FIRE IS NOT A PRANK! YOU MARRIED AN ABUSIVE, NARCISSICTIC CHILD.

This was not a joke. Abusers often show their hand when their partner is pregnant or has just given birth. They resent the lack of control and the attention focus on the woman and baby so they act out. The nasty prank wasn’t the only abuse here - her being the one to apologize and then him rejecting the apology is classic abusive DARVO behavior - Deny, attack, reverse victim order. This will get worse when the baby comes.

If you stay with him, expect that this type of behavior will continue. Just wait until he tells you that "the baby's not breathing" or "I can't find the baby anywhere"... Hahaha!! Why you so upset? It's just a prank?

I am not a violent man, but I want to put on my steel toe boots and kick this guy in the doo-dads.

Husband is a HUGE RED FLAG!

Wow. That's a criminal offense in Canada. it's also a jerk move from the husband's part and he demands that she apologizes? WTFF??? Most horrible husband ever after my ex-husband (he did stuff like that too). Canada-Fal...7ba2c3.jpg

No no no. A harmless prank is putting tape on the bottom of someone's computer mouse. Inciting panic based on childhood trauma is bad enough, but a pregnant woman? What else is this AH doing to her?

The "prank" was bad enough but the fact that he refused to admit he was in the wrong is telling. How could anyone think playing such a prank involving past trauma on a pregnant woman is ok? Then he gaslights you into thinking YOU are the one who should apologize? He just showed you who he really is. Leave the bastard.

He may be the older one, but he is not very mature at all!

Ok, let me get this straight: husband decides to scare the absolute s**t out of his 34-week-pregnant wife who has some serious past trauma, by using that trauma on her, gets upset when she absolutely and PREDICTABLY falls apart, then HE won't take HER apology? Let's also not forget the probable grooming she's been subjected to.

Her going to apologize to him is bad enough but he won't accept it? loool. That guy is a piece of s**t.

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I would've called 911 + said "Help! I'm 34 weeks pregnant + my husband's threatening me!" Then when he gets arrested, tell him it was just a prank. ;) Because, technically, what he did *could* be considered a threat.

Waking up a person who doesn't get much sleep is horrible on its own, add the super funny trauma call back, loser!

how's that one person voting yes if they DK - she literally told him her trauma, he took it to the max. Divorce that M**O

Pranks are stupid at best, harmful and cruel at worst. Biggest red flag ever! I'd pack a bag and leave his a*s that day.

Pranks are 1 way weak men let you know how much they hate women. This guy hates her with a passion

There's a reason 30yo ish guys date teenagers and early 20s women, because they are so immature women older won't date them. Seen a few friends date losers like this.

I would kick him so hard in the nards that he would never be able to impregnate anyone ever again! Girl, take YOUR baby and RUN

He's a di@k, love.

Oh my god, what a f*****g a*****e! And she apologized??!! You kidding me. What if she tripped down the stairs while she was running down and hurt herself and the baby? Wow, just wow.....I would have killed that m**********r not apologizing to him.

Sick.

This shït pisses me off so much I just don't have sufficient words. What a fúcking psycotic asshõle!!!

Pranks and practical jokes are only funny when both parties are "in on it"--yelling FIRE when there is none is outrageous. That's like pulling a fire alarm in a school when there is no fire. It's against the law. I've, thankfully, never been in a fire but it terrifies me to even think about it. And being pregnant? Does he think jumping out from behind the door with a tarantula in his hands is funny? You're lucky you didn't go into labor. And your husband is an idiot, never to be trusted again. Cut him loose.

It sucks that she is having a child with this man, because ideally she should separate her life from him completely if possible.

Sounds like he was trying to get her to miscarry. What kind of clueless c**t would try and play pranks on a pregnant woman? He should be looking after her not terrorising her. Some very very dark psychological problems with this monster. Not fit to be a parent. Already shown grooming behaviour. Alarm bells ringing!

I cannot believe OP thought she owed this POS an APOLOGY!! Then he has the audacity to tell HER she made him feel bad when she overreacted??? OMG, I would never let this POS near my child unchaperoned. Can you imagine the "pranks" he would play on a defenseless child? I would be at an attorney's office as soon as the sun rises.

This was not a prank and even less so a harmless one. That would be terrible and a good reason for divorce, if she were not pregnant and did not have trauma. All these things together in adition to their absolute power imbalance because of their ages, this man is a pure psycho. If a partner would pull that "prank" on me, I would pull one right back, cause I would throw them out in their pyjamas that instance, they could consider themself lucky if I would even throw them their phone out of a window for them to catch.

OP most probably has PTSD and her husband is an incredible jerk for pulling a prank on her over that. He could caused her to go into premature labour or caused her to fall down the steps in panic. She needs counseling to help her deal with her trauma. He needs a good paddle on his backside for his juvenile behavior. If it was me I'd be kicking him to the curb

I found her Reddit page! They met when she was 18. In many of her answers, she is defending him. i.e., "...it's often an argument that I'm "too sensitive"." "I apologized because he made a big deal about me making him feel horrible." So many down votes. But no follow up. This post occurred on Aug 1, 2024. No follow up.

I'd have been arrested because I'd have beaten him half to death

My family and I had a house fire when I was 18 years old, about two weeks before Christmas. Thankfully, no one died and the fire was contained to the third floor, but there was mainly smoke and water damage to the rest of the house (my mom, eldest sister and her son were home at the time, they were saved thanks to an excessively LOUD doorbell that neighbors, seeing the smoke, kept ringing). If my husband dared to even pull this stunt while I was heavily pregnant, I would not only yell at him, I'd be telling my family about it and they would've given him the "Philly beatdown" for putting me and my baby at risk. Plus, he would've been barred from the delivery room because he dared to endanger us (medical staff can bar anyone including spouses and partners if they are deemed a risk to mom and baby)!

NTA. He thought that making you relive the worst trauma in your life was funny. No it was downright cruel and the last thing you should have done was apologise. This is a massive red flag and he will never change. For the sake of your sanity get away from him for good.

“Honey, that night you woke me up and told me the house was on fire? The baby died that night. You killed our baby. Yes, sweetie; your son is dead. Oh, stop crying! That was a harmless prank! I’m holding the baby as we speak! Now wipe your nose and sign these papers, please.”