Wife Realizes Husband Doesn’t Trust Her After Finding A Surprise In Her Car
Being able to trust your partner is one of those things that seems like it should be common sense and yet, for many couples, is a luxury. Normally, the best course of action is some honest and open communication, but a few individuals turn to spy craft.
A woman wondered if she was overreacting when she found out that her husband was using an Air Tag to secretly track her car. When confronted, he insisted it was to help recover the car if it was stolen, which she didn’t buy. We reached out to the woman via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Being tracked against your will is a horrifying feeling, even worse when it’s your literal spouse doing it
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A shared her harrowing story of finding a hidden Air Tag in her car, placed there by her husband
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There are few “good” reasons to track someone
There have been real-life cases where, exactly as the husband mentioned, stolen cars were recovered using Air Tags. Just last year, a North Carolina family, in collaboration with the police, recovered their car because they could track it. Reportedly, the police were positively surprised that a stolen vehicle could be found in minutes using a roughly thirty dollar piece of tech.
Of course, for every “correct” use of an Air Tag, there are multiple instances where people abuse the technology. If you have never seen one, it’s basically the size of a coin. In other words, it’s very small and easy to hide, which makes them a stalker’s dream. Apple did build in alerts about Air Tags in one’s vicinity, but it does not work on Android devices, which are what the majority of people use. Apple did later release an app for Android users, but this is not something most of us would think to download unless we were already worried about a stalker.
Similarly, some experts have found that it can still work if someone removes its speakers. Unfortunately, there is even an entire industry of “aftermarket” Air Tags that are modified this way. The BBC has reported that multiple women have already found these sorts of modified Air Tags on their personal belongings.
Similarly, car owners have found unknown Air Tags on their own cars after leaving them in a parking lot. The truth is that these devices, while useful for a few things, are truly a stalker’s dream, since they are small, cheap, modifiable and very, very easy to hide. Similarly, the vast majority of people do not want to be tracked, even by someone they know.
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Trust issues will often irreparable damage a relationship
This is the real crux of this story. The husband’s “excuse” for the Air Tag doesn’t really hold water. He doesn’t do it for other cars and, as the woman stated, they literally have an app for this. Tracking a partner who you think might be cheating isn’t an impossible option, but, importantly, he doesn’t even try to accuse her. If he had evidence or even a suspicion, this would be a good way to explain his own behavior. It’s not like affairs don’t happen, but if he is just paranoid without reason, he doesn’t even bring up this possibility.
But quite clearly, he doesn’t even bring up this option, opting for a non-explanation. Similarly, he doesn’t think that transferring control to the Air Tag is a viable option. As some of the commenters suggest, perhaps he is the one hiding things. Some partners are just downright controlling, but after twelve years together, this doesn’t seem to be the case here. Instead, as one reader put forward, maybe he is cheating or just doing something he doesn’t want to get caught for and needs to see when she is coming home.
Perhaps this is just some unresolved issues coming to the forefront of this relationship. But it’s pretty clear that he is unable to tell her why he placed an Air Tag. His excuses seem laughable and are frankly insulting. While she never does explain exactly how she knew it was him, he also doesn’t deny it, so he must have been the culprit. After all, remember, there are documented cases of people finding strange Air Tags in their vehicles, but this is clearly not the case here. Perhaps he is paranoid and just unwilling to admit it or maybe he has some more nefarious motive. Of course, we are also taking the wife’s story at face value, when she could be leaving out details.
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as always the YTA crowd are insane. "if you don't have nothing to hide why do you care that several laws and your rights are being violated"
Ironically, these people who think it's okay to track your spouse without consent are probably the SAME crowd who are paranoid that Bill Gates is putting microchips in vaccines.
Load More Replies...Regardless of anything else 1-Get control of your finances, 2-Get your car registered in your name, 3-Ensure that 50% of any other assets are in your name. We're just hearing the tiniest tip of the iceberg, and already I'm not liking what I hear, and these are basic things that should be automatically be happening for everyone anyhow.
Husband's control over OP escalades to coercive after he already mostly isolated her. If you feel confused and like walking in eggshels, that means you are in an abusive relationship, that creates complex trauma. She should doccument his behavior, and carefully plan her exit: backup finances, papers, clothes, accomodation, vehicle. He probably has a personality disorder, he looks like he has psychopatic and, or narcisisstic behavior. I hope she finds an artorney that dealt with such an opponent before as they can turn incredibly nasty, revengefull and irrational.
Tracking someone could be innocuous and also go the the extreme of diabolical. There are things to consider on the extreme spectrum that nobody ever wants to believe about the person whom is supposed to love them but the worst things happen daily to partners all over the world and I would no longer feel safe if I found out I was being tracked like that up to fearing for my life.
My husband and 2 boys are all on a family circle tracking app. It's not hidden and we all consent to it. I don't give a damn if he tracks me. I'm not doing anything suspicious and plus I'm trying to be found if I'm ever abducted. lol
Everyone jumping to conclusions, we really love drama! This came up with a friend who shares an iPhone account with his wife, you can track each other through "Find My...". He would check on her home arrival time so he could get off the video games when she was getting close! There are plenty of relatively (relatively!) innocent reasons to want to know where a partner is!
He has control over all of their finances. This is just more of the same controlling pattern.
Load More Replies...I think the husband needs to seek help. He sounds like one of those people that is morphing into a reclusive Unabomber type. I like the idea of tossing the airpod into the bed of a truck or into an open window of a strange vehicle. Then hide and watch his head explode as he tries to figure out what's happening. You need to figure out your finances, get your name on the deed and titles, then talk to an attorney to see what your rights are in your state when you divorce him.
Husband's a beginner control freak. in ten years, she'll be terrified of not getting him the right brand of beer.
My ex-hubs hired a PI back in the '70's to follow me around. He also tried to force me to have sex, controlled what clothes I wore, etc. Many, many reasons why he's my ex.
She should look on her phone to see if he has you on “Find My” . You should set it up on YOUR phone to “Find My” husband.
This sounds like a man who is stuck at home alllll the time and wants his wife stuck there too. He needs to get out and socialise / do more. He's in a downward spiral, but he can drag himself out of it once they get to the bottom of it. Kinda makes me wish I had a reddit account to comment.... but I really don't care enough to bother
That last line of the response by OP the the YTA comment was the best lol
EIGHT MONTHS AGO. This story is no longer relevant. OLD OLD OUTDATED S**T
as always the YTA crowd are insane. "if you don't have nothing to hide why do you care that several laws and your rights are being violated"
Ironically, these people who think it's okay to track your spouse without consent are probably the SAME crowd who are paranoid that Bill Gates is putting microchips in vaccines.
Load More Replies...Regardless of anything else 1-Get control of your finances, 2-Get your car registered in your name, 3-Ensure that 50% of any other assets are in your name. We're just hearing the tiniest tip of the iceberg, and already I'm not liking what I hear, and these are basic things that should be automatically be happening for everyone anyhow.
Husband's control over OP escalades to coercive after he already mostly isolated her. If you feel confused and like walking in eggshels, that means you are in an abusive relationship, that creates complex trauma. She should doccument his behavior, and carefully plan her exit: backup finances, papers, clothes, accomodation, vehicle. He probably has a personality disorder, he looks like he has psychopatic and, or narcisisstic behavior. I hope she finds an artorney that dealt with such an opponent before as they can turn incredibly nasty, revengefull and irrational.
Tracking someone could be innocuous and also go the the extreme of diabolical. There are things to consider on the extreme spectrum that nobody ever wants to believe about the person whom is supposed to love them but the worst things happen daily to partners all over the world and I would no longer feel safe if I found out I was being tracked like that up to fearing for my life.
My husband and 2 boys are all on a family circle tracking app. It's not hidden and we all consent to it. I don't give a damn if he tracks me. I'm not doing anything suspicious and plus I'm trying to be found if I'm ever abducted. lol
Everyone jumping to conclusions, we really love drama! This came up with a friend who shares an iPhone account with his wife, you can track each other through "Find My...". He would check on her home arrival time so he could get off the video games when she was getting close! There are plenty of relatively (relatively!) innocent reasons to want to know where a partner is!
He has control over all of their finances. This is just more of the same controlling pattern.
Load More Replies...I think the husband needs to seek help. He sounds like one of those people that is morphing into a reclusive Unabomber type. I like the idea of tossing the airpod into the bed of a truck or into an open window of a strange vehicle. Then hide and watch his head explode as he tries to figure out what's happening. You need to figure out your finances, get your name on the deed and titles, then talk to an attorney to see what your rights are in your state when you divorce him.
Husband's a beginner control freak. in ten years, she'll be terrified of not getting him the right brand of beer.
My ex-hubs hired a PI back in the '70's to follow me around. He also tried to force me to have sex, controlled what clothes I wore, etc. Many, many reasons why he's my ex.
She should look on her phone to see if he has you on “Find My” . You should set it up on YOUR phone to “Find My” husband.
This sounds like a man who is stuck at home alllll the time and wants his wife stuck there too. He needs to get out and socialise / do more. He's in a downward spiral, but he can drag himself out of it once they get to the bottom of it. Kinda makes me wish I had a reddit account to comment.... but I really don't care enough to bother
That last line of the response by OP the the YTA comment was the best lol
EIGHT MONTHS AGO. This story is no longer relevant. OLD OLD OUTDATED S**T
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