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Woman Finds Out Her Husband Is Having An Affair When He Freaks Out About Her Sister Being Gay
Sometimes it’s not possible to stay up to date on everything that’s happening in extended family’s lives, especially if there’s a lot of members and their relationship is distant. Some people might even not be interested in keeping up with extended family, as it’s not something they particularly want to do.
Case in point is this woman’s husband, who apparently only recently found out that his SIL belongs to the LGBTQ+ community, having known her for more than 12 years. After learning such information, he started behaving strangely homophobic towards her, which had something to do with his bigger secret.
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It’s not always possible to keep up with everything that’s happening in our relatives’ lives
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But this guy was so disinterested in his extended family that he just recently found out his SIL was gay after knowing her for 12 years
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46% of young LGBTQ+ adults between 16 and 25 are estranged at least from one family member
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46% of young LGBTQ+ adults between 16 and 25 are estranged at least from one family member, while 31% weren’t sure if their parent or guardian will accept them the way they are.
Even though the community has seen progress and notable improvements in some areas in recent years, it’s still not easy being a queer person in this day and age.
“It’s sadly a common myth that being LGBT+ is easier today, when in fact many LGBT+ young adults remain fearful of their parents not accepting them, with almost half estranged from at least one family member,” said Amy Ashenden, chief executive of Just Like Us, an LGBT+ young people’s charity.
To help the LGBTQ+ community understand that their identities are valid and deserve to be celebrated, more people should talk about it, urges Ashenden. “When there is silence, there is shame, so we must talk about these topics in school and at home, to ensure LGBT+ young people no longer live in fear of rejection.”
Being supportive of family members who belong to the LGBTQ+ community is crucial in fostering an inclusive environment. After all, we all deserve to feel comfortable, supported, and included, especially in our own homes and families.
We can be more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community by educating ourselves on it
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The first steps towards being more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community are to educate ourselves on it, recognize our own privileges and rights as heterosexuals, and use our understanding to advocate for the rights of others. If we want to be LGBTQ+ ‘allies,’ it’s important to be proactive in learning, listening, and standing up against the discrimination and bias we see in the world.
Further educating ourselves on various LGBTQ+ issues, like learning common terms and their meanings and staying updated on the challenges and discrimination they face, can help us support them better. Keeping ourselves informed can be done by reading books, following reputable LGBTQ+ organizations or attending workshops on webinars on LGBTQ+ issues.
Meanwhile, an inclusive home environment can be created by using inclusive language (like the correct pronouns), attending LGBTQ+ events, providing emotional support by not minimizing their experiences and struggles, and instead listening to them without judgement.
It’s important to keep in mind that this journey is not easy, but a continued one that requires a lot of learning, support and advocating for other people’s rights, not just our own. Even though it might not look like it, each of us can make a significant positive impact on the LGBTQ+ community just by being there and supporting. We and no one else is responsible for providing the love and acceptance our loved ones need to grow and thrive.
The author provided more details in the comments
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Later, she posted an update
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Readers were gobsmacked by everything that happened to the author
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Earonn - 2 weeks ago
Typical trad loser: sister kissing another woman is an issue for the kids, but daddy f*****g another woman isn't. Encapsulates their mindset perfectly.
Bernd Herbert 2 weeks ago
yep, couldn't make this s**t up! Apparently his so-called moral compass is fine when he's f*****g around.
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CanadianDimes 2 weeks ago
He wants OP to a be a 'traditional wife' and he wants to be a traditional manipulative abuser.
Rose the Cook 2 weeks ago
How does his bit on the side feel about having the kids? I doubt he has even asked her and she would say no if he were to.
Negatoris Wrecks 2 weeks ago
Or worse, the kids were part of what attracted her in the first place.
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Trillian 2 weeks ago
Aside from the blatant homophobia, he CALLED HER AT WORK and declared an EMERGENCY??? I would have been beside myself with worry. What an a-hole. And again, homophobia aside (which is obv the main problem here), if he doesn't like a sitter then HE needs to stay home from work and find another one.
Skogsrået 2 weeks ago
Homophobia is the main problem? Not the fact that he's had an affair for over a year and wants a divorce to be with his mistress who's also brainwashed him!? Did you even read the update further down?
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Child of the Stars 2 weeks ago
I saw the "he wants her to be a trad wife" coming from the blip in the thumbnail, but the affair too AND being red pilled by her? That came out of left field. Usually, I assume these AITAs are at least exaggerated if not outright fake, but dang if this is wild enough to actually be true!
Load More Replies... Gwyn 2 weeks ago
Sounds about right, right wing person thinks they are righteous when they won't actually follow Christian teachings.
Nils Skirnir 2 weeks ago
OP’s in a terrible situation. An attorney is her only option and she needs one yesterday. Even though she claims to live in a ‘liberal’ area, unless she lives in MA, VT, RI, MN, CA, OR, or WA she needs to be very careful. Most other states in the US will be biased against any ‘influence’ in custody cases. Especially in the South, Pennsytucky, Midwest, and Southwest.
ginshun 1 week ago
That was a wild ride. Sorry your husband is such a douche. I have bad news about the custody though, in that unless there is some criminal activity going on, you are not likely getting full custody of them. Most states assume that shared is best, and unless you can do something to prove that he has illegal activities going on or is somehow a physical danger to them, custody and placement will be split. Being a right wing douche, does not disqualify him from seeing his children.
Child of the Stars 2 weeks ago
I'm not sure if I can even say anything about this one except holy h.e.l.l., that poor woman and her kids!
Mark Childers 1 week ago
I only hope she finds a judge with some common sense to make the custody award 100% for her. No one needs to be with a man like that. My father was like that. I know. Guys, if you want a healthy relationship with your kids, don't be like this guy.
Petra brown 2 weeks ago
I would like to know OOPs family. This is how it should be. Sister is gay, ok - sure, no reason for big discussions, Hello for the girl friend and everybody goes on to take care of everybody - no biggie. And when husband turns out to be a bigoted m**o he gets whats coming - no discussions about how to not hurt his feefees. Hope she gets full custody.
Bernd Herbert 1 week ago
Just another thought: This is a good example of the typical bigotry Christian Conservatives, especially in the USA, are showing. The kind of people that will constantly complain that nowadays people don't have morals anymore. Which is absolutely untrue. People DO have morals, they are just completely different than those of these self-proclaimed Fighters for the Christian West. That tends to happen, when people proclaim their morals to be absolute.
Rebecca Joan 1 week ago
I love the hypocrisy of the right wing. Talking about his sister-in-law’s moral compass while he’s cheating on his wife…🤣
Steve Robert 1 week ago
The ah is a cheater. I would immediately divorce them, even without a gay sister. Sorry but you picked a real loser. Accept it and move forward with your life.
Caroline Starr 1 week ago (edited)
It was so far into the narrative and I thought "what's this got to do with an affair?" And BAM, there it was. Amazing what some child-free pųssy can lead to.
TribbleThinking 2 weeks ago (edited)
I've seen this before. It's all about devolving so that only he matters, the same kind of uncaring dangerous disregard that comes with addiction. In his head, she is only there as a scapegoat whilst ironically also responsible for providing for all his whims and needs. This is precisely why he pulled that stunt of declaring that maximum mess causing emergency while she was at work - because he didn't care a jot about how it affected anyone else, he gets control and her attention, and that that's all that counts in his devolved dopamine dependent selfish world.
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
You're NOT naive! You're NOT stupid either!!!! You went about your daily life because this was "The norm" for your everyday life. And because you've been together since being young, you'll have assumed this was part of growing older. Your husband's beliefs are a cover up so he can carry on like the C**T that he is! The very person he's having an affair with IS a working woman! Please don't beat yourself up because you believe you've missed things, things change when you actually grow with the partner who fathered your children and being really busy makes it even harder! You are F*****G FABULOUS AND A FABULOUS MUM! Don't let anyone make you think differently. I know you're going to be ok! On the other hand, let's see what his AP manage him now he's free! He's going to massively regret this one day because you've got children that have their own minds and sound absolutely amazing from what you've said. They'll never forgive his rant about their auntie and won't want to be with him!!!!!
Chris Landrum 2 weeks ago
Believe it or not, not everyone who is"right wing" is homophobic. Conservatives in theory believe in leaving everyone to their own thing. Also, not all right wing are adamant about SAHM, but many are.
Captain Grump 2 weeks ago
While not all right wingers are homophobic, pretty much all homophobes are right wingers (along with sexists, xenophobes/racists, anti-welfare types, etc, etc.) Abstract, textbook definitions of conservativism simply don't match the reality of modern right wing movements, who universally are all too happy to rub shoulders with and be supported by people holding vile, hateful worldviews.
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Tiger 1 week ago
There’s literally someone saying this on EVERY SINGLE REDDIT STORY regardless of how true it is 😂 if a man having an affair and revealing bigoted right-wing views on LGBTQ people is really that wild and crazy to you, your life must not be that interesting.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 2 weeks ago
Typical trad loser: sister kissing another woman is an issue for the kids, but daddy f*****g another woman isn't. Encapsulates their mindset perfectly.
Bernd Herbert 2 weeks ago
yep, couldn't make this s**t up! Apparently his so-called moral compass is fine when he's f*****g around.
Load More Replies... CanadianDimes 2 weeks ago
He wants OP to a be a 'traditional wife' and he wants to be a traditional manipulative abuser.
Rose the Cook 2 weeks ago
How does his bit on the side feel about having the kids? I doubt he has even asked her and she would say no if he were to.
Negatoris Wrecks 2 weeks ago
Or worse, the kids were part of what attracted her in the first place.
Load More Replies... Trillian 2 weeks ago
Aside from the blatant homophobia, he CALLED HER AT WORK and declared an EMERGENCY??? I would have been beside myself with worry. What an a-hole. And again, homophobia aside (which is obv the main problem here), if he doesn't like a sitter then HE needs to stay home from work and find another one.
Skogsrået 2 weeks ago
Homophobia is the main problem? Not the fact that he's had an affair for over a year and wants a divorce to be with his mistress who's also brainwashed him!? Did you even read the update further down?
Load More Replies... Child of the Stars 2 weeks ago
I saw the "he wants her to be a trad wife" coming from the blip in the thumbnail, but the affair too AND being red pilled by her? That came out of left field. Usually, I assume these AITAs are at least exaggerated if not outright fake, but dang if this is wild enough to actually be true!
Load More Replies... Gwyn 2 weeks ago
Sounds about right, right wing person thinks they are righteous when they won't actually follow Christian teachings.
Nils Skirnir 2 weeks ago
OP’s in a terrible situation. An attorney is her only option and she needs one yesterday. Even though she claims to live in a ‘liberal’ area, unless she lives in MA, VT, RI, MN, CA, OR, or WA she needs to be very careful. Most other states in the US will be biased against any ‘influence’ in custody cases. Especially in the South, Pennsytucky, Midwest, and Southwest.
ginshun 1 week ago
That was a wild ride. Sorry your husband is such a douche. I have bad news about the custody though, in that unless there is some criminal activity going on, you are not likely getting full custody of them. Most states assume that shared is best, and unless you can do something to prove that he has illegal activities going on or is somehow a physical danger to them, custody and placement will be split. Being a right wing douche, does not disqualify him from seeing his children.
Child of the Stars 2 weeks ago
I'm not sure if I can even say anything about this one except holy h.e.l.l., that poor woman and her kids!
Mark Childers 1 week ago
I only hope she finds a judge with some common sense to make the custody award 100% for her. No one needs to be with a man like that. My father was like that. I know. Guys, if you want a healthy relationship with your kids, don't be like this guy.
Petra brown 2 weeks ago
I would like to know OOPs family. This is how it should be. Sister is gay, ok - sure, no reason for big discussions, Hello for the girl friend and everybody goes on to take care of everybody - no biggie. And when husband turns out to be a bigoted m**o he gets whats coming - no discussions about how to not hurt his feefees. Hope she gets full custody.
Bernd Herbert 1 week ago
Just another thought: This is a good example of the typical bigotry Christian Conservatives, especially in the USA, are showing. The kind of people that will constantly complain that nowadays people don't have morals anymore. Which is absolutely untrue. People DO have morals, they are just completely different than those of these self-proclaimed Fighters for the Christian West. That tends to happen, when people proclaim their morals to be absolute.
Rebecca Joan 1 week ago
I love the hypocrisy of the right wing. Talking about his sister-in-law’s moral compass while he’s cheating on his wife…🤣
Steve Robert 1 week ago
The ah is a cheater. I would immediately divorce them, even without a gay sister. Sorry but you picked a real loser. Accept it and move forward with your life.
Caroline Starr 1 week ago (edited)
It was so far into the narrative and I thought "what's this got to do with an affair?" And BAM, there it was. Amazing what some child-free pųssy can lead to.
TribbleThinking 2 weeks ago (edited)
I've seen this before. It's all about devolving so that only he matters, the same kind of uncaring dangerous disregard that comes with addiction. In his head, she is only there as a scapegoat whilst ironically also responsible for providing for all his whims and needs. This is precisely why he pulled that stunt of declaring that maximum mess causing emergency while she was at work - because he didn't care a jot about how it affected anyone else, he gets control and her attention, and that that's all that counts in his devolved dopamine dependent selfish world.
Broadredpanda 2 weeks ago
You're NOT naive! You're NOT stupid either!!!! You went about your daily life because this was "The norm" for your everyday life. And because you've been together since being young, you'll have assumed this was part of growing older. Your husband's beliefs are a cover up so he can carry on like the C**T that he is! The very person he's having an affair with IS a working woman! Please don't beat yourself up because you believe you've missed things, things change when you actually grow with the partner who fathered your children and being really busy makes it even harder! You are F*****G FABULOUS AND A FABULOUS MUM! Don't let anyone make you think differently. I know you're going to be ok! On the other hand, let's see what his AP manage him now he's free! He's going to massively regret this one day because you've got children that have their own minds and sound absolutely amazing from what you've said. They'll never forgive his rant about their auntie and won't want to be with him!!!!!
Chris Landrum 2 weeks ago
Believe it or not, not everyone who is"right wing" is homophobic. Conservatives in theory believe in leaving everyone to their own thing. Also, not all right wing are adamant about SAHM, but many are.
Captain Grump 2 weeks ago
While not all right wingers are homophobic, pretty much all homophobes are right wingers (along with sexists, xenophobes/racists, anti-welfare types, etc, etc.) Abstract, textbook definitions of conservativism simply don't match the reality of modern right wing movements, who universally are all too happy to rub shoulders with and be supported by people holding vile, hateful worldviews.
Load More Replies... Tiger 1 week ago
There’s literally someone saying this on EVERY SINGLE REDDIT STORY regardless of how true it is 😂 if a man having an affair and revealing bigoted right-wing views on LGBTQ people is really that wild and crazy to you, your life must not be that interesting.
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