Hey Pandas, What’s Your Relationship With Your Siblings?

Love? Hate? Murdered someone together? I have two brothers, one three years younger and one twelve years younger than me. I love them, but they can both be very annoying, which seems typical for most people I know. But what about you?

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I had an annoying little brother 9yrs younger than me. I had to mainly watch him as my single mom worked and went to nursing school. He had ADHD and was extremely annoying. I had to bring him everywhere. As he got in his early teens we bonded watching movies and black addar. We smoked bud together and it was fun times. Then at 15 he got into methadone and Xanax. His friends changed. He let them steal from me and I almost wished he didn't exist. He put us through hell. One of his friends even stole our pug. Got her back though. He agreed to go to counseling and had an appointment the next day. That night he snuck out for one last high. We found him dead the next morning. It split our family in two and my mom was never the same. I don't say this to make anyone sad. I've told this story before but I'd do anything to have him back. As annoying as a sibling can be it's worse when they're gone.

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My younger sister, who never did anything for me in our entire life, demanded I alter my life to suit her (a money-related thing, she already owes me a lot of $), and I refused. She then proceeded to lie to our parents about it, making me the villain, and cut me off. She only unblocks me like once a year to see if I changed my mind. I never reply. I don't care about that person at all, she might have been family at some point of my life, but she's a stranger to me now.

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Dutchman Callypso

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Middle child here. Older brother - absolute arsehole. Sucked up to parents all his life like a leech, massive superiority complex. Extremely threatened by me, stabbed me in the leg, threw me in front of a bus. I put up with a lot then he insulted my wife after years of issues with him and parents. I broke his jaw and haven’t spoken to him in 15 years
Younger sister - daddy’s princess, can do no wrong, head so far up own a**e she eats meals twice. Threw a temper tantrum after I had worked a 10 hr day and suggested lunch the next day instead of dinner that night. Got parents involved to tell me off for making her cry. Tried to explain to her, she called me a selfish c**t then got her husband involved who threatened to never see us again. Didn’t need to be invited twice to that s**t and said bye bye.

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Captain Awesome

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I have 2 older brothers(5 and 8 years older) Growing up I used to think I was so cool having older brothers. I’d reject the idea of super femininity and emulate my brothers; particularly when it came to their interests in music, films, and games (a lot of which was totally unsuitable and really I was too young to understand or appreciate). I’d use this as a way to make friends and show off to be honest. Plus, I didn’t have much in the way of really strong female role models (my mum suffered with mental health issues, which literally no one ever really acknowledged or try to help her with) I very much looked to my brothers for guidance and approval. They have had a huge influence on my life. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realise how damaging this has been towards my perception of myself as a woman and relationships with other women. I sometimes feel I’m like a weird outsider looking into the world of my more feminine or “normal” peers, because I didn’t embrace femininity as a child and teenager. And I so so wish I had. I I love my brothers, and I’m so grateful for the positive influence they’ve had on me, but thinking back on some on of the comments they’d make and ideas they had about women were absolutely not ok.

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Billiewonder

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Sis moved out when I was 12, she was 18. Our parents changed a lot after that and she has some guilt but the many years of therapy I went thru helped me to process.

She spent many years in a religion, raising her 4 kids to do the same. We saw each other every 5 or 8 years for a layover or a work trip. I raised my kids to think for themselves when it came to religion, she didn't approve of my divorce or lifestyle.

Flash forward 10 years. She divorced her husband at 48yrs old and married a man much younger than her. I love him. She doesn't do church, she changed careers and she's happy.

There's a lot of ways I could have played out our relationship. Could have been angry and moved on, but I'm glad we talk now. I'm glad I don't feel judgement pouring thru the phone when we talk. She still says sorry, a lot. Now we just talk about kids and how old mom and dad are and who's going to take care of them. And we do ot all without guilt or judgement.

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Aubrey Mortensen

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I have an elder sister (by 2 years) and a younger brother (by 1.5 years). As children, my sister and I would team up and prank him. Nothing mean, just taking advantage of his naivety (once we convinced him that the word 'wise' meant bad so he went around telling everyone he had wise sisters). As we grew up, we never really had huge fights; the neighbours would use us as an example for their children, "why don't you be more like them? they never fight with each other" and we'd be all smug : D
They can be very annoying sometimes, but I know I can count on them anytime.

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Reyna Avila Ramírez-Arellano 2 years ago

That's so great! I wish I had an older sister, or a sister at all :)

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Between my little sister (3,5 years younger) and I, we exhausted most of the available methods for grievous bodily harm, such as choking, stabbing with scissors and throwing an encyclopedia at the other’s head, before puberty. Then we entered the rebellious teenage years at about the same time, since I’m kind of a late bloomer, and found a natural ally in one another against our long-suffering parents. Good old days. 30 years later, we live in a shared household with our spouses and our Mom, and are raising her 4 y/o daughter all together. :)

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Ildi Tóth

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I’m the older of two, my brother is two years younger than me. He has autism and psychosis (think hallucinations etc). When we were kids I hated his guts because I had to go live with my grandparents because he was such a nightmare (non verbal, violent, took him till he was seven to talk). But I’m glad my mam put so much effort into him. I split up with my ex husband in 2015, and had to go live back at home with my parents. My brother was like a different kid. For all he has his mental health issues, he’s my best friend. We bonded through illness (I have severe health issues and he looked after me, and I looked after him when his mental health was bad). He’s so generous, we’d do anything for each other. We talked a lot about the issues we had with each other over joints in the middle of the night, and I told him about how much I resented him when he was younger. But I wouldn’t change a thing. When things get bad, he’s always there, with a smoke and a hug to make you feel better. I wish for his sake he didn’t have all the problems he has, but for me, it makes him the most wonderful person in the world, and we love each other more than anything. I realise that some siblings never change and are just awful, but for some, letting go of the past and the resentment means that, when your parents go, they’re the only blood you have left. Stick it out, because you never know, there might be a relationship there that is more valuable than anything in the world. So, to my brother Matthew, thank you for being the best person in the world, and all I could ever ask for in a family member.

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