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I Need Some Help.
I need some help coming out to my parents that I’m bi. They are VERY religious people, and I feel like they will kick me out if I say I’m Bi. Can anyone help me.
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I need some help coming out to my parents that I’m bi. They are VERY religious people, and I feel like they will kick me out if I say I’m Bi. Can anyone help me.
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Lonely Leafeon 4 years ago
Hey. HUGS If you feel your parents would kick you out then I wouldn't come out until you're on your own so you can be safe. If you need some resources or a place to vent and make some friends I can recommend AVEN (Asexual Visibility Education Network). It's open to anyone of any sexuality or gender identity, everyone is really nice and there's lists of resources on there. I highly recommend it.
Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago
Coming out to parents is hard. My kid was nervous about coming out as pansexual - even though her mom is bisexual and both her parents have numerous LGBTQ friends. If you are a minor and have no other options for adults to live with, you might want to keep it quiet until you have someplace to go. They might not kick you out, but it could become a hostile - or at least difficult - environment. You are going to have your entire adult life to live as you choose and be surrounded by people who accept you as you are.
pansexualandproud 4 years ago
I was scared that my parents would hate me too so I kept it a secret for as long as I could. I'm the first small hint is that I made a pansexual button to test if they knew what the flag meant. what I'm saying is try to test if they are homophobic and if there not go from there. if they are homophobic just know we are here for u <3
JULIANNE SHERWOOD 4 years ago
dont say anthying. if you know theyre going to not like it or start treating you differently just keep it a secret.
Lynda Gutierrez 4 years ago
One of the things about growing up is that you learn that you don't need to share everything about your life with people you feel might give you grief for it. And that includes parents. As has been suggested below, you might instead do casual things -- like wearing a bi-flag button or maybe joining a Straight-Gay Alliance at school (if you're sure even that wouldn't upset your parents) -- if they ask you why, you can say that you think it's important that LGBTQ people are accepted in the community. (That's what my youngest child did -- although why they thought I'd be upset, IDK, since we brought them to our friend's wedding nearly as soon as marriage equality became legal in our state.) You can pick up cues and hints about their feelings about bisexuality and other LGBTQ issues little by little and they can get an idea of yours without the pressure of a big announcement. If they seem resistant, hold off until you're out on your own.
Aj Grimes 🦄 (Post author) 4 years ago
Well I finally figured out im actually non-binary but thank u all for ur words of wisdom
i go to seek a great perhaps 4 years ago
Hi, i know this is a really hard situation to be in, but i'm so proud of you for making this huge step towards telling them! I don't have a lot of great advice, but i do just want to say that you are loved no matter what, and there will always be people who love and support you through this! Being yourself, unapologetically, should be something we all get to do, and i hope your family supports you through this too! Good luck! :)
Lonely Leafeon 4 years ago
Hey. HUGS If you feel your parents would kick you out then I wouldn't come out until you're on your own so you can be safe. If you need some resources or a place to vent and make some friends I can recommend AVEN (Asexual Visibility Education Network). It's open to anyone of any sexuality or gender identity, everyone is really nice and there's lists of resources on there. I highly recommend it.
Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago
Coming out to parents is hard. My kid was nervous about coming out as pansexual - even though her mom is bisexual and both her parents have numerous LGBTQ friends. If you are a minor and have no other options for adults to live with, you might want to keep it quiet until you have someplace to go. They might not kick you out, but it could become a hostile - or at least difficult - environment. You are going to have your entire adult life to live as you choose and be surrounded by people who accept you as you are.
pansexualandproud 4 years ago
I was scared that my parents would hate me too so I kept it a secret for as long as I could. I'm the first small hint is that I made a pansexual button to test if they knew what the flag meant. what I'm saying is try to test if they are homophobic and if there not go from there. if they are homophobic just know we are here for u <3
JULIANNE SHERWOOD 4 years ago
dont say anthying. if you know theyre going to not like it or start treating you differently just keep it a secret.
Lynda Gutierrez 4 years ago
One of the things about growing up is that you learn that you don't need to share everything about your life with people you feel might give you grief for it. And that includes parents. As has been suggested below, you might instead do casual things -- like wearing a bi-flag button or maybe joining a Straight-Gay Alliance at school (if you're sure even that wouldn't upset your parents) -- if they ask you why, you can say that you think it's important that LGBTQ people are accepted in the community. (That's what my youngest child did -- although why they thought I'd be upset, IDK, since we brought them to our friend's wedding nearly as soon as marriage equality became legal in our state.) You can pick up cues and hints about their feelings about bisexuality and other LGBTQ issues little by little and they can get an idea of yours without the pressure of a big announcement. If they seem resistant, hold off until you're out on your own.
Aj Grimes 🦄 (Post author) 4 years ago
Well I finally figured out im actually non-binary but thank u all for ur words of wisdom
i go to seek a great perhaps 4 years ago
Hi, i know this is a really hard situation to be in, but i'm so proud of you for making this huge step towards telling them! I don't have a lot of great advice, but i do just want to say that you are loved no matter what, and there will always be people who love and support you through this! Being yourself, unapologetically, should be something we all get to do, and i hope your family supports you through this too! Good luck! :)
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