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When I was a preschooler, the top 2 questions that various adults asked me were always “What do you want to become when you grow up?” (well, yes, a 3 Y.O. kid makes some Napoleonic plans...) and “Who do you love more, dad or mom?” (great, then why not ask which lung is more comfortable for me to breathe with?)
Decades have passed - and we, adults, still continue to ask children, our own and others', questions of varying degrees of stupidity and inappropriateness, without even realizing that we're unwittingly traumatizing them. So here are almost three dozen similar stories, collected by Bored Panda from this viral thread in the AskReddit community.
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#1
Asking a teenage girl if she's on her period any time she shows any emotion
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#2
“Why are you playing with [gender specific toy]? That’s for boys/girls.”
#3
Asking if another child of the opposite sex is their boyfriend/girlfriend.
In fact, the tradition of asking children stupid questions goes back as far as the tradition of lisping and deliberately imitating toddlers' babbling. Well, then somehow it wasn't customary to pay as much attention to mental health as it is today, so a whole set of meaningless and allegedly 'cute' questions was formed that, like myths and legends, are passed down from generation to generation. Up until today, for sure.
#4
Asking a question and rejecting any answer the kid gives unless it's the adults own opinion.
#5
“why can’t you be more like your brother/sister?”
#6
i’m a young teenage girl, and both my step dad and his dad tell me all the time “can I marry you?” “If you don’t find a man soon I guess I’ll have to be the man!” “Have you found a boy yet?” followed up by “If not i’m single!” the worse one was my step dad: “If your mom ever divorces me then can you marry me?”
I don’t know why they say that all the time but God is it annoying.
On the other hand, it seems that we adults sometimes simply don’t have the slightest idea what to talk about with children - especially if we are not their parents, and this is a kind of small talk. True, unlike any small talk between adults, our questions do sometimes look at least strange. To understand this, it’s enough to do one simple thing - just put yourself in the kid’s place and imagine exactly how you will answer this or that question. If you find it difficult to answer, it’s better to avoid asking.
#7
"Why wont you give me a hug?" At a family event where everyone is staring.
TheGoodBoi 10 months ago
In my experience "Because I don't really know you." "You smell funny." "I just want to go play with my cousins.."
#9
When I got my period and they would ask “Don’t you feel like a woman?” or some c**p like that. I was 11 and not amused
UnknownFrost 10 months ago
No, ma. I don't feel like a woman. This is a period, not Shania Twain.
A separate category of questions comes from adults who are only superficially familiar with, for example, teens, about their emotions, physical health, or imposing their own opinions. Yes, you are an adult, you most likely have more life experience behind you - but this in no way gives you (and me too of course) any right to make value judgments and put it in the form of these 'innocent' questions. Just think back to your teenage years - and I’m almost sure that a couple of similar stories will pop up in your mind.
#10
I had pretty severe eczema as a child. Refused to wear anything but long sleeves and pants even during hot, humid New England summers because every single time I left the house, at least one grown a*s person would ask, “what’s wrong with your skin?”
My mother spent a lot of time correcting grown ups on their behavior. When she got tired of it, she let me do it myself.
#12
Asked by "family" most of the time: Do you really want to eat that (much)? Do you want to make me sad?
Be that as it may, I'm also absolutely sure that the tradition of asking children weird inappropriate questions will outlive us, and for a long time, and the only thing we can do to make kids more comfortable communicating with us is to simply think about whether it’s worth asking this or that question at all? And, of course, re-read the stories listed here again - perhaps this list will really benefit us.
#13
What are you going to be when you grow up? I’m 67, and I still don’t know 🤷♀️
#15
"Do you still believe in Santa?"
All you're doing is making them question Santa.
#16
When I had my second baby, heaps of people asked my eldest (2) "Do you like your new baby brother?"
Apart from everything else, it's irrelevant. Like, we're definitely keeping this baby either way..
TheGoodBoi 10 months ago
Yeah let me just go get a refund on this child if the eldest doesn't like them.
#17
"Can I go to the bathroom please?"
"I don't know, can you?"
TheGoodBoi 10 months ago (edited)
I could hike my leg anywhere I guess, but I'm being polite. The choice is yours, can I go to the bathroom or not?
#19
I saw a reporter ask a 13 year old if he wanted to go to the olympics. He straight up told her that the junior nationals and junior worlds were more realistic goals right now. What a solid head that kid has.
#20
anything that relates to the kid having a child when they grow up.
had this from my family growing up and it’s probably not a huge thing but asking a young girl if she’s going to have babies when she grows up is so (for lack of a better word) jarring. has made me want to practice abstinence 😐
MotherRobinson 10 months ago
Told my daughters it was their choice if they wanted to have kids or not.
#21
Parents that have broken up and use the child as a middleman to pass messages and get sneak peek into what’s going on in their ex life.
I define children as those who are under 12 years old.
Justin Smith 10 months ago
Dislike this one because anyone using their child (no matter the age) as a middle man for their squabble is an a*****e.
#23
“Can you keep a secret?” Doesn’t matter what the secret is, that’s so confusing and puts a ton of pressure on the kid
#24
If there's family dysfunction & a kid is going through a rough emotional period with moments of lashing out: "Do you really want to be like your mom/dad when you're older?"
MADELINE JONES 10 months ago
This is absolutely ridiculous. My friends divorced because they were no longer in love but they are still best friends to this day.
#27
On the rocks or neat?
TheGoodBoi 10 months ago
It's always a struggle to put ice in anything at my establishment. That crunch noise of getting ice out of the ice maker makes GoodBoi and the toddler teleport to the kitchen lol
What do you think ?
Sara Burnett 10 months ago
"do you like movies about gladiators?" Nobody has ever asked that question.
Shi 10 months ago
It's a refrence from the movie Airplane. Super inappropriate in the movie, but, I don't understand why it made this list because in terms in real life you're totally right that no one asked that question and if they have it was likely not inappropriate.
Load More Replies... Alias Fakename 10 months ago
I was homeschooled, I always got asked (or my parents got asked) how "socialization" works. 🤨
WonderWoman 10 months ago
Asking little boys if they are the "man of the house" when the father is out/gone.
Spooky Demon Bat (she/they) 9 months ago
I think it's helpful, so that adults can recognize the things that aren't appropriate to ask kids.
Load More Replies... Sara Burnett 10 months ago
"do you like movies about gladiators?" Nobody has ever asked that question.
Shi 10 months ago
It's a refrence from the movie Airplane. Super inappropriate in the movie, but, I don't understand why it made this list because in terms in real life you're totally right that no one asked that question and if they have it was likely not inappropriate.
Load More Replies... Alias Fakename 10 months ago
I was homeschooled, I always got asked (or my parents got asked) how "socialization" works. 🤨
WonderWoman 10 months ago
Asking little boys if they are the "man of the house" when the father is out/gone.
Spooky Demon Bat (she/they) 9 months ago
I think it's helpful, so that adults can recognize the things that aren't appropriate to ask kids.
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