Boss’s Insulting Secret Santa Gift Makes Worker Quit Months Later, HR Gets Involved
Tight deadlines for year-end tasks and preparing for the next can make the holiday season a stressful time at work. So, companies usually add a little celebration to lighten the mood. But one employee shared a story of how a Secret Santa exchange only made things worse. They carefully chose a thoughtful gift for their boss, wrapping it in a cute box. However, in return, the boss gave a mockery of a present, ultimately adding to the employee’s decision to leave the job altogether.
The holiday season can get hectic at the office
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And for this worker, a gift exchange with their boss only added to their stress
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These awkward and hurtful situations are the reason why people aren’t pumped about Secret Santa in the first place
On paper, the holiday tradition can help bigger groups exchange presents pretty efficiently, but much of its success depends on who’s involved.
For example, this year’s survey taken by financial comparison platform Money.com.au revealed that 50 percent of Australians resent Secret Santa at the office, making it the nation’s most hated part of holiday shopping.
Gifts for other people’s kids, such as nieces, nephews, and friends’ children came in second place with 40 percent, while gifts for neighbors (27 percent) and in-laws (26 percent) ranked next.
“There’s often a sense of obligation to participate in workplace or social gifting traditions, even when budgets are tight,” Money.com.au finance expert Sean Callery said.
“Secret Santa or gifts for distant relatives or acquaintances can feel more like a box-ticking exercise than spreading festive cheer. In a time of rising cost-of-living pressures, some people might question these purchases and focus on more meaningful gifts for their closest loved ones instead.”
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In fact, cost-cutting and the desire to avoid mingling with colleagues are pushing many workers to miss their office Christmas parties.
In the UK, for instance, data compiled by recruitment firm Robert Walters found that about half of 1,700 professionals did not plan to attend their office Christmas party this year, while 42 percent believed the whole thing creates too much pressure to socialize with their fellow staff. Additionally, a quarter said these gatherings are not inclusive, with the potential for alcohol-fueled faux pax damaging company culture.
Twenty-two percent also said they were put off by costs associated with attendance, such as outfits, taxi bills, and—of course—Secret Santa gifts.
Lastly, research conducted by the Society for Human Resource Management discovered that 72 percent of employees rank “respectful treatment of all employees at all levels” as the top factor in job satisfaction. So the fact that the Redditor said goodbye to the company a few months later doesn’t really come as a surprise.
As people commented on the story, its author joined the discussion in the comments
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Secret Santa needs to die, horribly, in a puddle of tears. It's truly sh1t. I refuse to participate any more. Wasted too much time and effort for a net loss.
I wanna disagree simply cuz I really love gift giving....but I'll never participate in another secret santa or white elephant gift exchange ever again. Like OP, I don't go over my dollar amount but I put a lot of thought and effort into doing something special for the person I drew. This has NEVER been the case for whomever drew my name. My experience has always been like I'm receiving a gift from Creed Bratton (from The Office): the giver forgot until the last second and grabbed a random piece of cràp they don't use around their house, stuffed it in a paper bag, and called it good. No joke, I seriously got two partially used notepads and a few old pens one year. Or absolutely nothing.
Load More Replies...What happened to the "Secret" part of this? I thought the whole point was that you got a surprise gift without knowing who it was from. Having it public, and in this case apparently assigning partners to exchange gifts, makes a mockery of an already awkward concept.
I couldn't agree more. And as a manager for many years, I always felt it was wrong to force employees to spend even a penny of their money to participate in a job-related event. Let alone to spend money on me, personally. And Secret Santa puts people in the awkward position of having to feign some kind of personal connection with co-workers they have nothing more than a strictly professional relationship with. Employees who were actual friends could do whatever they pleased outside of work. We'd host a small company party and give cash bonuses. Worked out just fine.
Load More Replies...Secret Santa needs to die, horribly, in a puddle of tears. It's truly sh1t. I refuse to participate any more. Wasted too much time and effort for a net loss.
I wanna disagree simply cuz I really love gift giving....but I'll never participate in another secret santa or white elephant gift exchange ever again. Like OP, I don't go over my dollar amount but I put a lot of thought and effort into doing something special for the person I drew. This has NEVER been the case for whomever drew my name. My experience has always been like I'm receiving a gift from Creed Bratton (from The Office): the giver forgot until the last second and grabbed a random piece of cràp they don't use around their house, stuffed it in a paper bag, and called it good. No joke, I seriously got two partially used notepads and a few old pens one year. Or absolutely nothing.
Load More Replies...What happened to the "Secret" part of this? I thought the whole point was that you got a surprise gift without knowing who it was from. Having it public, and in this case apparently assigning partners to exchange gifts, makes a mockery of an already awkward concept.
I couldn't agree more. And as a manager for many years, I always felt it was wrong to force employees to spend even a penny of their money to participate in a job-related event. Let alone to spend money on me, personally. And Secret Santa puts people in the awkward position of having to feign some kind of personal connection with co-workers they have nothing more than a strictly professional relationship with. Employees who were actual friends could do whatever they pleased outside of work. We'd host a small company party and give cash bonuses. Worked out just fine.
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