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Maybe it's their tendency to abuse substances or rude behavior towards waiters, but red flags in a relationship are indicators that something needs to be questioned. However, our mind sometimes talks itself into disregarding what our intuition is picking up on.
So when Reddit user Loxomednurmusci asked everyone on the platform to share the biggest dating warning signs that many ignore way too often, people were quick to reply. Most adults are still skeptical of whether algorithms can predict love, so we can't neglect our social skills.
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#1
“My ex just left one day out of the blue. I came home and her stuff was gone”.
Ladies if you hear this, run.
Abusers know they can’t say my ex was crazy nowadays. This is the new version of it. The woman likely had to flee for safety. Her family members likely had to protect her after fleeing. There’s a reason he couldn’t find her after she left.
LavenderHippoInAJar 7 months ago
Posting to cover up a negative comment. Have a great day everyone!
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#3
If his friends are racist, sexist, homophobic, etc, but he claims he's not like them.... He is exactly like them, he just learned to hide it better.
#4
Insults masked as joking
“Oh that’s just his sense of humor..” No. He’s just disguising his honesty with jokes.
#5
If the other person doesn’t exhibit some level of curiosity about you. When there’s chemistry, you want to know more about the other person because you find them interesting. If you find yourself carrying the conversation, trying to learn about the other person but they show no interest in learning about you, then it’s a sure sign that there’s no compatibility. Don’t take it personally—no one can be everyone’s cup of tea and it’s better to know that from the beginning.
Sue Denham 7 months ago
Sometimes they're just more interested in themselves than anyone else.
#7
They unsettle you. There's a nagging instinct urging you to keep your distance, even though they appear fine on the surface. An internal conflict arises. Don't dismiss this feeling as a flaw in your character or a result of past traumas. If your intuition is screaming at you to flee, heed its warning no matter how 'alright' the other person may seem. Ignoring it will only amplify the persistent unease, making it increasingly challenging to leave the person.
#8
If it bothers you now, it will surely bother you later, only way worse. Lol.
Bear Hall 7 months ago
Nobody is perfect. I ignore little things bothering me all the time when I interact anybody. How else can we exist together but this way? If I want her as a partner it's a must to glass over her sloppiness or questionable taste of music because she's much more than these things.
#9
Love bombing! Learn to identify it and then DON’T ignore it. It’s not love - it’s a con.
Deb Johnston 7 months ago
Very short lived relationship that I was love bombed. I was a recently divorced single mom. I'm glad I wised up. The guy was a true narcissist. He's still in our friend group. He's had 3 marriages, and I have lost count on the engagements.
#10
Not being polite to service workers.
Hannah Taylor 7 months ago
That tells me about everything I need to know about the other person--date, friend, family, boss. If that's how they behave towards service workers, what am I worth, eh? I USED to be a service worker, and dealt with two-legged jackasses on a regular basis. With very few exceptions, I wouldn't wish that fate on anyone.
#11
When they can't attribute their own fault or shortcoming to a single problem they face in life. Today, it's their parents or boss. Tomorrow it will be you.
#12
He hadn't actually told his ex they were broken up, just that they needed to "take a break." I should have taken a break too at that point.
#13
If you are not on the same page with money, this leads to a lot of problems should the relationship get serious
#14
When people ignore the fact the other person dont put in effort.
It always buffles me how many people jumping through hoops while getting nothing in return...
#15
Person already being in a relationship
Like, you think this person that’s cheating on their partner will suddenly turn into a person that you can trust is some funny s**t.
Headless Horseman 7 months ago
"Awww but he CHOSE ME over THAT PERSON. i must be special!!" Oh honey. There will always be someone more special to a cheater.
#16
"All of my exes are b****** or aholes." What's the common denominator here? *you*.
#18
Little care when in the wrong, never showing any accountability for basically anything.
Hannah Taylor 7 months ago
I spent five miserable years with someone just like that. One junior college class of Psychology 101, and he was Sigmund Freud. Nothing was ever his fault: the fender bender (not watching the road), losing his job (slacking off), going into debt (used credit cards like they were going to be outlawed at midnight). If I had only known early on, I would have avoided him like what you find in a stockyard.
#20
Love is blind. So blind, that people are often willing to overlook small differences in values and/or needs because it might not matter much in the beginning of a relationship and see it as a "necessary compromise and love will conquer all", but oftentimes those little differences will become huge problems later in the relationship (most often when children becomes part of the equation).
#21
Constantly cancelling because their entire life is so busy. Like, on Saturday evenings?
#22
Little white lies should be one of the higher ones in this list. You see them lie to other people or family without a second thought, even about stupid stuff. Trust me, it only gets bigger and worse as time goes on.
Kristal 7 months ago
I don't think you're using that term the correct way. A "white lie" is one to protect a person's feeling, spare them sadness, etc. A white lie is done for the feeling of someone other than yourself. Lying is about protecting the person lying. White lie does not equal small lie.
#23
Find out your date has his own photos as phone background.. Just run!
#24
If he has a burner phone, run
Aidan Campbell 7 months ago
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#27
Mistaking outer beauty for inner beauty..
D. Pitbull 7 months ago
And yet we still see it sooo much... and it's supported in media, in games, etc. etc. etc... "beauty equals goodness" - a pretty girl rips off a friend or cheats on a test, she's "edgy" or... "daring" or "wow, such a rebel" - the average-looking person does the same (or less, not even)? Oh, they're PURE VILLAIN SCUM.
#28
A red flag that people often overlook when dating is inconsistency in communication or behavior. For example, if someone is extremely attentive and communicative one day, but then disappears or becomes distant the next without explanation, it could indicate underlying issues or mixed intentions.
Kristal 7 months ago
... or that they just get busy. People do not have to be in constant communication, particularly at the beginning of a relationship.
Nina 7 months ago
*without explanation* If you're chatty Cathy on days one to 5 and stone cold Steve on day 6-10 without any acknowledgement you're acting different, it's a red flag. Bonus points if you start gaslighting the other person you aren't acting differently.
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Svenne O'Lotta 7 months ago
As a Broccoli I just can't seem to bring myself to care about your stupid star sign.
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Mysteria 7 months ago
So having something like depression or bipolar disorder is a red flag? I get it if they don’t make any effort to improve their quality of life and stuff but as long as they manage it then it’s not a dealbreaker.
Don V 7 months ago
As someone with lifelong struggles with serious depression, heck yes it's a red flag. Not everyone is looking for or even emotionally capable of dealing with all of that baggage. Mental illnesses are the reason for some of our behaviors, but they aren't excuses for them and it's still our responsibility to manage them properly. However, if it affects you enough that even being managed you're not able to consistently show interest in a partner and give proper support then the hard pill to swallow is that you aren't actually managing it successfully, and that's a very, very valid thing for someone you'll presumably be relying on for emotional support to know. If however you do manage it and just have a bad day now and then then that's wonderful, and this item on the list isn't meant for you. But if withdrawing emotionally is such a frequent behavior that it's becoming a noticable issue to your partner? Total red flag, and they need to decide if they're up for the relationship or not.
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#29
Constantly asking your partner if they find random people in public or on TV attractive. In my experience, when they’re asking this, there is no right answer.
Every once in a while is one thing, but if you find yourself walking around looking at your feet all the time, there might be an issue.
#30
Someone who is constantly changing jobs. I don't mean they work for 6 months for one place, get a better position at another company for 1.5 years, then go to a different company. That's normal career growth.
If someone is quitting jobs every few months, even if they immediately get a new job they are not stable.
What do you think ?
Steve 7 months ago
They have blood on microscope slides hidden in the AC unit of their Florida apartment, and take frequent boat trips into the bay with garbage bags that are missing when they come back.
marianne eliza 7 months ago
1: An adult without any bank accounts. They're hiding from someone. Police, collection agencies. 2: Aggressive driving.
devotedtodreams 7 months ago
About 1,5 years into our relationship, my ex ghosted me from one day to the next. Since he was my first relationship and I was terrified at the thought of being single after finally (apparently) having found love, I begged him to at least tell why. I finally received an email with an explanation, and there were some legit points in it. But everyone I knew said I should just let it go. In hindsight, I wish I had listened to them - but no, I fought for the relationship, which picked up after a month and lasted for 5,5 years total. (And I never fully trusted him ever again because of this whole ghosting business.)
MrsFettesVette 7 months ago
Oof, u was in a similar situation, I look back now and wonder why I was trying so hard.
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Steve 7 months ago
They have blood on microscope slides hidden in the AC unit of their Florida apartment, and take frequent boat trips into the bay with garbage bags that are missing when they come back.
marianne eliza 7 months ago
1: An adult without any bank accounts. They're hiding from someone. Police, collection agencies. 2: Aggressive driving.
devotedtodreams 7 months ago
About 1,5 years into our relationship, my ex ghosted me from one day to the next. Since he was my first relationship and I was terrified at the thought of being single after finally (apparently) having found love, I begged him to at least tell why. I finally received an email with an explanation, and there were some legit points in it. But everyone I knew said I should just let it go. In hindsight, I wish I had listened to them - but no, I fought for the relationship, which picked up after a month and lasted for 5,5 years total. (And I never fully trusted him ever again because of this whole ghosting business.)
MrsFettesVette 7 months ago
Oof, u was in a similar situation, I look back now and wonder why I was trying so hard.
Load More Replies... Curry on... 7 months ago
Not related, but the amount of grammatical errors through all the topics is atrocious. Doesn't BP have staff to proofread?
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