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Mom Leaves $250k Inheritance To Son, Throws A Fit When Daughter Stops Looking After Her
Middle-aged woman and Reddit user Poesbutler has been having trouble with her elderly mother.
The lady is accident-prone and requires a lot of attention and care, which has increasingly fallen on her shoulders.
However, the woman has a busy life of her own, and finding time to travel and attend to the parent’s needs is difficult.
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Roughly two-thirds of Americans (66%) say grown children should provide caregiving for an elderly parent who needs it (this includes 32% who say they have a great deal of responsibility to do so).
But many in the so-called sandwich generation — adults who are caring for their parents as well as their own kids — are stretching their own resources thin or facing difficult money decisions between their own needs and those who rely on them.
In fact, 66% of sandwich generation members reported feeling at least somewhat stressed about affording their family’s financial obligations over the next 10 years, according to a recent Policygenius survey.
Furthermore, a 2017 AARP survey revealed that 40% of family caregivers were not prepared to take on that role.
Clearly, the author of the post does feel an obligation to look after her mother, but her story highlights that people need to establish boundaries for how much they’re willing and able to provide.
“We need to figure out where those boundaries lie, and how much we can really handle ourselves as family caregivers,” Danielle Miura, a certified financial planner who specializes in planning for the sandwich generation, told CNBC. “Is there a plan B in place to take care of ourselves so that we don’t feel obligated to put ourselves in a … position that we’re not comfortable with?”
Hopefully, this incident will help Poesbutler and her relatives figure out what works best for all of them.
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As her story went viral, the woman provided additional context about her situation
People who expressed their support for her said the woman did nothing wrong
But some believe the daughter should suck it up
Eventually, the woman issued an update
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Auntriarch 6 months ago
I never fail to be astonished by the number of YTAs. She's not doing it for the money, none of us are. But I can totally understand why it hurts.
Justin Smith 6 months ago
The money does matter though, cause op has had to spend her own to run down to take care of her mother, orevwn just visit cause the mother wont come see op and her family.
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marcelo D. 6 months ago
the YTA people are wild. Yes, money is money, and you cannot expect anything from anybody's will like one said, but by that logic of money is money, time is money, travelling is money, and helping is money, so how come the YTA expect OP to go and help.
Bobbi Lee 6 months ago
NTA. Don’t let the comments of virtue-signallers get you down. Being a mother does not change selfish manipulative people into a nice caring person. Your first duty is to be an available mother to your own children. Why are you making your entire family sacrifice for this manipulative woman. She’s not starving. She’s enough money to hire a carer. I fear you may be drawn back into this manipulative web because you appear a very loving and forgiving woman.
Auntriarch 6 months ago
I never fail to be astonished by the number of YTAs. She's not doing it for the money, none of us are. But I can totally understand why it hurts.
Justin Smith 6 months ago
The money does matter though, cause op has had to spend her own to run down to take care of her mother, orevwn just visit cause the mother wont come see op and her family.
Load More Replies... marcelo D. 6 months ago
the YTA people are wild. Yes, money is money, and you cannot expect anything from anybody's will like one said, but by that logic of money is money, time is money, travelling is money, and helping is money, so how come the YTA expect OP to go and help.
Bobbi Lee 6 months ago
NTA. Don’t let the comments of virtue-signallers get you down. Being a mother does not change selfish manipulative people into a nice caring person. Your first duty is to be an available mother to your own children. Why are you making your entire family sacrifice for this manipulative woman. She’s not starving. She’s enough money to hire a carer. I fear you may be drawn back into this manipulative web because you appear a very loving and forgiving woman.
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