate the ones that try. He is doing great by the way.
wolves mom 2 years ago
Wait, how do you get a preferred shopper? I’ve been asking for this option! Also, some of my best shoppers were men and the last woman shopper I had bagged my order together with another giving me 5 items I didn’t need and missing 7 of the things I ordered. This isn’t a gender problem, it’s a people problem.
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Truth Monster 2 years ago
This is like a person saying that if they see a stereotypical black person's name, they cancel the order because they never get the order right. If you agree that my example is wildly racist, you should also agree that what she is saying is hella sexist.
Def not Mr. C 2 years ago
So what if some guys messed up your order, does that mean that all guys are stupid... as you said. If you said women are stupid they can't do things right you'd get rightfully hated on. So stop this sexist s**t
Koos Kommentaar 2 years ago
What will the fallout be if the roles were reversed and some "boy" posted this same drivil how stupid girls are? And Bored Panda thinks this OK to repeat....
Cord Taylor 2 years ago
I'm also going to point out this is massively sexist. If I went on a video post and said that I will never use female shoppers because they don't know how to get good meat, and instead get the nasty c**p that has no marbling and was tough. Or that they couldn't tell a ribeye from a pork roast, I would be getting a massive amount of hate for being a sexist, chauvinistic pig. Why the hell is it different in her case? You mam, are a sexist person. I hope no man is stuck with you.
Josh 2 years ago
If you're so picky on who *shops for you* go out, get your own damn groceries and stop being a sexist. Every time I've used Instacart (all 3 times) it was a woman who was shopping. And each time she faffed it up. So seriously? Be an adult and go get your own groceries if you're that picky.
B S 2 years ago
what a spoiled c**t. so she's a-ok w being sexist but if roles were reversed bet she'd be howling for blood. this is why i loathe influencer culture. gormless internet entities who provide nothing useful, they just take and mindlessly criticize.
Raunold Smithers 2 years ago
What's funny is if a guy was on there putting up messages about how women are stupid and he only took orders from men instacart shoppers this lady personally and the entire internet would be up in arms calling the guy a sexist pig.... But for some reason its totally okay for this lady to go on a sexist rant and have people in agreement with her simply because they're bashing on men. I'm a male, and an excellent shopper, so this lady can go screw her self. Its not a gender issue. Its a stupid and lazy issue
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
Funny. I was texting earlier this morning with the guy who was pulling my order at Walmart. He was great!
Jesse Ruyle 2 years ago
I get her dismissiveness, but I'm a male shopper who gets all the best deals. Word to my momma
Sherbaan Naab 2 years ago
Her: "Boys are stupid" Also her: you said you wanted a pound of apples, but these are smaller. Should I get you a pound and a half? This is the kind of person that is confused by the question: What's heavier, a pound of iron or a pound of feathers?
PaintHat 2 years ago
When cooking, it's harder to get the same content from 4 small apples as you would from 2 large. You are having to deal with the cores and the skin. So it would be helpful if there is only small apples to have extra. It's not about the weight
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T Kory 2 years ago
I did grocery shopping for my old lady neighbor after her surgery. When making the list, I asked her questions about the produce, color, size, firmness, etc. That stuff is important to me. She got a bit annoyed and said it doesn’t matter. “Just get 4 regular bananas.” Some people don’t care 🤷♀️
Sam Russell 2 years ago
This is pretty misandrist. This woman should be ashamed of herself for generalizing half the world.
SMES TEONE 2 years ago
No she should not. She is entitled to whatever viewpoit she likes. Bored Panda should be ashamed for putting her story out there!
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Emily M 2 years ago
Not gender-specific but I hate how people on instacart pack shopping bags. Last week I got a bag with a cooked rotisserie chicken, raw beef, raw bacon, and turkey deli lunch meat all in the same bag?????
Geeki Nikki 2 years ago (edited)
This is why I always recommend that people pick up their food rather than get it delivered. I work at a store that shops for people. We do not deliver but have curbside type pick up. The actual employees shop the orders. They are TRAINED in how to handle the product, what is acceptable to give to a customer, and held accountable. So if you get bad produce or a bag mixed with raw meat and veggies better believe the shopper will hear about it. Often we will give out gift cards to unhappy customers and the next time this customer puts in an order extra care is given to make sure there's no future screw ups. Plus it helps keep the stores open and the need for actual human employees.
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foofoofloofy 2 years ago
Off topic, but how is it that people are able to afford not only groceries, but people to shop for them? I know, I'm gonna sound SO Lower Middle Class, but paying people to do things I could do myself with a little extra effort just makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable.
Crazy Dog Lady 2 years ago
In most circumstances it looks like it only costs $15 extra (all of prices are slightly inflated for all products) and for a lot of people the time/frustration of shopping is worth it. Also when you don't shop in store you spend less because you're not impulse shopping. I have definitely used these app because I find food stores sensorily overwhelming, the lights, sounds and people have definitely given me a panic attack. Also some people are sick/ have autoimmune disorders. There are definitely a lot of legitimate reasons to use these services.
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Pisco 2 years ago
I could understand if she was talking about male roomates or partners messing her order. But what service is she even using that they do not bring what you order? In all the stores I saw you order online what you want and thats it. Shenis probably using a service that hires freelancers that get the lowest salary and conditions and complaining that they dont do a premium service.
Tina Newman 2 years ago
If a man ha disrespected ALL women shoppers like this he'd be lambasted. Take your lazy keeper to the store and do your own shopping, lazy. It's not okay to make sexist remarks and discriminate against half the world...even if you are a black woman discriminating against men.
Kevin Q 2 years ago
Wow this is really disappointing and especially coming from a woman of color. Women and people of color are groups that have been historically discriminated against and that's exactly what is going on here. This is a customer service problem. It needs to be addressed by management and it means training people. I do not support discrimination. Shame on her for suggesting it.
Lasagna Is Like Crack 2 years ago
She should get off her a** and shop for herself. If I can do it as a single father, she sure asf can too.
LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago
I thought this was going to go a whole other direction, but ... I after reading everyone else's experiences and takes I guess there is something to this. I can't help but wonder if there's a guy instacart employee who's somewhere online ranting about all these "KaReNs" not happy with their order and how they're "working min. wage, f**k the accuracy. I hate my job. yadda yadda yadda". I'm gonna be on the look out now for something like that now. I don't agree that all boys are "stupid" and incompetent of getting the job right. I really do think it does have more to do with my suspicions that they just don't feel like trying to provide better service. Females do tend to want to be people-pleasers ( I know I am that way.) and, especially when it comes to fellow females, we know the reasons we get specific items. But men, as well. Men do understand those things, too.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I use to give my husband very detailed lists and he would often mess up. I struggle in supermarkets, so it was worth really talking about it. Now we sit together once a week and plan out our food. He makes the list himself. Because he knows exactly what I want to use something for, he can make substitutions easily. My mum always said my father was terrible at shopping, she thought he got it wrong on purpose. They tried our way. Turned out my dad just hated shopping because he was so sure he would mess up, he quite enjoys it now. Might not solve the instapacker thing, but I think it's got less to do with boys and girls and more to do with having the information to make changes. Pickers I have seen are often youngish boys or grown woman. Obviously an older person is more likely to have cooked more so might look at a list and guess what you want it for.
DMR_22 2 years ago
True, it comes down to communication, knowledge and experience, something alot of these young male Instacart shoppers are still working on.
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Quarryville 2 years ago
My last two orders were processed by males. Great communication, they texted me and asked about substitutions. Had wonderful service.
Evi Grimes 2 years ago
I'm an Instacart shopper and an Instacart customer and I understand what she means. I rarely have issues when women do my shopping and when I have men do it, there are issues 8/10 times. Thing is, men just aren't minded the same, in most cases, and that's okay. Expecting men and women to be the same is the ridiculous nature of this current social predicament we're in. Sexist or not, it's true. Case in point: my last male shopper replaced bananas with plantains, brought me a savoy cabbage instead of iceberg lettuce, and grapes instead of blackberries, and not as a replacement. I've had good shoppers and bad, but the female ones put in more effort. I still tip everyone and thank them, even if they're not good at it. I think people are too sensitive to accept that maybe there are some things women are typically better at and some things that men are typically better at. It's just nature. Note that I used the words "typically". Nothing is so black and white as always or never.
SMES TEONE 2 years ago
I can somewhat agree. Men are typically better at shopping for big ticket items or items of more importance such as riding lawn mowers, refrigerators, houses, cars. Items of less importance, usually most clothing, everyday food, women are better at. It's a waste of time for most men to spend a lot of brainpower on items that don'r really matter that much to most men. As long as the food is not rotten and taste ok, it's nothing special. At the end of the day it's an apple pie not rocket science. If you want most men to give something more attention and effort, raise the price or level of importance. That should certainly do the trick.
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Douglas Fusilier 2 years ago
Everyone is not the same. I am a meticulous shopper who also happens to be male.
Michele Gilbert-Chase 2 years ago
I stopped dealing with instacart had a male shopper not the one indicated to me I didnot get my full purchase was charged $52.85 my purchase came to $27.03 instacart rep became indignant and refused to refund my balance of $25.82 to my bank account. I am no longer a patron of instacart anytime they cheat a 68 yr old woman on a fixed income they'd cheat their own mother
Arthur Martell 2 years ago
I work for shipt and as a male I always keep in contact with my customers, she's being sexist because a few bad eggs didn't get what she wanted
Kevin Richie 2 years ago
As a man, I shop for myself. If I shop for someone else, I will shop as if I am shopping for myself. Just common sense and common courtesy.
David Lasris 2 years ago
She's right. Boys are stupid. We didn't realize that when apples are smaller, a pound weighs less.
John Baker 2 years ago
That kind of snark can get you in trouble on BP. ;-)
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Iam Knucks 2 years ago
This is the most first world problem I've heard in a while. The entitlement and prejudice is out of control.
Amanda Snyder 2 years ago
Sexist as Hell. I go shopping myself. Cause I trust no one, assume nothing, and triple check everything. Feminist are upsetting to me.
Canderous Urrtha 2 years ago
Articles like this are why I don't give a f**k about women's problems they're just sexist pieces of s**t. Bunch if f*****g hypocrite children
Kalulu Chance 2 years ago
The ignorance level of this article is blindingly painful.... 😑 I am so sick of biological females' radical sexism........ The whole 'girls are better than boys' / 'boys are better than girls' thing..... It IS and SHOULD STAY a child's spat. Anyone old enough to go to high school should have already learned enough to stop acting like a jackass like this. AKA.... People.. please stop saying and implying stupid false things. 💓 Thank you. Males and females both have the potential to be great OR terrible at a common sense activity like shopping.
Sean Williams 2 years ago
Seriously disrespectful, I do shopping orders for doordash and always and have a great rating with people literally giving me 5 star rating with comments on excellent communication. Thus is sexist thinking and I hope your b******t thinking backfires.
Brad Scott 2 years ago
This is blatantly sexist. Imagine a man saying, "No women." The backlash would be immediate and epic. BTW, I, a man, was a shopper and I communicated EVERYTHING. I also learned women were the least grateful and rarely tipped. How's that for a blanket, sexist statement?
Clau BlueMoonDRM 2 years ago
I'm angry to this woman I'm from Argentina and she made the guy prepare a few hundred before deleting the order, people here work hard for little money. Have some respect!!!
Kiryn Silverwing 2 years ago
I don't know what gender my shopper was, but the one and only time I ordered groceries delivered to my house I was charged $130 for a $75 "estimated price" largely because the 8oz filet mignon I ordered was out of stock and they got me 16oz of a more expensive steak. I would have just told them to forget about it rather than get me way more meat than I needed. So I just went back to doing all the shopping myself.
Viki Short 2 years ago
I agree 100%! No Kosher Salt on the shelf? Well she won’t notice if I substitute Sea Salt. I now have 8 boxes of Sea Salt! My order is missing items but hey who wouldn’t want a bag of canned hash and something called “Spotted D**k!” Yes, this is what happens when I get a male shopper. Every. Damn. Time.
JazzyfromtheNati 2 years ago
I agree that classifying all men as bad grocery shoppers is wrong, but I'm sorry if the shoe fits, the majority of men and especially younger men are in fact not good grocery shoppers. Now, I know some women, not anywhere near a majority, but some that are horrible shoppers. The fact remains it all comes down to practice, my daughter is an ace shopper. Why? Cuz she has accompanied me her literal entire life while grocery shopping. I have always shopped 1 time per month as to maintain a budget as a single mom. This means that many times we were in the grocery for a minimum of 2 hours. I shop by price per ounce, not sales. The fact is the sale is not always a better deal, the larger pack is not always a better deal than buying 2 of the smaller. It's a about the price per ounce! That and never ever ever shop while hungry! I'm not above stopping as soon as we get to the grocery and grabbing a box of granola bars, rip it open and have one, buy the remainder and in 5 min your full to shop!
Stephanie Paich 2 years ago
It did take several shopping trips without me present, but after the wrong thing was brought home a few times my husband just started texting me when he had questions. After nearly 7 years, he texts a lot less often, usually just to let me know they're out and ask if I want something else. I don't know why everyone gets so bent out of shape about the genders being "equal" LOL no we're not, we both have different strengths and weaknesses.
laura lee 2 years ago (edited)
The male shoppers and delivery guys always ruin half my order. Especially any bread item. Plus they always try to Heman every bag at once resulting in squished, busted, and bruised food. Just saying, this has been my experience. Maybe it's regional/cultural. Perhaps the more "macho loving red states" are more aggregious in this area. I live in the epitome of a red state unfortunately.
Ryan Smith 2 years ago
This is incredibly sexist. Imagine a man trashing women and saying "if I ever go to an auto service place and woman is working I leave because they're incompetent"
Mark Alibozek 2 years ago
This is just like people saying they want a man who knows what they're doing when asking for help at a hardware store even if the woman who is trying to assist them knows what they're doing. Like it's ok to be negative and sexist towards males but it's wrong against women.
Jenny Tressler 1 year ago
Jamila is so right! Without ever hearing anyone else say anything about it, I immediately noticed that my female shoppers are so much more conscientious than make shoppers. I agree with Jamila's reasoning too. It's not sexist when it's the facts of our experience! The girls actually communicate and use problem solving skills. They care about their customers and there's that human element. The boys just want to get it over with, get the wrong things, don't use their brains, and often for the wrong address or stole my food. Is it sexist to say men are more often criminals than females? Let's face it. Women are better shoppers because they probably cook themselves and were taught right at home.
Jacqui Burgess 2 years ago
I think their age is a factor. One gentleman picked beautiful food and packed everything including bread and eggs perfectly. I commented you must be married. He broadly smiled and said, yes I’ve been trained. I immediately added an extra tip. I was so impressed.
Wendy Wilkins Valdez 2 years ago
My problem with male deliverers is when they leave my order at an entirely different address and refuse to go get it to deliver correctly. I'm disabled and can't easily walk down the street to the random address they dropped it at. I'll text them before they've even left the block and they'll say, well that was the address on the order (it wasn't) and that they were already delivering the next order (that they haven't even picked up yet). We've had deliverers STEAL our order after marking it delivered and refusing to respond to texts. That was both male and female, but more male. Then we have to fight with the service to get our money back with them claiming the deliverers had performed the service, so service fees needed to be paid. WRONG!! I've done deliveries with a friend and if there's anything we don't understand about the order or if we can't find the address, we ALWAYS contact the customer to make sure we get it right. My friend is male, so not all dgaf.
Mike Dragneff 2 years ago
What a sexist! Could you imagine the wailing and nashing of teeth if it were a man saying that about a woman? She isn't even trying to hide her misandry. She should look at the brightside of having a male shopper. Her orders are more likely to arrive since the male shopper is less likely to be involved in a traffic accident on the way to her home. Also he can get the groceries to her door faster as most men carry all the groceries in one trip from the car.😉
None Ya 2 years ago
Wow, So honestly I can't agree with the male vs female comparison. This issue is not so cut and dry. Both have great shoppers. Not all shoppers bag the groceries, the stores have rules and many shoppers will just fix the bagging from the cashiers before delivery. But not all. Produce in all stores is a challenge, it has been sitting on carrier trucks longer and just isn't as fresh as should be. So much is dinged and dented during the delivery process. I believe Shipt offers the option to pick your shopper but instacart is making changes since they got a new CEO and are testing new options so perhaps that feature will come soon. Insta cart insist a replacement be done whether or not the customer was consulted or not or didn't respond. Shoppers are to find the closest and best replacement option. Some shoppers do really well with replacements while others do not. The Shoppers pay for the order and tip is docked if they don't replace the unavailable item. This is just a small response.
None Ya 2 years ago
Part 2: Before attacking the gender of the shoppers or the shoppers at all. Perhaps look at the matter from their side. Many customers simply don't respond and the shoppers are timed, rated and have to make a choice for some one they don't know. This isn't always easy when stores are out of stock. Some customers leave great notes to help the shoppers while others don't. Letting a shopper know the biscuits are for soup would have been a great note to add under the biscuits. In the end that shopper saved you time and gas. If you live on the 3rd floor and they also just carried a month's worth of groceries up 3 flights, then they spared you that too. Just so much here that isn't considered from either side. In the end the original post was inconsiderate and discriminatory. Instacart should offer the the shopper a way to block the customer. Shoppers in that area could just boycott her in support of their fellow shoppers.
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Ross Larsen 2 years ago
Same lady will scream that men get all the high paying executive roles and that women deserve the equivalent. She is sexist and that type of rant is disgusting. She is the problem and anyone agreeing that "all men" suck at shopping should be judging themselves with a failing grade
Dionne Boyd 2 years ago
I sorry to say that I have to agree. The male shoppers I have had not only not get my order right but have replaced items I did not ask for. Why would you replace a bag of sugar with a bag of flour? Especially when flour is not even on the list. The female shoppers go out their way to inform me about bad fruit and ask what size I want of a certain product. It's a pleasure giving additional tips for service like that. Being handicapped, I can't get to the store on my own so this service is a Godsend.
Diana Rivera 2 years ago
No the problem is the universal rule of men/boys going into a room and not REALLY searching for what they're looking for. You know, lifting up things, turning things over. THIS mom's know all around the world when you son cannot find his shoes/toy/etc, proceeds to tell " Mom, I can't find it!", then mom finds it under a shirt that was in the middle of the room 😳. This goes on until adulthood when their wives have the same problem. I've had male Instacart shoppers say my item was unavailable multiple times in one cart, when I had a feeling they just weren't looking like they should. SMH. I pin it down to male ego, they just can't get it through their heads that anything could possibly hide from them as they are gods gift to mankind 😒🙄
Alexandria Owens 2 years ago
I had a guy do my shopping not only were all the veggies nasty an old, my chips were all busted, my tostado that's I was making that night were all broken, when he pulled up to my house all his kids were in the car an he pulled my groceries out the back seat where his kids where and everything was in one freaking box!!! I had over 50 items one box!!!! Do my raw food is with my veggies and bread is smashed chips broken an God knows if his kis were messing in my food. Never never again unless I absolutely have to order online I will always buy my own stuff. An it's just not men some females are trash a*s shoppers too giving me muffins that expire the next day are you serious??
Danielle Windecker 2 years ago
So true in my experience! Last night Instacart shopper replaced my foundation makeup (the lightest shade) with a significantly darker shade meant for a person of colour. Then texted me "its the same thing " 🤦♀️ Had other similar experiences in the past too.
Chris Lamont 2 years ago
How about get your lazy a*s to the store and get your own damn groceries. Then you get what you want.
Chris Jardine 2 years ago
As a female grocery store employee who deals with all sorts of online shoppers, this is extremely sexist. Her whole mindset of "this is women's work so of course they're better at it" is very dated. I have seen plenty of male shoppers through Shipt and Instacart that take pride and treat it like it's their career. Guys who have plenty of preferred shoppers, ones who are suuuper picky about how things are bagged, dudes who know their customers so well that they will ask to pick up items before we're out of stock, because they know the customer's regular shopping habits. I have also had women who don't even ask to substitute items, who will cancel orders at the slightest inconvenience, who shove bread or eggs in with heavy objects... And vice versa. It's not about if it's a man or woman doing it, it's about how much that person cares, whether it's a job or just a side hustle where they know they're still getting paid even if the service is bad.
Hayden Hammond 2 years ago
I've had 2 shoppers that were awesome. Sent pictures, waited for me to verify, everything. One was a man, one was a woman. This post is sexist as hell. If you want to fight sexism don't be a sexist. How hard is that?
Luv Harper 2 years ago
She's right. In my experience I had came across the same thing, and I noticed that Male shoppers are less likely to call me/or text me if the item is out of stock. Some make unauthorized swap on their own without even notifying me. I had one guy swap out a bag of oranges for 5 jumbo oranges that cost $11. a piece. That's $55. Dollars for 5 oranges! I do not know who buy Giants oranges at $11 a piece when you can get a bag for $6.89
BlueEyedBatman 2 years ago (edited)
People may think it's sextist, but in my personal experience it's 100% accurate. Whenever I get a female shopper [which is rare] my order will be exactly what I wanted and great quality. The men have literally done the following - Replaced noodles with GUACAMOLE Put meat [and other heavy items] on top of my bread Filled the bags so full that they almost all are ripped or my groceries are rolling around their nasty trunk - then I have to help them take the groceries piece by piece in the house They have NOT ONCE read the specific instructions that tell them they can pull to the back of the house and unload through that door instead of taking the long stairway in the front - one guy even left the groceries at the bottom of the steps and then marked them delivered. HE DIDNT EVEN GET MY SIGNATURE Almost all of them have taken around an hour to get to me after they leave the store - the store is 10mins away/15 with red lights Never had those issues with the women shoppers.
Tia Maze 2 years ago
Umm no. I had a woman instacart shopper get the wrong thing and didn't even notify me of the change. How can you confuse bananas with a bag a chips? No where on the list did I have chips on them. On the other hand I had a young guy consistently text me to make sure I got what I needed. Also my brother does more shopping than I do and shops well. What this young woman said was sexist.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
I've had good and bad of both genders, but I will say anytime I've had a woman in her mid 30s to mid 50s, they are remarkable! I have had male shoppers send me pics saying they didn't have what I wanted I can see it in the picture... So that's pretty annoying because I could get my husband to do that for a lot less fees. I choose Instacart when I actually don't have time to do it myself, that means I also don't have time to baby my shopper. I preselect replacements for everything, too. So really they shouldn't need to contact me unless the backup is also out, which is rare.
Christian Edwards 2 years ago
While the ladies going on in this article are extremely sexist no doubt they have mosandrist tendencies and toxic femininity, I still couldn't help but laugh. I laughed because in my family from my dad's generation onward including myself, we are the cookers and food shoppers. The ladies in our family from a generation back all got lazy and barely can cook without going to some fast food restaurant each week. So to hear this makes me laugh as me and my dad can share the kitchen at the same time, but we tell the ladies to go sit down if they try to come in during a family gathering. He learned to cook from his mom, and me from him.
Silentwolf Sherman 2 years ago
Guy here. This is very sexist. I was raised how to shop and bag stuff from an early age because my family DIDNT make things gender specific so I know everything from cars n guns to shopping and cleaning. So rather than blaming guys, try blaming society.
Cass M 2 years ago
I've had a like 2 or 3 male instacart shoppers get the food then claimed they dropped it off and instead the took my stuff. I was outside of my house everytime I was refunded and I hope they were fired. Not to me tion they didn't even look for the stuff I asked for. The most recent one I got refunded and reordered a woman that dropped off another order of mind brought me this specific order. And she got everything on the order. I have gotten slow males one kept asking what I wanted items to be replaced with EVEN THOUGH I HAVE MADE IT VERY CLEAR QHAT REPLACEMENTS I WANTED. He called the customer care line they then called me I said I've made it clear so what is hard about it. I then said cancel the whole order. So I understand her frustration some of our millennial Gen males can't do laundry let alone grocery shop. And why I always have my child come with me
Vinny DeMarinis 2 years ago (edited)
Not only is she a sexist idiot but anyone who agrees with her is also a sexist idiot. How can you make such a blanket statement and take food off of somebody's table because they have a penis?! That's like saying I asked for a refund when I got to the comedy club after I found out a woman was opening because I can think of 4 female comedians off the top of my head that aren't funny. You do realize that there are considerably more male chefs than female chefs right?
John Baker 2 years ago
I have a hard time thinking of four female comedians who *are* funny. But then, in a world without George Carlin and Richard Pryor, I have a hard time thinking of four *male* comedians who are funny...
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Chris Thornton 2 years ago
Whats stupid about this article is the thing about a pound of apples. A pound is a pound, no matter the suze of the apples, dimwit.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
So many guys stating this just proves the OPs point. 🤭
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Nyako Lyonei 2 years ago
This is so relatable though even if it's just shopping in general. I asked my bf to go grocery shopping and he came back with snacks and a box of frozen chicken. I'm not a fan of chicken and most of the snacks were his style I was like really?? And he used MY card 🤣
Olga Nohra 2 years ago
I found that both the men and women shoppers were equally good with communicating about substitutions. The women, however, were more likely to tex me about a cheaper or on sale option. I really appreciated this, given how expensive groceries have become.
Alesha Folsom 2 years ago
I had a male shopper. I ordered multigrain gluten free bread. He substituted with WHEAT multigrain bread. NOT the same thing. And they do pick the crappiest veggies AND meat. I wouldn't necessarily cancel an order, but I do wish that there was a little more attention to detail when choosing perishables especially. Also, I've been told there wasn't something, gone in physically and bought it, right then and there-I had a friend that had just bought one of the items and had told me about it being in stock. Just things like that.
sara fulmer 2 years ago
I think girls will work for you knowing they'll get a good tip IF THEY ARE WORKING WITH A FEMALE. Boys in general don't care. SPEED=$$
Alex Crayford 2 years ago
I work at Costco, and check out instacart shoppers all the time. There is no difference between the male and female shoppers. Some are great while others suck.
Melody Harpole 2 years ago
They whackadoos are blaming the shoppers for things the company or computer does. They are just sexist bigots
Eric Tenson 2 years ago
All of you people are lazy. Get off your lazy entitled butt and go get it yourself. Dumb women and story.
Michael Peterson 2 years ago
If you're so lazy that you can't do your own grocery shopping, you shouldn't complain that you don't get exactly what you want. Not only do I not trust any of these shoppers to choose good produce and meats, I hate having them block the aisles with their giant carts. And, before you hit that down arrow, just be advised that I don't care. Out!
Valerie Morrison 2 years ago
Just get y'all lazy picky a*s up and off the phone and go do your own shopping.
George Ricks 2 years ago
Pure sexism. Because if we as men labeled all women's job performance based on a few bad ones, many women would be quick to cry out misogyny or sexism. If this biased b*tch is going to be sexist, then she can stop being a lazy c*nt, get off her fat a**, and her own fuqing groceries
tori Ohno 2 years ago
I had a specific menu I needed to follow because I was having guests. I ordered naan bread, they were out, if he had contacted me I would have told him to get the flatbread made by the same company or maybe the pizza crust. What did he chose? Pita bread. ROCK HARD POCKET PITA BREAD! Another one subbed sweet potato wedges with poblano for cheesy mashed potatoes. Men love to eat, but they sure don't know what goes into food do they?
Brad Scott 2 years ago
Y'basic. I'm a personal cook and I'm amazing at it. Keep your sexist s**t to yourself.
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Warren Peace 2 years ago
Maybe get off your a*s and go shopping yourself? Entitled f*****g people. They barely make any money doing your chores and you want them to stand around texting calling you over every little discrepancy because you are too important to do it yourself? Wasting their time even more. Get f****d, and your sexist blanket attitude is such a ridiculous double standard. Do you cry because your waiter put your lemon slice in your water and not on the rim too? Get over yourself.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
Their low wage isn't our fault, we're not the ones supposed to be paying that. But with tips my shoppers are getting $20/hr just from my tips. So if they do a bad job, they're actually robbing me. I'm a nurse and I don't make much more than that myself. I use Instacart when I'm coming off my shift days, trying not to spread Covid. So mind your own business. You don't know who or why we use these services. If it was that bad, they'd quit and go wait tables or something. It's a service, get over it. Do you not go to restaurants because waiters get low wages? Hypocrite.
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Dakota Ball 2 years ago
I just can't with any of this s**t. There are reasons certain people do certain things well and it's a lot more nurture (including larger sociological circles) than nature. But look at the way people will "freak out" about men potentially being bad at something and then the other way around. The discourse is so different. Sexism as judging based on perceived biological sex any way you cut it is bs, but men still have the bulk of privilege (come for me if you want, but I don't have time and my 2.5 degrees in these issues can quiet your a*s like NyQuil). This DOESN'T mean saying "all _____ are bad at _____" is ever a good thing, and it messes with everyone's heads. Also, your exceptions of "well my dad/husband/whatever is actually good at that soooo" doesn't mean there MIGHT not be some kind of correlation in the general trend. Great for them, glad they have that skill and experience, but exceptionalism in arguments like this is damaging. (Opens arms wide for the volley of downvotes)
G. Y. 2 years ago
What a sexist cow! I have more problems with people of either sex who ARE UNDER 30 than with men. The people who don't know the difference between yellow squash and butternut squash because they haven't eaten either one. Or that kids that age have actually told me they'll just get whatever because they want to be done quicker. No work ethic.
Sammy Soltesz 2 years ago
I canceled my instacart subscription recently. Last 2 times I had a dude do my shopping and the last 2 times I've had issues with rotten produce. I was brought salad that was set to expire the next day, and Asparagus that was actually yellow and you could smell rotting through the bag. I give up. I'm just gonna go back to shopping myself.
Julie Cohn 2 years ago
So far with men shoppers I've dealt with: 1. Gave me cabbage when I ordered lettuce 2. Replaced my regular dairy free milk with full dairy chocolate milk 3. Charged me for tomatoes & cream cheese that never showed up 4. Replaced a 2lb roast with a SIX POUND ROAST 5. Couldn't find the toothpaste I wanted so replaced it with bubblegum children's toothpaste 6. Asked for 3 bell peppers, gave me 3 PACKS of bell peppers (12 total peppers) Recommended ridiculous replacements- Ordered Tupperware, replaced with foil Ordered dish soap, replaced with body wish Ordered white rice, replaced with easy Mac Men are useless at basic knowledge
Keith Mitchem 2 years ago
You realize how terrible you sound? Men are Useless. This is why people call feminists, feminazis. But there is a difference between the two You fall in the latter. Feminists fight for women's rights you just want to rule over all men and have them be your bootlickers to which you can insult them because many people are not born to shop. If you had just mentioned your experience, I would have felt sorry for you, but you had to make it a generalized statement insulting an entire sex.
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A Jones 2 years ago
I might get down voted, but hey here I go. I'm just gonna say this is rather sexist. There be guys in my fam/friend that are decent shoppers. Also had a few Instacarts where they did a good job on foods I selected and asked for alts. Things are different on a case-by-case basis.
Ms.GB 2 years ago
It's not fair for her to discount someones abilities based on their sex but after reading this I have to say that I have had the same experience with male vs. female shoppers. I still wouldn't cancel my order just because it was a guy I just make sure to message the person male or female if there is something in my order I really need to be correct or if there is something I need to be specific about.
Load More Replies... MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago
I had a male Instacart shopper and he texted me about everything. When he came to drop off he thanked me and apologized for all the questions, I said no problem I appreciated being asked if he didn't know. I buy a lot of produce (for the guinea pigs too). He told me that he was learning how to shop properly and asked if I could choose him as a preferred shopper so that he could learn more about shopping for produce in particular. I have had crappy shoppers of both sexes. I appreciate the ones that try. He is doing great by the way.
wolves mom 2 years ago
Wait, how do you get a preferred shopper? I’ve been asking for this option! Also, some of my best shoppers were men and the last woman shopper I had bagged my order together with another giving me 5 items I didn’t need and missing 7 of the things I ordered. This isn’t a gender problem, it’s a people problem.
Load More Replies... Truth Monster 2 years ago
This is like a person saying that if they see a stereotypical black person's name, they cancel the order because they never get the order right. If you agree that my example is wildly racist, you should also agree that what she is saying is hella sexist.
Def not Mr. C 2 years ago
So what if some guys messed up your order, does that mean that all guys are stupid... as you said. If you said women are stupid they can't do things right you'd get rightfully hated on. So stop this sexist s**t
Koos Kommentaar 2 years ago
What will the fallout be if the roles were reversed and some "boy" posted this same drivil how stupid girls are? And Bored Panda thinks this OK to repeat....
Cord Taylor 2 years ago
I'm also going to point out this is massively sexist. If I went on a video post and said that I will never use female shoppers because they don't know how to get good meat, and instead get the nasty c**p that has no marbling and was tough. Or that they couldn't tell a ribeye from a pork roast, I would be getting a massive amount of hate for being a sexist, chauvinistic pig. Why the hell is it different in her case? You mam, are a sexist person. I hope no man is stuck with you.
Josh 2 years ago
If you're so picky on who *shops for you* go out, get your own damn groceries and stop being a sexist. Every time I've used Instacart (all 3 times) it was a woman who was shopping. And each time she faffed it up. So seriously? Be an adult and go get your own groceries if you're that picky.
B S 2 years ago
what a spoiled c**t. so she's a-ok w being sexist but if roles were reversed bet she'd be howling for blood. this is why i loathe influencer culture. gormless internet entities who provide nothing useful, they just take and mindlessly criticize.
Raunold Smithers 2 years ago
What's funny is if a guy was on there putting up messages about how women are stupid and he only took orders from men instacart shoppers this lady personally and the entire internet would be up in arms calling the guy a sexist pig.... But for some reason its totally okay for this lady to go on a sexist rant and have people in agreement with her simply because they're bashing on men. I'm a male, and an excellent shopper, so this lady can go screw her self. Its not a gender issue. Its a stupid and lazy issue
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
Funny. I was texting earlier this morning with the guy who was pulling my order at Walmart. He was great!
Jesse Ruyle 2 years ago
I get her dismissiveness, but I'm a male shopper who gets all the best deals. Word to my momma
Sherbaan Naab 2 years ago
Her: "Boys are stupid" Also her: you said you wanted a pound of apples, but these are smaller. Should I get you a pound and a half? This is the kind of person that is confused by the question: What's heavier, a pound of iron or a pound of feathers?
PaintHat 2 years ago
When cooking, it's harder to get the same content from 4 small apples as you would from 2 large. You are having to deal with the cores and the skin. So it would be helpful if there is only small apples to have extra. It's not about the weight
Load More Replies... T Kory 2 years ago
I did grocery shopping for my old lady neighbor after her surgery. When making the list, I asked her questions about the produce, color, size, firmness, etc. That stuff is important to me. She got a bit annoyed and said it doesn’t matter. “Just get 4 regular bananas.” Some people don’t care 🤷♀️
Sam Russell 2 years ago
This is pretty misandrist. This woman should be ashamed of herself for generalizing half the world.
SMES TEONE 2 years ago
No she should not. She is entitled to whatever viewpoit she likes. Bored Panda should be ashamed for putting her story out there!
Load More Replies... Emily M 2 years ago
Not gender-specific but I hate how people on instacart pack shopping bags. Last week I got a bag with a cooked rotisserie chicken, raw beef, raw bacon, and turkey deli lunch meat all in the same bag?????
Geeki Nikki 2 years ago (edited)
This is why I always recommend that people pick up their food rather than get it delivered. I work at a store that shops for people. We do not deliver but have curbside type pick up. The actual employees shop the orders. They are TRAINED in how to handle the product, what is acceptable to give to a customer, and held accountable. So if you get bad produce or a bag mixed with raw meat and veggies better believe the shopper will hear about it. Often we will give out gift cards to unhappy customers and the next time this customer puts in an order extra care is given to make sure there's no future screw ups. Plus it helps keep the stores open and the need for actual human employees.
Load More Replies... foofoofloofy 2 years ago
Off topic, but how is it that people are able to afford not only groceries, but people to shop for them? I know, I'm gonna sound SO Lower Middle Class, but paying people to do things I could do myself with a little extra effort just makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable.
Crazy Dog Lady 2 years ago
In most circumstances it looks like it only costs $15 extra (all of prices are slightly inflated for all products) and for a lot of people the time/frustration of shopping is worth it. Also when you don't shop in store you spend less because you're not impulse shopping. I have definitely used these app because I find food stores sensorily overwhelming, the lights, sounds and people have definitely given me a panic attack. Also some people are sick/ have autoimmune disorders. There are definitely a lot of legitimate reasons to use these services.
Load More Replies... Pisco 2 years ago
I could understand if she was talking about male roomates or partners messing her order. But what service is she even using that they do not bring what you order? In all the stores I saw you order online what you want and thats it. Shenis probably using a service that hires freelancers that get the lowest salary and conditions and complaining that they dont do a premium service.
Tina Newman 2 years ago
If a man ha disrespected ALL women shoppers like this he'd be lambasted. Take your lazy keeper to the store and do your own shopping, lazy. It's not okay to make sexist remarks and discriminate against half the world...even if you are a black woman discriminating against men.
Kevin Q 2 years ago
Wow this is really disappointing and especially coming from a woman of color. Women and people of color are groups that have been historically discriminated against and that's exactly what is going on here. This is a customer service problem. It needs to be addressed by management and it means training people. I do not support discrimination. Shame on her for suggesting it.
Lasagna Is Like Crack 2 years ago
She should get off her a** and shop for herself. If I can do it as a single father, she sure asf can too.
LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago
I thought this was going to go a whole other direction, but ... I after reading everyone else's experiences and takes I guess there is something to this. I can't help but wonder if there's a guy instacart employee who's somewhere online ranting about all these "KaReNs" not happy with their order and how they're "working min. wage, f**k the accuracy. I hate my job. yadda yadda yadda". I'm gonna be on the look out now for something like that now. I don't agree that all boys are "stupid" and incompetent of getting the job right. I really do think it does have more to do with my suspicions that they just don't feel like trying to provide better service. Females do tend to want to be people-pleasers ( I know I am that way.) and, especially when it comes to fellow females, we know the reasons we get specific items. But men, as well. Men do understand those things, too.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I use to give my husband very detailed lists and he would often mess up. I struggle in supermarkets, so it was worth really talking about it. Now we sit together once a week and plan out our food. He makes the list himself. Because he knows exactly what I want to use something for, he can make substitutions easily. My mum always said my father was terrible at shopping, she thought he got it wrong on purpose. They tried our way. Turned out my dad just hated shopping because he was so sure he would mess up, he quite enjoys it now. Might not solve the instapacker thing, but I think it's got less to do with boys and girls and more to do with having the information to make changes. Pickers I have seen are often youngish boys or grown woman. Obviously an older person is more likely to have cooked more so might look at a list and guess what you want it for.
DMR_22 2 years ago
True, it comes down to communication, knowledge and experience, something alot of these young male Instacart shoppers are still working on.
Load More Replies... Quarryville 2 years ago
My last two orders were processed by males. Great communication, they texted me and asked about substitutions. Had wonderful service.
Evi Grimes 2 years ago
I'm an Instacart shopper and an Instacart customer and I understand what she means. I rarely have issues when women do my shopping and when I have men do it, there are issues 8/10 times. Thing is, men just aren't minded the same, in most cases, and that's okay. Expecting men and women to be the same is the ridiculous nature of this current social predicament we're in. Sexist or not, it's true. Case in point: my last male shopper replaced bananas with plantains, brought me a savoy cabbage instead of iceberg lettuce, and grapes instead of blackberries, and not as a replacement. I've had good shoppers and bad, but the female ones put in more effort. I still tip everyone and thank them, even if they're not good at it. I think people are too sensitive to accept that maybe there are some things women are typically better at and some things that men are typically better at. It's just nature. Note that I used the words "typically". Nothing is so black and white as always or never.
SMES TEONE 2 years ago
I can somewhat agree. Men are typically better at shopping for big ticket items or items of more importance such as riding lawn mowers, refrigerators, houses, cars. Items of less importance, usually most clothing, everyday food, women are better at. It's a waste of time for most men to spend a lot of brainpower on items that don'r really matter that much to most men. As long as the food is not rotten and taste ok, it's nothing special. At the end of the day it's an apple pie not rocket science. If you want most men to give something more attention and effort, raise the price or level of importance. That should certainly do the trick.
Load More Replies... Douglas Fusilier 2 years ago
Everyone is not the same. I am a meticulous shopper who also happens to be male.
Michele Gilbert-Chase 2 years ago
I stopped dealing with instacart had a male shopper not the one indicated to me I didnot get my full purchase was charged $52.85 my purchase came to $27.03 instacart rep became indignant and refused to refund my balance of $25.82 to my bank account. I am no longer a patron of instacart anytime they cheat a 68 yr old woman on a fixed income they'd cheat their own mother
Arthur Martell 2 years ago
I work for shipt and as a male I always keep in contact with my customers, she's being sexist because a few bad eggs didn't get what she wanted
Kevin Richie 2 years ago
As a man, I shop for myself. If I shop for someone else, I will shop as if I am shopping for myself. Just common sense and common courtesy.
David Lasris 2 years ago
She's right. Boys are stupid. We didn't realize that when apples are smaller, a pound weighs less.
John Baker 2 years ago
That kind of snark can get you in trouble on BP. ;-)
Load More Replies... Iam Knucks 2 years ago
This is the most first world problem I've heard in a while. The entitlement and prejudice is out of control.
Amanda Snyder 2 years ago
Sexist as Hell. I go shopping myself. Cause I trust no one, assume nothing, and triple check everything. Feminist are upsetting to me.
Canderous Urrtha 2 years ago
Articles like this are why I don't give a f**k about women's problems they're just sexist pieces of s**t. Bunch if f*****g hypocrite children
Kalulu Chance 2 years ago
The ignorance level of this article is blindingly painful.... 😑 I am so sick of biological females' radical sexism........ The whole 'girls are better than boys' / 'boys are better than girls' thing..... It IS and SHOULD STAY a child's spat. Anyone old enough to go to high school should have already learned enough to stop acting like a jackass like this. AKA.... People.. please stop saying and implying stupid false things. 💓 Thank you. Males and females both have the potential to be great OR terrible at a common sense activity like shopping.
Sean Williams 2 years ago
Seriously disrespectful, I do shopping orders for doordash and always and have a great rating with people literally giving me 5 star rating with comments on excellent communication. Thus is sexist thinking and I hope your b******t thinking backfires.
Brad Scott 2 years ago
This is blatantly sexist. Imagine a man saying, "No women." The backlash would be immediate and epic. BTW, I, a man, was a shopper and I communicated EVERYTHING. I also learned women were the least grateful and rarely tipped. How's that for a blanket, sexist statement?
Clau BlueMoonDRM 2 years ago
I'm angry to this woman I'm from Argentina and she made the guy prepare a few hundred before deleting the order, people here work hard for little money. Have some respect!!!
Kiryn Silverwing 2 years ago
I don't know what gender my shopper was, but the one and only time I ordered groceries delivered to my house I was charged $130 for a $75 "estimated price" largely because the 8oz filet mignon I ordered was out of stock and they got me 16oz of a more expensive steak. I would have just told them to forget about it rather than get me way more meat than I needed. So I just went back to doing all the shopping myself.
Viki Short 2 years ago
I agree 100%! No Kosher Salt on the shelf? Well she won’t notice if I substitute Sea Salt. I now have 8 boxes of Sea Salt! My order is missing items but hey who wouldn’t want a bag of canned hash and something called “Spotted D**k!” Yes, this is what happens when I get a male shopper. Every. Damn. Time.
JazzyfromtheNati 2 years ago
I agree that classifying all men as bad grocery shoppers is wrong, but I'm sorry if the shoe fits, the majority of men and especially younger men are in fact not good grocery shoppers. Now, I know some women, not anywhere near a majority, but some that are horrible shoppers. The fact remains it all comes down to practice, my daughter is an ace shopper. Why? Cuz she has accompanied me her literal entire life while grocery shopping. I have always shopped 1 time per month as to maintain a budget as a single mom. This means that many times we were in the grocery for a minimum of 2 hours. I shop by price per ounce, not sales. The fact is the sale is not always a better deal, the larger pack is not always a better deal than buying 2 of the smaller. It's a about the price per ounce! That and never ever ever shop while hungry! I'm not above stopping as soon as we get to the grocery and grabbing a box of granola bars, rip it open and have one, buy the remainder and in 5 min your full to shop!
Stephanie Paich 2 years ago
It did take several shopping trips without me present, but after the wrong thing was brought home a few times my husband just started texting me when he had questions. After nearly 7 years, he texts a lot less often, usually just to let me know they're out and ask if I want something else. I don't know why everyone gets so bent out of shape about the genders being "equal" LOL no we're not, we both have different strengths and weaknesses.
laura lee 2 years ago (edited)
The male shoppers and delivery guys always ruin half my order. Especially any bread item. Plus they always try to Heman every bag at once resulting in squished, busted, and bruised food. Just saying, this has been my experience. Maybe it's regional/cultural. Perhaps the more "macho loving red states" are more aggregious in this area. I live in the epitome of a red state unfortunately.
Ryan Smith 2 years ago
This is incredibly sexist. Imagine a man trashing women and saying "if I ever go to an auto service place and woman is working I leave because they're incompetent"
Mark Alibozek 2 years ago
This is just like people saying they want a man who knows what they're doing when asking for help at a hardware store even if the woman who is trying to assist them knows what they're doing. Like it's ok to be negative and sexist towards males but it's wrong against women.
Jenny Tressler 1 year ago
Jamila is so right! Without ever hearing anyone else say anything about it, I immediately noticed that my female shoppers are so much more conscientious than make shoppers. I agree with Jamila's reasoning too. It's not sexist when it's the facts of our experience! The girls actually communicate and use problem solving skills. They care about their customers and there's that human element. The boys just want to get it over with, get the wrong things, don't use their brains, and often for the wrong address or stole my food. Is it sexist to say men are more often criminals than females? Let's face it. Women are better shoppers because they probably cook themselves and were taught right at home.
Jacqui Burgess 2 years ago
I think their age is a factor. One gentleman picked beautiful food and packed everything including bread and eggs perfectly. I commented you must be married. He broadly smiled and said, yes I’ve been trained. I immediately added an extra tip. I was so impressed.
Wendy Wilkins Valdez 2 years ago
My problem with male deliverers is when they leave my order at an entirely different address and refuse to go get it to deliver correctly. I'm disabled and can't easily walk down the street to the random address they dropped it at. I'll text them before they've even left the block and they'll say, well that was the address on the order (it wasn't) and that they were already delivering the next order (that they haven't even picked up yet). We've had deliverers STEAL our order after marking it delivered and refusing to respond to texts. That was both male and female, but more male. Then we have to fight with the service to get our money back with them claiming the deliverers had performed the service, so service fees needed to be paid. WRONG!! I've done deliveries with a friend and if there's anything we don't understand about the order or if we can't find the address, we ALWAYS contact the customer to make sure we get it right. My friend is male, so not all dgaf.
Mike Dragneff 2 years ago
What a sexist! Could you imagine the wailing and nashing of teeth if it were a man saying that about a woman? She isn't even trying to hide her misandry. She should look at the brightside of having a male shopper. Her orders are more likely to arrive since the male shopper is less likely to be involved in a traffic accident on the way to her home. Also he can get the groceries to her door faster as most men carry all the groceries in one trip from the car.😉
None Ya 2 years ago
Wow, So honestly I can't agree with the male vs female comparison. This issue is not so cut and dry. Both have great shoppers. Not all shoppers bag the groceries, the stores have rules and many shoppers will just fix the bagging from the cashiers before delivery. But not all. Produce in all stores is a challenge, it has been sitting on carrier trucks longer and just isn't as fresh as should be. So much is dinged and dented during the delivery process. I believe Shipt offers the option to pick your shopper but instacart is making changes since they got a new CEO and are testing new options so perhaps that feature will come soon. Insta cart insist a replacement be done whether or not the customer was consulted or not or didn't respond. Shoppers are to find the closest and best replacement option. Some shoppers do really well with replacements while others do not. The Shoppers pay for the order and tip is docked if they don't replace the unavailable item. This is just a small response.
None Ya 2 years ago
Part 2: Before attacking the gender of the shoppers or the shoppers at all. Perhaps look at the matter from their side. Many customers simply don't respond and the shoppers are timed, rated and have to make a choice for some one they don't know. This isn't always easy when stores are out of stock. Some customers leave great notes to help the shoppers while others don't. Letting a shopper know the biscuits are for soup would have been a great note to add under the biscuits. In the end that shopper saved you time and gas. If you live on the 3rd floor and they also just carried a month's worth of groceries up 3 flights, then they spared you that too. Just so much here that isn't considered from either side. In the end the original post was inconsiderate and discriminatory. Instacart should offer the the shopper a way to block the customer. Shoppers in that area could just boycott her in support of their fellow shoppers.
Load More Replies... Ross Larsen 2 years ago
Same lady will scream that men get all the high paying executive roles and that women deserve the equivalent. She is sexist and that type of rant is disgusting. She is the problem and anyone agreeing that "all men" suck at shopping should be judging themselves with a failing grade
Dionne Boyd 2 years ago
I sorry to say that I have to agree. The male shoppers I have had not only not get my order right but have replaced items I did not ask for. Why would you replace a bag of sugar with a bag of flour? Especially when flour is not even on the list. The female shoppers go out their way to inform me about bad fruit and ask what size I want of a certain product. It's a pleasure giving additional tips for service like that. Being handicapped, I can't get to the store on my own so this service is a Godsend.
Diana Rivera 2 years ago
No the problem is the universal rule of men/boys going into a room and not REALLY searching for what they're looking for. You know, lifting up things, turning things over. THIS mom's know all around the world when you son cannot find his shoes/toy/etc, proceeds to tell " Mom, I can't find it!", then mom finds it under a shirt that was in the middle of the room 😳. This goes on until adulthood when their wives have the same problem. I've had male Instacart shoppers say my item was unavailable multiple times in one cart, when I had a feeling they just weren't looking like they should. SMH. I pin it down to male ego, they just can't get it through their heads that anything could possibly hide from them as they are gods gift to mankind 😒🙄
Alexandria Owens 2 years ago
I had a guy do my shopping not only were all the veggies nasty an old, my chips were all busted, my tostado that's I was making that night were all broken, when he pulled up to my house all his kids were in the car an he pulled my groceries out the back seat where his kids where and everything was in one freaking box!!! I had over 50 items one box!!!! Do my raw food is with my veggies and bread is smashed chips broken an God knows if his kis were messing in my food. Never never again unless I absolutely have to order online I will always buy my own stuff. An it's just not men some females are trash a*s shoppers too giving me muffins that expire the next day are you serious??
Danielle Windecker 2 years ago
So true in my experience! Last night Instacart shopper replaced my foundation makeup (the lightest shade) with a significantly darker shade meant for a person of colour. Then texted me "its the same thing " 🤦♀️ Had other similar experiences in the past too.
Chris Lamont 2 years ago
How about get your lazy a*s to the store and get your own damn groceries. Then you get what you want.
Chris Jardine 2 years ago
As a female grocery store employee who deals with all sorts of online shoppers, this is extremely sexist. Her whole mindset of "this is women's work so of course they're better at it" is very dated. I have seen plenty of male shoppers through Shipt and Instacart that take pride and treat it like it's their career. Guys who have plenty of preferred shoppers, ones who are suuuper picky about how things are bagged, dudes who know their customers so well that they will ask to pick up items before we're out of stock, because they know the customer's regular shopping habits. I have also had women who don't even ask to substitute items, who will cancel orders at the slightest inconvenience, who shove bread or eggs in with heavy objects... And vice versa. It's not about if it's a man or woman doing it, it's about how much that person cares, whether it's a job or just a side hustle where they know they're still getting paid even if the service is bad.
Hayden Hammond 2 years ago
I've had 2 shoppers that were awesome. Sent pictures, waited for me to verify, everything. One was a man, one was a woman. This post is sexist as hell. If you want to fight sexism don't be a sexist. How hard is that?
Luv Harper 2 years ago
She's right. In my experience I had came across the same thing, and I noticed that Male shoppers are less likely to call me/or text me if the item is out of stock. Some make unauthorized swap on their own without even notifying me. I had one guy swap out a bag of oranges for 5 jumbo oranges that cost $11. a piece. That's $55. Dollars for 5 oranges! I do not know who buy Giants oranges at $11 a piece when you can get a bag for $6.89
BlueEyedBatman 2 years ago (edited)
People may think it's sextist, but in my personal experience it's 100% accurate. Whenever I get a female shopper [which is rare] my order will be exactly what I wanted and great quality. The men have literally done the following - Replaced noodles with GUACAMOLE Put meat [and other heavy items] on top of my bread Filled the bags so full that they almost all are ripped or my groceries are rolling around their nasty trunk - then I have to help them take the groceries piece by piece in the house They have NOT ONCE read the specific instructions that tell them they can pull to the back of the house and unload through that door instead of taking the long stairway in the front - one guy even left the groceries at the bottom of the steps and then marked them delivered. HE DIDNT EVEN GET MY SIGNATURE Almost all of them have taken around an hour to get to me after they leave the store - the store is 10mins away/15 with red lights Never had those issues with the women shoppers.
Tia Maze 2 years ago
Umm no. I had a woman instacart shopper get the wrong thing and didn't even notify me of the change. How can you confuse bananas with a bag a chips? No where on the list did I have chips on them. On the other hand I had a young guy consistently text me to make sure I got what I needed. Also my brother does more shopping than I do and shops well. What this young woman said was sexist.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
I've had good and bad of both genders, but I will say anytime I've had a woman in her mid 30s to mid 50s, they are remarkable! I have had male shoppers send me pics saying they didn't have what I wanted I can see it in the picture... So that's pretty annoying because I could get my husband to do that for a lot less fees. I choose Instacart when I actually don't have time to do it myself, that means I also don't have time to baby my shopper. I preselect replacements for everything, too. So really they shouldn't need to contact me unless the backup is also out, which is rare.
Christian Edwards 2 years ago
While the ladies going on in this article are extremely sexist no doubt they have mosandrist tendencies and toxic femininity, I still couldn't help but laugh. I laughed because in my family from my dad's generation onward including myself, we are the cookers and food shoppers. The ladies in our family from a generation back all got lazy and barely can cook without going to some fast food restaurant each week. So to hear this makes me laugh as me and my dad can share the kitchen at the same time, but we tell the ladies to go sit down if they try to come in during a family gathering. He learned to cook from his mom, and me from him.
Silentwolf Sherman 2 years ago
Guy here. This is very sexist. I was raised how to shop and bag stuff from an early age because my family DIDNT make things gender specific so I know everything from cars n guns to shopping and cleaning. So rather than blaming guys, try blaming society.
Cass M 2 years ago
I've had a like 2 or 3 male instacart shoppers get the food then claimed they dropped it off and instead the took my stuff. I was outside of my house everytime I was refunded and I hope they were fired. Not to me tion they didn't even look for the stuff I asked for. The most recent one I got refunded and reordered a woman that dropped off another order of mind brought me this specific order. And she got everything on the order. I have gotten slow males one kept asking what I wanted items to be replaced with EVEN THOUGH I HAVE MADE IT VERY CLEAR QHAT REPLACEMENTS I WANTED. He called the customer care line they then called me I said I've made it clear so what is hard about it. I then said cancel the whole order. So I understand her frustration some of our millennial Gen males can't do laundry let alone grocery shop. And why I always have my child come with me
Vinny DeMarinis 2 years ago (edited)
Not only is she a sexist idiot but anyone who agrees with her is also a sexist idiot. How can you make such a blanket statement and take food off of somebody's table because they have a penis?! That's like saying I asked for a refund when I got to the comedy club after I found out a woman was opening because I can think of 4 female comedians off the top of my head that aren't funny. You do realize that there are considerably more male chefs than female chefs right?
John Baker 2 years ago
I have a hard time thinking of four female comedians who *are* funny. But then, in a world without George Carlin and Richard Pryor, I have a hard time thinking of four *male* comedians who are funny...
Load More Replies... Chris Thornton 2 years ago
Whats stupid about this article is the thing about a pound of apples. A pound is a pound, no matter the suze of the apples, dimwit.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
So many guys stating this just proves the OPs point. 🤭
Load More Replies... Nyako Lyonei 2 years ago
This is so relatable though even if it's just shopping in general. I asked my bf to go grocery shopping and he came back with snacks and a box of frozen chicken. I'm not a fan of chicken and most of the snacks were his style I was like really?? And he used MY card 🤣
Olga Nohra 2 years ago
I found that both the men and women shoppers were equally good with communicating about substitutions. The women, however, were more likely to tex me about a cheaper or on sale option. I really appreciated this, given how expensive groceries have become.
Alesha Folsom 2 years ago
I had a male shopper. I ordered multigrain gluten free bread. He substituted with WHEAT multigrain bread. NOT the same thing. And they do pick the crappiest veggies AND meat. I wouldn't necessarily cancel an order, but I do wish that there was a little more attention to detail when choosing perishables especially. Also, I've been told there wasn't something, gone in physically and bought it, right then and there-I had a friend that had just bought one of the items and had told me about it being in stock. Just things like that.
sara fulmer 2 years ago
I think girls will work for you knowing they'll get a good tip IF THEY ARE WORKING WITH A FEMALE. Boys in general don't care. SPEED=$$
Alex Crayford 2 years ago
I work at Costco, and check out instacart shoppers all the time. There is no difference between the male and female shoppers. Some are great while others suck.
Melody Harpole 2 years ago
They whackadoos are blaming the shoppers for things the company or computer does. They are just sexist bigots
Eric Tenson 2 years ago
All of you people are lazy. Get off your lazy entitled butt and go get it yourself. Dumb women and story.
Michael Peterson 2 years ago
If you're so lazy that you can't do your own grocery shopping, you shouldn't complain that you don't get exactly what you want. Not only do I not trust any of these shoppers to choose good produce and meats, I hate having them block the aisles with their giant carts. And, before you hit that down arrow, just be advised that I don't care. Out!
Valerie Morrison 2 years ago
Just get y'all lazy picky a*s up and off the phone and go do your own shopping.
George Ricks 2 years ago
Pure sexism. Because if we as men labeled all women's job performance based on a few bad ones, many women would be quick to cry out misogyny or sexism. If this biased b*tch is going to be sexist, then she can stop being a lazy c*nt, get off her fat a**, and her own fuqing groceries
tori Ohno 2 years ago
I had a specific menu I needed to follow because I was having guests. I ordered naan bread, they were out, if he had contacted me I would have told him to get the flatbread made by the same company or maybe the pizza crust. What did he chose? Pita bread. ROCK HARD POCKET PITA BREAD! Another one subbed sweet potato wedges with poblano for cheesy mashed potatoes. Men love to eat, but they sure don't know what goes into food do they?
Brad Scott 2 years ago
Y'basic. I'm a personal cook and I'm amazing at it. Keep your sexist s**t to yourself.
Load More Replies... Warren Peace 2 years ago
Maybe get off your a*s and go shopping yourself? Entitled f*****g people. They barely make any money doing your chores and you want them to stand around texting calling you over every little discrepancy because you are too important to do it yourself? Wasting their time even more. Get f****d, and your sexist blanket attitude is such a ridiculous double standard. Do you cry because your waiter put your lemon slice in your water and not on the rim too? Get over yourself.
Lavender Oak 2 years ago
Their low wage isn't our fault, we're not the ones supposed to be paying that. But with tips my shoppers are getting $20/hr just from my tips. So if they do a bad job, they're actually robbing me. I'm a nurse and I don't make much more than that myself. I use Instacart when I'm coming off my shift days, trying not to spread Covid. So mind your own business. You don't know who or why we use these services. If it was that bad, they'd quit and go wait tables or something. It's a service, get over it. Do you not go to restaurants because waiters get low wages? Hypocrite.
Load More Replies... Dakota Ball 2 years ago
I just can't with any of this s**t. There are reasons certain people do certain things well and it's a lot more nurture (including larger sociological circles) than nature. But look at the way people will "freak out" about men potentially being bad at something and then the other way around. The discourse is so different. Sexism as judging based on perceived biological sex any way you cut it is bs, but men still have the bulk of privilege (come for me if you want, but I don't have time and my 2.5 degrees in these issues can quiet your a*s like NyQuil). This DOESN'T mean saying "all _____ are bad at _____" is ever a good thing, and it messes with everyone's heads. Also, your exceptions of "well my dad/husband/whatever is actually good at that soooo" doesn't mean there MIGHT not be some kind of correlation in the general trend. Great for them, glad they have that skill and experience, but exceptionalism in arguments like this is damaging. (Opens arms wide for the volley of downvotes)
G. Y. 2 years ago
What a sexist cow! I have more problems with people of either sex who ARE UNDER 30 than with men. The people who don't know the difference between yellow squash and butternut squash because they haven't eaten either one. Or that kids that age have actually told me they'll just get whatever because they want to be done quicker. No work ethic.
Sammy Soltesz 2 years ago
I canceled my instacart subscription recently. Last 2 times I had a dude do my shopping and the last 2 times I've had issues with rotten produce. I was brought salad that was set to expire the next day, and Asparagus that was actually yellow and you could smell rotting through the bag. I give up. I'm just gonna go back to shopping myself.
Julie Cohn 2 years ago
So far with men shoppers I've dealt with: 1. Gave me cabbage when I ordered lettuce 2. Replaced my regular dairy free milk with full dairy chocolate milk 3. Charged me for tomatoes & cream cheese that never showed up 4. Replaced a 2lb roast with a SIX POUND ROAST 5. Couldn't find the toothpaste I wanted so replaced it with bubblegum children's toothpaste 6. Asked for 3 bell peppers, gave me 3 PACKS of bell peppers (12 total peppers) Recommended ridiculous replacements- Ordered Tupperware, replaced with foil Ordered dish soap, replaced with body wish Ordered white rice, replaced with easy Mac Men are useless at basic knowledge
Keith Mitchem 2 years ago
You realize how terrible you sound? Men are Useless. This is why people call feminists, feminazis. But there is a difference between the two You fall in the latter. Feminists fight for women's rights you just want to rule over all men and have them be your bootlickers to which you can insult them because many people are not born to shop. If you had just mentioned your experience, I would have felt sorry for you, but you had to make it a generalized statement insulting an entire sex.
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