Why and what happened to the people who got remarried to the same person after divorce?
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Could. Would. Did.
My wife and I had a falling out during my first deployment, and divorced while I was gone. However, when I got back, we reconciled because we realized how much we meant to each other. Almost a year to the day after our divorce, we had a remarriage ceremony (much more traditional this time) and we've been together since!
I did. The first time, we were married 10 years, had two children and divorced. We fought almost constantly - mostly over his unemployment, how he treated our kids, and his drinking habits, but the divorce must have shaken him up because he finally held down a job, bought me gifts and started paying attention to our little family after the divorce. Where was this guy the first time around?! We got remarried a couple of years later. Such a great story! .... Except that it's not, and literally the very next day after our second wedding, he was on my couch, drunk at noon with his hand down his pants and out of a job again. I immediately got on the phone and called the minister to ask if she would please not file the marriage certificate with the state and even offered her an extra $200 (she refused, rambling something about the law. Whatever).
I can laugh about it now, but the second divorce cost me about $35K.
Really think about that: $35,000. That's the same cost as tuition at a 4-year state college! At least with tuition, you can get a loan and 10 years to pay it back.
I'm not a supporter of marriage in the first place, but if you're going to do it, keep moving forward. Don't go back.
As Timon and Pumba say: "You gotta put your behind in your past."
Worst part, he proved he was capable, but as soon as he'd reeled you in, why bother. Some people don't deserve to breathe.
No. I'm in the very early stages of divorcing my husband. I initiated it, but he agrees it's the best thing for our family. We've both grown up a lot, and our paths are no longer the same.
I'm not opposed to it in theory, but personally, no. I married and divorced young. My ex-husband was a good person. Kind, smart and ambitious. But we were headed in different directions and couldn't reconcile our futures in a way that made us both happy. It was such a painful, horrible decision. I wouldn't have gone through it if I hadn't been sure it was the right thing to do. And it was. I can't imagine anyone being better for me than my current husband.
In my opinion, marrying after a divorce is like finding out your milk turned rotten, threw it in the bin, then after a few days taking it out and saying 'Gee, I wonder if its gotten better?'
In my opinion, marrying after a divorce is like finding out your milk turned rotten, threw it in the bin, then after a few days taking it out and saying 'Gee, I wonder if its gotten better?'