Okay. So. Now you know he's useless and abusive. Plan accordingly - from the immediate ordering of diaper deliveries, to the organisational: separating finances and setting money aside, research family law and spousal/child support etc. Get in touch with family/friends for emotional support and logistical help getting back home. If you stay with this guy, you will be setting yourself up for a lifetime of abuse. Even if he's just reacting to new-parent stress, and you think you can get past this, this is a man incapable/unwilling to even buy the correct f*****g diapers with you literally asking him for days. You will be carrying the whole mental and emotional load of this family, as well as doing the vast majority of parenting, housework, errands, etc simply to ensure they get done. It sounds like he's going to be a major burden.

She's likely a hormonal wreck right now. 2 weeks post birth? A surgical procedure. Unable to fully help herself let alone the new born. And this idiot has shown himself to be utterly unreliable. Of course she screamed at him. She should have done so over the weekend too when he kept refusing to do it. He's a parent and a partner. Step the hell up. This has all the hallmarks of an abusive marriage. Separating her from her friends and family. Baby trapping. Controlling behaviors. Emotional manipulation. Call anyone back home that'll help you get TF out of there. He can't handle things? Then good bye.

He absolutely knows she's no power in this situation and locked her out to pour salt on the wound. She goes through the pain of having his child, and he doesn't care. He. Just. Doesn't. Care. Leave him!

This is a problem with lack of education and tv/movies misrepresenting child birth (and of course an a**hole). Too many men think women instantly get their body and pre-pregnancy hormones back immediately. This poor woman is having to juggle a post pregnancy body that had major surgery, hormones going up and down like crazy, a newborn, and an egotistical husband who just wants a fairytale family. Got the bad diapers because they are cuter? This is what the cheap manufacturers bank on. If he can't support his family emotionally and physically, HE is the one needs kicking out.

Get a relative to come stay with you and make plans to move home with the baby. Very often, abusers show their true colors when a baby comes. Fights are common when you are tired and stressed but his reaction was to threaten you and make you, recovering from major surgery, sleep on the couch while he took the bedroom in comfort.

Our kid needed some personal products today. My partner had the car for work, so he picked up those personal products TODAY, asked only once, and got the brands that were asked for no problems at all. This is the same partner that "can't find the laundry hamper in the dark" when he stands directly next to it to get undress and into bed. Op's husband knew exactly what he was doing. I hope OP and baby get out soon.

He locked a woman out from her bed after a recent operation? I'd lock the door when he went to work and tell him he doesn't get back in until he's spent a night in his car. And got the right nappies.

If he doesn't apologize the very next day, call your mom and have her come get you. Or another relative, if she can't. Go back home. Your husband resents the baby and having to "grow up" and take care of a family. Once you are out of his reach, tell him that he can either man up and take care of his wife and child properly, or he can travel 16 hours to visit his child. But he will be paying child support.

Reminds me of the guy that got my mom pregnant. Unfortunately she didn't divorce him.

Ever hear of Amazon or other online shopping apps? No excuse to run out of diapers. Husband is a dweeb, but you went ahead and mated with him. Who is the real dummy here?

Leave him to deal with baby with cute diapers for a couple of hours. Let him deal with it. Hide the good ones and buy extra. Good luck.

Poor woman, two weeks post op, new baby and no family around. That is hard, really hard. I get why people are saying to get divorced, but this soon after c section and baby. First thing I would suggest is she gets a support group around her - mums group, church, bookclub. Anything and build strong relationships there, enlist their help. Then once shes recovered the seek counseling,

My wife gave birth years before we were married so I have never been a part of a C-Section recovery. But I can't imagine even a minor thing like a food item or particular home good brand, if my wife asked me specifically to buy or not to buy something, buying the wrong thing. Sure, I may call her at the store to verify I have the right thing, but I'd never buy something to purposefully antagonize her

NTA. You are only a few weeks post partum, you are more or less expected to act irrationally. He ought to be there for you now, for several months. If he is this useless, this early, you might be better off going home to your family if they can help you. Let HIM care for the child in the poor diapers, then he will see how fun it is to be covered in poop.

I know a number of new dads, they mix up food or clothing a lot of time but they will never mix up important stuff like diapers or formula.

Forget about the husband for a sec. Just let the car seat in the car. Put baby in it when it is already in the car. Get yourself a wrap or manduca or similar and wear your baby on your body. Added bonus: you have your hands free.

Ever heard of Amazon? Or Walmart? Both deliver. For FREE if you spend over a certain (low) amount. By the way you both are idiots. I don't give your marriage much of a chance.

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So OP screamed at him and called him names, then when he did it to her she didnt like it? You both suck...