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This Woman Who Couldn’t Afford Food Explains Why She Spent $25 On Candles And Her Story Is Heartbreaking
People who struggle to make ends meet often face judgment for choices they make. Tumblr user Parisianqueen named Arella knows it all too well. She decided to share a situation that made people close to her angry. During the time when she struggled financially and had no home, she decided to buy $25 worth of candles. While this decision made no sense for others, she explains that this purchase was a huge motivator to get back on her feet. Arella’s explanation why we shouldn’t rush to judge prompted others to share similar experiences. Scroll below to read the stories! (Facebook cover image: slgckgc)
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Arella’s situation prompted other users to share their own thoughts
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Agnes Jekyll 5 years ago
Best to watch and listen. During civil wars and times of deprivation, women dyed their hair, wore heels, mended stockings, because it created routine, joy, hope and a sense of normalcy, like this woman has done
Morfeen 5 years ago
I started out ready to judge this woman, and the story changed my mind. thank you.
Reilly Beryll 5 years ago
As a person on the lower rung of the economic ladder, I have to be honest that sometimes, you have to do something nice for yourself. I’m not starving. I’m lucky enough to have food stamps. But we don’t have a lot of extra money. My mother and I can’t afford a house of our own. But we can afford a chocolate bar every blue moon, so we’re going to buy that damn chocolate bar. Buy what you can afford and makes you happy, so long as it doesn’t interfere with survival and security. Sometimes, saving your money just isn’t going to get you to your goal of a home for yourself, or an unnecessary bill. So you might as well try to be happy. But that’s just me-
BC 5 years ago (edited)
I used to be mean to my mom growing up when she would buy showbiz magazines for herself. I feel that she should have bought eggs instead rather than spend it in foolish trinkets. I am the eldest and in the absence of my dad I am forced to co-raise my siblings.Now in perspective that is the only escape my poor mom has having to raise 6 kids with a good for nothing husband. We did not even have a TV because in drunken rage my father smashed it to pieces. She did not even go to parks and she never had a me-time while we were growing up.Sometimes when we are hardened by too much reality, practicality and common sense makes us fail to see that being human also means the need to enjoy simple pleasures in life. I feel so sorry that I have been mean to her. There were very few opportunities for growth during her time when our country was under a dictator. It was different during my time when my hard work and that of my generation is paid off that I even managed to get out of the country.
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Agnes Jekyll 5 years ago
Best to watch and listen. During civil wars and times of deprivation, women dyed their hair, wore heels, mended stockings, because it created routine, joy, hope and a sense of normalcy, like this woman has done
Morfeen 5 years ago
I started out ready to judge this woman, and the story changed my mind. thank you.
Reilly Beryll 5 years ago
As a person on the lower rung of the economic ladder, I have to be honest that sometimes, you have to do something nice for yourself. I’m not starving. I’m lucky enough to have food stamps. But we don’t have a lot of extra money. My mother and I can’t afford a house of our own. But we can afford a chocolate bar every blue moon, so we’re going to buy that damn chocolate bar. Buy what you can afford and makes you happy, so long as it doesn’t interfere with survival and security. Sometimes, saving your money just isn’t going to get you to your goal of a home for yourself, or an unnecessary bill. So you might as well try to be happy. But that’s just me-
BC 5 years ago (edited)
I used to be mean to my mom growing up when she would buy showbiz magazines for herself. I feel that she should have bought eggs instead rather than spend it in foolish trinkets. I am the eldest and in the absence of my dad I am forced to co-raise my siblings.Now in perspective that is the only escape my poor mom has having to raise 6 kids with a good for nothing husband. We did not even have a TV because in drunken rage my father smashed it to pieces. She did not even go to parks and she never had a me-time while we were growing up.Sometimes when we are hardened by too much reality, practicality and common sense makes us fail to see that being human also means the need to enjoy simple pleasures in life. I feel so sorry that I have been mean to her. There were very few opportunities for growth during her time when our country was under a dictator. It was different during my time when my hard work and that of my generation is paid off that I even managed to get out of the country.
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