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Woman Scolded For “Being Hot” In Public, As Friend’s Husband Has A Weird “Fantasy” About Her
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Woman Scolded For “Being Hot” In Public, As Friend’s Husband Has A Weird “Fantasy” About Her

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If being hot were a crime, some people would be serving life sentences. They walk into a room and suddenly relationships start feeling a little…shaky. It’s almost like looking good has some sort of ability to stir things up, especially when someone’s significant other starts paying a little too much attention to the smoking hot friend.

One Redditor, a woman who loves to rock a pair of heels and the occasional classy dress, had no idea her “look” was about to become a hot topic of conversation, all thanks to her friend’s husband’s wandering eyes.

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Being attractive can be both a blessing and a curse, especially when it causes tensions between friends

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One woman found herself in an uncomfortable situation when her best friend’s husband confessed he had a crush on her

Image credits: David Kouakou / Pexels (not the actual photo)

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The woman asked her friend to stop wearing heels and dresses in front of her husband after he confessed he had been fantasizing over her

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The woman didn’t think her friend’s request was fair, asking her to change her look, and continued to wear makeup and dresses as she usually does

The poster of this story is a 29-year-old woman, who we’ll randomly name Aisha. While she was out with a group of friends at a fancy Michelin-starred restaurant, ready to devour some pretty expensive food (I’m getting hungry just thinking about it) and enjoy good company, she received a text from her friend.

Basically, her bestie was angry at her because she was “too hot.” But what did Aisha do to deserve this, you’re asking? Well, apparently, her existence was enough to trigger some major insecurity.

You see, the friend (let’s call her Emma) confessed to Aisha that her husband had been having a little too much fun fantasizing about her. I don’t know about you, but I would have felt very awkward in that situation. But this is not even the best part. Our Redditor recalls how what Emma asked next was a real doozy.

She pretty much asked her if she could tone down her hotness around her husband and wear no makeup and baggy clothes. Heels? Definitely prohibited. That’s not really something you hear every day.

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Fast forward to the dinner night, where Aisha was dressed perfectly for the occasion in a classy dress and heels. And wearing makeup, of course. Ladies know what it’s all about. Now, our gal could have gone for the hobo-chic look Emma requested, but that would’ve clashed pretty hard with the fancy Michelin-star vibe.

It’s not like she rolled in looking like she was about to walk the red carpet at the Met Gala. She was only dressed nicely for the venue. I would have probably done the same, wouldn’t you?

It gets even worse. You probably already know our Reddit stories; things always get complicated. And this story also gets a bit juicier. The husband, clearly not seeing the awkwardness of the situation, decided to like one of Aisha’s old bikini pics on her Instagram. Nice going, dude! Let’s just say, the block button came in handy at this point.

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If “looking hot” were a crime, Aisha would probably be guilty as charged. But this didn’t help her situation. She was stuck between staying true to herself or apologizing for simply existing with a well-maintained face of makeup and a stylish dress.

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Being authentic and staying true to yourself is super important. Trying to tone down who you are to please others? That’s a fast track to feeling uncomfortable and unfulfilled. Just like Aisha staying true to her classy, fabulous self. It’s important to show up as yourself in every situation. When you’re authentic, the right people will appreciate you for it, and you won’t be stuck playing dress-up in someone else’s insecurities.

It’s normal to feel annoyed or insecure when your partner’s gaze drifts elsewhere, especially to one of your friends. You might start questioning their love, trust, or whether they’re as committed as they say they are. Honestly, who wouldn’t?

Experts agree that, when people are truly committed to their partners, they tend to be automatically and deliberately unbothered by other attractive options. So, if your partner’s eyes keep wandering, maybe it’s time for a little heart-to-heart, before you start sending your friend the “tone it down” request like Emma did.

A strong relationship means being focused on your partner, not getting distracted by every Instagram bikini pic in sight.

Luckily, our story comes with a happy ending. After quite a few drafts, Aisha finally sent a text to Emma that was equal parts classy and cheeky. “I’m sorry you feel that way but … I can’t help it if I’m smoking hot.” I don’t know about you, but I wish I had that kind of problem.

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Her text apparently worked, as just 5 minutes later Emma knocked on Aisha’s door with flowers and an apology, admitting it was not fair to blame her for her marriage problems. The two had a heart-to-heart, and it looks like this friendship is back on track. At least for now.

What do you think of this story? Was it fair of Emma to ask her friend to change her look so her husband would stop being attracted to her? Drop your comments below.

Netizens side with the woman, saying she’s not a jerk for wearing her normal clothes in front of her friend’s husband

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arthbach
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend's husband fantasising and digging through old photographs - no thanks. I would not want to be around that man, and would suggest we do things that don't involve him for a good few months.

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TheBlueBitterfly
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2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Humans have human emotions and failings. Internet enraged!" /j Seriously though, hubs is being disrespectful to his wife and OP both, keep your crushes and fantasies to yourself, friend is obviously feeling self-conscious and jealous, projects feelings onto OP instead of her husband. Communication wins in the end. Hopefully.

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Kate Johnson
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd give hubby a call and say, "You know you might think it's flattering that you're attracted to me, but it's actually entirely cringe for me, because I don't find you at all attractive and would never be interested in any kind of relationship with you. I do hope that helps you to focus your wandering d**k back on your own partner. Next time you "fantasize" about me, "fantasize" that I'm throwing up on you, which is what I would do if you ever touched me. Okay??"

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Ms.GB
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would get up from the restaurant table, lean in really close to op's husband and whisper "Please excuse me, I'm about to have explosive diarrhea. I think I just sharted in my dress." 😆

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arthbach
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2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend's husband fantasising and digging through old photographs - no thanks. I would not want to be around that man, and would suggest we do things that don't involve him for a good few months.

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TheBlueBitterfly
Community Member
2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Humans have human emotions and failings. Internet enraged!" /j Seriously though, hubs is being disrespectful to his wife and OP both, keep your crushes and fantasies to yourself, friend is obviously feeling self-conscious and jealous, projects feelings onto OP instead of her husband. Communication wins in the end. Hopefully.

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Kate Johnson
Community Member
2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd give hubby a call and say, "You know you might think it's flattering that you're attracted to me, but it's actually entirely cringe for me, because I don't find you at all attractive and would never be interested in any kind of relationship with you. I do hope that helps you to focus your wandering d**k back on your own partner. Next time you "fantasize" about me, "fantasize" that I'm throwing up on you, which is what I would do if you ever touched me. Okay??"

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Ms.GB
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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would get up from the restaurant table, lean in really close to op's husband and whisper "Please excuse me, I'm about to have explosive diarrhea. I think I just sharted in my dress." 😆

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