I'm just going to repeat it. These are textbook examples of abuse. This person is being manipulated. She is being cut off from family. He is damaging her education by crippling her computer. He is a leech.

I'm thinking OP is either naive, stupid or a troll because after all the people commenting and advising her she writes: "I know my post paints a very limited picture but he's hot AF."

Wow. This is not a funny or questionable secret. This is straight up subversive abuse. He is telling you now because he believes you are sufficiently controlled and submissive that you will not leave him for this. This is on top of the very signficant age difference. Make no mistake... you have been groomed and abused. If you accept this behavior and do not leave, your life is about to get infinitely worse because he will believe that your acceptance gives him the power to do whatever the f**k he wants. He has literally shown and told you who he is. Run far. Run fast. Do not look back.

Ptsd from losing a job 🤷‍♂️ sounds like a büllshit

He is treating you like a Child - in an abusive way! Get divorced ASAP

I know I could never trust someone who would manipulate me with so little remorse.

Immediate divorce, the guy is a psychopath.

So you've married a 32 yo man when you were an 18 yo woman? Or an 18 yo girl? While with the younger one being of age, I don't see a generalizable problem, the likelihood of it being a problematic relationship that exploits - not only accepts - the gap in age, experience and so forth, still is pretty high. But, age alone isn't a problem, it just helps completing the picture here, as all the other factors check out as well, it may not be a problem as and of itself, but an indicator to look closer, and he really doesn't fail to deliver here, and then some. Leave that idiot. He's using you. Abusing you. Let me guess, if you'd ask him how to turn on the vacuum, he won't know? Ask him which brand of dish soap you have. Will he know? Sounds like you're working to earn money, and he ... just sits around all day? "Doesn't want to apply to avoid trauma from being rejected", oh my ... PTSD for being fired ... oh my ... what a loser. Sabotaging one of your major ways of contact to your siblings doesn't imply any good either, but quite the opposite. Talk to a lawyer. Call in sick at work to not set him off - is he violent? Not necessarily against you, but in general. Just keep in mind that evil, manipulative persons who don't respect you, but exploit you, may not have the most sufficient self-restrictive mechanisms to cope with being "disappointed", or however they call not having everything their ways regardless of how unhinged behaviour and/or demands are. That is, if OP and this story are even real. It's so many red flags, none of them mentioned as such, that I'm not really leaning to believe this is true. But, still, there's a lot of people ignoring red flags their partners are wrapping them into, .... anyway ...

It depends on how many hours OP had been playing video games instead of spending them doing couple-type things with her husband. To do what he did, he must've been extremely frustrated with her game playing. They should've had a conversation instead of him hampering her computer functions first, of course.

Ditch this loser as fast as you can and run!

This is coercive control - run, run very fast.

You need to sack him off for being a grown man still watching TikToks!

You've been groomed....RUN...RUN FAST, RUN FAR.

She should kill this abusive bastard! Any judge in their right mind would find her not guilty.

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Maybe do that for a week, not two years. If there's an issue, talk about it, don't manipulate.