You can only judge yourself based on what others say supposedly
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Wow that's such a good question to think about! I guess I'd list what I consider good values or important character traits and see if I was hitting the mark. Otherwise, yeah it seems like typically we let others or institutional ideals weigh in on that instead of taking an active role in making it meaningful to ourselves!
That stuff about others judging your character is a good way to be miserable. Plenty of people think I’m a horrible person and it has more to do with their interpretation of who I am, than how I actually am. At the end of the day, I’m the only one who can judge me. No one knows you better than you do.