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Lazy Husband Ignores Wife’s Back-To-Back Texts, Replies To The Last One Every Time, She Gets Mad
Very often, when starting our relationship with someone, we desperately try to show our best side, make a spectacular impression and show off the better version of ourselves. And then, if everything works out, the wedding happens, and the years of marriage, alas, take their toll. The demo version of a brave knight or a beautiful princess ends…
Another example of this is the story from the user u/Batticon, which we’re going to tell you today. On the one hand, it seems like a harmless, albeit strange habit that our heroine’s husband has. On the other hand… however, let’s read everything ourselves, and only then will we draw conclusions.
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The author of the post has been married to her husband for several years and she recently gave birth to their baby
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The spouses both stay at home most of the time and they text a lot
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The problem is that, according to the woman, her spouse usually doesn’t read all her messages – only the last one in a row
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The woman has been attempting to discourage him from this habit but all in vain
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The guy just says that reading all the messages rather than just the last one is unreasonable
So, the Original Poster (OP) is a new mom and she took it online to vent about her husband’s weird and slightly annoying habit. The thing is that in the process of texting, if his wife sends him several messages – for example, 4 or 5, then the guy usually reads only one. The last one.
According to the man, he simply doesn’t consider it necessary to read previous messages – even if they may contain some important information. Previously, when the couple didn’t have a child, this simply irritated the author slightly, but now, when she may urgently need some help, this seems more and more outrageous in her eyes.
The OP’s husband works from home, and she herself is a SAHM, so they text quite often – especially when the baby’s asleep. And when the spouse constantly misses some of her messages, it really irritates our heroine.
The woman has repeatedly tried to appeal to his conscience, to common sense, called her friends and relatives as witnesses – everyone has tried to persuade the man to give up this habit. And all in vain. Unless this post – or rather, the first fifty comments to it – they really made the guy think that maybe he has actually been going about this the wrong way?
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“It seems to me that there are two aspects to the question here. More precisely, you need to look at how this man behaves when texting with other people,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment here. “If such behavior is typical for him in dialogues with any person, then it makes sense to visit a specialist to be checked for ADHD. If this concerns only his wife, then the question is rather different.”
“It is quite possible that when communicating with a spouse with whom they have been together for many years, a person manifests a kind of laziness, an unwillingness to ‘give his best.’ This sometimes happens – and I won’t say that this is a positive trend. Even the slightest neglect of your loved one – this is not very good,” Irina summarizes.
Well, most people in the comments, as we said earlier, completely agreed with the original poster, criticizing her husband. “Sounds like he’s lazy af and trying to use that as an excuse to ignore you,” one of the people wrote. “Your husband is just being purposely difficult, tell him to cut that [bad stuff] out,” another one added.
By the way, the author of the post also claims that she suspected that her husband had some signs of ADHD – and in this case, such behavior, of course, would irritate her much less. But, apparently, the guy allows such behavior only towards his wife, and no one else. In that case… “This is called weaponized incompetence,” one commenter claimed. So do you, our dear readers, also agree with this assessment?
However, people in the comments sided with the author, claiming that it could be either ADHD symptoms, or banal neglect towards the spouse
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Mona 6 months ago
Honestly this kind of behavior is so common I keep it in mind all the time.. if I text my boss, my dad or most people actually, I'll go one question at a time.
Na Schi 6 months ago
Yeah, but it's only (well mostly) common by people, in my experience almost all men, who take you for granted. The raised question if this person would neglect also a text from a boss or e.g. insurance company would receive the same non-response is very valid. As most of those "I just read the last message"-persons won't do this as they clearly think it will affect their lives. Sad but true. If you want to get heard make yourself visible. Trash all this follow up posts! Those make you even more vulnerable - displaying the message that for important things they'll get either way a reminder! If the person values you, this person will take the time to read through all the messages! (BTW: please also learn how to use a paragraph on WhatsApp, Teams etc... as this can really get annoying! (Sending 10 text, because you haven't figured out how to simply start a new sentence in a new row!)
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LaserBrain 6 months ago (edited)
Normal etiquette is, you text once wait for the reply then text back. Double texting, triple, quadruple, quintuple just seems a bit desperate, is annoying for the reader, and reduces the impact and readability of the first text. Maybe he should be replying to her first text instead of the last.
Orysha 6 months ago
String texters are infuriating. If you have different questions to ask put them all in the same message, don't text me five times in a row.
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Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
Just send one message and wait until he responds. Then divorce him for being stupid.
Mike F 6 months ago
I can just imagine what the divorce pleading would look like, 175 pages with one line on each.
Load More Replies... Mona 6 months ago
Honestly this kind of behavior is so common I keep it in mind all the time.. if I text my boss, my dad or most people actually, I'll go one question at a time.
Na Schi 6 months ago
Yeah, but it's only (well mostly) common by people, in my experience almost all men, who take you for granted. The raised question if this person would neglect also a text from a boss or e.g. insurance company would receive the same non-response is very valid. As most of those "I just read the last message"-persons won't do this as they clearly think it will affect their lives. Sad but true. If you want to get heard make yourself visible. Trash all this follow up posts! Those make you even more vulnerable - displaying the message that for important things they'll get either way a reminder! If the person values you, this person will take the time to read through all the messages! (BTW: please also learn how to use a paragraph on WhatsApp, Teams etc... as this can really get annoying! (Sending 10 text, because you haven't figured out how to simply start a new sentence in a new row!)
Load More Replies... LaserBrain 6 months ago (edited)
Normal etiquette is, you text once wait for the reply then text back. Double texting, triple, quadruple, quintuple just seems a bit desperate, is annoying for the reader, and reduces the impact and readability of the first text. Maybe he should be replying to her first text instead of the last.
Orysha 6 months ago
String texters are infuriating. If you have different questions to ask put them all in the same message, don't text me five times in a row.
Load More Replies... Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
Just send one message and wait until he responds. Then divorce him for being stupid.
Mike F 6 months ago
I can just imagine what the divorce pleading would look like, 175 pages with one line on each.
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