He needs tested for obstructive sleep apnea. Getting proper treatment is life changing for most people with it!

Obesity is not simply overeating. Its a disease. We know this know that medications are provably dropping weight, killing cravings, and changing lives. Get him to a doctor asap.

I don't believe anyone gets to a weight like this without depression being a big factor. I don't know that saying anything would change it. He knows it's a problem and he has to be the one to decide to get help. I hope you can separate-you don't have to divorce but it might be the wake-up call he needs- at least get out to an apartment or something so you can get sleep. He may not choose to do anything but it's not sustainable for you or fair for you to live like that.

He was apparently already on the larger spectrum so with her numbers he went from 150kg to 222 kg give or take, and 222 kg is a lot of weight! My husband is big-ish despite working very physically, it's just how he is built. I think he's around 95 kg now and according to blood tests that were down in nov 2024 he could lose some 10 kg to be healthier. Depending on the height of OP husband, 150 kg might very well have been OK-ish but I doubt 222 kg is. I would find the RIGHT time to try and ease into this conversation and if that doesn't go well she has no other option than to leave him. He might be depressed unbeknownst to her and tossing insults in his face won't help but I do understand her frustration because lack of sleep for a long period of time will make her insane!

If he doesn't hear it directly from a doctor, she probably won't get anywhere. Ozempic might be good to get him motivated. When my ex put on his "winter fat", his member literally shrunk. No joke. If you really love him, you HAVE to help him. He will die and then it won't matter anymore. He sounds like a great guy and just needs some guidance and psychology intervention. What a shame. My ex was a turd.

This guy sounds disgusting. OP is a wonder for staying so long. He doesn't give a damn about his health and expects to be kept satisfied, yet does nothing for that poor woman . She should definitely leave him.

Ear plugs. Or leave.

Therapy and maybe surgery. Gastric bypass saved me.

Going through the exact same thing with my SO. He drinks and eats too much. His snoring keeps me awake and his weight gets in the way. We haven't touched in over 3 years now. I can't sleep on the couch as I am disabled and we don't have another room. I do take naps during the day when I can. I still do ALL the cooking, cleaning, dogs, laundry, etc. He does nothing at our house at all. He comes home from work, sits in his recliner and drinks until bedtime. I get it! You totally have a right to tell him to get his life and health in order or you are leaving! It's miserable living this way. I am at this point now.

She needs to move on heifer boy isn't going to ever get fit

From what you say it sounds like you have had something special together. It also sounds like your partner may well be depressed. Maybe you could both do with support of a professional to navigate how to change things. Would it be possible for the two of you to get together somewhere out of the house and have an honest talk about your lives and your relationship as a starting point. You are seriously affected by his snoring and there’s nothing more stressful than noise and lack of sleep. He is clearly struggling with food and weight. It’s not about fat shaming but about genuine concerns about his health and it’s about your own needs which are important. Try to talk without blame. Sometimes writing it down beforehand can help you clarify in your head what you need to say. You can be gentle but not apologetic. You obviously care a lot and it sounds like he has closed down previous discussion. You aren’t responsible for his reaction but if you think there maybe something to preserve then you both need to communicate. Be gentle with yourself. I wish you well whatever you choose.

Imagine the genders in this article would be reversed. The outrage!